 Ladies and gentlemen, get my live set up in my second year. The reason why I wanted to pop in earlier this time is because last time, I tried not to do these too late at night just because I'd be wanting to sit down and watch me moving with my wife. So, when I had to go at eight, nine, unless we'd already watched our movie in the daytime, I'd be losing too much time. So, I want to get on here, get this out of the way. Thank you. Fran Jessica, I'm feeling good. I'm feeling good. Yesterday, I don't know what it was. I probably just, I don't know. I might have stayed in the bed too long. I don't know what it was. Now, sometimes your voice kind of try to leave you, but I'm feeling good. So, I want to pop on here and do a Q&A. Y'all put your questions in here. Now, I'll be on here until I don't know if my wife threw in my chicken wings, but she had to go to the veterinarian with their little dog. So, I'll be on here until my phone battery hit 10%. Shanley, God bless you. New viewer, love the jewels you're dropping. God bless you. I appreciate you. I appreciate you. Now, if you have a question just like Janisha, now Janisha, she'd be in here. Now, be having her questions. Put that hashtag Q or hashtag question in front of it. Now, if you see me answering a question, hold your question then drop it in there when you see me finish. Why did my ex-husband have a conversation with our two sons 6 and 12 and tell them why he doesn't love me anymore and why he left? They are asking questions now. Probably just so he could speak for himself versus having you speak for him. He wants them to know what he thinks is him being a man, him owning up to his decisions and being a man about it. He wants them to hear it from his mouth because men tend to assume that the woman is going to be bad mouthing them and talking bad about them and saying, you know, your dad ain't this, your dad ain't that, your daddy did this, your daddy did that. So, he's just trying to speak for himself and answer their questions. Since he put it out there, he wanted to make it known, answer their questions from your side with your side of the story. Honestly, without trying to take shots and talk bad about them, just tell it, you know, from your side. And then what they're going to learn is that it's three sides to a story. Is phone slash video same as regular to a man? No, no it's not. And beyond which, I don't recommend that in this day and age because it's so easy to tap these phones today and with this iCloud, you know, we've seen a lot of celebrities, pictures get put out there online from the iCloud and they trying to just do a little some frisky for their husband and not a whole world seeing it. And so, I don't even recommend that because two, you don't know a man. You don't know a man unless this is your husband and you done been with this man for years and this your husband. A lot of boyfriends, especially if it's long distance the way you doing that on the phone. A lot of boyfriends and guys you talking to or be showing your goods at the barbershop in the locker room at the gym. Everybody looking at all what you got to offer. So a lot of men don't really value some men don't value a woman like that and just see her as a part of his roster. So I don't even recommend putting yourself out there like that and no, it's not the same thing. He'll be looking at you on that phone and then go do it with somebody else in real life to get all that out of him. Is it a red flag if a guy always has his phone on silent vibrate? It's not necessarily a red flag because he got it on. You know, so it's still going to vibrate or if it's on silent but some people just don't want to hear out of them dings. You know, some people just don't want to always have mine on silent vibrate just because you get a ding for every notification and you got so many apps on the phone today your phone just be ding and ding and ding and ding and ding and it ain't got nothing to do with nothing. So it's not necessarily a red flag. Now when it's always phased down and if he go to look at it he got to turn from you and go somewhere else now you're starting to get more into the red flags on. Shaquita Harris, God bless you. God bless you, boy, I didn't know life, Lord. Told the guy out front I choose not to date guys that smoke weed and do drugs, talk for hours, then finally told me he smokes weed. Was I wrong for discontinuing the conversation? No, you was not wrong. You did the right thing. That is a standard. You did the right thing. Don't compromise your standards. It's possible to push the one away or should I look at it as if he was the one he couldn't have been pushed away communication issues. Yes, it is possible to push the one away. If you don't appreciate the one, if you're not ready for the one, if you're not and what you got to realize is more than one. You know, we would serve a very cruel God if out of seven billion people there's only one person for you. So it's a hundred men. It's a thousand men. It's a million men who can be the one. So understand now, if you don't know how to communicate, if you're not ready, then yes, you can push that person away. Somebody said it got the audio book of a woman's influence. God bless you. God bless. I appreciate that. Hey, thank you so much. I'm at work right now, Tony. So I'll only be able to listen. I just wanted to say thank you and God bless. Hey, thank you and God bless. I'm guessing you work at a central, a central job. You know, shots out to you for doing something essential. I know I should be at the essential house. So God bless you. Shanley, why husband cheat with men? That says he's straight. Cheat with women too. We separated. I have to talk. I thought I thought you had some typos in there. So he cheated with men and women, huh? And say he's straight. Straight is a $3 bill. What you got to realize and and people be talking about by ain't there ain't no such thing. If you is a man and you touch your man. You buy. That's all that is. He just tolerating women. If a man touch him a man. Ain't no. Bicycle ain't no in the middle for man touching man. Understand that. So when that right there happen. You got to get gone because you know what? He will be touching men's and come back and put a recompense in your body. You'll have something. A gift that keep on giving. So you got to be happy and thankful. That. You got to your blessings. Your your tool and and speak over their life. Speak over their life like listen you finna be better than LeBron Jane. You finna be better than Barack Obama. You finna be better than Nelson Mandela. Start working on them. Investing in them. Speaking into their life. If the boys or girls I don't know and kick him to the curb. You hear me. Let him talk to. The courthouse and let the courthouse come talk to you. But old nasty Buddha man knew. Because that man are coming put something in your life. That you can't get rid of. Ah. Tali. God bless you. God bless you. You said that I would have to leave the church because of a soul tie I created that ended. I'm healing now what advice do you have if I want to stay. Keep doing the work that the only what you have to realize with a soul ties every time you see that person you're going to feel it every time you hear that person name you're going to feel it every time you know y'all in the vicinity you're going to feel it. So what you have to understand for soul ties just an emotional bond. So what you'll have to do is get enough knowledge and enough wisdom about your situation that you have got so much clarity and confidence around that so that and you create enough distance that when you see him you don't feel it as much but if you choosing to stay you got to ask yourself and are you truly choosing to stay for God for God in any church. God could be in any church and you truly choosing to stay for God and you want to stay that so he can see you and you can keep your eye on him. So you got to ask yourself how bad you want to get over that soul tie precious God bless you 23 years old I'm getting asked a lot on why I'm still single with no kids from family working on three bees but feel a lot of pressure from loved ones any advice will help thank you you 23 years old so really your family got issues so you need to be able to talk to your family understand say you realize I'm only 23 right you realize people graduate college at 22 right you realize that the highest earning women don't have children until today in their 30s or 40s right you realize my world don't evolve around a man right and so you it sound like you come from old you want them old families that you know a lot similar to mine to to where they kind of you know the bus a little shorter and few fries short to where they feel like a woman's place is you know they still trap they don't understand that women building dreams and building business and they just waiting on a man so you kind of got to make them feel stupid because that's a stupid question if somebody giving you pressure about being married and having kids and you only 23 years old they trapped in the wrong mindset and so you got to be able to me and my wife we got a saying stupid question get stupid answers you know so come up with you a stupid answer form and just let the mouth drop over thanks for the prayer just got a promotion see love God bless you part in the life or keep on pulling out in the life Lord God bless you now hold on cuz some some of the when certain people put a message in there to go in the chats and I miss it miss Carter had an argument about trust he said we should end things I said okay he texts me an hour later how are you willing to walk away so easily now that's funny because that sound did not just did you did y'all watch my video this morning that I posted about not I just said that in the video I said you you go to try to explain something to a man he want to get mad the way he get out of the conversation to say we need in this you say okay then he texting you an hour later see that's the thing he trying to train you when he said we should end things he thought you want no no I don't want to do that I'm not asking about that that's not what I'm saying and then thought you gonna be like okay I will never bring that up again I will never get into that topic again because he's gonna leave and when you said okay bye and so you need to give him the next real answer well if you're not willing to be mad enough to communicate and if you're not willing to grow then I'm I don't have the time to waste so yes I will walk away because my life is precious so you need to be able to go give him the next real truth but that's our all all you trying to do is train you and when men try to do that that's a toxic behavior that's a behavior you cannot tolerate a form of a the y'all know the a word chosen by God God bless you poor boy in the light I don't know if this a man or one dating nine months and he didn't okay part of the life Lord dating nine months that he didn't call me to wish me a happy birthday because he said he was too busy to call me I replied got you yet he was on social media all day he has been giving me the silent treatment all day hurt and confused that's this this is your birthday gift your birthday gift is Lord trying to let you go about your business Lord trying to show you his