Do you judge the “value” of others? "He's an alpha male!", "She's an 8!", "Those guys are losers.", "She's fat!", "He's a really cool dude.", etc. When you see people for the "value" that they have, what you are doing is subconsciously seeing yourself as a “value”. So when you are judging others, in that moment when you are judging, you are also actually subconsciously judging yourself. (SHOW MORE)
Are you subconsciously always comparing your “value” to other people’s “values"? Do you think your "value" is good enough for that "hot" girl over there? Do you realize that that's where your anxiety is coming from? Are you on an eternal quest and doing whatever it takes to “improve your value”? Are you going to spend your entire life trying to prove yourself to others? Is this “value game" a never ending game of insecurity?
The solution? To let go of all judgement and to practice The Golden Rule. :-)
This mindset shift results in connections based off CHEMISTRY, rather than value or validation exchange. Much more beautiful :)
►If you liked this video, definitely checkout these two videos on the same topic:
-- "How To Not Be Intimidated By Beautiful Women": https://youtu.be/18Hh7LSiG1o
-- "How To Attract Hot Girls": https://youtu.be/Md2-nj76-Yg
(Shogo and I go very deep in this one. One of my most profound videos.)
"Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you." -- Jesus
Also big shoutout to Shogo Garcia (http://www.youtube.com/shog...
). Shogo helped me realize how judgmental I used to be and introduced me to these concepts. I got a lot of the content in this video from Shogo's thoughts. And most importantly, he showed me by walking his talk and "practicing what he preaches" regarding not judging others.
I still catch myself being judgmental a decent amount. But looking back, compared to how I was 3 years ago.. I am waay waaaay less judgmental than how I used to be. I think this is something that we will always struggle with (unless we are at like perfect final enlightenment or something lol).
^^That's another trap we can fall into. Judging people as "more conscious" or "enlightened" or even just "more intelligent" than us (or judging people for the opposite, "he's coming from his ego! etc."). And then comparing ourselves to them, rather than seeing everyone on an equal plane.
It's natural for us to judge. I don't think the answer is to try to suppress and control our thoughts..
I think the solution is to just try to be aware of ourselves when we are being judgmental, and I believe the best way to relinquish our judgement and ingrain this message in our minds and hearts is by practicing treating other people equally and practicing The Golden Rule. And overtime our judgements will diminish.
If we find ourselves being judgmental, just make sure it's not hurting anyone (other than yourself), and just laugh and not take yourself seriously. I guess judging people is fun to a degree? It makes us feel good? I think it's fine to joke about and judge people here and there. If natural, don't suppress it. But I think just being aware of these concepts and growing our understanding will slowly change our perspectives and will just naturally cultivate internal change within us.
The golden rule applies to everything on how we live our lives.
Am I running my business and treating my customer how I would like to be treated? etc.
A cool thought is also realizing another layer: When you are judging people for being judgmental.. that is still being judgmental to yourself! haha :)
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