 Ladies and gentlemen, Tony Gaskins here. You know, I've been living life and not able to get on this hill alive for a little while. I gotta wipe this hill camera off. Been on hill living and not able to catch, get on the lie, but I'm at practice right now with my son. So being that I'm at practice I got a little time. Mary and God blessing my brother. Got us a brother in the blessed tribe. We got a few brothers in the blessed tribe, but they don't often get to make it to the lives, but I want to pop in tonight. I only got about 50 minutes because my son will be done with practice. I was sitting here and I just really had nothing to talk about. I was gonna shoot a video, but then I said, if I shoot a video, then I gotta wait all the time while the video uploads. So let me just go live. So it's, you know, recording and uploading at the same time. And a lot of times I get all my content from y'all when y'all send me questions, send me DMs. And I haven't been able to really go through a lot of it and get to see a lot of it. So y'all forgive me on that. And God bless y'all to the blessed tribe members. Now, for those of y'all who watching this and you can't comment, that mean you're not a member of the blessed tribe, which the blessed tribe and the blessed business tribe. And y'all forgive me on the blessed business tribe. I need to mark the videos the right way. So I continue to upload the blessed business tribe videos. I shot some reels today with some business tips. And I need to turn those into videos for the blessed business tribe. So y'all forgive me as I get the time to do that. And this month I'm gonna try to be better on my videos. And now I'm be looking to do some things. I'm gonna shoot something here coming up. But for whatever reason, the little talk that we had in the house, the singles house, it just don't sit well with the algorithm. It's being suppressed and y'all not seeing it and you're not watching it. Cause a view is 31 seconds. So that let me know people not even seeing it. It's not that you, that you missing it. You'll have to go back and click on my videos and go through the videos. But I think the last episode I posted from the singles house got like 4,000 views. Whereas I post one of these videos and it'll get 10,000 and up. So for whatever reason, they're not getting put in the algorithm. And it could be cause it's, you know, doing too much got too many keyword tags and it could be just limiting the audience. I don't know really how that worked with YouTube. But with my stuff, I don't put anything in the description box. I don't put any keyword tags and it'll get a whole way more views than the single house getting. So what y'all have to realize the singles house, if those type of production not getting no views then I can't keep wasting money on it. You know, I can't be spending money, thousands and tens of thousands of dollars on stuff that don't get seen. Same thing kind of happened with titles. So I don't know if YouTube trying to say, Hey, we just want you to talk on your camera and not produce content, you know, produce content like that or what? But you know, I can't, can't do it, you know? Because it's too costly. If it's not gonna, if they're not gonna put it out there or y'all have to set your notification to go and make sure you see it. Cause, you know, it don't make no sense to me why I get on here and be rambling and get 20,000 views rambling, but then something that's produced and it's a productive conversation, get 4,000 views. So you know how that works. So if y'all want to see more of that type of content, you got to make a note to make sure you go watch it and, you know, share it with your friends and family so that they can watch it too. But y'all know how that works. CC Trucker, so to say, she finna get right on in here now. Hi, Tony, and God bless. You put an eye on them. Let me see if that eye close to a Y. You know, my name with a Y. Tony with the eyes was a woman name. Oh my, what a Y on them. I was just telling my ex today to watch your videos. You working from a place of trauma, SMA. Well, I hope you get to watch them, but I'm not really a Britain and God bless. I'm not really a good recommendation for men. Cause one thing I've learned, excluding the men and the blessed tribe and the men that subscribe to the channel, one thing I'm learning is humans don't like to be held accountable. And that's kind of men and women alike. You know, if I do a video to women, it's a lot of women talk to the men. If I do a video to men, talk to the women. And so it's just like, we don't really like anything to step on our toes. And anytime I do a video holding men accountable as I'm holding myself accountable, men be like, oh, all he do is man bash. I'm like, that's crazy that asking a man to mature, to be faithful, to be gentle with a woman, to not cheat is man bashing. I'm like, how's that man bashing? I'm like, I could see if I, you know, calling names and cussing a man out and saying a man is trash and stupid and all, you know, like talking down to the man, but me just sharing information of how we can grow and change as men. It's so many men call that man bashing. And I'm like, that's crazy. But then you have a man sitting on a podcast, giving the so-called truth to a woman. We don't call that woman bashing. It's like, oh, a woman hearing the truth and she finally getting to hear the truth. And it's like, you know, we got to call it both ways. You know, we can't let, okay, when we talking to the woman, oh, that's all fine and dandy, a woman getting the truth. But then we talking to the man, oh, that's man bashing. And make sure if y'all have questions, put the hashtag Q in there. Not sure if, because I didn't