true color so you could go about your business y'all remember what my Angelou told y'all and somebody probably told her and she just made the quote famous person show you who they are believe him so when you do that right that to be honest with you he went too busy he forgot it was your birthday it's been nine months and he forgot it was your birthday Coco J God bless you and have a birthday to you hey Tony broke up with my boyfriend after Tuesday's live and I see Coco don't be going and doing that now y'all need to give it a little time now out after I finish a lie now don't just go break up with the man and especially don't have no trail leading to me not Coco because he jumped froggy I got to flatten so I don't want no problem so y'all hope y'all get his thing 48 72 hours after y'all hit one of my videos now I want to know if it will be hard to find a man that doesn't want kids because I don't want any at all wow yeah that's gonna be a challenge that's gonna be a challenge because that you know what that represents is is lineage and legacy that's how a man last name get carried on so you you that ain't is some out there but listen to me the type of man that don't want children I really don't even recommend being with that kind of man cuz that's a scary man to be honest with you now as a woman you may have different reasons because you got to go through a lot more with it see a man don't have to do nothing but just drop off he just dropping off in you then your body do all the rest and then he there and he showing up you know he there and taking care but the woman got to really do the most and so for a woman not that want to have then that's different but when a man when a man ain't got to do near as much when a man say he don't want I don't even know if I recommend being with that type of individual a male that type of male caught God bless you poor out in her life Lord my ex and I were discussing what went wrong he said I went back and forth with not wanting to have we did it but he said I came off like a tease because we went too far few times can we move forward oh we never did it okay yeah yeah you can move forward but you're gonna have to pick a side even a good book say you got a you either need to be hot or you need to be cold because that's real unfair to him what you're doing and it's real dangerous as well because when when a man when that right there went when the look get the going and it get crunk up like an army hammer box it takes a mind of its own it's like a heat-seeking missile so you can't play with that so if you don't want to go there then don't even get close to it don't don't even be you know feeling booty and all this and all the time kissing and all of that don't even go there you need to have boundaries y'all need it's like you in a romantic relationship but y'all just you know love pack on the lips you hold your hand walk around the late don't be in the house late and you all with your phone on and you all with your sheer seat through all this and then Tom might know I don't want to go there you can't you can't do the man like that now you got to set all the way boundaries so that he feels like he's in a relationship with his best friend now not literally like best friends trying to get into a relationship but he's in a relationship and y'all have boundaries but you can't be around there like old hot pocket and then want him to cool off because that that's wrong so at this point you just let him now is a time where you would tell a man because y'all know already went through this and you can play around so it's like listen I'm not really into that ready for that don't know if I want to do that so if that's what you want and that's what you need then yes we probably ought to keep you know go our separate ways Coco God bless you but he isn't understanding that if I don't want to have anymore and he said he started watching because I'm not on my back anymore okay now what the question before that I can't remember your question before that yeah Coco I can't remember your question before that I can't remember your question before that because you you you didn't add it on you might need a coaching session I have an appointment with you on the 29th but it's urgent can I speak with you sooner yeah it's gonna yeah it's gonna cost you you speak sooner now but that's called a VIP session so you know you know VIP pay earth pay more to get into the club early I mean get into the certain section okay same thing with coaching so whatever the schedule say that's what's available to get bumped up ahead of that you got the email in to support at Tony gaskins.com that's an email support at Tony gaskins.com and it's additional fee for that but you get you get in within two business days Coco I can't remember what you said on your question before that fancy pants you say yeah you get the skill it's worth it though so fancy pants then did a VIP session he texts every morning and calls for an hour each night but between that it's nothing he's on social media though I let him know I was having some trust issues and he's pulled back gotten cold no okay um if he if he is at work then that's something totally different if he at work because you maybe could be at work and be on social media but not on your phone now you told me you have some trust issues what you got identified why you have trust issues because you already got trust issues and he gave you no reason and y'all talk an hour or night and you really don't have a real reason to have trust issues you still just thinking about and lingering on what your ex did now you giving him a strike before he even stepped to the plate and that will make a man you know pull back if you accuse him and he really ain't did nothing so you may have to do a little more inner work on you on your insecurities and what you dealing with because it sound like you you need need in e d i n you need so it sound like you need because you need too much if a man texting you in the morning and calling you at night for our and you still insecure so you may need to work on some healing you know a little bit more before dealing hi Tony what do you consider long distance dating I've met a man who lives an hour and a half away we're not close enough to see each other without planning but we are close enough to make plans long distance dating to me is like four hours away when you four hours I want to have you know that ain't no drive that's the easy drive I drive that to go see the Orlando Magic play you know and got to drive two hours there are two hours by and so I want to have dry relaying a drive for no man so y'all relaying what I would consider long distance he could get to you every Friday night he can get to you every Saturday or every Sunday so if he's not making that effort then he's not all of he you're not the one for him he's not the one for you because that right there a man who want you he go to the moon and back yeah I want to have a man who want to he'll make that trip after work ain't gonna tell you no lie that that's how men are about what they want um yeah but mean yeah yeah but me you being uh forgive me on your name I'm trying to God bless you thank you for that blessing to God bless you it's my birthday today and I wanted to say thank you for all you do I've learned so much and I am forever grateful to you keep blessing us with these videos keep making us loud you got a good spirit if you're getting a laugh out of my videos you got a good spirit thank you for your blessing a happy birthday to you Rhonda bird hi have a friend been talking some months on the phone he will tell his friends he missed me or he gets jealous if I talk to someone but nothing yet yet ain't nothing ain't nothing keep keep going he blocking your blessings his energy is blocking your blessings you got to you got to go and get them on out the way go and get them on out the way because he playing games if a man doing doing that kind of talk but he ain't making no move he just he blocking your blessings that's old decoy that the devil doesn't block your husband met a guy with all the right qualities then after a week he started being distant now he wants me to chase him why you a test dummy you know he's looking for a test dummy a lot of time you know how men in the gym got a punching bag on the track they have the car dealerships I mean the manufacturer had test dummies a lot of times a man get them a woman just to kind of run into that wall just to kind of see what he could get away with you know he just using you so understand that and go on get on about your business Naisha God bless you broke up with ex fiancee lied about his life and and had online dating account while we was together he says it was just for attention SMH I broke up with you did the right thing you did the right thing yeah he had a lot going on you got to be thankful you you saw that coming and you was able to dodge that bullet don't go back now don't go back because he is certain things that a man could do that you could forgive but sometime when when somebody you dealing with man or woman go too far that red flag too red to go back to just keep it moved because it's one thing if he just was destined or just one communicating well but it's a whole another thing if this show fiance and he got a whole online dating profile he all the way wrong you got to keep on going been dating a guy look he's a God bless you thank you for that question been dating a guy for a year found out that he lives with his son mom dating for you find out he lived with his son mom he's the provider he says that he's only there because his son who was eight wants him to be there he says that his baby mama is not together nor thoughts keep it moving keep it moving keep it moving he doing the right thing by being there for a son but you got to keep on going because he's not emotionally available he's not even physically available because he there so if you stick around then guess what that's all on you you'll be playing yourself so he didn't tell you what the situation is when a man tell you about a situation you got to get going because he with that woman and he touching you you're not going to stay there for your son if you ain't touching the mama he touching the mama but he doesn't love the mama to sleep so she don't really check for him like that long he paying them bills and he there every night she ain't checking the phone she ain't doing all that because a man know how to get a woman to that place like I could easily cheat if I wanted to cheat because my wife I done got it in that place and that's what a man will do who is a dog who's a cheat he'll get a woman to where she comfortable and then she not checking his phone he can have a whole another relationship so it come down to him and that's why I tell men don't take advantage of a woman trust because right now you know my wife she gone she take care of business and I'm at the house but what I'm doing I'm on here talking to y'all she could tune in and watch but right now I could be like you know a was up a girl a and and be the leader for she get back and so that's what a lot of men do and you got to understand when a man tell you about that other woman yeah that when he want you to be a fool a voice and influence God bless you thank you for that