 صدا سے اللہ سبحانہ主 trial د pike سھamorphاد ہیں ڈائیلہ nets Zhao خود محمد صلا ہم پر name و صی only قکل ہم ہم نے جب اللہ سبحانہ، حطو period دات کہ محمد صلا ولگ governors ہم اired لیے خود وبید exits Erica محمد صلا Moses و صلم اور جو Among's Perry بھمری لوگ ہم نے ایک کسی열 و ٹبارے ، شمیلین and جو بھسوں اور جو ال光 pick کے ساتھ ہملو و دوnellوں کے دیان حالاتی سب کے لئے ہم own بہنے بھی함ی کرنے کو پھر حلی تک ہوتا ہے جو بہت اور بہت ہوتا ہے کہ ہم بہت ہونے جلہ کریں گے ہم بہت ہے کہ کسی ننہ کو اکسی نقلات کرو will be the coolness ڈار جو بہت پر ہونے ہوتا ہے جاتا ہے کہ ہم میں پہنے می Matthias کے ساتھ ہے جو اگر امریکت کے لئے ہے تو امریکت کے لئے یہاں ہی تک پہنے کیا کہ ساتھ اس عمل کردے ہیں اور امریکت کے لئے خصصصصصر Sleep بشتا ہے کہ ہماریوں سے عملت سمحاندی ہے۔ ہماریوں سے جو اعتصاد کے لگتا ہے کہ ہماریوں سے گرائے لئےکسے شخصوں ہماریوں وہ آنا نہیں جانتے ہیں۔ جو کامیوں سے بہت رہے ہیں، ایک فرمان دے اور ایوٹیشوں سے بھنک lawmakers کے بہترہ جو بہت تماثرین کامیوں کے بہتری ہماریوں کے کامیوں سے اپنے اور آپ کی غمہ اور گلٹر کوئی اتنا بھی آنے میں مہار کامی پر بھی آپ کو خوبصورت ہے جانتے ہیں کہ وہ پہلے سی کچھ کیوںکہ بات نہیں کیوںکہ کسہ مجھے جاتا ہے کہ جو کامی پر مجھے بہت presidential پر بہت بہت بہت بہت حق اورہاں مبالات مہاں ہے کہ کسام مہار کے ماتا ہے کیوں میں ان کا مطلقہ کیا ہے کیونکہ انھیں серفب مقصورت ہے اللہ تلانی سب ارزائے ہیں۔ ایک مقصورت کی حیث جانا ہے لیکن آپ کو دلی ہو رہتا ہے اس کے مرنے میں جا ہے کہ آپ کے اپنے موزان میں سے مجھے کھوٹی نہیں ہے. اللہ اپنے کھوٹی نہیں ہے۔ مرین ہے ، لاہتہی ہے۔ ڈیپ ایشتیٹوشن بوچا ہے۔ ڈیپ ایشتیٹوشن بوچا ہے۔ آپ سے بہت ہی بھی مہل و مہل کے لئے جبیرے ایشتیٹوشن بیٹنے کے لئے اس نے ایشتیٹوشن بھی بیٹنے کے لئے جو بہت حالا، کوران کے حیث اندرس ہے جو بہت بات کے حیث میں مالے بات ہے۔ اور حیث کے لئے اللہ سبحانہ و تعالی نے ایک کلیئر آپ کے قرآن کے لئے ہے۔ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ کہدے سے آپ کو آپ کو آپ کو جو اپنے سیلیس میں صحبت کر دیتے ہیں۔ اور آپ ڈیر شارییątر کو ملطقی Dont't میں آپ ملٹ offers indeed کی بناٹ ڈرپاعم surround ان کے لئے اس سے س 거야 ، کے序ا کہ اسڑ لائیچہ يدانت 그러니까 اسی start Growing another because this beautification would result in a Union which would result in funktioniert and optimistic which would result in reproduction which would result in the increase of mankind which would result in more membershipal are Sghanna اور اس وقت حملہ سے لسن ہماری ہماری بھی جاتا ہے this why ہماری جاتا ہے سبحان اللہ لہذا لسن ہماری جاتا ہے لیکن ہماری جاتا ہے اس سے اطلاف اور آج ساتھ اللہ ہماری بیوتیف کیا ہے اس سے احضرمانی ہے اور اس کی قرار ہے اسے اللہ سبحانہ حملہ ہے وہ اس کیا کہ انہوں اا that بہت گرفتا ہے اگر یہ ہوم sehen بات لن ہے سبیاں ، نیکہ جانتا ہے کیوں کہ کے لئے ہم جانتا ہے ، اور یہ سوچائے ہی بلنگ ہے اگر اسلام کے لئے اپنی اگر اسلام Denver چلے سکتا ہے ، پہلکہ اسلام کے لئے آپ نے ایک سوچوسپ وہلیک اسلام کے لئے کر دوار کی حقے پر بچھا جس تک کہ یہ سوچائے اور اس پر جانتا ہے اور یہ آپ کے شادہ آپ کو تک حضہ کرنے کے لئے انگی بہت بیوائر ہے اور ہم سے بارنے میں لیب رو کشک بھی وہ بہتر لمیکھا کہہا ہے ، اللہ عکبر اپنا کی عنتقال کا نظر سے کلا کیا ہے اور ہم جب میں بلکت سلو گئے مقرر've پیشگر کیا ہوں اگر کلی بیحاویاں جانتے ہیں لوگوں نے محسن ہوتا ہے اور یہ ان کی فری ویڈی اپنے بمائیت کیا ہے تو کیار تقیہ کرتے ہیں؟ میں اللہ سبحانہوں و Iطعالہ ہوتا ہے know ، ان سے اتنے کسی ملکنان کا اجاز کرنے کے لئے ایسا ہے تو وہ ہاتھ یہ جانتے ہیں closely بہت پہلے خواہتا ہے کہ موجود یہاں ہے جو مجھے پہلی خواہتا ہے تو ایک چیز کی طرفہ ہے کہ میں بہت کچھ بہتر کی کی فرمائیت ہے یا اس کی درسائچی درسائچی بہتر بہتر بہتر بہتر کی فرمائیت ہے اللہ سبحانہ ہوسکی کے ساتھ لے جانتا ہے ، سیکاری حیرت آپ کو پر خواہت سازئیت ہیں اکت پالا اور اور شام پر اونے جو بہتر چیز کے لئے گھوکت دہ جاتے ہیں جو اور so on who will probably say no it is okay to have you know homosexual behavior but it is not okay to engage in polygamy my brothers and sisters it is not my rule it is not your rule it is the rule of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ if it is going to be done correctly and if it is going to be done properly then nobody would really have any objection the difficulty is today we choose the wrong way of engaging in polygamous relation and this is why people are upset it hurts people it destroys homes because how we do it is actually wrong and after we've done it sometimes the way we carry ourselves is even more wrong may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ grant us a lesson so the introduction I chose for this evening is to make mention of why we marry and I said it is in order to fulfill the plan of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and as a gift Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ has beautified the opposite sex and this is something that we would work towards you ask a young boy very young age for your information the age is becoming younger and younger because of the environment because of genetically modified food because of whatever else you would like to say but at a younger age they know more about marriage than sometimes those who are already married اللہ او اکبر اللہ او اکبر just like with the gadgets of today you find a little boy five years old will know more than his father about the iphone it's a fact may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ grant us understanding recently I was in South Africa speaking to a group of people and I told him from the age of 8 and 10 you need to start speaking to your boys and girls about marriage and a lot of them agreed with me I think because they know that from that age they already have their girlfriends and boyfriends and they are already setting their minds and eyes on people may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ protect us and grant us goodness and may he open our doors remember as parents it is a duty to communicate with your own children don't be shy if you are not going to tell them what marriage is all about what intimacy is all about they will learn it from someone who will teach them the wrong thing perhaps they will learn it from a colleague at school or perhaps a teacher who is homosexual himself or herself may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ safeguard us it's a fact it is happening on the globe and we are suffering as a result so I call on parents to communicate with their children openly and to discuss with respect that which needs to be discussed you are responsible you are the one who will build the mind of your child as to how to look for a spouse but if you never ever spoken to your child about looking for a spouse what type of a spouse do you expect them to look for may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ grant us goodness by right we should be living in a world where we help them looking for the spouse but me and I meaning yourself and myself we know very clearly that today that does not happen in a lot of cases and instances it does not happen they come to you and impose on you their choice that's it so it is best for you to help them make their choice by speaking about it whilst they are still quite young may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ grant us a good bond with our own children and may he make us from those who are not affected by the adverse environment or who can protect ourselves from it in order to be achieving the happiness of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ so my brothers and sisters we ask the almighty to open our doors in our midst there are people who are married there are those who are not married there is no third probability from amongst those who are married there are some who may have more than one spouse we will talk about that as well by the will of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and from amongst us who are married there are some who do not have offspring may Allah grant you offspring there are some who have offspring we've already touched on how important communication is with your offspring but from amongst us there are those who are not married yet or those who have been married and lost their spouses either due to divorce or death may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ open your doors once again and for those whose doors have not been open yet may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ open those doors of yours and grant you spouses who will be the coolness of your eyes it is important for us to know that the choice of person whom we marry is extremely important this is why Allah says in the verse that I read moments ago Allah says indeed in that there is a sign or there are signs for those who ponder you need to ponder you need to think what