 Being able to be emotionally vulnerable and also knowing how to reward your partner for doing that, for opening up to you, it doesn't really take much. Just a bit of encouragement, just a thank you for telling me about this, it's something that's important to you and I want to know about it and how can I help? It's literally as easy as that but I think nowadays there is a lot of difficulties around relationships that you know we're always looking at the negatives but it's not necessarily the negatives and selves that are the problem, it's that you're not talking about it, you're not trying to get around it, you're not trying to work through it, it's just there and it just stays in the background and it mulls over, years and years and years you know you've got married and the problem is still there and you just haven't addressed it or haven't addressed it in the best way possible. In order for you to have a good vulnerable open dialogue between two people it needs to be reciprocated.