question and then blessing hi Tony I grown so much since watching your videos recently was courted by a pastor for six months before I seen the real him I put my track shoes on he didn't have the CIA LOL thank you now what I said that mean character integrity ambition see I just be making up stuff on top of my head on these videos so you did the right thing and I'm glad that it's only was six months look at maybe what I would recommend is look at that six months and see if you can identify anything that you miss in the first three months so the next time you start dating you can catch some red flags and in half the time and it's a little more time so always get the lesson from it even though you got out of there in a good time get that lesson so you can get out there even sooner next time Rikiki God bless you Rikiki God bless you forgive me on your name me and my boyfriend is having trouble he is going through something mentally so he says and is becoming distant he is not willing to take my help communication is getting shaky stand my ground with him or leave or wait it out to be honest with you unless he has mental health issues like in a real way then he's that's an excuse you know a man don't go through that much you know that deep that intense now what we do use that for is like it's a lot of men right now using this his situation to get some some space and some peace and some quiet in a man cave even if it's the bedroom that they share it's a lot of men right now because of what we going on he over there in the pillar what they said it is dry cold oh my good hey you might need to stay in a little room oh my good hey if I got that nineteen eight home hey they say you need to quarantine now you got quarantine it's a lot of men right now that that's what they doing to get that distance so this right here what you just said I knew that all I knew that all time coming up I knew that all time that's how you get your love break I'm just going through a lot man like oh just like the whole world against me man I just need some time and then you give him some time and then this what he's doing yeah I miss you too baby what's going on yeah but if he really going through send him to my mentor dot life hey you really need some some if you really going through don't do that alone here here go your session if that's your man you can bless him with a session go on my mentor dot life you got therapists on their life coaches on there um it's someone mindset coaches just select the filters select mindset pick them out of coach you pick them out of coaches me and coaches on there set them up for the session because see if you really going through you won't help when you don't want help that mean you just make it stuff up so understand that done now tiffin the cold global God bless God bless y'all hold on I'm gonna see if I feel like something got in my eye question as you know I'm 40 no I don't know but grab the know now glad to know I might have talked to you before now thank you for telling me none as you know I'm 40 zero kid dating a nice guy said on his soulmate he's attractive loves God but been married two times divorced five years in debt has two jobs five year old son likes to debate for fun I ran was I petty no you absolutely was not petted that that rap sheet I just read right there you was not petted you did the right thing cuz for one play boy you can't come in somebody live to be married twice and then want to be arguing you can't you can't let a man come in your life to be married twice and then talk about you his soulmate you've been married twice what you told them to women obviously your soulmate don't go too well my boy and then you and that and then you got two job just how much debt you got that you got two job then you got your fire your then you want to debate no you did the right thing that was that's not petty you got to stick to your intuition got listen to your intuition Francis be God bless you God bless you bless me like you didn't got your stimulus check and I know they ain't even hit yet so I'm praying a double portion on you I have been divorced six years from someone who was very emotionally and verbally one son from the marriage been dating new boyfriend five months and I would like advice on how to proceed you've been divorced six years okay so that's a lot of time that's a lot of time you didn't say how old the son is so that that's what matters if the son is under five then you get you need to pump the brakes a little bit if the son over five then okay but you don't got a word about trying to introduce him or get the boyfriend to be too close the other thing what you got to realize is you got to make sure the boyfriend is on your level so make sure the boyfriend have a job gainfully employed make sure that he keep his job now if he lose the job do this at 19 you don't know if he lost his job do this at 19 or he just using this as a scapegoat so take your time and whenever you date and you got to evaluate this every 30 days 60 days 90 days you're evaluating this it just like on a job where you get them evaluations to let you know how you doing what you need to do better that's what you got to do in your relationship when you start to see red flags then you got to get a break and you may have to you know jump on out get out the boat so don't ignore any red flags because you are a mother and so now the stakes are even higher when you a mother so don't ever take chances when you a mother ignore red flag and don't ever rush in make sure that the man don't need you for nothing but love the Bible say oh no man nothing but to love him make sure when you dating a man that that man don't need you for nothing but love especially if you up age now it's it's some exceptions when you if you 19 2021 stuff like that that that man he ain't got his whole life together you know but even then it's still a gamble but make sure he don't need you for your car for your place to stay for your credit for recommendation letter for alone to have his child make sure he don't need you for nothing but love and let him prove itself hindsight God bless you now that's a different kind of money doesn't know what that is a euro or pound I show so that might convert the more than that God bless you God bless you for your wisdom wanted to know what men's views of a woman twice divorce and also failed relationships because I was naive and gullible now I've been educating myself to do better it's gonna present a little issue but he's gonna inquire within he's gonna want to know why did the relationship go wrong if you were cheated on if you left because you were being wrong then he won't hold that issue and if it was to none of your fault he won't hold it against you if it was your fault part of your fault then he gonna hold that against you and he probably would just kind of stick around and use you for what he can get but don't really want you the only way it works in your favor is if you left those relationships for yourself working yourself respect because now he sees you as a respectable woman who loves herself and knows how to stand up for herself Sheena God bless you boy in a life Lord single mom been talking to a dude since last year July we are friends but I'm feeling him a little he makes statements like you're not gonna act right what does he mean I just say if you say so lol so it's been since July or last year you wasting your time you wasting your time and you falling for him so the more time you giving it the more you're gonna continue to fall but you can't a man who wants you and want your situation he want to come in and be still daddy he's not going to just be talking to you since July and we in April so by August September October by October November December January at the latest he would have locked it all the way in you you are test dummy he using you you wanted his test dummy see what you have what women have to understand with with a thing with men is your average man your average everyday man needs multiple women in his life because women feels a void in a man so your average man he won't this woman is for the kicks and giggles this woman is for the amazing food she cook this woman is for her looks this woman is for her motherly spirit this woman is cuz she amazing friend or business partner so your average everyday man gonna have multiple women so it's just like a roster and men love you know sports men love sports and so men used to rosters and trades and trade deadlines and franchise tag men and that's how men juggerate women so every woman bringing something different to the table that's why you got some men out here who in the public who actually have multiple girlfriends or multiple wives and they flaunt and they public with it and that's because they feel like no one woman is good enough for them so when a man is a one-woman man he's gonna almost be overbearing you're gonna almost be like man this man called me a lot man and man love to spend time with me man and man love to talk to me who it's almost gonna feel like well man who a one-woman man who's serious about you that's what a lot of women today call a creep oh it's kind of creepy he called me all like we want to talk on the phone two hours like and that's because so many women y'all used to getting doled up you used to the man calling you every other day or used to the man who called you every day but don't never ask you to be his woman don't tell you he loves you don't speak all the love languages so you used to being drug alone and so when a man coming he got good intentions and he's a good man he's a real man you like uh he got a creeping me out and that's because you done got so used to grown boys that you can't recognize a grown man so this man right here you playing yourself because what it is is he is going to pick somebody and just leave you high and dry britney oh God bless you for that though slept with the guy I'm dating he then told me when I asked that he can never see himself with me do I just cut all ties and responses to him what do I say to him and move on I want to be a wife I'm hurt let me look at the britney yeah I could I could tell you want to be a wife and you want to real bad you want to be a wife real bad I could tell by the way you got to look perked up in the picture and eyebrows on fleet you got that makeup on or filter you got your edge in late that you I could tell you that you ready you ready for love but listen to me what happened is is you played yourself you played yourself because you got on your bike and when you get on your bike that's when you lose everything because remember what I've just been telling y'all this white in today's time you got to do it God way that what God says they're out there for on occasion so when you get on your bike you just put the gold medal on the man neck and he ran the race so he took that from you thank you this what I want y'all to understand that a man will accept what you willing to give even though he don't want it you know when you go somebody house and they get old play the old nasty food and and you'll know what it has been but you can't say oh no no no thank you you know just a dog you said oh okay now go go take your plate and you like okay all right and as soon as you get home throw it up I don't know what you've been doing at