announce this earlier. So I don't know if we'll have any of the moderators on here tonight. But you know, this Saturday, we having a class, I think it'll be full up by the night. It's called Saturday School, it's for the singles. You'll see it on TonyGassofacademy.com. I'm gonna put that in the, oh, I don't even know if I can write in the chat. I can't even write in the chat from the phone. And he ain't writing in the chat. It'll be on TonyGassofacademy.com. You'll see it, if you already took it, it's not necessary to take it again. Information will be slightly different, but I just flow in the spirit. So I can't remember what I said last singles class and I won't remember what I said after this singles class. So it just kind of something if you can afford to be on there, then be on there. If you can't, don't sweat it. It'll be others. Courtney say, I am 27, a nurse with no kids. I met a man who was 39, three kids, previously divorced. He said that I was unfair for not wanting to pursue a relationship. Is it wrong to want someone with less baggage? No, it's not wrong at all. It ain't wrong at all. It ain't wrong at all. He worked at the baggage claim, all that now, 39, three kids and divorced. It's like, my goodness, we got to carry on. He checked two bags, got to carry on two personal items. So yeah, that's it. And I'm gonna tell y'all something. Yesterday, my subscribers on Instagram, Instagram now has subscribers, so I do Q and A's but the subscribers and quite a few of the questions was about age difference. And I was like, man, so this age difference thing is real. Like younger women, older men. And all I say to that is, you just got to make sure the man not gonna try to raise you. And vice versa, you got to make sure the person not trying to raise you. The other thing you got to make sure is that they youngest you in the sense of their body. Because I see these age different things and I feel like for a woman, it's a little different because when it comes to intimacy, a woman has something that a man goes into. A man has something that it has to get blood flow to stand up. So if you are a young woman and you 27 and you with a man who 45, that 18 year difference, it might not really affect you right now. But when that man is 60, it might not affect him then. When he's 70 and you 50, a lot of 50 year old women still want to get down. But it ain't a lot of 70 year old man that's gonna be strong. So you also got to, and then you got to think about this. A lot of times humans, we aren't pleasant. Like humans aren't typically that nice. Like eventually the longer you with a person, the more they get on your nerves. So imagine being with somebody that's 20 years older than you and they think don't work and they get on your nerves. So now they're not making love to your mind nor can they make love to your body. And if they grumpy, they ain't trying to do nothing with their mouth either because it'll be frustrating for him to be using his mouth but then can't get him nothing because the soldier won't stand at attention. So you also got to think about that when you thinking about this age thing because a lot of people looking into relationships and they thinking about relationships like a business. Well, if y'all gonna be thinking about a relationship like a business, then y'all also need to be thinking about how's that age difference gonna play out when you wanna go to Italy and France and New Zealand and your partner is in a wheelchair because you wanted that age difference. So now you got to be willing them down the ramp. You sitting in business class but you got to let the whole plane empty. You got to let the whole plane empty because you waiting on the wheelchair to get to the ramp because you 50 years old and your partner's 70, 75 which that's still young. Now I know that ain't wheelchair but I know people in the 75 between 75 around 75 and they just don't feel like getting on over jet, getting on no plane to go to Italy. But yet you'll be in your prime at 50 and you wanna see the world. You got your 401K stacked up a little bit and you ready to see some things. And your partner just like, listen, I ain't got it in me. I really don't feel like going. So this is what y'all have to realize because they say once a man, twice a child. What that means is when a man is a baby, he getting that diaper change. When a man become elderly, he getting that diaper change. So once a man, twice a child. So you have to think about that. I know you want financial security. So you 35 with this 55 year old man and yes, he financially secure but not what you gonna do when you 55 and he 75. You see what I mean? And that's what people are not thinking about. They ain't think about that. Just thank you for your ministry. Coach Emma, God bless you now. God bless you. Beauty bar Chris, thank you for being a member. Hey, thank y'all for the members. All y'all members on here. Let me see. Tony, how do you deal with feeling alone in a family that's toxic? I am nothing like them and isolate myself from them but I have nobody else. Well, sister, you got to get out and make friends. If you can't get out and make friends then that mean you toxic. So you're gonna have to get into some groups to get on meetup.com, get into the church. As the executive say, if you want friends, be friendly. So get outside of your family and you know, get you somebody. No, it ain't gonna mean an hour and 50 tonight cause my son get out of practice so I'm gonna have to drive. Devonte, God bless you now. My son's dad asked if I would be okay with him pursuing me again. Absolutely not, LOL. We just got our divorce finalized on July 29th. I moved on and I'm happy single. Why is he down backtracking? Cause