is marriage all about والاہی if you look at the حدیث of the Prophetﷺ he says people marry for several reasons people marry one narration says for four reasons someone marries because of the wealth of a woman you know it is ironic I've learnt about the culture in this part of the world it's quite different from the culture elsewhere as well the cultures differ I believe here a female does a lot in terms of financial contribution compared to other parts of the world my brothers and sisters sometimes there are some men who become wealthy because of marrying a wealthy woman and after that they make their wealth through the woman and then they want to harm the same woman whom they made their wealth through and they became rich via اللہ او اکبر مر اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ سیف گادس that is unfair that is very unfair we need to know a woman may be married for her wealth but that wealth may deplete so it is something that is very short lived a woman may be married for her looks but that looks those looks of hers will somehow سبحان اللہ I'd like to word this very carefully with somehow change and you find the trends of the world also بالان plumbing as to WHAT اس گود سبحان اللہ گود اکس there was a time when people who had a ghetto between the front teeth being concentrate as gorgeous so everyone use to go and get a gap in the between the front heat and then they came a time when نہیں پہ Row بھی طرح بہت بہت what  Histokedbilئی بہتی ہوا اب لہذا آلما Somet him دیکھ کے لئے اس کے ب疑ا لن باہ proverb پورiors آپ確ص ہم بہت سے بہت بہت니ان جبڑے لاتھ سٹùng ایشواربو cybersecurity مجھےون جانتے رہن Jie آ 뒈ację اس کیüğیک تحفلی اللہ سّterior relaxed اس رکو تحفلگود اور فست موجود موڈا ایک شاد لک Lot ngراد لیک کرم تیز grandchildren بہتاے ان پاس کے بہتcontسن وہ مجھے موجود اس میں جانت سکتے ہیں، اور دوسری گرہ کر سکتے ہیں۔ اسٹانی اہم گرہاتتے ہیں۔ وہ ایک حیرت میں۔ ہے کہ آرہتا ہے کہ مجھے مجھے مجھے فیمل جانتے ہیں ، یار از اندار اہم جو جبکرہ ہوتا ہے اور آرہتا ہے۔ باچے جبکرہ جبکرہ اہم جبکرہ ہوتا ہے جر اندار جر اہم جبکرہ ج습니다۔ آپ تعالی کھا۔ جس کنت ہوتا ہے۔ سبکرہ نے اپنے بھی جانتی ہے۔ کام ہوتا ہے جو جدوج knit سکز ہے، آہ کام ہوتا ہے اگر جدو جدو جدوٹ собир ہے مجھے لیکن بہت کام ہے، مجھے لیکن مجھے لیکن ایک مجھے لیکن ایک کام ہے، اگر بہت کام ہے لیکن مجھے چھنے کام ہے، ولیکن مجھے گ Вот کیا انing۔ و گاہن گاہن یہ کوئی بہت مجھے جہاں عہد نمی جنے کے لیکن کارکٹر کے لگنُٹوں ان کے بہت دین اس کے دین کے لگنہ کا مقاب ہے۔ دین نہیں مماد کیا ہے لیکن کافے داروں کو ملال کرنا ہوں لیکن باپنے سے یہ دار پر سب کافے کیوں کیوں کے لئے ان کے لئے ان کے لئے کبار کیا ملال کرنے میں ملال کرنا۔ لیذا آپ کو کیسے چاہتی رد کے لئے کو فرق بھی کسی رد ہے جانتے ہیں کہ آپ سلاتھ کو پر اپنے کی زراہ کرتے ہیں گے کرنے سے ہے۔ تھاکہ آپ حق سکتا ہے کہ کھو ہونے ملی کھو ہے لیکن آپ اس میں سالہ ہونے کے لئے بیڈر کو کھو ہیں آپ کے لئے اس شکر ہے اور آپ اور پانھا کہ آپ کو مجھے محفونítی میرے تھی جو آپ کو دیکھنے کا پردہ کرنے والا آگتے ہیں but he has a very bad mouth. he lies. he swears, he deceives. he speaks very rough to people. stay away from that man. he is not pious. it is just an outward show that is being shown to people. may Allah protect us. this is why the حدیث says ان کے فرمان کو سامسے لکھا ہے لیکن انھیں بات کرتے ہیں ۔ اگر انھیں بات کرتے ہیں تو انہوں کے لئے بات کرتے ہیں ان کے بات ساتھ میکنے کی سامسے لکھنے والا کے ساتھ بھی گوش اور قرار پردنے کے ایسا یہ ہی ہاتھا ہے اس بات کی حدیث ہے لیکن today's لوگ معاہی ہوں بہت پر بہت ہے ایک بچوں کی اٹسا جلسے لیپ کے بارے کے آگارے کے ساتھ بارے کے لئے جانا ہے اور پر بوڈا سکتا ہوں اور اگر آپ کو اسٹانا جوbackground of phone you are using the scent you are smelling is from India I need something from France بنا because are youals are you going to marry the man or your daughter شیらいہدے and some of the sense from India are far better than the sense if from France because in France all they do is they buy it from India they give it a good name اللہ牛 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کو بھی کو لگیار نہیں ہوئے雙 کے مطل sweatsمر چیز generation platforms حارت گرام مر Anita ہے اور ایک دل سے اوکی شوسSee میکن میں دیکھتا کہ انہوں نے دکھا ہے انہوں نے یہاں حول کے بارے کی طریبت لئی ہے جو آپ کو مستحقیات کو مقابلی ہوتےEEEEEEEEE ایک ایمانار کو senses کہاں اور انہوں نے ساتھ نہیں براہماریسا بارے میں نہیں دیکھتا اور ایمانار کسی بہت ہے یہ ایک محافظ حاہہوں کیا ہے اللہ ایکبر یہاں اس کیا ہے آپ کو محار نہیں سکتا ہوں آپ کو محار نہیں سکتا ہوں اللہ سبحانہ واتا علاہ aklاندی سبحانہ اللہ سبحانہ وسلم ، may He make us from those whom when the dowry is to be paid we have a simple straight forward amount and we do not make it difficult for our boys and girls Brother's and sisters I'd like to make mention of the statement of the age what is it bear it in mind remember it memorize it understand it and put it into practice عرضہ باکران کو سامنے میں بھنے ہمارا are مغدہ ساما کے ذات کو سامنے میں بھوگا ہمکسری نمینا کامل کرنا ہے جب وہاں بھوک سے اپنا اور بھوک کے فرمت ہی جاتے ہیں اگر ہمارا جانتے ہیں اگر سامکی بھوک سے اشتہ سبصار کریتا ہے ان کے بہت اپنے بہت کامل کیا ہے آپ بھی اور اپنے بھوک کے بہتر سے سامنے میں بھوک بمت کیا ہے اللہ سبحانہ وآتاعالا سبحانہ وآتاعالا بھوک ہے heißn happy потом are still much so that we would like our children to marry certain types of people because that is our dream we want a good man who will look after our daughter . Orint good wife who will look after our son Remember maybe our dream but my brothers do now forget you have to adjust your dreams that you have for your children as time passes because the deeds of those children will reword that particular dream or it will actually go back and rewrite that particular dream. Sometimes you want your child to be a Haafidh memorized the Qur'an to study the Dean, but the child is not inclined in that direction you need to adjust your dream. Sometimes you want a beautiful life for your daughter but she might come back divorced you need to adjust your dream. خاننے کی ایک انسان لی معلومت پر ایسا لگتا ہے اور وہ کسی بیٹکو لے جو کسی فرمار کرنے لہذا لیکن ایک شخص کو محاوری ہے کھلا ، یہ سنگنوں کو ہمارا ، کلکی حجت ہمارے کے پاس ، ہمارا ، معلومت پر محاوری ہے ہمارے کے پاس کو محاوری ہے کسی طرح آتے ہیں وقت ایک معا Jake لوگ کو لوگوں کو suchا کےو ihm کی کچھ جو ایک اح hotel پہلے یہی ہیں ، ولڈنیں بنا دستڑتے ہیں ، Nowadays ہم ایک حضرہحان ہے ۔ ہوں کو وقت اavasیس کاwlہ معتادی ہے۔ شہرہ پہنے والی ۔ النظر ہون گ دانمائے فر���لằ۔ بریا ، ب threaded،333 بنالا ہاہہہہ讲انی ہم تنزار کا اہل ، Jerزaaa بڑا، مجھےstones ایک ایکان کی وصت除ل ہے رسال کے ر شوک تو شہر 280 ب twitter اور بعض حالات بڑکی کرنا۔ اور کامیابوں کو مجھے ہاں لوگوں کی طرحی کیا کتی ہے لیکن لوگوں کو کلی ہے لیکن اللہ بڑکی جہاں ہم کہوں ہے کہ وہ بڑکی میں بہت گیا ہے لیکن نصہ مسلمت پہنے میں مجھے لیکن میں own ڈیت تھا ہاں یہ بھی مذہر تْنیت ہے کیوں کہ پھر میں آپ کو دیکھے کے لیسے گٹا آپ کو پہنے گا آپ کتی phone بھی مب انو لاتے لیسے ہوا ہے کہ اس معاہوں کو ڈی تک انہوں کو بھی گے جس اس کے دل میں کیا اگر آپ کو آپ کی بہت ساختی ہے سوالہ کو مرحول ہے کیونکہ آپ ان کے چیز میں نہیں جانتے ہیں لیکن ایک موکنے کا حیث بیکلی ہے اسی مستقبللہ تک پر gets کالا ہے میں ایک بھئی جانتا ہے کہ انہیں بھائیہ ہمیں ساری کے بعد اپنی بھعیہ انشاء اللہ ملے کچھ پڑھنا You سالے ہمیں جانتے ہیں یہاں کہتی ہے کہ بھائیہ کے ہونے کبی部分 نے اس کے بھائی بہائی میں اور ہم بھائی جانتی ہے وہ مین جار سالن کے طور پرEst that مورچنا آگے کار کرتے ہیں اور اس لوگوں hindsight ، مرہا ہون گے انجازہ ، کہان ایک شخص جو تو những کار کیو Moment ا Emmams sehr جو صرف بارو ہورا می کے نیکاه فلی کھر ہ collision وہ انجازہ کے حاصلی کے حاصل ، اور ا 떨어�ٹی سے포اسی والCEقل اور خصی pleasure مرسو کرنے ہی بڑا کیا Not a man. He looked at me and said what do you mean. I showed him three people in his own city. I said do you know these people are lost because they have gone out. Abandoned their families in order to get married to a person of the same sex. He was shocked. He said no, you have opened my eyes. I said we do not promote that we leave our Muslim girls and go out further. No but if it does happen that a man wants to marry a woman. Thank God we are living کو بہت اپنی حالتے میں بہت بہت ملی کرنا ہے۔ وہ بالکل میں سفر میں محمول سرکترہ سے احسان شخص کو رکھتے ہیں کہ اسلام مصبعا باقی کرتے ہیں۔ آپ کو لیوانا کہ یا پیتا کر لیونے کے دور ہی سے ہمارے کا بچانی ہے ا coaster ۔ ان میں شخصوں کو آپ کو بھی بلیوں نہیں لازم ،起اہت اور لس بیانوں کے لئے بڑی wayی Bao دے جاتے ہیں۔ کھجا آپ کو بہت کھیں دی۔ ان کے حالتے لیوان میں آپ کو یہ بلیوش رہے ہیں۔ اس کی وجہ سے حقیقتہ ہم دارے ہمارا ہے کیونکہ مسلمانیں ہم اپنے نائنہ کو ق coat کی ضدار ہوجاتا ہے anymore مسلمان میں اگر کامنے میں یہ حل的是 ہمارا ہے مصلمان میں ہمارا ہمارا اور ہمارا مصلمان میں ہمارا ہے اپنے بارتی شہر کو مجھوں کو مجھوں کو حکوری ہے مجھوں کو حکوری رہے ہوگا مالی گوانے کا عمل ہے مجھوں کو ہمارا ہے مجھوں کو حکوری رہا ہے بیٹش کے برور لالقےountain اندادہ Андی تم نرجائیں گے انجمن صر بہنہ owed آپ اسٹ کے برور لالقذہ Till life انجون جانتے گی شر favor اما بے اپنے کسی محل و علاوMag اfamily some valueできئے بتاеныگی کیا اسمجھ کیا جب ہم آپ خود به.۔ انت معلوم نیک داری کے نظرتyoomics م讓 حلوکو ہے. لہذا اسی لگی کامتا ہوں کہتا ہے کہ جہاں ساتھ لگا� fortunately اس برٹن میں ساتھ لگا ہے اس سے ایک سٹیزن شہرت ہوں را کہ آپ میں بھی ساتھ لگا ہے جو میں ہوں گا ایک لییی کیا چھوڑا رہا جیسا جہاں ہے сказал، بہت سے ہی مرسلی ملد کو مقاومات سوچنے اور وٹ آوی ایک دور کی ہی ہے تو کست ہیں وہ سبحانہ ہوں لگے اور بھو ہے ، جو آپ یہ قاہت دنیا組 دنیا بات کر لے گا ، آپ مرسلی ملد ملد سوچنے کیا بات کرتے ہیں ، کیا ہے کہ تب آوی لگا سوچنے کیا کہ آپ مرسلی ملد سوچنے کو بیک کرتا ہے ، تو آپ یہاں دی تھویش کرلے شیکچھیں ایس۔ انہوں کے مجھے بات کروشاہی پر چکلتے ہیں sometimes you will have to adjust your dream regarding the type of person that you want your child to marry it is their choice you can correct them you will try with them but believe me you have to somehow give in at some stage if it is a person whom you may not have considered ideal result because sometimes the other option is something which is even worse then what you are disagreeing with اگر شاحنہ爵یہ ار اپنے کو کائل ورے I know of many parents ان کے لئے وہ روح کرنے کیا جاتے ہیں پہلی مخلوق کیا جانتے ہیں ارواح بہت عدد اہمارے کی بہتurt Interviewer جاتا ہے اور اور میں آپ جانتے ہیں اس کے لئے سمجھوں کیا۔ اور آپ ہوا quantum because کیا اسے بالکلی پیدا جاتا ہے جو میں آپ کو کوئی میرے الحیات میں کیسے نہیں ہے میں کوئی سارے ہم سے معالیے ہوئے آپ کو still love you آپ کو آپ کو بہتتے ہیں آپ کو still recognize آپ مجھے اور آپ کیا پیوتا ہے کیا آپ کیا آپ پہلہ نہیں کیا وہ سے کہتے ہیں ہمارے دوروں کے ساتھ آرہا ہے اور ہمارے دورتی پر حیرت میں انکرانبا کی تکاریت کو سبسکرائی کی تکاریت سے پہلے لیں اور اسے ہم بنا ہونا جارتا ہے اور پھر ہمارے دوروں کے ساتھ آرہا ہمارے کھو سالیhhhh ماع سباز کو کھو سالیت ہے جمہ Saint اے ہمارے گھرها OMG پرتکتنا گئے کیا پڑا کیوں کیا آپ کو ہمارے گا آپ کھو کھنکا ہے بہت کنوہ شاہی ملی now you want to come in and say no i allowed you to become a mango for example but but now for example i want you to be a banana stop it allahu akbar i'm giving you an example of fruit because just before i entered here we had a bit of fruit me allah grant us goodness the fruit of sirilanka mashallah so my brothers and sisters it's not fair do you know that when a child is born allah gives you almost 100 percent control over that child you dress the child you name the child you decide when to birth the child what the child will eat all control don't say i don't have control over my child allah said i gave you full control when the child was born that's the time you did not dress the child properly you never it's your own salah there was no quran ever played there was nothing and slowly slowly as the child grows up one by one allah takes away the control of elements from you regarding that particular child so when a child is a little baby you can give the child a rattle one rupee and it will shake the rattle and smile and laugh with you let the child become five years old give them the rattle they will throw it back at your face dad are you playing a fool with me i need an iphone so at a certain stage you had control over the child what did you do when you had control over your child did you guide the child this is why i say speak to the child earlier because today we are losing control earlier you can dress your child how you want when the child is two years three years even if the clothing is torn let the child get to eight years nine years dad i'm not wearing these shoes why you make me look like one of those people living in the 1960s dad i need the latest you know there's nike air where you walk it bounces you know may allah سبحانہ وتعالہ protect us grant us goodness and ease my brothers and sisters don't blame allah سبحانہ وتعالہ for our failure may allah سبحانہ وتعالہ سبحانہ وتعالہ so this is why i say sometimes we need to adjust the reason is how can we allow or how can we facilitate for our children to live happily ever after when we did not let them marry the person they wanted we made them marry someone they did not want now obviously i'm talking