your hand grandma told me can't eat from everybody you thought I played on in the trash or somebody give that gift that you don't really want but you got to go take it as soon as you get home you find somebody to get to and then they don't even want it that's how a man do with women body you want to offer your body you want to give your body okay thank you but I ain't even want you and so that's why I say you keep your power by staying off your bike keeping your legs closed then he got to come to you he got to lay it out there on the line he got to put himself out there to say I want you okay play what what you gonna do for then how you gonna show me you want me but when you get on your bike he'll take that there thank you I'm out of here and so what you got to do he told you that so okay thank you all right you ain't got to worry about him for me no more now you gonna cry in the car you gonna cry in the car you gonna be her you gonna you gonna have you're gonna have a soul tie but you got to live with that just don't let him see you sweat don't let him see you sweat now okay uh Shanley 499 you should have sent me a little more for this question so he slept with say cuz they look like women he's not but parts still included you saying he in denial oh yeah oh yeah you see these old fruity raisins that were through the raisins you hear me work at all kind of he all the way across the line I'm trying to find some mode now that's his choice that's his choice but what I'm trying to say is for these him in if you want to get you piece of booty then leave the peach cobbler to a man who won't the peach cobbler see what he did what he did to you that ought to be a crime because when he go and get on some booty it might be a recompense in that man booty then he come back and put that in you just think about that that's nasty because this man got feces that he come to give you a UTI that ought to be a mr. meaner if I was a woman and I find out my boyfriend got a boyfriend I'm calling the police hey I'm this man right here tent it I'm calling police on because you can't go out then do that you can't go out there so to all y'all men y'all screen record this all y'all men who like me and get your man and just live that life that's what you want to live but don't have no woman having to be receiving that recompense in her body and you coming out here and getting a heel of cocoa caramel God bless you they go and get that heel and then one come give you the heel of that that right there if a man did that to my my daughter my sister but you have to go to meet the Lord that's wrong my son is five about to be six this year okay friends I remember your question God bless you thank for popping in so take your time don't introduce your son to the men that you're gonna be there okay if you happen to be round the man the man is your personal trainer your son what's a personal trainer well he helped me lift weights he teach me how to lift weights cuz I want to be healthy so I could live a long life so I could be here for you that's what the man is he's something of that or he fixed calls or he changed mama or and I don't let him change or literally you tell your son he changed the car or he's not your maintenance man but keep it out and when you got a young when you got a child you don't introduce them inside of 12 months and what you got to understand is your son or daughter all they want is for you to be happy so you don't have to feel like you got the like they your board member and you got the hey I want you to meet John because your opinion matters to me then he like mama do we got a big truck like to try he don't even care like do he like to play with toys like he don't even care so as long as your mama happy he only know what a marriage is he like oh you want me to drop the flowers on the floor or oh I get old she gonna drop the fly I get to carry the ring in the box okay what this rain for that's nice of mama you see what I'm saying so you protect your son from the boyfriends until you ready to get engaged and then okay this you know this mama boyfriend husband what have you T Brown God bless you thank you for your wisdom sense of human down-to-earth information it blesses me every time you come on a God bless you T Brown God bless you and I'm glad y'all find something funny something that y'all can laugh at I wish y'all give me something to laugh at not because it's here y'all we be depressing me I'll be reading news stories hey Tony my ex continues to reach out and treats me hot and cold he says he loves me how do I approach this I don't want to text back and forth and want to talk in person okay so what you have to do now when you go back through this your ex continue to reach out no you continue to answer your ex and treats me hot and cold no you keep letting him treat you hot and cold see your ex reaching out because you standing still okay now the next thing he says he loves me love me and hot and cold don't go together so understand that see you got to find these little nuances in what you saying a man can't love you and be hot and cold if a man love you he gonna be hot okay how do I approach this that's the next problem is you approaching it you ought to be reproaching it you hit me you ought to be like this put your track shoes on and get gone he can't even reach you no more I don't want to text back and forth I want to talk in person that's a waste of your time that's a waste of your time because a man who want you wouldn't leave you and a man who want you when he come back that's the only time he got to come back he ain't gonna let you go no more so see you holding I hope but he don't got no hope he coming back to keep you stuck because he know as long as you want him you can't go get another man fitness mom God bless you oh you asking a question for somebody else s. Wilkins he's cheated will it change if I don't leave found out he was living with an ex most of our relationship and he's been married more times than he said he's making changes but can he change yes he could change but for somebody else he's not gonna be able to change for you because now he already looking at you like who shot John forgot to kill him he already looking at you like boo boo the food so he could change but he can't change for you so you gotta let him change for somebody else so you're gonna have to move on with your life and let him get his life and he gonna have to get somebody else to put up with his foolishness because he really ain't trying to change because he did too much because he didn't cheated he was living with his ex for most of your relationship so what that mean is he no little liar he a big liar he a massive liar he in a whole nother relationship and see you say he was living with his ex he wasn't living with his ex he was with his ex you hear me they in there making pancakes and so why and so he getting all her fluids and bacteria coming to you even if he's just hugging and kissing on you he bringing all her stuff and putting it on you putting all her spirits on you then he been married more times than he said so that's another huge lie you can never trust a man who lie too much who the lot too big on big things you hear we he's making change but can't he change he ain't changing he ain't changing he ain't changing the whole long not at 499 now what are you gonna do me like that somebody must hit the hit the refund button or maybe it's on see our shade see them 499 them stickers they'll disappear I want to click the thing disappear but I see here goes something laugh at Tony the guy I'm dating pulling that oh he pulling that right there on you yeah that's how they'll do now that's how they'll do ain't gonna lie I did one day to get me a day in the room to myself without my son's come keep coming in the bottom put me a mask on everything hey y'all still not done I give me some peace and quiet yeah man I do that now love and thank you for that and thank you for that blessing give me that loud the goddess K left because tired of taking stress out on me due to his life unraveling back on his full time I don't know if that's full time or FaceTime because of the days we live in making efforts now wants me back I limit access I have a wall up and skeptical how to rebuild the trust and open back up if you go back let it be your last time and keep your wall up that's what that's for that's to protect you to make sure that he gonna do the work rebuilding trust that's on him opening back up that's on him so when he shows consistency and he does the right thing and he's courting you without getting mad without getting angry without see when he come back to the ballpark he got to understand you got to sit in the dugout and wait your turn to get up to this hip plate and then when you get on this plate you got to show improve at this plate to get a third base when you get on third base that ain't gonna just get you to home so see a lot of times a man come back and they want a home run soon as they get back hey why you still treat me hey why would you can't pick up what we left off why you acting like that no you broke the trust you broke down the relationship you got to start all the way over that's what he got to understand and realize it go both ways if the woman coming back 340 the rest I love your insight thanks for all that you do a thank you God bless you pull out in the light law Rikiki God bless you a man has his own he has two kids with baby mama she's struggling to get on her feet so he allowed her to live with him she has nowhere to go but reassures that there is nothing between them what do you think I think he line and if he now a man ain't gonna let no woman live with him that he done touched enough time to have to see the one thing about y'all women y'all want to do any and everything to believe a man y'all want to do any and everything to believe a man see she she walking around the house like this because she won't have money her meal ticket by she out there the man ain't even trying her she just soon he's still she flipping over hill hill she she walking through the house they put them kid to bed she walk around got them things like this you hear me because she trying to get her man back so it ain't even got to be him he trying to sure you he trying to do the right thing but when she come around still he just like that you hear me and so that's his rent that's what he charge her that's how he charge her rent ok she ain't got no money but let me get me some rent off of her you can't believe no man living with no woman only way he doing nothing with a woman that live with him that's his mama sister grandma up it's his mama sister a grandma because it's being in touch they aren't his men it's his mama sister a grandma any other woman living with a man you got to have a side eye so that man lying to you and twice on Sunday Marie Marie God bless you God bless you treasure you say don't say you're celibate what else do you not say to a man you're gonna need a whole book now that's a whole now you need to pre-order a woman's influence ok number two if a man is 23 says he's changing vices should I stop talking or wait while he matures if he's making progress and you like him then you could be around if he's making progress and you like him if he's not making progress then gone about your