 This is super cute with the, with the, with the sock on. Come on. And you're her type too. Oh yeah, she loves guys. She has a type. And your color. And you're her type. I already have a woman on her, she's a red one over there. Oh yeah. Oh my gosh. Tell me that's not adorable. We till that one day says welcome to parents, didn't you? Yeah. Thanks. I'm Jaime by the way. Marlene. Pleasure. Megan. Pleasure. Hello my fellow snippers, flighters and newbies. We are somewhere very special. Jersey's about to be here. Hopefully. Just with the late crew. FYI, I'm not the one that makes our crew late. As you can see, I am Marlene. We are at Cesar Milan's. Let's go. That's actually pretty cool. Wait, this is your bird backpack? This is my bird backpack. That's amazing. Yes. This is how we roll here. You can just go right there. Oh my gosh. That's how we bird parents do it. Welcome to parenthood. We are good parenthood. I'm actually really proud because I have a backpack for birds. No one has one. That's the bird whisper. There you go. You might be the perfect person to fill people in on my channel because people ask me all the time, how does your dog, your cat, your bird and all your animals get along? And I've been trying to find a good way to put it in words, except for I've been thinking, you know, maybe it's best for a dog trainer to answer that because it's really about the way we approach the bird from the dog's point of view because I'm not worried about the dog, but none of our dogs go for our birds, none of our cats. And so maybe you could fill people in on my channel about exactly that because it's a huge question that people ask me and I never want to give out any information without being extremely certain that this is the way. You know what I mean? Because sometimes it's hard to pinpoint exactly what it is that you do that is making everyone get along. I don't train dogs, I train humans. What we need to help a human understand is mother nature has its own law. And then it's men law and then it's universe law. So we have a tendency to study men law, but we have a tendency to disregard mother nature law, which is a law with you, without you and without me. It was already there before we actually existed. And then you have universe law or God law. And this is where people like people that watch Tony Robbins or people that watch Gary Vee or people that watch DJ Galliv, you know, all these people say, well, you gotta visualize what you want, but there is laws. So if you want to tap into that, you have to come with four energies. Come, comfort and love and joy. So if you don't come with calmness first, you're not going to tap into mother nature law or spiritual law. In men law, you can come with excitement. In men law, you can come with no honesty, no integrity, no loyalty. But when you enter into mother nature law or spiritual law, your moral values have to be 100%. So how do you achieve that? Well, how do they do it? So in order for an elephant and a zebra and a horse and a dog and a macaw and every single animal to actually meet in one place, all of them have to be calm. That is the only way they can close the circle. Which is my childhood friend just came to visit. He picked up every single one of my birds. I said, how did you know to do that? He goes, because when I was a kid, you told me always remain calm around the birds. And when I bird whisper, I don't know. He always told me, stay calm, remember? Yeah. When you're younger, you're always like, just stay calm, don't be calm. If you are calm. If you're calm, then you're good. And I was like, huh, like that's what he remembered. And he was able to pick up Vinny and Cody and all of the birds. He actually said to Vinny, we're good, right? Yeah. Before he picked them up, he was like, we're good, right? You wanna meet Vinny? Vinny wanna meet me, that's the question. Yeah, he's in there talking. You wanna meet me, Vinny? Do you know that sauce from New Jersey? You know your name's after my cousin Vinny and Sal lives over there, that's right? Like he did the gangster thing. Calm is a superpower. Confidence is a superpower. Love is a superpower. Enjoy is a superpower. But, so most people build relationships backwards, right? So most people do excitement, love, no confidence, no calm. But if you do calm, confident love and joy, and then you're building from trust, respect, love it and celebration. So this is happy go lucky energy. She knows that's a new smell. This is establishing, you know, the bird. It's not used to this kind of excitement. So the bird had the right to let him know this is too excited. Or the human has the responsibility to let her know, tone the excitement down, still meet him, but meet him calmly. So then it's easier for the bird, any bird, to be around new dogs because they're being calm and respectful. Even though she wants to play, they don't see it as a play. They see it if you're too excited and we never met. Yeah. So once you repeat yourself twice, you have to help them to go all the way to zero. So they can reset and start from zero to 10. So most people what they do, go away. So the dog never understood to go all the way to zero. So when you enter into like a not agreeing with something, if you don't go all the way to calm surrender, you will start exactly how you left. You see what I'm saying? So even we humans practice five flight avoidance to each other, but the ideal state of mind to have a long lasting relationship is calm surrender to each other, happy go lucky to each other. And the one who can practice calm confidence is the one who is the most stable. You see what I mean? So male or female, because it's not a gender. So leadership is not a gender. Leadership is an energy. You see it? So we're the only species that follow unstable leaders. Only species in the planet that will follow instability. Elephants won't do it, dolphins won't do it. You know, whales won't do it, birds won't do it. We are the only species that follow instability because we value money, fame, and power. They value the most healthy, the most positive, the most loving, the most joyful. That to them is the only one who can run for president. So what I teach people is to understand natural, simple, and profound. Your instincts, your heart and your spirit. My clients are Harvard graduate, but they can't walk at you out. So even if your intellect has developed and earned and make you become Mark Zuckerberg, doesn't mean you know how to connect with an animal. You know what I mean? So Harvard will teach you how to connect with money, fame, and power, but doesn't mean it teaches you how to be a good husband, a good father, and a good animal person. So this place, you need a land, you need a knowledge, and you need people to help. Surrounding. Yeah, to help move an idea. Land, you must feel safe, peace, and love. Your home should feel safe, peace, and love. Those are the ingredients of your home. At the moment your home doesn't feel safe, the energy of the human is uncomfortable. You know what I mean? It is no peace. And you can love, that's when you feel safe. You can love people, that