 So at some point your life will go to shit and that's just what happens from time to time. It might have been a breakup, it might have been not getting to your dream school, it might have been losing your job. All I know is that what you do now is what matters most. So if my life went to zero all over again, I want to share exactly what I would do to rebuild it. What's up guys? Alex Hein here over at Modern Health Monk. Now before we jump in, I've put together a free seven-day self-growth challenge that will help you figure out exactly what you want from life and how to make it happen. So it's the first link right below this video. You're going to email every couple days on how to design an incredible life going forward. So check it out down below the video. The first thing I would do is really mentally count out how far you think you will live and I want to share why this exercise is so important. When I was in grad school I was doing my doctorate and I was talking with a girl one day who was basically complaining about how hard school was and she didn't want to study, she didn't want to put in the time and I was saying you know just put in like three hours a day and you'll probably do fine and she said well no I like going home and I like watching Netflix every day for three hours. I like that ritual you know after dinner from 8 to 11, watch my shows and then go to bed and I'm like well you could work a part-time job in those hours or you could study in those hours but ultimately she didn't want to give up her three hours a day of Netflix to get through a doctorate or grad school or medical school. I don't even know if she graduated, she might have dropped out, I never heard from her again after that year but in less than those three hours a day during my doctorate training I wrote multiple books and brought a business from basic entry level into the six figures all while doing a doctorate over four years and yes I am a psycho and yes I apparently like destroying myself but the fact is I did that in less than three hours a day more probably two hours a day and for her she was watching Bridgerton. It's not to compare it's not to say what she did was wrong and what I did was right I'm just saying if you want to build your life you have to be deliberate about what you're building and I was very deliberate about what I was building and what I wanted to be in four years not just with school but personally if you're 25 right now just google what is the average life expectancy for my gender in my country so for me a male in America is about 79 so I'm 35 now you can do the math but let's just say you're 25 and people in your country live to 75 so you know that you have 50 years left and it takes about 10 years to acquire 10,000 hours in a field which is the middle number it requires for mastery right for let's just say being the top one percent the middle number average number so you could literally if you're 25 become the best one of the best in the world in five different careers you could have five different lifetimes from now even if things went to hell for you you could be the best in a STEM field like a biologist you could be the best in a sport like tennis you could be the best in an intellectual field like engineering or computer programming there are so many ways you could reinvent yourself and rebuild in just one decade 10 years sounds like a long time when you're 25 but when you're 35 you realize how recent 25 was and all the things that you could have done in that intervening time so wherever you are now pace out how many decades you have left and how many things you could be the top one percent in the world in with your remaining lifespan and you'll see that life is long if you live it right the second thing I would do is come up with a list of let's just say 20 experiences you want to have in your life so for me my version of the bucket list was not like go bungee jumping and go skydiving even though I did all of that the bucket list the thing was just what do I want to experience while I'm alive right and we're all going to die we don't know if it's at 26 or if it's at 96 but either way I think the difference is what do you want to experience while you're alive right I mean it's the dreams that basically hold people together if you just worked in nine to five that you hated you had a boring relationship you looked forward to nothing in your life there would be no internal purpose for being alive there would be no feeling of my life is worth it right and I think that's why so many people sedate themselves with tv or drugs or recreational drinking because it is a kind of slow suicide but what experiences do you want to have for me one of the experiences I always wanted to have was I wanted to do a little sabbatical just for a month writing my second book which is called milk the pigeon a field guide for anyone lost in their 20s and one book that inspired me that really inspired me to go after the life I wanted that the life that was the secure life the safe life the life that my parents wanted society wanted but what I actually wanted was the book the alchemist by paulo quello and I remember visualizing in my head all these scenes of southern Spain like tarifa and Gibraltar and the boat he took from southern Spain over to north Africa and the visual of standing on that old fort and tarifa and seeing north Africa across the street there and I thought wouldn't it be awesome to write my next book tracing the footsteps of the alchemist so one day in my little bucket list notebook I wrote down do a month in southern Spain and spend every day just drinking wine and writing your next book so because I had that intention that this was an experience I wanted to have I actually ended up doing that about six years ago and I booked a round trip ticket from Spain I was an entrepreneur so I could take the month off and I went to southern Spain and Portugal every day all I did at sunset I found a great cafe or a great restaurant I just people watched and I just wrote this book that was the guidebook that I wish I had when I was 22 or 25 and that experience is a profound life experience I had that so many people I know envy or would love to have especially people that want to write or creatives that want to think and for me the only reason that happened was because I actually thought about deliberately the kind of experiences I wanted to have ahead of time now the final thing I would do is come up with your perfect day and try to reverse engineer it because look when I went on this whole long winded rant about your bucket list but ultimately the things you do once a year or 10 times in your life will not make you have a happy life unless they're like finding your dream job or marrying a person that's a great person because your life is really comprised of your days right so as the quote goes how we live our days is how we live our lives so if you hate every day but you have a sweet vacation two weeks of the year you're going to hate your life because most of your life is still what you hate so what is the perfect day I remember I was talking to this successful fitness trainer years ago and he said that before Gary Vaynerchuk was this big person he is now he hired him at a very high consulting fee to help him build a better life and better business and he said the first thing Gary V said was what's your perfect day literally that was his first question not business not big picture just what's your perfect day what do you actually want to do every day the guy talked about his wife and his kid and the hours he wanted to work and what he wanted to work on and I think this exercise is so underrated because today is your life literally tomorrow is your life Friday is your life each day is your life so if each day is awesome your life's going to be awesome and if you hate five days a week because of you hate your job and you love two days a week and you you hate five out of seven days that ratio five out of seven of your life right about three quarters of your life you hate so thinking about what your perfect day is tangibly when do you want to wake up what do you want to do for work how many hours do you want to work how much money do you want to make what do you want to live who do you want to be with how often you want vacation once a year 10 times a year you'll find people who are doing it so if you think what are those experiences I want in my lifetime what are those one-off events that would be awesome stories and then day to day on the micro level what is the perfect day by itself you're going to be well on your way to building a really incredible life and a really incredible quality of life because you've thought ahead of time what is my dream life and then you're backtracking to make that happen so those are the three things I would do if I were rebuilding my life from scratch there's also that seven-day self-growth challenge which includes some journaling problems on deliberately planning the plot forward and the path for building the life that you really want so make sure you check it out down below I'll see you guys two other related videos for you there and then I'll see you in the next video