business I forgot the first part of that question and then they disappeared on me when y'all get old kind of they disappear it's the other one so I think you got a super chat no you got a sticker and I think the sticker is the one that do disappear then the super chat that's the one that show up at the top of my screen and they kind of stay up there for a little longer chosen by God regarding the bday question should I contact him and end it or should I wait to see if he contacts me I don't want to be in the treatment game now wait till he contact you and when he contact you then end it now don't let the man contact you and then you want to go back when he contact you hey thank you for your call and now that I have you on the call I just wanted to tell you don't worry about calling me anymore just because it's a waste of your time wasting my time just not going to work out so I now ain't no telling what he's gonna say in response to that but whatever he say okay you got it all right great talk to you and go on about your life go on about your life see love God bless you God bless you're another promotion on that job how do you approach telling a man that you have been married multiple times I've been married three times three seven and then three years I'm the one who left all three because I don't tolerate that or passive actions no matter how long we're together see love God bless you let me see I'm trying to see if I can read you if I can see I can't see the okay I see what it is you got a motherly and nurturing spirit okay a man feel like he with his best friend like he with his sister when he with you he take your kindness for weakness but then you got the show on you ain't with the games but you were so nice and loving and kind he thought he could play the games and then he realized that he that you ain't with it so he got to learn the hard way through the divorce court that he barked at the wrong tree now with that being the case what that means you got that special sauce on you some people garden drizzle a little wife sauce on them you got the wife sauce when when you get married three times you got the wife sauce so what that mean is a man ain't gonna a man don't mind that he don't mind that he that he don't care about that he gonna be okay okay he gonna marry you but he gonna want to know why you you know let go of those and then he gonna realize you not by games and then if he proceeds you just got to have your standards and stipulations so that he don't get you on your bike before going all the way and just get you for what you were your kind heart your loving Karen and nurturing but really don't want to don't want you and don't want to go all the way man somebody mess it disappeared on me and then Kia say your question got retracted so I guess that's a refund on the what that is okay see our shades is your question Tony so what do you suggest I do with the C script um don't do nothing just give them just give me time cuz hey at the end of the day is 5050 he might have that 19 for real and because he's speaking it and cuz he's saying that he might be the spoken on itself so that thing jump on his bike for real and he mess around and be asthmatic he gonna wish he wouldn't have spoke that on itself so to be honest with you I give him the benefit of the doubt and just get your get your little break he want to be in the room quarantine let him stay on in the room and get your little break get your break and and gonna do you the born sister God bless you a thank you for that blessing thank you for that blessing found out kids father maybe has been going away with the girl he cheated with I cried when envision him and her in delivery room why am I hurt and betrayed if I don't want to be with him I feel bad for even caring about it um I just was was talking to one of my family members about the same situation got old no good deadbeat and he to moved on and she was been crying and hurting and the only thing I could say to that is just because you're human you know you're human you loved you loved him with all your heart you gave all of yourself you know you gave him children and so when you love like that and you bring life into the world from a man you create a very very strong soul tie and so when he decides that he moving on or he doing whatever that's gonna hurt you because you're human you should be worried if you didn't cry if you didn't feel it that would mean something totally different so in this case right here you just got to appreciate for what it is appreciate that you got a heart that you got feelings but then what you got to do is you got to get the knowledge from it and you got to look at it and you got to say you know what she's not getting a real man she's getting a grown boy so why am I jealous of her anything I need to be praying for because he might lead her to an early grade so let me just stop being jealous or something that I don't even want and just say hey God bless you both of y'all a mess y'all deserve each other I'm preparing myself I'm healing for my blessing and so that's what you got to do not share whoever I don't know who you talking about with the boss later whatever but if you got the blocker blocker that way you got that blue ranch on the you know me on play no game so you got to block somebody block me anybody they spell a word wrong and you thought it meant something else you gone block man you know ain't ain't got time for fitting mom God bless you now fitting mom what fitting mom does she see y'all questions that's over here that I'm not seeing and she paid to get y'all question ask God got a blessing for you God got a double portion for you fitting mom so believe that and receive that now may win and add that to your ties add that to your ties because that's tied and all from what you're doing you know that's your time offerings is charity that's love off love gifts that's what you're doing so what you didn't do today that's $200 worth of ties I think if you this other one was $10 to 20 all that's that's $200 worth of ties now may Williams if you both know you are in love with each other and God has given the permission to date and the man hasn't moved on yet what does this mean if you both know you are in love with each other and God has given the permission to date and the man hasn't moved on yet what does this mean I see you left a very key part out of the May Williams so put it in the thing haven't moved on from you or haven't moved on from his ex that's what I need to know from your may so put that in there and you say haven't moved on yet so what may Williams that it may William still in here let me know what what may talk about fitness mom you could type in the normal chat now you got to keep giving type in the normal chat if you if May Williams say that I'm trying to see what may made in love now listen to me the way it was it oh haven't moved on it yet oh okay the man okay I missed a word in there trying to trying to be smart trying to speed read okay all right that's what I was thinking what really I was what I was thinking is y'all put when you put God in there see when the action don't follow then God ain't had nothing to do with it see because he God is God don't come to you and speak to you audibly so that means that you really got to be connected with God to really hear you got to really be able to hear God and a lot of times we'll put words in God mouth and we'll put word in God mouth because we don't we want to hear what we want to hear oh God gave me permission to date on you heard a dream you heard a vision so when you hear that and you say God gave us permission to date but the man has it moved on it and the other caveat to this is you say if you both know you are in love with each other see that's the thing you know you only know that you in love with him he's not in love with you because a man that's in love with you what you have to realize is that in love is all-inclusive in love is all-consuming in love you can't be in love and not make a move so that's what you got to realize so for one he's not in love and for two God didn't give permission so you always got a you will see the fruit if the root is there that's what you got to understand on that down joy question Tony how do I answer the question when men ask when my last relationship was and I haven't dated anyone then they start to lead into asking about my v-card because I haven't had a boyfriend how do you want to answer how do you want to answer that's what you first got to come to terms with if you want to answer it like that ain't none of your business then that's how you answer if you want to answer it honestly and explain it I haven't had a real relationship you don't even have to be so specific you could just say I haven't had something that I would call a real relationship and then from there when he's so what you mean by that so you haven't slept with a man like how many guys you done well to be honest with you I really don't feel that's in your business because I'm not checking your sleep in the bed resume how many women you done slept with so really that's really between me and God so you gonna have to get to know me so understand that that if you don't feel it's his business tell him it ain't his business because he what I and watch my video watch my video today okay boss lady pebble it ain't me Tony okay I really I miss what was being said anyway because it's just two minute messages up here Tore Tore broke up with boyfriend of two years I paid 90% of the time because he was always unemployed he stopped his masters he would quit jobs without telling me and when I asked about his career moves he said it doesn't affect me you did the right thing and you did the right thing and yeah you didn't have a question in there but you did the right thing Marie Marie God bless you now I feel like I see your name up here today I want to get the questions over here that's in the chat but when these right here come it put them up on my screen y'all so y'all forgive me okay the people popping up here I got to do what I got to do Marie says stop talking to a friend after I found out he was active on the dating app he okay that's the that's the flag right there friend dating out stop talking to so if that's your friend why are you worrying about if he on the dating app so you like your friend or was this a boyfriend or a man you was dating he is still he is trying to still pursue me it's been going on two months he's making it known that he still has feelings so I confront him about his active dating profile yes you should you got to hide nothing you got to hide nothing let him know and y'all got the y'all got to understand if and thank you for that blessing now Marie y'all got to understand do y'all want to be friends or do y'all want to be in a dating relationship and what you also got to realize is what he was doing is not all that uncommon a man always keep his options open you happen to find out about it but a man always got you really ain't going to be talking to no man especially that you call a friend and you're going to be the only woman he talking to that's your point blank period so when you check him on that and say what it what do you want do you want to talk with me to build something or do you want to play the field and date around because