 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guys channel my name's Lloyd so I get tons of questions from guys every single day Asking me hey Lloyd, how do I prevent girls from flaking on me? Hey Lloyd? How do I get girls to stop standing me up not showing up being wish-washy, okay? Because it sucks man in this 21st century freaking everybody's flaking on each other Okay, if you're not getting flaked on by women at all it probably means you're not talking to them We're going out at all or taking any action so in this video what I'm going to be teaching you guys I'm going to be teaching how you kind of cut down on the amount of flakes that you're getting okay? So I'm going to be giving you I think like like six tips No seven I'm going to be giving you seven tips to basically cut down on the amount of flakes that you're getting and if you do all Of these things you're going to notice a huge reduction in the amount of girls that are not showing up in your big Big increase in the amount of girls that do show up now when I make plans with a girl right now Like 90% 90 89% chance that's going to happen But before well before I started to do these things it was like dude For a girl to show up on a date with me was like a goddamn miracle Like I was almost expecting women to not show up and I don't like being in that position And I don't want you guys to be in that position So we're going to talk about that here on this video before I do guys again Here's my live training schedule. I'm going to put it right here Basically, I'm going to be in San Francisco very soon Then I'm going to go to Toronto and then I'm going to Los Angeles and after Los Angeles I'm probably going to come back to San Francisco and do New York and Miami So if any of these cities sound like the one that you want me to come to or if there's a city that you want me to Come to that's not listed. Just fill out the form down below and we'll get back to you All right, cool So the first tip that I'm going to give you to cut down on the amount of flakes that you're getting is if you Walk up to a girl and you talk to her and then you get her phone number Talk to her for longer a lot of guys what they'll do is they'll be like, hey, what's up? My name is Lloyd. I think you're cute blah blah blah blah and the girl's like oh cool And then she gives her her phone number to him And the interaction lasted for like a minute and sometimes these can work out, you know Sometimes they were great, you know, you just haven't been the right place at the right time But typically that is not going to be as effective as if you talk to her for a longer Like if you talked to her for 10 15 minutes or something like that While she was walking to work or while you were walking to get a coffee or something like that That's gonna be a lot more Likely that she's gonna meet up with you because you established a better connection. You guys have better rapport She trusts you a little more all of those things, you know, so I would recommend talking to her for longer now When you're talking to a girl for longer This is not gonna be the only thing that gets her to show up In fact, a lot of times guys will talk to a girl and they think the interaction goes great Like they think they meet a girl that's freaking awesome Do you feel like they get along? Do you feel like you're super attracted to them? And then the messaging starts coming and then the girl just kind of starts being flaky She does not showing up not being committal all of those things So how do you get a girl to actually commit or how do you know she's gonna show up? Well, when you meet her I would say the best way to know is to see if she'll move with you if she moves you from one area to the Other that's a great sign that she's gonna also move with you to another location Which meeting a date or a time where you guys meet up again a second meeting okay much more likely that she's gonna do that Only if she moved with you when you met her. Okay, so that's in person now Let's talk about let's say you've gotten this girl's phone number or you maybe she sat down with you She went to the bar with you or something like that. You got her phone number That's great. Now. How do you follow up after you've gotten the phone number? Okay, so if you've gotten the phone number I Would say that one of the best ways to cut down on the metaphlex to start by getting her to say yes Okay, if you can agree to her to a To say yes to oh do you like? Do you like wine? Do you like sunshine or rooftops? Do you like outdoors and? I'm fresh air, you know get her get her to saying yes to a few of those questions or something like that It's gonna make it a lot better More likely that she's gonna she's gonna meet up with you So I usually like to try and get the girl's schedule before I send her all of these messages Meaning that like if I find out what she's doing during the week if I propose a time on say Thursday or Friday I kind of already know that she's free on one of those days Before I've even asked because if you ask hey you free Monday, no or if you Tuesday, no or if you Wednesday No, okay, you've gotten a lot of no. She's used to turning you down So you want to get her saying yes at the beginning So I usually like to ask her schedule