you happy single, cause you happy single and he wanna come waste your time. So they got it right in marriage. And that's one thing when I try to tell y'all what I try to help y'all understand what I try to help the world understand about men is men, we bullheaded. Men, we bullheaded, we head strong. So a lot of men will call your bluff. A lot of men will make a woman go all the way to divorce court to start trying to do right. And then some men like this man gonna make a woman get a whole divorce and then wanna do right. And that's how, and it's just the truth of the matter that we can't talk about. That's honestly how little respect we as men have for women. That's honestly how little respect we have because we know that most women got boo boo to fool written across their head. We know that. I'll tell you the truth. Because of what I done seen with women, nine times out of 10, when I coach a man it don't matter what he tell me, I tell him if you willing to change, if you willing to do some coaching she ain't going nowhere. It don't matter what he tell me he done done because that's what I see from women over and over and over. I can't tell you how men and women then came to me for coaching. And say Tony, he punched me in the nose. He spit in my eye. He stomped on both of my big toes. He flapped my tires. He put sugar in the tank. He cut my daughter or a ponytail off and punched my son in the stomach. And I'm sitting up cringing. I'm like, man, you got a savage. Then she say, but I miss him so much. And if he'll come back, I'll take him back in a heartbeat. I can't tell you how many times I heard that. And to be honest with you, that's why I do the work that I do. People, it's me and all the time. Oh, you just pandering the women. You just pandering the women. I'm like, listen, if you got to hear what I hear women go through, you'll be talking to women too. You'll be talking to women too. Because the stuff that I hear, I'm like, oh my goodness. And it may, and a lady got on to me one time. A lady got on to me one time. She say, do not say that. Do not say that. I'm like, my goodness. Is my wife with a fake account? Because what the latest, I mean, what I said, I said, sometimes it made me want to see what I could get away with. I'm like, I'm over here trying to be a good man. I'm trying to be a good man. But then I talked to women who got it all. I talked to women who got everything going for themselves. And they settling for nothingness. I'm like, why am I pursuing righteousness? If I can get away with nothingness. I'm like, my goodness. I'm like, you feel that that man do all of that and take him back? Like, what am I doing? And then I have to talk to the Lord and remind myself I ain't doing this for my wife, I'm doing this for God. I got to remind myself. I got to remind myself. I say, man, listen to me now. Listen to me now. Now, let me see if I could, now y'all put the hashtag Q on there so I could identify your questions. My son's dad, okay, that's the one I answered. Is it true that a lot of men don't want to commit to a woman with a child or children? To be honest with you, I have not been in that position since I was 16, 16 or 17, young lady I was dating. I think I was maybe in 11th grade and she was in 10th grade or something like that. And she had a child and I broke up with her because she had a child and she couldn't just up and go to the movies. And at that young age, I didn't want to be tied down, sitting in the house, you know, at 16, 17 years old, I wanted to get up and go to the movie. And she be like, well, I can't go to the move because I ain't got nobody to watch my son. So I broke up with her for that because I said, listen, you know, God bless you, I'm just too young to be being a dad, you know, and I'm riding past the movie theater and your baby daddy in the parking lot fighting with the white boys, they running through the parking lot having to fight. I'm like, so he getting to be a young man and he on mills got to step up and be, step daddy. I said, I'm not going to be able to do it. And she broke down crying. She sat there and she cried and I felt bad about it. So I say, I haven't been in that situation since I was a teenager. So I really don't understand how a grown man feel about that. I have heard men say that. And I think it's less about the child and more about the other man. And I'm going to tell y'all one thing is that the words that we hear as men, it's gospel. The words that men hear men take it as gospel. I heard a little baby say in a freestyle, you could love her, but don't trust her. Could all the HOs be effing? Now, the reason why he said that is because the type of women he get to sleep with is the type of women that's attracted to rappers and that's attracted to money. And nine out of 10 of them women that he get to sleep with probably got a boyfriend. But one thing I noticed about a lot of women, one thing I noticed about a lot of women is women are always looking for a upgrade or security unless they got it. And men too, men do the same thing. So it's a human thing because I have noticed and I remember this now. I remember talking to women and before they knew I had a wife, they didn't have a boyfriend. But as soon as I said something about my wife, then all of a sudden they say something about their boyfriend. And that was just the strangest thing to me. And so the thing about it is a lot of times men be them cheated or men be them left a little room for a woman to upgrade. And I have noticed it and I remember when I was matchmaking, it'll be so many women I reach out to and they have a boyfriend. But they'll be curious about who is the person because I might be single depending on who he is. And I'm