 So one of the things that I want to talk about that's been on my mind a lot lately is this idea of identity because really when it comes to My own children and the things that we're experiencing with them One of the things that we're finding is so crucial is that they have a true identity in who and what they are Identity is really it's bigger than everything and the things that we believe about ourselves The self-talk that we have the things that we tell ourselves who and what we are Because we're humans and because we like consistency Those are the things that we don't want to change You hear people talk about things all the time that we identify with our weaknesses or we identify with things like the the hobbies that we're into or the Friends that we have or the music that we listen to a lot of these superficial things and I can tell you from my own experience that I went through a crisis when I was 20 years old because My identity was rooted in BMX bikes and punk rock music Right and you know what I sucked at both of those a lot I really was not very good at any of that and So my identity was rooted in something that there was no possible success for me to have and it was something that was so Hard for me to be able to grapple with the idea that I don't have to abandon those things I still enjoy those things. I love taking my kids to the skate park now and riding bikes together But it doesn't have to be my identity even though for ten years I had told myself that that was what my identity was rooted in Identity is what makes who we are and if we can have our identities rooted in the right things Then that's what helps us be successful as people now. The problem is The world used to be aligned with the identities that the men in this room that we would want It used to be that you really could just kind of outsource the idea of you send your kids to school and you send them to church and you send them over to their friends houses and they come back and Those institutions and those people are instilling good ideas into them Right the world used to work that way And some people would argue that now it works that way even better But the men in here we don't like that identity We don't like the results of that world and that culture and the way that it's creating our children I know I certainly don't We cannot send our children to Rome And expect them to come home hating Caesar And that's what happens if we continue to outsource The creation of our children's identity by sending them into these other environments and not doing anything to offset that hunter talked about that That doesn't mean you have to home school We've made that decision But it does mean that when your kids home when they do come home from school You have to talk to them about what they've done what they've learned what they think about that How does that jive with the things that we're trying to teach them as parents? Because we have to be the primary source of what their identities are everything else needs to be secondary Otherwise Rome gets to choose who our kids are and Rome isn't interested in our kids best interest Rome is only interested in creating the best citizens for Rome I don't want my kids to be fodder for Rome. I don't want my kids to be part of Babylon I want my kids to reach their full potential and that's my responsibility as a patriarch to create the culture That gives them that sense of identity Reinforces that and teaches them to reach their full potential rather than just outsourcing that to somebody else We don't get that luxury anymore Now identity is not something that's created by things like law It's not created by Logic It's not created by mandate Identity is created by culture And culture is the driver of everything Politics law everything else is downstream of culture and culture the things that groups of people agree upon are things like Morals and beliefs and systems and rituals and language and appearance and all these other variables that create this idea of a collective identity And then the individuals need to determine how they fit individually within that collective identity And so one of the things that we're doing as a guzzy family is the guzzies is very intentionally building a culture Around our family Because if we can successfully build a culture if we can instill in our kids what it means to be a guzzy Then that means that their identity won't be something that's threatened When they have friends who have beliefs that we disagree with or they have jobs that may offer more profit But come at the expense of their morals or my son has a girl that's really hot and is really into him But she's not good for him or my daughters Can't find the kind of caliber of men that they would like to marry and so they just become spinsters We can create the kind of culture Within our family and then watch it expand out because here's here's one of the other things It's really interesting about this culture problem