I saw you have a dating you have a dating profile check him on that see where he's staying see if he go to choking on the tongue or if he's going to be honest Nikita God bless you boy in a life Tiggy God bless you met the guy online nice difference meet no line like Instagram and meet no line like Bumble that's a that's a different line been chatting back and forth since early March I responded to one of his recent messages with my number so that we could talk off line he responded with his number should I have waited from yes you should because he should have he should have asked you for your number and but that's also a little bit of a red flag because a lot of times a man talk to you online because he got some already offline so men have online girls men have an Instagram wife or Facebook wife or Twitter wife or YouTube wife or a dating that wife and then have some in real life that he actually touching and so understand that right there so yes you should have waited but then he gave you his number so that right there also is a red flag because if you gave him your number him giving you his numbers almost like saying hey call me but at the same time it could be like him saying here's my number locked me in so when I call you you'll know it's me so you can write him back shoot me you know give me a call when you're free because I don't like talking on social media inboxes or talking online and then see where it goes from there see where it go from now man I was dating who has told me he loves me okay Marie let me see what they said okay man you was dating you just will call him a friend and you was dating him and he was on a dating app he was keeping the option open that's a personal choice if you want to take that gamble you want to take that gamble every man do that it just he got called question you often say that men listen to women father was not a great role model can I influence my younger brother how should I proceed yes you can influence them you should just talk to him though it's not about trying to you know you can't show him how to be a man because you not a man but you can talk to him about what a good man is and what a woman wants and what a woman respects and just a good man in society not even dealing with with a man but um and then you also can find good men online that have messages I got a course on it ok ken yeah I see you here I see you here he's interested know that somebody else ken yeah he's interested in me but I'm not ready to date and friends on him he asked to FaceTime should I I think it would be weird yes it would be weird and he's not the one for you because the one for you even if you ain't ready to date you gonna get ready if you have the ability to put the man in the friends on that's not your husband so don't waste his time don't waste your time because what's gonna happen is is you'll end up wasting your time in his time and he'll be there he'll end up with you on your bike because he'll start to grow on you when you never want him in the beginning official might will will forgive me if I got your name wrong I think that's a brother God bless TG crack me up every time you say on your bike hey you know somebody asked me is he saying bike or back and I'm saying back I am saying back anybody who been stuck especially from another country and English is your second or third language when I say bike when I say stay off your bike a later thought that I was saying stay off your bicycle when I say stay off your bike I was saying stay off your bicycle because she say she ride bicycles or something like that I was like wow I need to tighten up question can you talk more about having fangs because your woman's fangs no can you talk more about how having fangs causes your woman's fangs to grow in return um what that really means is now if I said that what I meant by is when you treat a woman the wrong way and you acting out a character and you using and mistreating lying and deceiving a woman can adapt to the game so if she realize she want to be in a relationship and she don't feel like starting over and she feel like she just gonna tough it out and she gonna learn how to play the game she gonna play the game better than you so you got your fangs and you taking a bite out of her what she gonna go and learn how to sharpen her so that when she clamp down it's gonna hurt you worse so that's what I mean is a lot of times men think they playing the woman and actually end up playing they set because a woman is she think with both sides of her brain a man only think with one Jennifer sis asks how to deal with sensitive man always in his feelings bad communication use terms like this worries me or depress often hard to express my feelings to be honest with you you got to be real with them when you dealing with old sensitive man you can't pull up off that gas you got to keep on as long as you not yelling screaming, cursing talking down to them you got to keep being real and direct with them and you got to say what he needs to hear hey listen you real sensitive like why are you so sensitive like what is causing you to be so sensitive like is something happening like really talk to them and get down because I really don't know if I'm able to be with a man that I can't even talk to without him being so sensitive and getting offended and you talking just like that because it's different ways you can say that now because it's some women you know what you so sorry you ain't no real man I don't even know who raised you but you so you be made you need to get your penis out of what you know it's some women that talk to a man like that but if you come to him and just say you know you always get so easily offended and like always worried and depressed and stressed then you could go and express that to him and then he gonna realize when you call it out now you gonna realize and now he got to grow and he thought I would utter these words I don't know how to break it off with my husband he is not taking me serious he chaotic anxiety ridden and only wants to be around his mom how to get out you gonna need coaching you gonna need coaching way too deep marriage with everything marriage marriage ain't made for this here marriage ain't made for the online Q&As because marriage is a lifetime commitment it's until death do us part so with that you can't shortcut marriage you can't cheapskate marriage you gonna have to spend what it take to get with a therapist or counselor or coach and do the work and have a full hour long conversation on that one how to get out of ego when your husband cheaps with another woman who knows about you but you get out the relationship get out the relationship and that'll get you out of ego you get on out the relationship cause not cheating that's the one clear thing that the good book says is grounds for divorce so you ain't got no issues there cause you stay in there for your ego and you wanna get back and all it is so you wanna win against her you don't want her to win you gonna end up losing even worse is it possible to have a stronger soul tie with someone you never slept with but did other things but feel almost nothing for your son and father yes it is because a soul tie is emotional bond so emotions come from the mind so if you gave a person a lot of brain power a lot of your mind if you spend a lot of time talking to this person or thinking about this person you develop such a bond and such an affection in your mind for this person so that is what strengthens and creates the soul tie whereas if you stop thinking about your son and father and you start to have some disdain or resentment for him that will start to weaken that soul tie so understand that what is a woman's influence about a woman's influence it's really just talking about the role a woman plays in a man's life and some of the chapter 1 is called a man's world chapter 2 is know your worth chapter 3 power versus influence the grown boy syndrome I talk about that the poker face the 72 hour rule break up the makeup show don't tell the rules of engagement let him love you when we play mind games everyone loses complacency is the enemy just say no honor and respect trust and freedom sex is a plus you're not a maid silence is golden don't compete a woman's influence so that's what it's about make sure you pre-order this now make sure you pre-order don't the one thing I can ask you to do I don't ask you to do a lot for me now but the one thing you can do is order that book it'll bless your life phoenix fab 40 years old recently single after 20 plus year relationship now you said relationship I don't know if you said that intentionally instead of saying marriage now I was all together for 20 years without being married working on healing myself found I'm not emotionally ready to date how do I heal from severe emotional neglect from my ex yeah you ain't gonna be ready to date after 20 plus years after 20 plus years I don't need you maybe two three years off so what so what that mean is is you're gonna have to do the work as often as affordable and you may have to create some affordability so what that means is if that's listening to an audio book a week if that's reading a book a week if that's doing a session a week you're gonna have to do the work because when it's 20 years it's gonna take a long time if you're not working if you're not doing active work then it's gonna take you probably eight ten years if you actively working you could be healed in two years or less between one and three years and this what I see because I'm coaching all time hey I don't know if I got any more questions if I don't let me see can you speak to how men want respect from a woman basically the respect of the man really just means not being condescending not calling him out of his name not talking down to him not yelling at him not cursing at him really respect is it's your words but then also what you do you know of course the obvious things dealing with another man one of the things that women do that they may not realize is putting men online men that you follow online and listen to online taking us and throwing us in the man face that's disrespect instead of just getting the knowledge and applying it in your relationship I see women who I post something and they act a man they act a man and watch this listen to him this is a real man can you be more like this all that is disrespect and you finna get a whole lot of feedback from that is not gonna go right so if you disrespect a man he just can't live with that so you have to be able you have to be able to get past that broke up with boyfriend because his twin bro I'm gonna be on three more minutes now broke up with a boyfriend because his twin bro started dating a girl my boyfriend cheated on me with his twin bro is aware of the situation and still decided to date her I thought it was weird but questioning myself I ain't never heard nothing like that you broke up with your boyfriend for what his twin brother doing so you might be finna miss your husband for what his twin brother doing so what that mean is you still love your ex that mean you still got a soul tied with your ex if you will make your boyfriend pay a price because seeing your ex boyfriend your ex boyfriend old flame with your boyfriend twin brother if she trigger you that mean you still