of something which is not the ideal ideally ideally islamically we need to speak about what should be happening the parents of the girls and the brothers or the relatives should keep an eye when they see potential husbands for their daughters or their sisters and so on they should approach the gentleman or his family or they should speak to their daughter about it we have so and so we are trying to you identify you speak to them you let the two meet within the limits of the sharia and if they would like to take it further you take it further it's your امام as a male that is ideal and if the daughter says no i'm not too happy don't be angry no pressure my sister you have the right it is haram in islam to force your daughter to marry whom you want when she does not want totally forbidden it is a major sin in fact you cannot do that it is her choice she can say no at the time of rasulullah sallallahu alaih وسلم also they were those who said no i don't want to marry this man and they were not forced to it may Allah سبحانہ واتحالہ great as goodness the only time we can force someone is revel if revelation has been revealed to say these two must be married then we have no choice but revelation will not be revealed in the case of us may Allah سبحانہ واتحالہ great as goodness so in that particular case maybe she doesn't want to marry the first the second the third you have introduced her to five or ten with respect and when i say with respect you can find out from the scholars exactly how that should happen what type of arrangement you don't just say okay pick up my daughter at nine o'clock and bring her back at twelve o'clock that's not how you meet in islam it must be within your presence in the sense that you are close at hand the reason is shaytan comes to the boys or the girls sometimes and makes them abuse one another in a way that wallahi they are left like used toilet paper without any form of respect and then they say no i don't want to marry you may Allah grant us goodness may Allah grant us really the opening and may he open our doors so someone says but why can't i get to know him more you can you can get to know him much more you can meet five times you can meet more than five times but the rules of meeting are still the same you will meet with your chaperone with your mahram you will meet with them close at hand come to your house or we come to yours one of the two either i come to yours you come to mine and we meet with total transparency in in the or within reach of your mahram who is right there may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ قراندس good so no one can fool you and you talk you understand how you are communicating and you may said no you know this is not really my cup of tea and with respect you can turn that down turn the next one down the third one down no problem until the 35th one comes you might want to say yes lahu akbar i'm just giving you a scenario that can happen it has happened sometimes one or two people agree sometimes they don't agree don't worry but remember when you have turned one down you may not get another one remember that and when you have turned one down you may not get another one as good as the one you have turned down so you need to be very careful and this is why we say guide your child my daughter how do you feel how's this man what is wrong with him let's speak about it oh i don't feel right okay no problem let's see and if they still feel we don't want this is the ideal sadly today daughter's gone to university she comes back dad you're lucky if she tells you lahu akbar you're lucky if she tells you very lucky fortunate at least you are not heading up the wrong tree because people are busy looking for someone they don't know that already there is another monkey on the tree it happens a lot of cases and this is why i salute and respect those children who can openly say you know what dad i have done something wrong and this is what it is and dad you don't just lift up your your first and start firsting your children no understand that you are also responsible do not get angry you need to deal with something that has come into your home this is when they will be able to live happily ever after you know whilst i'm talking i see a few elderly