 So many people are up in arms about the way 13 reasons why quote-unquote romanticized self-harm. But in this video I'm going to explain why Skye is actually the best character and how she was so well ripped. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focused on the solution. And do me a favor, this is the first video I'm actually doing on self-harm. So please please please share this video because this is a topic that we don't talk about enough and this video might be able to help somebody that you know who might actually be self-harming and you don't even realize it. So the first thing I'm going to do I'm just going to get this out of the way with a real quick rant. Everybody who's being all morally outraged about how this show romanticized self-harm you need to relax calm down take a step back and really look at what's happening in this show not once not once not only did they not show her self-harming herself but they didn't even show her scars and especially especially because some of your favorite bands talk about mental illness and romanticize this all the time. Look at Lincoln Park amazing band and they talk about the struggles of mental illness constantly. Many of their fans talk about how much the music actually helped them because they didn't feel so alone anymore. So unless you're going to be morally outraged about this whole idea of the tortured artist you need to just stop okay. So in this 13 reasons why season 2 review like I'm going to explain how the show writers did such an incredible job showing Skye's journey from self-harm to hitting rock bottom to getting a diagnosis and to recovering okay. So there are going to be some spoilers in here first one Skye self-harms all right I talked about it a little bit in my first impressions video but anyways Clay and Skye are now dating Clay knows about Skye's self-harming behavior and they kind of get into it so there are some conversations where they talk about how she was supposed to do other things instead of self-harming one of them they mentioned snapping a rubber band on your wrist and another way to do this if you know anybody who's self-harming something my girlfriend actually told me that they did at the psych ward is take a piece of ice with some red food coloring and putting it over where you would normally self-harm this sometimes helps relax the brain when people want to get into this behavior so why do people self-harm there's a there's a couple reasons actually there's a lot of reasons I'm going to talk about two major ones one of them is to feel something okay one of the symptoms of depression is numbness so sometimes people self-harm to feel okay and something that I've been meaning to make a whole video on but I'm just going to touch on it real quick some people actually get dopamine and endorphins when they do self-harming behavior so they've actually done some studies where the drug naltrexone the non-narcotic medication I don't know why I did air quotes it is not a narcotic medication this is a dopamine blocker it helps some people who are searching for that dopamine hit from self-harming other people self-harm as a way of punishing themselves or they do it to not feel their emotions when they're dealing with like this really bad emotional struggle sometimes the self-harm can actually take their attention off of it all right so there's a big deal and it's it's actually a really rampant issue in like the teenager community so we need to talk about it and I think the show did such a great job of showing recovery from it so what happens is is that sky actually hits a rock bottom all right she went to go cut and she must have they didn't explain it but she must have hit like an artery or something like that and she had to go to the hospital she was hospitalized all right and clay goes and he tries to talk to her eat all this other stuff and sky is like trying to break it off with him so by the way if any of you out there or somebody who is dating or in love with somebody who struggles with mental illness like clay is a perfect example of what not to do so at one point clay goes to visit sky at the hospital and she's gone and he's freaking out he's blowing up her phone and the nurse ends up telling him like listen I can't tell you where she is I get this because I work in the field and it's a hip of violation but he was the nurse was very vague and he's like listen she's in a great program she's going to get better all right so while she's there clay is blowing up her phone all right listen up everybody whether it's rehab or some kind of mental health facility typically there was a blackout period where you cannot talk to anybody all right and there's a real good reason for that you really need some time to focus on yourself with all without all of the outside noise all right so clay is phone bombing her and if he had been educated about this he would have known why she wasn't answering the phone anyways clay finally hears from her and he goes to go visit her and they're talking and she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder all right so I will put some links up in the info card I've had two guests kim charlson and bipolar pug k but they both did videos on having bipolar disorder check them out if you want to learn a little bit more about that but sky talks about this relief she got from just like actually getting a diagnosis and how they're giving her medications and and clay he says something that I actually hear a lot from family members and friends or loved ones of people getting on mental health medications they're worried this person's going to change listen up very carefully like sky is so focused on her recovery she's like yo it doesn't matter if it changed like I need to change like do you understand what I was doing like it's a major issue sometimes the people in your life they don't want you to get better because they fear maybe if you get better you won't love them anymore all right so but sky talks about the sense of relief that she gets from actually understanding what's going on with her bipolar right these these ups these downs she makes a joke about how she tried to do something with clay underneath the table while they're eating dinner with his parents but lastly lastly sky ends up breaking it off with clay because she's moving away to focus on herself and her mental health and clay doesn't want her to leave he loves her and it's understandable but like with anything when it comes to your recovery and something I try to beat into your head on a regular basis sky said that her recovery has to come first you know and eventually clay let go but this is so important I see so many people who don't do this they you know sky and clay were dating for five months and they're teenagers and people like no no I'm not going to focus on myself I need to date you we're going to get married and all this other stuff for any of you watching this who are like 20 years old or older like think about how in love you were with your high school boyfriend or girlfriend and how you don't even think about them anymore right so it was really admirable how sky was willing to focus on her own mental health and that's why that's why I'm so sick of people saying that they romanticize self-harm like this was perfectly done this was perfectly done I would almost encourage more people to watch this show just for sky's character development all right like if more people saw that and they could relate to that and realize what they needed to do to get well it would be amazing all right I might do another video about like the moral outrage around 13 reasons why because I 1000% disagree but anyways anyways do me a favor leave some comments down below let me know what you thought about sky's character development in 13 reasons why season two okay and again like I said please share this video because I did throw in some tips for people who do self-harm or if you're somebody who has struggled with self-harm in the past or currently are maybe share this with other people so they understand it just a little bit better okay but anyways if you like this video give it a thumbs up if you're new here I'm always making videos to help you out with your mental health make sure you click that little round subscribe button right there if you want to check out some other videos on this channel click or tap on one of those thumbnails all right so thanks again so so much for watching decrease the stigma and I will see you next time