like, wow. So that's what Lil Baby was talking about. And so when we as men hear that, we be like, I'm married, been married 15 years when he said I wasn't looking at my wife. I don't know, I don't know about you. Cause you look like you like that. And I know I got a good woman when J Cole said whatever number she say, multiplied by three. So all of us men, we started asking women, well, how many men have you slept with? I just want to be open and honest, you know, about this right here. How many men have you slept with? And the woman say, well, I don't really count. Oh, you don't lost count? Well, yeah, I know the number. I just don't know if I should say it. Like, I don't want you judging me. So then she say, well, seven because J Cole said whatever number she say, multiplied by three, that's seven automatically 21. And that woman could be being a hundred percent serious. She could be being a hundred percent serious and telling the absolute truth. But because J Cole said, multiplied by three, every man start multiplying by three, seven. Okay, 21. Got to go, got to go, great knowing you. Got to go. If a woman said one, it's three. If she said three is nine, whatever a rapper say goes. And that's the power and that's what a lot of men, today that's why I tell you today, men being raised by rappers. And that's honestly why a lot of men don't trust women cause the rappers don't trust women. And you know why the rappers don't trust women? Cause they dealing with hood rats. And they're not dealing with real women. They're not dealing with classy women cause classy women not even checking for them. Classy women not even in the club at the concert might go to the concert at the arena, but not at the club. Classy women not going in there, not wife ready women that a good man won't. Now you, now you probably, well, Tony, I was in there. I was in the club at a little baby concert. All right, well listen, you're attracting a certain type of man. You're attracting a certain type of man. A husband ready man, a man that's ready to be a husband and be faithful. He's not in the club. I'm going to tell you that now. He's not in the club. Tell you that now. And so, and, and, and be honest with you, he probably not in no concert either. Not no rap concert. What's the balance between not seeming thirsty, but also not seeming emotionally unavailable. The balance is you respond to a man when he reach out to you instead of chasing him. So you're not, you know, whatever you, you're not chasing him. You're not going after him, but he reach out to you, you free, you respond to him. So that's what that is right there. Will you consider adding online dating to my mentor? Yeah, yeah, you could be an online dating coach. If you know what you're doing, you can be an online dating coach, but just write in, when you go to my mentor.life, you'll see on there need help. And it has the email address info at my mentor.life. Just write in, Hey, can we add, can we add online dating? And then they'll email me and then I'll tell them, yeah, and then they'll add it and see. Cousin called her boyfriend with another woman at a concert. She keyed his car. He then blocked her. She's been a mess and wants to know if he's coming back to her. She doesn't trust herself if he returns. Now listen, I'm not no psychic. And I don't believe in psychics. And your cousin ain't in the bless tribe. So we ain't asking people, cause her ain't in the bless tribe. Unfortunately, we can't ask a question when people ain't in the bless tribe. So tell Cous, you got to join the bless tribe. Mona, Mona, the art of becoming with law and God bless you. Thank you for joining the bless tribe. Should men on CC put on hashtag Q in front of your question next time. So I'll see that. Should men be sole providers or should each situation be customized according to the couple? You got it right. Each situation customized according to the couple. Cause not every man built to be a sole provider. I really like a guy on social media, IG, but he doesn't live in the same state. I'm from NYC. Should I DM him? I know you say online dating isn't it? Listen, mean somebody on social media is different than online dating. It's not the same thing. Just cause social media is online, that's not online dating. Online dating is when you go to a online dating site. When you on social media, that's a social networking site. So that's totally different. It's totally different. Totally different connotation, everything. You should not DM a man though. A woman should never DM a man like shooting her shot. Now you could DM a man asking him a question about his business, about his company, about something he said. But the best way to get a man attention on Instagram is to follow him to like a post, comment a man with the hands up, not with the eyes, don't come in the little eyes, comment a man or I agree and have your story, add something to your story. Even if you put a quote in your story, put anything in your story. The way you stand out on Instagram is to have that little circle lit up. Cause when you add to your story, that give you a ring of fire. And that ring of fire make you easy to get seen. So even if I go and I look through my likes, even as a married man, the people with that ring around they thing, I'm not looking for no wife, but those accounts that I noticed when I see that little ring around now. So you got to add to your story. So then I see, that's where they pop out. So now this man, we see this because that's men are visual creatures and I'm married. And I still gonna notice now, of course it's men and women in the comments, but I'm gonna notice the accounts that got that thing on there, that little ring around there. So imagine a