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~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Humanitarian Educator, Founder AntiPornography.org, Porn Addict Helper ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ THE 5 STAGES OF PORN ADDICTION: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ * EARLY EXPOSURE: ~~ Most men or women who get addicted to porn start early. They see porn when they are very young & it gets its foot in the door. ~~~ * PORN ADDICTION: ~~ You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You're hooked & can't quit. ~~~ * ESCALATION: ~~ You start to look for more graphic pornography. You start using porn that disgusted you earlier. Now, it excites you. ~~~ * DESENSITIZATION: ~~ You start to become numb to the images you see. Even the most graphic porn doesn't excite you any more. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again, but you can't find it. ~~~ * ACTING OUT SEXUALLY: ~~ This is the point where men or women make a crucial jump & start acting out the images they have seen. Some move from the paper & plastic images of porn into the real world, with real people, in destructive ways. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ NOTE TO PORN USERS:~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ (From AntiPornographyBlog channel) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ If you wouldn't be OK with your own daughter, sister, wife, girlfriend, or mother, etc. being in porn, (& countless thousands of boys & men masturbating to objectifying & dehumanizing images of them on a regular basis), why would it be okay for you to masturbate to images of other peoples daughters, sisters, wives, girlfriends, or mothers, etc.? It is important to remember that every single girl or woman that you see in pornography IS indeed somebody's daughter. (And/or sister, wife, girlfriend, or mother.) And they are every bit as worthy of respect & being treated with dignity as YOUR daughter, sister, wife, or mother. Assuming you wouldn't be okay with your own daughter being in porn, you can either continue to use porn & choose hypocrisy, selfishness & indifference, OR you can choose to treat other people's daughters as you would want your OWN daughter to be treated, stop using porn, & thus choose to embrace empathy, kindness & compassion & be a better person & live with integrity. Just something to consider... PLEASE SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP IF YOU ARE HAVING TROUBLE QUITTING PORN IF YOU CAN. Also get support from friends, family, & real life & online support groups. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ HOW DO I KNOW IF I'M ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ From NO-PORN.com - http://no-porn.com/test.html ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ TEST QUESTIONS: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1) Do you sense that your sexual thoughts and/or behaviors are causing problems in your life? ~~~ 2) Have sexual thoughts interfered with your ability to function at work or at school? ~~~ 3) Do you worry that your sexual thoughts and/or behaviors are more powerful than you are? ~~~ 4) Do you sometimes think that you are the only person who has certain sexual thoughts or engages in certain sexual behaviors? ~~~ 5) Do you fail to meet commitments or fail to carry out responsibilities because of your involvement with pornography? ~~~ 6) Do you struggle to control or completely stop your thinking about or viewing pornography? ~~~ 7) Do you view pornography in order to escape, deny, or numb your feelings? ~~~ 8) Do you think about sex more than you would like to? ~~~ 9) Do you spend more money than you can afford to spend on pornography? ~~~ 10) Does it seem as though there is another person or force inside of you that drives you to pornography? ~~~ 11) Do you have two standards of fidelity -- one for yourself and one for your spouse or partner? ~~~ 12) Do you feel empty or shameful after viewing or masturbating using pornography? ~~~ 13) Have you ever promised yourself that you would never again view pornography? ~~~ 14) Do you use pornography to deal with, deny, or avoid problems in your life? ~~~ 15) Do you risk legal problems in order to view pornography? ~~~ 16) Do you anxiously anticipate or fear trips out of town because of what you think you might do sexually while you're away? ~~~ 17) When you have child care responsibilities, do you put a higher priority on masturbating or being sexual than you do on the welfare of the child(ren) in your care? ~~~ 18) Do your sexual thoughts and/or behaviors interfere with your spiritual or religious life? Do your sexual thoughts and/or behaviors cause you to believe that you don't deserve to have a religious or spiritual life? ~~~ 19) Have you lost a job or risked losing a job because of your involvement with pornography? ~~~ 20) Do you scan printed material (novels, newspapers, magazines) or change channels on the television set just to find something that will stimulate you sexually? ~~~ 21) Do you regularly view pornography or engage in fantasies involving self-abuse or other kinds of physical abuse? ~~~ 22) Do you dig through other people's garbage to find pornography? ~~~ 23) Would you rather masturbate than be sexual with a partner? ~~~ 24) Do you drive around unfamiliar neighborhoods (cruise) hoping to find places where pornography is available? ~~~ 25) Do you look at pornography or masturbate while driving? ~~~ 26) Have you replaced a collection of pornographic material after destroying one collection and vowing never to purchase pornography again? ~~~ 27) Has an important relationship in your life ended because of your inability to stop looking at pornography? ~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ If you find yourself answering "Yes" to more of these questions than you would like, please be aware that there is hope. As a starting point, you may want to read "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction," - http://www.no-porn.com/tenkeys.html - or join the No-Porn.com free Support Board. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://www.no-porn.com/board.html ~~~~~~~~~~~ The preceding questions are excerpted and adapted from "Hope and Recovery - A Twelve Step Guide for Healing From Compulsive Sexual Behavior." These questions do not constitute a standardized test designed to diagnose addiction. Those who answer yes to many of these questions will find that they have common experiences with pornography addicts. Those who do have concerns about their sexual thoughts and behaviors need to know that they can get help and support. If you would like to learn more about overcoming your addiction, read "Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction" - http://www.no-porn.com/tenkeys.html - and participate at the No-Porn.com "Support Board." ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://www.no-porn.com/board.html ~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The above questionnaire and information is from No-Porn.com - Copyright 2007, Lightwave Resources LLC. All rights reserved. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Many thanks to No-Porn.com for their excellent website and all of their very helpful resources. Please visit No-Porn.com for more information and for support at their message board. - http://www.no-porn.com/board.html (Active link in the top section of this channel description.)