doesn't mean you trust them. You can love people, that doesn't mean you respect them. And that happens a lot in family members. That's where you experience that awkward reality. That you love somebody, that doesn't mean you trust them. That could be like your parents. That could be like your aunts. That could be your cousins, intimate, intimate pack members. Yeah. Because when they're outside your intimate space, you don't really care, you know what I mean? Yeah, and when they're close to you, it's like. It's when it hurts. Yeah, it hurts the most. My clients unconsciously hurt their dogs, because they don't build on trust and respect, they build on affection. Right. But if you don't know how to gain the trust and the respect, you don't have a bird. You have the idea of having a bird. It's more of a trophy bird. Like a trophy wife? Yeah. You can have relationships, doesn't mean they are. We're already hugging, look at this. I didn't even hug you, you already hugged me. This one is insistable. This is the classic. I want to pet her back. Did you turn back? Because you're letting them work for your attention. Yeah. You know, I think it's important that they work for it. Just make a little bit more effort to get them to know you. Are you okay with this or are you not okay with this? So it's very important for them to maintain the social way of being, but you letting them... This guy is the second day about it. He's so cute. Yeah. Well, cuteness is definitely what they are. I mean, this is super cute with the sock on. Come on. And you're her type too. Oh yeah, she loves guys. She has a type. Is it your color? And you're her type. I already have a woman on her. She's a red one over there. Oh yeah. Oh my God. This guy. It looks like Ayaluca. It does? I thought that was Ayaluca. No, I didn't bring Ayaluca. This is Mr. Santiago. Santiago? Yeah. I like him. This is his favorite thing, love, fix and shower. I have a theory, okay? So first of all, I'll go in the shower with them at night and no matter how they behave with each other, once they get in the shower, it's super calm, you know? They have their space and they're sitting up there and what happens in the shower is that it kind of mimics that tropical rainforest vibe. That's actually how they became friends. Yes. Yeah, because when they were on the purge, she was like, ah, get out of here. And then when I bathed them one time, oh, okay, we shower together. There's something miraculous about the shower and they relax and I always do it at night because at night they're exhausted from the day so they're not gonna put on their hardest defense. So they get up there, they try something and they're like, oh, I have the steam. And then they chill out. Now what happens after a while is if you put two birds together in a shower, they get over themselves. They're like, I already spent hours with you and we didn't bother each other. So the next morning when you get up and you put like a plate of food and it's like, hey, this is how you share, they feel like there's nothing to fight for. There's enough food. There's enough, you know, it just, it's just two things that like turn on something in their brain. You wanna know which one is for dogs? What? Walking together. They can walk together for a long period of time. That makes them a pack and then they can eat together. Because I feel like eating together makes them a flock. You know what I mean? Family. Yeah, it's a family. It's like you're sitting up in the tree. You see hundreds of like Gala cockatoos with sulfur-crested cockatoos in Australia. They're all hanging out together. There's no reason why. The only thing that makes it difficult in our house is we've brought in a third component. We've brought in a triangle of jealousy of like, oh, are you the mate? And the way we've raised birds is that they don't have, you know, we take so much away from them. So they lose the ability to even kind of wanna mate with another bird. They kind of like put it in their brain if you don't do it correctly to mate with you. So then you become their mate and then another bird becomes a threat or you become a threat for loving the other bird. So you've created a difficult triangle. So it's very important to establish that like, we are all, you know, a flock. It's super important for having many different kinds of birds together. People do that with dogs when they favor the dog. So people can create a division, like what you call it, the right angle, a division of, even with humans, you can create a division if you favor another sibling. You know what I mean? So in the dog world, if one dog was there first, people have a tendency to believe that if you pay attention to that dog, he will not feel sad because you brought another member to the back, you know what I mean? That's why a lot of dog people, when they have two or three dogs, they keep them separate, you know? So they create like a maximum security because they have created this competition. When you make a predator go into a competitive state, that's when you can go to the Olympics. You know what I mean? The human is in a competitive state and we redirect that into Olympics. But before it used to be gladiator thing. So the human will go all the way to the end of death. But now it's like, no, you don't have to go that far. So MMA is a perfect example of gladiator thing, but it's a competitive way of being. And that predators are the only one that practice that. Yeah. So it's easier for predators to go into a fight when you favor one, because then they're gonna claim the human, the food, the furniture, the house, the hall. So you open the door. You open the door so they can practice that. But if you want them to be with different species, you close that door. It's not about competition. Then they say, so how do we get things? And then the human say, well, when you guys are calm, I'll give you the food. When you guys are calm, I put a leash on you. When you guys are calm, you can go on the pool. Then they get excited. So it's not that you're not gonna get excited. It's they're first gonna be calm before they practice excitement. But most people, when they bring a leash, they go, you wanna go for a walk? So now you have two, three dogs in an excited state. And when they see something, they go after each other. Because the human put the tension on the leash. So then the tension goes, they start finding this, I can't walk my three dogs. I wonder why. You see what I mean? So here, we always reward calm state. And then everybody, ah, that's how you get it. Even with the birds. We never feed excited bird or like panicky or demanding, you know, ah, you come down, you relax. And we offer everything. Otherwise your neighbors will go crazy. You know what I mean? Because they're gonna be calling you that way because that's how they get things. But if they've learned to be quiet, and then you can have birds and dogs and whatever you want, nobody knows you have them. Yeah, where our neighbors right up next to us and they hear nothing. I've asked my neighbor, I was like, so do you ever hear the birds? They're like, no.