and then ask her a question like hey Do you like sunshine or rooftops outdoors in nature those types of things usually something that I think she's gonna say yes to or something? Where there she can't say no to basically like wine or beer you know ice cream or Coffee, you know something like that. Okay, there's no option to say no, but she can pick either one of them Okay, now once you've done that you've gotten her saying yes Now once you plan the date get her picturing it first So what I like to do is I like to kind of describe what's gonna happen rather than me just saying hey Let's go to drink at this bar. I'll say something like You I'd love to I love to sit down have a beer with you and you can tell me all about your Interesting travels something like that. Okay, now she's picturing sitting down having a beer and Talking with you about her travels. You can picture it very very clearly in her head So the more easily you paint a picture The more likely that she's gonna show up because now she can really picture it and there's not too many unknowns She's not gonna get this scared Okay, so now the next part is super important a lot of guys don't frickin do this A lot of guys will say things like hey, we should hang out some time. Don't ever fucking say that shit Okay, you need to make the plans you need to pick a date and a time Okay, pick a date time and location those three things man Universally women complain about men not doing this. Okay, when men are like saying hey, we should hang out We should do this and they're expecting to get the girl to confirm even before they've made plans So make frickin plans dude pick a date time and place and once you do this, you know See if she's gonna agree you if she starts giving you wish-washy answers or something like that Okay, well, then you probably should make other plans or maybe send her a text message saying if she says If she sends you something like oh, I don't know I'll let you know and that's all you're getting then just be like Okay, cool. Well, I'm gonna make plans. Hope you have a good day Literally that'll let her know that she if she has to show up She has to agree to this or you're not gonna see each other and you don't put up with that shit That's actually a pretty high value thing to do Okay, cool. So you set the date and the time Now you need to follow up. So if you met this girl on Monday and made plans to meet up with her on Friday Well, if you don't message her anything between those days, she's not showing up for that day, you know You have to stay in her mind like she's just gonna assume that you're gonna flake so What you need to do is I you don't have to send her. Hey, are we on for Friday? Are we on for Friday every single day, but I would just send her a message every now and then, you know I would say every other day is probably good But I send messages every day sometimes too if I'm really excited to see a girl And I'm not constantly checking and confirming to see if she's gonna be there I'll send her something funny one day. I'll ask her how she's doing another day. Oh, you know, you can mix it up Okay, just make sure you're staying in her mind Okay, cool And then the last thing guys is that rather than inviting her to dates and trying to organize that making plans that way You can do a different tactic, which I use a lot too So for girls that are you know numbers that I've gotten that I don't know if I'm gonna be able to make definite plans with I'm always inviting them stuff. So even if I'm just going out on a Friday or Saturday night I invited like hey, you know, I'm heading out to this like what are you up to this weekend? Blah-blah-blah. I'm going to this place And then I invited her to come to something. Maybe it's a party. Maybe it's just me going out with my friends Maybe it's sometimes I'll have events at my place too that I can invite her to even if she doesn't show up It's still a positive for you It's still a positive that she's like that you're doing cool shit and she's kind of seeing that you're doing that stuff And so eventually she's probably gonna be like damn I should really show up and hang out with Lloyd and so that way she didn't necessarily flake on you You didn't make plans with her and had to cancel things and ruin your schedule You were gonna do that stuff anyway, and it would have been nice if she showed up But if she didn't totally fine So that's the final way that I would say that you can cut down on the amount of flakes is by not inviting them and not Making those definite plans, but inviting them to cool events that you're gonna do anyway That way, you know, if she doesn't show up, it's not a big deal. It doesn't affect your schedule I know a lot of you guys are pretty busy out there. I am too. So that's one tactic that I use sometimes too Okay, cool. That's all I have to say about this you guys for flakes If you guys have any questions about this put them in the comment section below I'm looking for people in my group and one-on-one coaching programs Like I said my live training program is out there, too There's gonna be a free survey that I'd like for you guys to do So if you want to call with me fill out the survey down below and we'll get that started. Thanks a lot you guys Good luck out there