got a soul tied with your ex that mean you still need to heal because yeah you should feel something but not enough to where you whole relationship it's different if it's different if you is if your boyfriend started messing with the woman that your ex mess with that's totally different but you leaving over what your what your boyfriend twin brother doing hey now I did an hour and a half worth of questions now how can I rebound from an individual who I'm unequally with for so many years hmm them years gonna cost you them years gonna cost you and what you gonna have to do is learn what yoke mean to be equally yoke and you gonna have to do the work just do the work the same work that we talking about the books the courses the coaching I have a question Tony why does every man I have dated has told me I'm the wifey type but my man of six years still is on the fence about being married hmm that one hurt there hmm because you might be the wifey type and this is the other thing now you can't listen to whatever man tell you cause a man could see Corella Deville and tell her she the prettiest nicest most eloquent woman he's ever seen that's how men are men love to boost egos and to flatter you so for one not to say that you not the wife type but you can't let a compliment from a man affect your relationship and what you got going on so what you need to understand is this man that's been with you for six years that's not your husband that's not your husband that's not your husband and so you would have been there three years too long I think a Daniel Sanders please get your coaching certification now for everybody who want to be a life coach write down the coupon code mymentor m-y-m-e-n-t-o-r write down my mentor and go to while it's still discounted on the price go to tonicassesacademy.com Daniel I sure could use some of your help cause all these questions I can't even see them off she is saying that about her ex boyfriend cheated on her and then her twin brother got with the girl her ex boyfriend cheated with oh okay I don't know what that was about fitting mom on the we might have both got it wrong but yeah that's us you need a coaching session on that one with the girls with the girl his twin brother is now dating yeah to me it sound like she left her boyfriend because she said her ex boyfriend cheated with a girl and her boyfriend now twin brother got with that girl that's how I read it written right how do you begin to move on from the father of your child and deal with the feelings of shame and guilt of not proving your child providing your child a two biological parent home your child don't really care as long as you okay as long as you do the work on you and you become a whole mama 100% mom your child gonna be fine your child gonna be fine and so you can't worry about that you have to do the work and get up and move forward and that's one thing that people don't realize is your guilt hurts you more than your reality the reality of your situation is it's gonna be okay if you loving you and you doing the work and you learning and you growing it's gonna be fine but if you have the guilt from it and you hold on to that guilt you'll actually end up messing your situation up and making it worse because you'll be beating yourself up over something that your child ain't even holding against you does the coach certificate have a payment plan if you use the coupon my mentor you ain't gonna need a payment plan you know what she saying her boyfriend cheated with this girl and now his twin is dating the same girl oh well I mean that's an obvious question then y'all gotta stop asking more complicated Jared Springer question don't I have a question my husband comes home at 5am and I have found multiple dating apps proving he's sleeping unprotected with multiple women and he was in drugs on the weekend how do I fix this that's gonna take Jesus you gonna need Jesus, a Bible olive oil and a really good coach or counselor it ain't gonna be no other way around that and to be honest with you if you want him to pay for it then you need to pull back and leave him you gonna have to leave him for a period of time if that's a week two weeks to get the message to see if he gonna chase you if he don't chase you then that mean you all the way done but to be honest with all he doing I wouldn't even be trying to fix that situation Tony there are also late 60's and 70's plus year old grown boys still playing the minor games hey I believe you on that hey I think I done got back to the end I said I was gonna talk to my phone get 10% but I got it on wifi so it's lasting longer than I want it to last I ain't want that thing to last that long Brittany you say I'll skip you if you would've put your question again right there still complaining I would've seen you right there that's a life lesson right there for the Lord what that mean is keep the faith the Lord wants to keep the faith don't ever get weary in well doing when you doing right keep doing right because the time that you do right after you felt like you had done all you could do that's when your blessing gonna come but when you stop doing right and start complaining that's the time that God want to pull out in your life so had you just reposted your question right there I would've seen you but instead I saw you miss you skip me you see how many messages there is in here what you think I got go go gadget eyes you see all this thing doing like this here if you post a question keep posting your question Shatara Smith interested in becoming a life coach however after listening to these questions you get on these lives I'm not sure if I have the grace because when people talk crazy I give them the look how do you stay so level headed Shatara I be struggling now I stay in prayer I stay in prayer sometimes I get beside myself but I try to stay in prayer before every video I do I pray I don't know if y'all believe that but every video that I post them our long videos I literally pray before I do those videos I say Lord be with me give me wisdom knowledge speak through me and use me before I get on here I pray Lord keep me humble allow me to be patient poise ok 20% battery life 20% so a when I hit 10 I'm gone now Alexandria God bless you thank you for your wisdom seminars and coaching you appreciate it and Shatara sign up to be a coach now go on Tony gasses academy dot com use the coupon code my mentor because coaching is not what I'm doing right now this is like on this Q&A but on a coaching call you you listening you asking good questions and you listening so it's not the same as it on coaching is not about giving advice you more so a support system melly he cheated on me with this girl and then he ended up passing the girl off to his twin and his twin decided to date her oh ok I see what you saying I see what you saying you did the right thing leaving them you did the right thing leaving them and not even about the girl and not even about his twin dating them but just the fact that he cheated on you that's why you left them now you shouldn't even left them honestly you shouldn't even left them because of his twin dating her because that might be his twin wife so you can't get mad by the twin going for his woman but the reason why you should left him is because he a cheater not because the twin doing something that's going to be rubbing in your face Marilyn King God bless you why do men cheat down instead of stepping up to be better men cheat down because it's easy so if a man get a woman here on his level he want her and he want to be with her because he feel she more his level but immature man needs multiple women so he cheat down because when he cheat down it's not as much work because he cheating with loose booty 901 he cheating with miss thirsty he cheating with miss desperate miss frustrated miss lost so she just she quick to just gonna give it up because she just want her man so he don't have to put in a lot of work so that's why a lot of time men cheat down because he not actually trying to lead he just want him a little vacation he just want him a little something on the side he want to mix it up it's kind of like when you trying to eat your grilled chicken and broccoli every day that's kind of what a relationship being faithful is like for a man it's extremely healthy but every now and then you want you some Popeyes chicken and so that's what men have to in a relationship get to the maturity level to where he can avoid that Popeyes chicken and just stick to a healthy choice and that's what happened in a relationship um yeah my battery hit 20% now and some of the answers will be too real for y'all what y'all be asking now so y'all got to forgive me if an answer come all and it's a little more real than what you wanted I'm looking for the question now as this came y'all have y'all a good good old time so you said that men do want kids so do I have to compromise and have at least one I wouldn't mind having just one but I would feel better with none at all you need to really address yourself on why you feel the way you feel and understand if this is real if you truly if you operating and you making this decision out of fear or if you operating and you making this decision out of love if it's a real reason why you asking you know yourself that question Latisha uh Bronner don't uh don't come here promoting other people channels and talking about other people channels cause they ain't what we here about okay and so and one thing I won't be promoting nobody channel because if I don't watch their channel I don't know what they talking about and I can't use my space to be stamping and people to see you doing something on here and they'll send one day little minions they go over there and mention my name in the comment so I can steal some of that that juice they got going on over there so don't don't don't don't need to do that now I don't know why you blocked out the chat now what you said what you said but it could be if you logged into your own channel or it could be something that got to do with uh YouTube unless but I ain't block ya okay you know iPhone battery lasts forever right telling my kids get 2 hours out of 1% no we finna get down to 10% when we get 10% I gotta go I don't even know what time it is right now what time I got on here 4.30 I don't have 5.30 sit okay I don't know why that got to like that might have to reset your browser is there a way to be direct and holding a man accountable without being harsh I've been told I come off ruled because I don't deal with a lot um as long as you know you not being harsh Alexandria wisdom seminars and coaching you appreciate it I don't know if I saw that as long as you know you not being harsh then just be you see sometimes we'll say stuff and we trying to be harsh we being real we being blunt but we also trying to be a little a little harsh if you know that you saying it from a place of love and he take offense that's his problem not yours fitness mom I posted the wrong question lol mind and soul member God bless you hey Lord pour out in our life pour out in our life you paying for people question to get up here you need to be a light coach you need to go and be a light coach because you got an empath heart your empath what a little fancy word they try to call you my ex is constantly trying to play