 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel. I am not the single guy So today we're going to talk about a question that I've gotten pretty frequently and that's how to date multiple women Ethically because although the modern media will try and have you believe that the best thing is for you know A man and women just to get together and only see each other be committed to each other There are a lot more types of relationships that have sprung up and I would say typically men if they are Dating normally what they are looking for is they're looking for fun until the one and if you are in the fun phase You want to be able to do this in a way where you're not hurting people You're not you know making people feel like trash or their garbage and you know paying attention to people's feelings And so I get a lot of messages about this from guys that do want to be able to do this in a way where they are Taking good care of that. So that's what I'm going to teach you in this video This is something that I'm obviously very familiar with so we're going to talk about kind of the steps the process behind this How to date ethically how to do it? What are some boundaries and things to look out for and should you keep this long term? Is this a good lifestyle choice for you in the future? So all those three things are going to be covered today So the first thing that you want to do when you're getting multiple women ethically or you're thinking about doing this is Honesty is the biggest thing okay? You need to have good communication with the people that you're talking to you want to set expectations from the beginning And this doesn't mean just coming out and saying hey listen I'm going to be sleeping with a bunch of other people and you're going to be one of those people That's not the way that you want to word it. That just sounds kind of douchey and Sounds mean-spirited so but what you do want to do is you do want to Not tell her something. That's just not true Don't make it indicate not just with your words, but with your actions as well You're only seeing her a lot of times I'll get guys that are like I don't know why she thought we were in a relationship when I told her that I didn't want something serious And I'm like well you told you didn't want something serious But then you went and you saw her every single day She was spending half her time at your place and you talk on the phone all the time like that's being in a relationship That's being a couple a committed couple Alright, and then when you went in that slept with somebody else now you're surprised that she's angry at you Well, obviously she shouldn't be so make sure that with what you're saying matches up with your actions as well too So I would say that if you want to keep the relationship casual Don't be seeing them in a serious manner. Don't be seeing them every single day Don't be talking on the phone all the time. Okay, this doesn't just mean that you restrict the amount of time that you're seeing them It encompasses a lot of other different things What you have to realize is that when you're upfront with this when you're honest with people about this There may be some women that aren't down for that when you have this conversation and telling them Hey, you know, I'm just not really looking for anything serious right now Or I'm not looking to get into a committed relationship and I kind of like where things are with you And I want to see where that goes If you say that there are gonna be some women that are gonna be like well I am looking for something serious and I do want a guy that's gonna provide that for me. That's okay You got to let those women go You got to let those women go Typically I find that men that get in the most trouble with this are men that have just started to find success They've just found out that they're attracted with women and they started to you know date multiple women at the same time And they they lie they lie very frequently. They feel like they have to pretend there's someone they're not dude I'm telling you right now. You do not need to lie about things I'm a freaking dating coach with a channel that teaches guys how to get girls Like it doesn't get much more blatant of who I am from the get-go and I tell women this from the get-go And are there women that basically say hey, you know, you seem like a pretty cool guy But you're just not the guy that I'm looking for yeah I mean that's happened in the past honestly It doesn't really happen that much Usually if I am who I am and I said the expectation from the beginning then it's okay The only time I get in trouble is when I come from that scarcity mindset that I have to lie that I have to pretend To be someone that I'm not and then that's when I start encountering problems But luckily I haven't done that for years and of course it's not been a problem So again start from an honest position start from a truthful position when you say it don't be a dick about it But basically say focus on the I would focus on the positives You know focus on the fact that you like the person and above all I would even start this conversation from this position This is gonna be one of the biggest things that I cover in this video, which is you're dealing with another person You're dealing with another person's feelings care about those feelings Hopefully if you're seeing someone consistently however what shape or form and whatever relationship it is You care about the person that you're seeing you care about her feelings And so check in on her every once in a while, you know say hey, how do you think things are going between us? You know make sure that she's having a good time And if she's not having a good time and there are concerns Make sure that you allow her to do the best thing for herself I don't know about you, but I do not want anybody spending time with me that overall it makes their life worse I want to make people's lives better And if I can't do that I want them to be with somebody who is going to do that and if you have that love and care for the people That you're around then you're gonna be surprised you're gonna see that your life's just gonna be a lot better You're gonna have to do a lot less worrying instead. It's not gonna seem like oh I have to manage the situation that I'm in it's gonna seem a lot more free and just generally positive In your own life. It's not gonna seem as much work And the last thing that I'm gonna talk about is is this actually a good idea for you to do? So people call us a bunch of different names being Polly being in an open relationship being that sort of stuff I would say most guys and a lot of especially even entrepreneurs. They play around with this idea, okay? I would say it's not the right thing for most people Okay, I know people I'm I've done this in the past and that's something that I enjoy doing With a lot of my clients though eventually they decide you know what I really like this one girl I'm gonna stay with her so I would try it out I think every guy should get you know, this is gonna sound kind of crass But I think every guy should have the experience where they're kind of seeing multiple people are juggling girls figure out who they're gonna spend time with and then Choosing the girl that they want to spend the most time with Okay, because I think ultimately that's what you're gonna figure out But if you are in that fun zone Have fun in the fun zone, but do it in a way where you're not upsetting other people again care about the people that you're around And I think you're gonna have the best time best time there and you know eventually pick someone that Does fit your fancy or keep doing what you're doing well If you got anything out of this guys that come out with videos like this every single week If you're interested in getting coached by me personally, there's a form down below I got a lot of cool new programs coming out that I think are gonna be great for you guys and Yeah