 You need to create scarcity and I've talked a lot about this and it's not fair and nobody wants it to be true and don't we all just wish that we didn't end up kind of taking other people for granted after time but it's true and this is a psychological principle that time and time again this is just how things work and so it's important to know about how things work so that you're not putting yourself into weird situations and how things work is that if you're around somebody all the time what's gonna end up happening is they're gonna take your presence for granted and it's the same thing with anything right and I've talked about this before if a guy brings you flowers every single day eventually you're just gonna expect that he's gonna bring you flowers and you're gonna start taking it for granted if you eat chocolate every single day eventually it's gonna wear out and it's not gonna be special anymore because you're getting it every single day right and so it's not amazing that you get chocolate and that's why it's better to eat if you eat chocolate and you love chocolate to eat chocolate only once once a month or twice a month or something like that because then it's this awesome experience that you have that you really enjoy instead of this thing that you have all the time that becomes really familiar and it's not that interesting to you anymore and so if it's something that you really desire and it scares it becomes a lot more valuable and that's what the idea of scarcity is right and so one of the ideas here is instead of sending out reaching out every single day and saying good morning good night with your text messages and stuff which I keep talking to women that are doing this instead of doing it's not bad to send a good morning or a good evening or a good night text or anything like that but what ends up happening is if you're doing it all the time it becomes predictable it loses its its value and it's not as exciting for him to receive it and so you want to be more unpredictable in this sense you want to be more sporadic with reaching out instead of doing it every day and every night and every time that he expects you to because then all of a sudden he's expecting it and you're just going to be doing it and you you want to give him some space you want to give him space so that he can wonder about what you're doing and where you are and who you're with because when you do that all of a sudden he starts thinking about things and he's going wait a second you know and you don't have to throw jealousy in his face you don't have to throw men in his face because he'll start thinking about that himself like yeah is she hanging out with just her girlfriends is there a guy in the picture like what's going on here right and he'll start worrying about it and you'll be like okay I gotta you know if we aren't exclusive now we we should probably kind of talk about this you know and and that kind of thing will start coming up for him right and and if he's really really disciplined and strong he might hold back for a while but if if he really wants something with you and you know he's really attracted to you and he really desires you he might even start bringing up a lot of these topics instead of you having to wait about it and that's really the ideal scenario that you want to be in and so another thing is rewarding bad behavior with absence right and so basically this whole thing is what a lot of women do is they when a guy kind of does things that they don't like or a guy treats her badly or something she'll try to communicate and connect with him and do all these things and you want to communicate but you don't want to kind of attack and try to shame and try to do all those things but what you want to do is communicate that it's not acceptable for you that it's something that's breaking your boundary and you want to reward that bad behavior with your absence and pulling away because that is the fastest way for a guy to start paying attention to what's going on is when you start pulling away and leaving because all of a sudden it shows that you're really really serious about it if you talk about it and talk about it one of the big things that a lot of guys talk about in the men's dating space I used to be in the men's dating space and I used to teach in the men's dating space years and years ago and one of the guy one of the things that guys just talk about in that space is whenever a woman would leave them which happens is they would say things like oh when she kept saying stuff like that like she was going to leave me but I never took her seriously right and if you want them to take you seriously then give him the gift of missing you give him the gift of your absence when you want to discourage bad behavior so which comes to the next point and the most important point here which is being willing to walk away long term right so if you're not getting your needs met and you've been seeing a guy and he's not willing to meet your needs you know maybe you you're in a relationship and you've talked about these things and you've communicated these things you know maybe you didn't start seeing my videos until last week and you you've been in a relationship for a while and you're in this situation one of the most important things that you need to know is that you have to be willing to walk away if you're not getting what your your needs met and the whole point of this is switching your mindset right switching your mindset from being about this guy this one guy that you want to get into to have to catch to keep you know switching your mindset from this guy to the relationship you know and figuring out what's more important this guy having this one guy or having the ultimate relationship that I want to have and my suggestion is that you focus on the relationship instead of the guy and you know obviously that's going to be up to you because it's your choice and what you want to have but my suggestion is that you make sure that you're willing to get what you deserve in your life and that focus in my opinion should be on the relationship instead of the guy.