people here wallahi my due respect to you we are now speaking of the age of today we are not speaking of how it used to happen in your time we are speaking of how it is happening today it is a reality on the ground so please excuse sometimes people might feel this man was too open you know he's encouraging our sons and daughters to do this and that wallahi they are already doing it so stop blaming me we know and this is why if you see me inshallah we when we grow of age we will give the platform to younger people so we can learn from them how to tackle our own children believe me it's a crisis i'm not joking what is the point of brushing your problem under the carpet completely until one day when that carpet is rolled you notice that all the dirt is underneath may Allah سبحانہ واتحالہ protect us may he grant us happy homes so my brothers and sisters i always like to encourage people to listen to their children look at the view what do they have who do they want to marry sometimes we have our sons or our daughters more so the daughter's they have arrived at a late age for example you know 30 35 they are stigmatized in society because they they are 30 35 and sometimes the father just does not budge and he says look you sort out your life why and sometimes the other women of society stigmatize them to the degree that they are not invited to functions outside why now you are well past your cell by date اللہ اکبر اللہ اکبر i don't think you really understood what i said they may Allah سبحانہ واتحالہ grant us goodness nobody is well past their cell by date my brothers and sisters remember it's your duty your responsibility you could be 30 40 50 no harm you need to still actively look for your child for a spouse and even if you as a male or a female have come across someone whom you may feel is a potential spouse open your mouth without opening your mouth you are guilty believe me don't just sit and think that suddenly in your bedroom he's going to really plop out of the ceiling اللہ اکبر it's not going to happen you need to open your mouth speak say something talk to your family talk to someone get a message across to his اکبر or someone and it is best to work with your family because your family will be able to guide you along they will need to support you and if you have a difficulty speak to the ڈولمہ and i really plead with those who are slightly older when you have your children listen to them understand that this is a new generation they they're thinking will not be like yours and with their children it is an even newer generation their thinking will be even more different one wonders sometimes i sit and i'm worried how are my children going to get married or yours later on those who are younger what will happen to them we are worried اللہ because society is changing rapidly what was the case 10 years ago is no longer the case today اللہ life has changed میرے اللہ سبحانہ وطعالہ گراندس goodness so we said two qualities when they come to you do not deny دینہ وخلوقہو the religion of a man and his character and conduct which makes part of his spirituality if those two qualities are found in the man his dean is okay and his character and conduct is okay he has come and asked for your daughter your daughter is keen and interested don't say no for nothing if you say no the hadith says there is going to be great کیاس on earth what happens suddenly the jinn gets into your daughter's head or sometimes the boy sometimes he might find someone else but the daughter suffers more she suffers much more because something that was close at reach you know dad has blocked it mom has blocked it it's something and she would suffer a lot and there is no shortage of women there is a shortage of good men believe that there is a shortage of good men and i plead with all the youth who are here become good men we don't want men we want good men responsible those who know marriage is about really getting together with someone who is suitable to be the mother of your children so that you can continue the plan of allah سبحانہ وطعالہ what is the point of having children in number who are worshipping shaitan rather have children who are worshipping رحمان میں اللہ سبحانہ وطعالہ گراندس goodness so this is why the youth remember your bad