games after 2 years being separate we was together 22 years and I'm trying to heal okay he trying to play games you got to play it better than him so what that mean is block him on your phone block him on your email all social media let everybody who say his name to you let every last one of them know if you bring his name to me you will be blocked you got to put the head to protection around yourself and you got to go to that next level and you got to let him know listen I'm done with ya move on if you keep trying I'm putting the R.O. on you I'm putting the R.O. on you and you violate that I'm going to send you right up to the county hey it's time to play hard ball 9 N.K. God bless y'all block my husband completely including his cash out until he grows up and is ready to co-parent is it fair to also cut his family off yeah it's fair if talking to them and give you a bad feeling or you feel like they trying to get some intel for him or they working for him and it don't bring you peace and joy but it give you some pause then yeah cut them off too but let them know listen I ain't going to be able to talk to you because I'm trying to heal them when I talk to you I think about him so I need my space thank you bye and just go on let them know K. God bless you why does a guy always text we spend a lot of time texting but not verbally talking he in a situation he juggling multiple women or he has a woman so he juggling multiple or he has a woman so all he can do is text and he texting you to death because he trying to get you into the right place to where he can get what he want from you which is probably some money or he just use you as a test dummy to have a release just like a little trash dump where you just dump your waist and you just get your little buzz get your little feeling and then gone back to your main situation Asia bless you for your blessing Tony can you speak about what a grown man finds attractive in a woman to be honest with you it's so hard to put in the words it's so hard to put in the words and the list so long but essentially she has healed from her past and she can come into her present and she knows God and she knows who she is and she can be cool calm and confident she can be strong and ambitious she can be direct and she can be real but yet be loving and caring see a woman who is operating from self love and most humans we operate from pain we operate from past pain we operate from frustration we operate from anger we operate from bitterness we operate from a soul tie we operate from skepticism most of us if you evaluate where you operating from like right now I'm operating from love and what I mean by that is love for God because it's my calling to do what I'm doing and love for my family because when I'm working I'm feeding my family so I'm coming from love now if I didn't know God and didn't have a purpose I would be operating from greed so it's a thin line and that's why you could get confused so but when a man look at a woman she could be amazing but she could be operating from desperation so he just meets her and first month, second month she cooking and she cleaning and he like I ain't even done nothing to deserve home cooked meals she operating from desperation the woman who's operating from self love she has great energy and great conversation but she not bending over backwards to try to win him she ain't gonna be cooking and cleaning and watching his dirty draws and he's not her man but yeah she great to be around laugh, smile, joke and have an amazing time she's operating from love so the action may be the same the energy may feel the same but what he looking at is the root is this coming from desperation gold digging thirstiness or is this coming from self love and self respect so that's really what a man is looking for as a woman who essentially has done the work and she has healed she has healed why do beautiful black American women focus men who are rich play sports and date slash marry mixed by racial women okay why do black American women focus men who are rich yeah you had something in there play sports and date slash marry mixed by racial women I have seen many videos of black women complaining about this they don't see beauty okay yeah I'm a little lost on this question here it's just a one or two word that you missed in there I don't know if you saying why do the men date mixed by racial now let me touch on that whether you saying that or not now I talked to my wife sometimes J Donnell God bless you thanks for being such a blessing I bought a woman's influence and can't wait to read it when y'all read it's not don't be too hard on it but now it's a lot of women of color beautiful black women who take offense to men having a lighter wife or a mixed wife or what have you I'll be honest with you I joke with my wife sometimes man you're a love a love light and I wasn't looking for a light skinned woman but I know a lot of men that's what they're looking for the woman before my wife she was my color but what it is just like what Miss V say it's about colorism which is alive and true you just have to sidestep it and that's what it is what it is really is when a person grow up looking at their self a man grow up looking at his self all the time and he sees himself as ugly he sees himself as less than he sees his people who look like him as less than as unattractive so he thinks black is ugly because that's what the media and racism and all this has made him think that black is ugly so the light skin in his mind light skin is the right skin and so that is why a lot of these men black men want to date what they call exotic or a light skin because it's truthfully he just hate his reflection in the mirror his mama could be his same color but he just don't like his reflection in the mirror and also the other thing is the nature of man man like variety man like some different so it's kind of like they also so used to their own they so used to women who look like them talk like them think like them walk like them so therefore they take and they want some that's going to treat them make them think different feel different act different and then also a lot of black women are so used to black men and the mess that black men put them through that a lot of black women be like yeah whatever and know how to deal with them better on 10% a lot of black women know how to deal with this man know how to call them on his crap and but when he get with a woman that is of another race or she raised different like a king because he like a science project to her she didn't grow up with his type she don't understand him so she doing everything her power to please him to win him to earn him but what he don't realize is a lot of time the women only want him if he got money when he the cream of the crop they don't want no average every day man who looks like him but they'll take a chance on him and their parents to be okay with it and so it's a whole lot of caveats and nuance that go in there Latoya Blackman God bless you thank you for everything I've learned so much from you I got my first client this week on my mentor hey God bless you Latoya my mentor is real now look at Latoya took a life court certification and got on my mentor and got a client I'm already a life coach how do I begin working with your group as a life coach it ain't my group now it's my mentor dot life you could go on there if you already a coach you already you know a coach go on my mentor dot life and just sign up they ain't my group now I don't stamp the coaches I don't know the coaches personally they just certified life coaches it's just it's my company we created the site but it ain't the Tony Gaston coaching agency these individuals so it went on bump their head that's on them I got that in all my legal terms so it ain't me stamping the coaches they just it's just like when you go on match.com you don't know if the man you meet gonna be cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs so it ain't match fault it's just that man fault but the coaches on there that's why we have certified coaches to kind of make sure that it's people who have a heart and a passion hey I got to get going y'all and all when I because y'all putting these messages when I plug this phone when I take this when I try to plug this phone in it sound like an airplane on recently reunited with a guy of three months and we hung out hold on y'all hold on right quick recently reunited with a guy of three months and we hung out Tuesday he plans on hanging out with me Saturday haven't heard from him since Tuesday how can I turn things in my favor to not be taken to be taken seriously again you ain't got to turn things in your favor if a man don't take you seriously you don't have to play no tricks and games keep on going by your business how can a sensitive woman develop thick or skin I don't know I don't know to be honest with you I really don't know I'm still sensitive to this day and I don't know if I'm be able to develop thick or skin that's something I really came out of for you I'm trying to see some let me make sure I got everybody y'all don't put nothing else in there don't send another question let me see thick or skin my wife is real sensitive and what I did I just told her like look baby you're going to have to heal from your past you're going to have to dress your past whatever it is that's causing insecurity you're going to have to address that I need to be able to talk to you without you being sensitive I need to be able to be real with you be honest with you so you're going to have to A Marie B God bless you thank you for ordering a woman's influence Kia this is what I meant super chat error and issue I paid but my question was rechecked may I still submit my question via email please and thanks YouTube needs to fix this ASAP Kia what you should have did right there so what you should have did can y'all hear me I don't know if y'all can hear me out this airport or if y'all can hear me out this hill I don't know if y'all hear me does it sound loud like an airplane or does it sound like I'm coming out of this here airport man I got to go man y'all got to go y'all can still hear me right now I'm about to go on ahead and go I'm gonna try to plug that in I was trying to get that the money questions I don't like missing when somebody spent their hard on the money trying to get a question in there I feel bad about that when a person's advice or suggestions come from a place of love it's easier to accept even when it stings A God bless I like that you know what I think I got through on y'all so I'm about to go God bless y'all I appreciate you my phone about to die on me it's the last question live eight hours apart who drives and who pays for the hotel the man the man driving the man pay for the hotel keep that keep that in your mind when you dating a man a man need to do all the courting a man need to do all the courting he need to be leading it's alright if you want to offer from time to time he need to understand that it's on him to lead and to court you and he ought to be willing to do everything whenever a man come in and he says no I don't want to do this I don't want to do that that's when you got the word I think if I said motel he probably said hotel A God bless y'all I appreciate it we'll talk soon