 What's going on you guys? Welcome to the Single Guy Channel. My name is Lloyd. Today we're going to be talking about a question that I got from a viewer And he writes, Lloyd love your channel. Love all the advice that you give I recently got into a relationship with a girl and we've been going out for a solid five months. I really like this girl However, I am starting to feel insecure about the number of sexual partners we have She is revealed that she has had sex with just over 20 guys And I have only had sex with six women in my life. I Know this shouldn't be a big deal, but it's really starting to bug me and I really like this girl I don't want to sabotage this relationship. What are some things that I can do to feel better and keep this going the way it has been? Thank you so much All right, let's answer this guy's question. Okay, so first thing I would not recommend that You guys if you get into a new relationship Reveal your number of sexual partners like usually nothing good comes from that conversation However, seeing that you guys are already in there. Let's give this guy some help So just from what I've heard so far this guy sounds like kind of a young guy I know this because I probably you know was I don't not probably I was Having these same exact feelings when I was younger, you know You worry a lot more about the number of sexual partners you've had when you're younger than when you're older But also too you can worry about them when you're just relatively inexperienced So I'm in this video. I'm gonna be talking about my own experience with it the stuff that I think works on the stuff That's worse for my students because generally my younger students tend to worry about this stuff a lot too I mean, it's kind of understandable that they would okay So before I get into this if you guys are wondering I am finally coming out with a product I'm super excited about it It's gonna have a lot of the stuff that I talk about on this on this channel But it's gonna be a step-by-step process with things that I cannot show here like in-field footage So if you want to get access to that get notified when it comes out There is a link in the description below click on that link sign up And we'll make sure you get notified about it. You can get the the early pricing that we have. Okay, cool. So Let's get into this video So when it comes to having sex with a girl who or being with a girl who has a much higher body count than you For lack of a better term What do you do? Okay, so this guy Six to 20 20 really isn't that bad, you know, I've been around the block more than a few times It's very very rare if I meet a woman who where her number even comes close to mine but there was a time also to where I Had only had sex with two girls Okay, and the second girl ended up becoming my girlfriend and this girl I don't know what her number was exactly, but it was definitely a lot higher than two probably at least ten times that okay So I was really insecure about this and a lot of the things that I did I wouldn't recommend that you do It bothered me a lot of ways and I kind of kept that under wraps for a long time So whenever I'd see you're talking to another guy, I would get insecure I would think that I wasn't any good in the bedroom because she had a lot more experience than me I thought a lot of things, you know, it really started to plague my mind So I'm gonna give you some pieces of information that's going to help you feel a little better by yourself So in our society We place a lot of importance on for men at least we want a guy wants to have more sexual partners And a woman tends to want less sexual partners. We judge them differently So you right off the bat you can't judge yourself in the same way that you would be judging a girl Just because she has more sexual partners than you doesn't mean she's better than you and on top of that Especially if she's young dude like a 19-year-old girl It does not have the same sexual market value as a 19-year-old guy like the 19-year-old even up the upwards into the early 20s and mid 20s like Women when they're young and that at that age they're marked. There's their mate value is so much higher Like it's so much higher I know much more guys are trying to get with like a 20-year-old girl that are trying that women are trying to get with a 20-year-old guy That's just the way the world works. So if you're in this position, don't judge yourself, dude Don't be embarrassed about it. It's fine Like I would say that her having more sexual partners than you is the norm because she's desired more like a lot More people are going for her than are going for you and that's okay You at men get better with age. You're gonna get better as time goes on. Don't worry. Give yourself some time, dude It'll be okay Okay, and the other thing too that I know was a big worry for me was sexual proficiency Okay, just because you've had sex with a lot of people doesn't mean you're good at sex. Okay, I've had that sex with some some women who are you know, you know, their number was in the triple digits and They weren't any good in bed It's it's kind of scary. I mean didn't learn anything from any of those things, but it happens, okay? It's more about Connection get the person that you're with and a lot of times people who are very promiscuous They really value connection, you know for me personally as someone someone who's very promiscuous Like if I meet someone who I connect with it I really like like I'm excited dude because I did doesn't happen Most people that I do get physical with I don't have that connection with and the same things probably true for you too This girl's been going out with you for five months. She probably really likes the sex with you man She probably really values the connection that you have with her. Okay, she's definitely she's getting something from you That she's not getting from those other partners that she had for sure So you're not in any way an invaluable person just because your number is lower than hers, okay? So don't judge yourself on it All right and and the final piece of advice that I would have for you, dude Is if this is really really bugging you the thing that I would encourage you to do is to talk about it now I know at the beginning I said don't have this conversation Okay, but you're already there now and once you have that conversation with them Maybe there's certain things that she can do to make you feel better Maybe she can like tell you certain things or explain how it is from her point of view You know if this person really values you really cares about the connection between you two She's gonna have that conversation with you guys All right, cool And then the final thing that I'm gonna give you guys to is that yes The the number of sexual partners really isn't that big of a deal But I found just statistically if there is too big of a discrepancy like she has like ten times the number of partners that you have It's generally something that you guys are gonna have to work through okay Because you're gonna see in your behaviors You're gonna see in the way that you handle things if she's not a promiscuous person You are promiscuous person. There's I've seen people connect on that But it's something that you guys are gonna have to work out It's not so much the conversation about the number of partners that you've had It's more conversation about how you handle certain situations and I find that that is a that's something that will need to be worked out To so it's not necessarily a red flag, but it can it's definitely something that you guys are gonna have to discuss in the future So dude, yeah, I would encourage you to talk about it and honestly dude six to twenty not that big of a difference Man, I've been around the block a lot. I think you guys are gonna be just fine So hopefully this helps man if you need to then consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week if you're looking for to get mentored by me personally one-on-one coaching There is a link for the form in the description box below Click on that form fill it out and we'll get back to you. Thanks a lot you guys. Good luck out there