single man, he looking intentionally, he looking for his wife like that. I remember talking to a good man and I said, I said, how did you meet her? He said, she watched my stories. Hey, y'all forgive him my phone trying to die on me. Let me see if I can plug in. I say, how did you meet her? He said, she watched my stories. I say, wow, so you check to see who watched your stories? So he said, I noticed that she always watched my stories. So a single man with no kids, he got that kind of time. And so that's how you gonna catch a man's attention on them. I talked to another guy who met his woman. I say, how did you meet her? He said, I saw her like my picture. She liked one of my pictures. I'm like, boy, y'all really on here playing Colombo, like blues clues, but y'all don't miss a thing. I'm like, by goodness, you caught all that? So do you mean don't miss nothing now? Do you mean don't miss nothing? Denise, just email in to support. Just email in to support. And just send, you'll have to do like a one minute video posted to YouTube market as a unlisted and just saying why you will be good as an office assistant. And that's only for people in the Tampa Bay area. That's where one of my offices will be at. Would you recommend self-publishing through a site like Amazon or going through a reputable, no, ain't no such thing as a reputable publishing company. Go through Amazon, because that way you the boss. Well, before you do that, go to tonigassesacademy.com and take the birth of your book course, because I put all the information you need in there. Put all the information, 837, y'all, I got about 838, 22 minutes, 22 minutes. Hey, no, no, I'm gonna tell you, listen to the rappers. Fancy fans, every rap album, come out, listen to it. And that's gonna tell you where a culture finna go. That's gonna tell you what every man believe in. Listen to every rap album that come out. Get Apple Music, I download every rap album that I hear released, I download it and I listen to every song. And sometimes I listen to it three or four times because that's gonna tell me where the culture is getting ready to go. That's gonna tell me how people gonna dress, what drugs people gonna be doing, how people gonna view relationships. That latest rap album gonna tell you everything you need to know about what state society about to be in. And a lot of time the media don't even realize the power that they giving the young man. Boyfriend and I are ready to get married together four years, me 24, him 28, newly long distance because I moved for dental school with starting marriage off long distance, be crazy. Since anything is possible, it just depends on y'all bond. Y'all been together four years, depends on your bond. You in dental school, that's gonna be a great profession. You gonna make great money whether you work at somebody else office or you open your own. If he's not doing something equally as rewarding or lucrative, he should move to you. If my wife wanna go to med school right now, I could work from anywhere. So I go wherever she need to go to. So sometimes that's the sacrifice we got to make. Now if he's in school and he pursuing his dreams, then yeah. But at the same time too, it's hard for a man to be in a long distance relationship. So it's no real sense in being married because now you putting yourself under a covenant to where if he slip up and he do something with another woman, not being married, even though y'all together is different implications not being married than being married. Cause when you married, nah, that's God's covenant he going against. If he get weak in his body, weak in his spirit and any man that's capable of that is just being real with you. I know a lot of women like a fairy tale. Let me get on my computer cause Tony, I can't eat this, I don't even work on the phone. Let me get on computer. Tony got a man, oh, I hope I get it. Oh, I hope for the unsubscribe after this. A man of God will never do that. I have to say, Lord, I just delete the comment. I say, man, what you think? What you think David did? What you think Solomon did? What you think every man in the Bible did? But Jesus, what you think? This a man. This ain't God, this a man. This a man of God, but this is not God. You see what I'm saying? Like look around, like these is good men out here falling short. Look at the past in Atlanta. You know, had the baby with the scribble. Look at the past that got to sit down right now in Texas, a white man. We normally ain't used to white men, I can a fool. Let y'all, sisters who is, what y'all call it? Diversifying, divesting. Let y'all sisters tell it, white men faithful. The white past in Texas getting to sit down. The white past in New York got sat down. The one in maybe South Carolina, North Carolina got sat down. The black pastor from LA left his wife. The black pastor from Houston left his wife. The black pastor who in Atlanta used to be in Baltimore cheated on his wife. I think she left him. You see what I'm saying? So even though a man could be a man of God, he's still a man. He's still a man. So me personally, I try to be in the same city. If I was a woman with a man, I try to be in the same city and can move into the same house if you're gonna get married. But long distance, you can, I'm gonna tell you like this right here. If your man ain't got that olive oil on his forehead and now about speaking in tongues and you could feel Christ just oozing from him as humans and this men and women. Humans, you could trust a human as far as you could see them because all humans is given to sin. All humans capable of sin. All humans capable of lying. All human capable. So you got to know that you know that you know that this person wrapped up in the word of God and love and fear the Lord. And that's one thing she cured God bless you. That's one thing that is a downside of me being a man of God. It's my wife. She don't have the fear of me cheating. See a lot of women, they'll put that lens, what my dad, my daddy call it, next to J. I was like, is it called? I was like, do they have one called Negla J? Cause I heard the lingerie, but my daddy say Negla J. But maybe that's, maybe that's another word for it. I turned my wifi off on my computer. I can't even Google it. But a lot of women, they'll put that Negla J on and they'll be doing all of this stuff to keep they man from cheating. See when you are a good man and you a man of God, your wife get right up, hey, you know I still can cheat now. Even though I'm a man of God, now I still can fall short like David did. My wife, if she ain't feeling it, she ain't feeling it. I can't coerce her into nothing. But a man who is not a man of God, he, oh, okay, you wanna go to sleep? Okay, got some for you. Got some for that. And that's why I try to tell you today, men, men, today, men, men, it's not, it's the Bible say a righteous man or faithful man who could find one. It's becoming more and more few and far in between. And that's why you got to see men who doing nothing like marrying the fourth who in here, the brother who in here. And these Saturday school, we haven't almost every Saturday, marrying been on every one of them. That's a man who working on his cell. You would know, the Bible say you would know the tree by the fruit it bear. That don't mean he gonna be perfect, but the fact that he doing the work, the fact that he putting in the work that stands for something, that says something. Tony, I said these to X, but it was the clear truth about himself. Will he recover? I laid it on thick. Oh, I don't know what you said. Now, unless you saying you said what I said, CC trucker telling y'all now, put your hashtag in front of your question, I'm gonna be on here 14 more minutes. Q Scott say, Marion is faithful in those zone. Yeah, Marion be on there, the brother be on there. And that's rare. Called him Monday to check on him. Asked for money. Said he's starving. I didn't send it, just ignored the text. But later that night he text and said he was just messing around. Was he just testing me? Yeah, you trying to see if you booboo the fool? A grown man was like, well, you better go get a job. Like let's be starving, better go, better go get a job. This dude was calling me daily. Nice, has a good family. I have a career in L.E. He works at warehouse. I told him to finish welding school first. I stopped talking to him and he gets why. Is that wrong? Yes, you're wrong. Yes, you're wrong for that step in G. It's like, what the welding school got to anything to do with his character? The man working, that mean he ambitious. That man finished welding school. He might not be on your level no more. That man finished welding school, he might not want you. If you don't want him in the pursuit of greatness, then you don't deserve him when he's great. You see what I'm saying? How you feel if a man come to you and say you ain't got enough of me yet. Go to the gym and then hollat me after you get out the gym. A man come to you and say, yeah, you ain't on my level, go get a master's degree. Then come hollat me. You'll be like, you know what, forget you. Because you're gonna be the same person before that master's degree and after that master's degree. You're that same person. Why are you working not in the gym before you work out in the gym, after you work out in the gym? Because it's about your heart, your integrity, your character. So that same man that's working in the warehouse, that's humility. That's ambition. That's sacrifice. That's go get a mentality. So well in school, that could be something he does when y'all get together, y'all hit it off, y'all build it. And he motivated to keep working on himself. But see, that's what I'm trying to tell y'all now, which y'all ladies, y'all listen to me. Y'all can't have it both ways. So y'all can't be out here telling me, oh, it ain't fair. You want me to do this and do this and do this. And then you don't want to hear what a man say he won't. But then when you want to go tell a man what he need to do to get on your level. And I'm gonna try to tell you like ladies, listen to me, y'all do not have that type of luxury out here. I'm gonna tell you like, nah, y'all don't have that kind of luxury. If you meet a man with two legs, you better give him some time. If you meet a man with two legs, if he got one leg, if he a double amputee, if his heart in the right place and he got some integrity, you better sit down and have a conversation. I'm trying to tell you better sit down and have a conversation. I've talked to so many women and they say, well, you know, men approach me, but they're not fit enough. I say, listen, you better see his mind fit and you better see his heart fit and then y'all get in the gym. Because if that man like you, then he gonna work, but a lot of men not motivated to be in the gym when they by themselves. A lot of times it's that love that motivate us. Like, I don't like working out. Yesterday I was tearing some sugar cookies up. Sugar cookies, peanut butter and jelly, pizza. I'm a life coach. Yesterday I had pizza, chicken wing, sugar cookie, beef jerky. What else I had? Peanut butter and jelly. What else I had? You see, I'm telling y'all the truth. And so it's so many women. I'm talking to women. Yes, men approach me, but they don't have the stomach that I like. I say, you must have forgot where we at. You mother, this ain't heaven. This ain't the other side of heaven. We ain't got that kind of pick