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ GET HELP WITH YOUR INTERNET PORN ADDICTION ~~~ (From RecoveryConnection.org) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ If you have a pornography addiction there are pornography addiction treatment programs and centers ready to help you NOW. Your pornography addiction or Internet porn addiction is slowly destroying your body and mind. You need help for your addiction to pornography, which is taking over your life, hurting those closest to you, and stealing your dreams. You have tried to stop viewing pornography, but can't stop. You have always returned, worse than before. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WHAT IS PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION? Pornography addiction is a form of sexual addiction in which there is an abuse or overuse of the need to see porn, including Internet porn. The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity defines a sexual addiction, including a pornography addiction, as "engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others." Porn addiction help is necessary. If you or someone you know has an Internet porn addiction, help is needed NOW. Powerlessness over a compulsive pornography addiction can destroy both your personal and professional life, resulting in the loss of close relationships, work difficulties, legal issues, financial troubles, and the loss of interest in other activities you used to enjoy. In many cases a pornography addiction is part of a dual diagnosis with a conjunctive substance addiction or psychological disorder. A large number of people addicted to pornography report that their unhealthy use of porn was a progressive process in which initial, small intrusions of pornography viewing became more and more obsessive. Attempting to eliminate the need to view porn became increasingly impossible. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION: Although Internet porn addiction may take on various forms, viewing pornography is used as a quick fix or tension reliever to other underlying issues. Other indicators that you have a porn addiction may include: -- Obsession with pornography that dominates your life -- Excessive time spent on seeking-out pornography -- Overwhelming powerlessness and inability to stop the obsession, regardless of consequences -- Interference with normal relationships -- The need to view more porn to be "satisfied" ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ CONSEQUENCES OF PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION: -- Broken relationships -- Interference with work and productivity -- Compulsive sexual behavior which can lead to illness and contracted diseases -- Preoccupation with pornography that takes precedence over everything else -- Depression/suicidal thoughts and behaviors -- Shame and self-hatred -- Guilt and loss -- Legal and financial troubles ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION TREATMENT: Pornography addiction treatment and/or sex addiction treatment is a necessary component of any recovery. Residential or in-patient pornography addiction treatment is a powerful first step in eliminating this compulsive behavior. In conjunction with any treatment, the emotional component of your porn addiction must be examined. After the initial treatment, a follow-up within a residential recovery center is recommended. Although online help and out-patient treatments are available, pornography addiction treatment within a "controlled" environment, in which access to pornography is eliminated, can lead to a much easier transition to a permanent porn-free life. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ THE EMOTIONAL ASPECTS OF PORN ADDICTION: As with any addiction there is an inherent feeling of shame and embarrassment that accompanies a pornography addiction. An addiction to porn affects everyone around you. Personal and professional relationships are often severed. A crucial step to porn addiction recovery is the re-building of these destroyed relationships. Usually family therapy sessions become an important factor in helping the porn addicted individual and those this abuse affected together to understand the illness and move forward together to a joint recovery. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION HELP: If you believe you or someone you know needs help with a pornography addiction, or for immediate assistance finding rehab centers that specialize in Internet pornography addiction and pornography addiction treatment, please call Sex Addicts Anonymous at 1-800-477-8191. (Monday to Friday, 8 a.m. - 4 p.m. PST) ~~~ Don't wait - GET HELP NOW! ~~~ ACKNOWLEDGMENTS: Many thanks to RecoveryConnection.org for their helpful information. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery, Kevin B. Skinner -- The Drug of the New Millennium - The Brain Science Behind Internet Pornography Use, Mark B. Kastleman -- In The Shadows of The Net: Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Patrick Carnes Ph.D -- Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age, Robert Weiss -- The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz -- Men Confront Pornography, edited by Michael S. Kimmel -- Confronting Your Spouse's Pornography Problem, Rory C. Reid, MSW -- The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, Norman Doidge (Chapter 4: Acquiring Tastes and Loves: What Neuroplasticity Teaches Us About Sexual Attraction and Love) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WHY YOU SHOULD NOT LOOK AT PORN -- by BananaCockroach -- 1. You are much more likely to become a prostitute, criminal or rapist and get an STD. -- 2. Porn does not have any benefits. -- 3. Are you seriously going to pay money to see a penis going in and out of a vagina? Sick.. It's not even worth it anyway. -- 4. Nobody is going to like you if you look at porn. Maybe criminals, but getting a girlfriend/wife is reduced by at least 65%. 5. A lot of people that look at porn, when they get to 50+, they are known as "the creeper next door." ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ NOTE RE: MASTURBATION, NUDITY & SEX: This channel is not against nudity, nondegrading sexual imagery or art, safe healthy sex between mature consenting adults, or non-compulsive masturbation that does not involve pornography or dehumanizing mental imagery. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ DISCLAIMER: This is a nonreligious channel. Any channels subscribed to or videos included on this channel that contain any religious or faith-based content are included because of their other content that may be of use to those struggling with pornography addiction. Please only take what is useful to you from this channel, other channels that we subscribe or are friends with, the videos on this or other channels, and leave the rest behind if it is not relevant, helpful, or applicable to you. Thank you! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~