of the litter out here. Right, so I went to prego. You know what it was. I was on smoothies for a few days. So when my body, when I taste a piece of food, my body went crazy because I had been on the smoothies. So I went and want everything. That's what my wife tried to tell me about them kind of diets. She'd be like, listen, they just a setup. You lose 10 pounds in a week and then you put on 20 over the next two weeks. So just do it the right way. I'd be like, listen, let me do this what I need to do. I know my body. That's how men are. That's how we are. Listen to me, ladies. And here go the thing. I'm meeting a lot of women in culture who do not have it all together but want a man who have it all together. It don't go like that. It don't go like that. Listen, you can't come in with all these requirements for a man if in the eyes of a man, you don't have it together. And I'm gonna tell you something. Now this is the difference between men and women. And like I tell y'all, I'm gonna call it straight down the middle. I'm gonna call it straight down the middle. This is the difference between men and women. My son will be done in eight minutes but he probably won't get here in about 15, 20 minutes. This is the difference between men and women. Men on average do not believe their own hype. If a man is built like SpongeBob, he know he built like SpongeBob. But what I have found, and I ain't saying SpongeBob got a bad bill cause that's God child too. I'm not saying SpongeBob got a bad bill because that's God child. And we're not body shaming, but we just talking about shapes. If a man is built like SpongeBob, he know he built like SpongeBob. And he'll say that. But what I have found is that if a woman built like SpongeBob, oftentimes in her mind, she built like Beyonce. And what I have found is that I'm talking to a lot of women who is delusional. And I'm like, listen, come on now, you can't have this whole long list now and you ain't got yourself in order. You got to get yourself in order. And I heard so many women say, Tony, I'm a good catch, I'm a good catch. And I be, that's why I don't do Zoom. That's why I do not do Zoom because it's a lot of women be asking me, Tony, can you do, can you do Zoom? Can you do Zoom? And I'll be like, listen, I can't do Zoom cause I need the room to let my face drop. Cause sometimes people go to saying stuff, well, I'm dissing, I'm dead. And I'm looking at them pictures. I'm like, well, at least you got some healthy confidence. Well, you got a lot of confidence. Like, Lord, I wish you'd give me some of that confidence. I'm like, I probably could step into my purpose if I had just a little piece of that confidence. We got to be more realistic. And one thing I realized is a lot of women looking for a man that God didn't create it. A lot of women looking for a man that God didn't create it. And I was talking to her later and I was like, well, listen now, you know, why you don't want no man that's your size? I don't want no, I don't want no big man. I look like, I was like, well, I didn't say you were big. I say, why you don't want a man that's your size and that's built like you. I don't want no big man. Uh-uh. I say, so how don't you want a man that's built like you, but you want a man to want you, but he's not built like you. I'm like, this is not the math ain't mathin', that's what y'all bein', the math ain't mathin', I'm like, and listen, now I talked to a man who told me the same thing. I say, well, bro, why you don't get no woman who got some meat on her bones like you? I say, you keep going after these women who ain't got no meat on their bones and you gain your heart, bro. I said, why you don't go with no woman who got some meat on her bones and she? Man, what you want me to do? Start a grease fire? I was like, what they got to do? He was like, big and big, don't go together. I'm like, I see a lot of people that's the same size that look extremely happy. I'm like, so I'm like, okay, you 400, how you think a woman 150 pounds won't 400 pounds land on top of her? You ain't got to do it like that. You ain't got to do it like that, it's other position. I'm like, come on now. I'm like, that's not fair. That's not fair. I can't have no college degree and put college degree on my standards list. That's not fair. I cannot be so adamant about a woman having an education if I don't have an education. I remember talking to a woman who was making 20 to 40,000 because she was kind of in a entrepreneurial type space. She was making 20 to 40,000. And I said, well, what kind of man you want? She telling the man, I was like, well, how much money you want him to make? He need to make at least 2 million. I say, I say, how much you make? She said, I make about 40,000. I said, well, how you want a man that make 2 million? What you think a 2 million dollar man wouldn't want with a 40,000 dollar woman? A 2 million dollar man don't have a problem with a 40,000 dollar woman, but he got a problem if she got a requirement that he made 2 million. If she made 40,000 and she humble and she happy and she working, he don't mind that. But if she got the audacity to say she made 40,000 but she want a man who made 2 million, and it's a real conversation. So that's what I have said, what I have seen and this advice to the ladies. And men is in a different way. The problem with men today is men is watching too much, earn. The P word, men watching too much of that. That's the problem with men. The problem with women, a lot of single women is talking to themselves too much. So you talking to yourself so too much, I'm meeting a lot of delusional women. And I'm meeting delusional men, but it's for different reasons. And that's why we having a singles class on Saturday. So you'll see it, it say Saturday school with the first course on tonigassesacademy.com. Make sure you get on there and get in the singles class Saturday morning. It's at 10 a.m. Cause we're gonna be talking real, we're gonna be talking real. But that's what I'm noticing. And I'm like, listen, today is not the day to be picky. They're 2022. Today is the day to where you need to judge a person by their heart, by their integrity, and everything else could be fixed. Everything else, they could get veneers. They could go to the gym. They could get lipo. They could get braces. They'll spray your eyes out. They'll spray your eyes out. They could get microblading. They could get what it's called. It's another thing my wife told me they doing to the eyebrows now. My tinting or something. They could get a man unit. They could get weave. They could get lace front. Today is not the day to be picky. Now it's about integrity. What is your heart like? What is your character like? What is your integrity like? If he five, six, listen, he gonna motivate, inspire, y'all work together, y'all build together. When he standing on that money, he gonna be six foot seven, like Kevin Hart. Just like that. That man five foot four. But when he stand on that money, so it's like, do this five foot four man. I ain't talking about Kevin Hart, but I'm talking about if you meet you a five foot four man, does he have integrity? Does he have character? If a man meet a woman and her body is not what she wanted to be. Does she have character? Does she have integrity? We got to start being so picky in this day and age. Listen, we couldn't be picky when I met my wife in 2005. But today, so many people looking for a relationship from a fairytale book and still looking at the person and we praying to God for love. But then not looking at our potential spouse, the way God sees us. So I tell all my clients, if you asking God to send you the person for you, then ask God to give you his vision for that person. Because God is not judging a person by their height. God not judging a person by their weight. God not judging a person by their income. God not putting all that. God say, where is your heart? And is your heart set on him? And if your heart set on him, everything else will come. Everything else can come. Listen to me now, listen to me now. This, if you want to be married in this day and age, you're going to have to stop being so picky. And you're going to have to stop letting people on the internet who don't got to be in that lonely bed with you. I tell you, oh, don't settle, don't settle. Cause sometimes that's not settling. Just when you see a person for who they are, that's not settling. Settling is when you settle for somebody who does not have character, who does not have integrity, who does not have your morals and your values, then you are settling. Settling for somebody that don't check off everything on the looks box that you have dreamt of, that's not settling. Being with somebody, getting with somebody, that's not settling. And you got to understand that. You got to understand that. Looked like my son and them about done, cause they didn't really have a practice thing. I think they just did some running. Cause the field's wet, so they couldn't tear it up with their cleats. Oh no, I don't make up no stories now. All these stories real. Yeah, it's hard. It is hard to find somebody with a, somebody say it's hard to find somebody with a good heart. So if it's hard to find somebody with a good heart, imagine how hard it is to find somebody who look amazing and have a good heart. It's like you typically gonna have one or the other, like they're gonna have a good heart and look good, look decent, or they're gonna look amazing and be not about trash. I'm here to tell you now, I've gone on two dates with a guy and he asked me if we can be exclusive. Am I wrong for not accepting exclusiveness so soon? He is the only person I'm dating though. I like to know him better. I mean, exclusive honestly is just a word. You know, he, cause you could say exclusive and then you meet somebody and now y'all no longer exclusive. What that is that man, if he got of somewhere to stay, if he got his own place, he got a car, he got integrity. And what that man is saying is, he like you, he serious about you and he wanna take you off the market. That's all he's saying. Hey, my son here, so I got to go. Hey, God bless y'all. Say hey son. What's up guys? Yeah, I'm a 15 year old. I gotta turn the hair off. I'm a 15 year old. Oh no, the air is on up there. I just take my shirt back here. And sometimes my son think I be too hard on him. And he young. He don't understand what he gonna be up against and why his dad is so hard on him. But he got his Instagram, not Tony Gaskin the third. Y'all DM him. And he talking about no, please don't. And just let him know about a father's love. Sometimes they don't, he don't understand it from me when I'm hard on him. Cause I don't say stuff the way he like me to say it and not say stuff that hurt his feelings. But he don't understand what he gonna be up against and what he gonna see from these women, from these men, from life. They don't understand. And a lot of times they don't get it to the too late. So I try to help these kids understand. Cause we as adults, we know, we know. But a lot of times they don't know. They don't get it. But hey, I appreciate y'all tonight. I'm about to go on ahead and get on out of here. God bless y'all. I was just playing about giving my son, cause he, cause he, you know how they are. They don't want to hit nothing. But hey, God bless y'all. Yeah, he 15 years old. And we gonna be in touch. Hey, God bless y'all. We'll talk soon.