habits like smoking drugging clubbing pornography wasting time on the telephone and you know i sit here in serilankah because of the time difference sometimes it's difficult to fall off to sleep because time difference of various countries and where i come from and so on sitting and you see mashallah the world in colombo is online at three in the morning three in the morning someone messages you back allahu akbar but here in colombo it's three o'clock brother you are not from africa you are supposed to be asleep no i'm just covering my back as to why i was awake my brothers and sisters what a beautiful relation we have look we are muslimin we are talking about our dean we are talking of crises that are facing society today the youth leave your bad habits you need really to be a good man so that you are able really to rear the champions of the umma of tomorrow اللہ سبحانہ وطعالہ گراندس that to us and the same applies to the sisters sometimes we get caught up and hooked on to you know facebook and twitter and this man and that man and using it wrongly you see it's like a knife you can either use it in the correct way or you can use it in the wrong way more so people are using it in the wrong this is why if someone were to ask me i would tell you i strongly discourage facebook and twitter and this social network strongly discourage you might say well why are you found there well go and see how we use it if you are using it in the same way then perhaps you might want to revise that ruling may Allah grant us goodness but if you are using it to socialize hello and how are you i know of a case and i'm going to say it bear where there was a man who put a false image of someone else on his profile and he lured a young girl who was in her teen age to the degree that he flew across the ocean to meet her in a certain country and yet he was 65 years old a man with a totally false identity may Allah سبحانہ وطعالہ protect our sisters our daughters and our sons as well and this is why we say a zina dayinun you know zina is actually a credit you have you have borrowed something it is going to be recompensed within your family members you need to remember this and this is something that has been said by the scholars of a four time engage in tauba you can stop that that's the beauty they say if you fiddled with someone's daughter someone is fiddling with your daughter lahu akbar you better engage in tauba so that nobody messes around with your children lahu akbar remember this don't think that when you do something it does not have a reaction come out a dino to dano as you do to others so it shall be done to you unless you engage in tauba and you ask Allah's forgiveness and you mend your ways and your habits so remember this today we are facing a crisis in society because the man who is angry at what his daughter is trying to do is already himself involved with three other women illicitly it's happening in society and then we want to live happily ever after it cannot work that way may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ forgive us grant us goodness and open our doors so as we were saying that the religion is important and the خلق is important character and conduct then what will happen inshallah we will support our children we will live happily with them we inshallah begin now now i will i will mention a few pointers of how it is that the marriage itself should be handled so that we can achieve the mercy of Allah i tell you why marriage is not just a joke it's not just a social sort of a thing that happened no it is a sacred union and Allah has said اجعلوها فی مساجد ایکم keep it in your مسجد it is best for you to have it in the مسجد the house of Allah because you are going to mention the name of Allah there are several verses that will be read and you will see those verses in a few moments i will انشاء اللہ go through them and it is important for us to know that the house of Allah is that which has the greatest blessing in it so your nikkah firstly don't delay it do not delay nikkah unnecessarily once nikkah has ready the two parties are happy get that nikkah done so that any relation that happens between them thereafter happens in a way that is پرمس able remember that sometimes people say no my daughter is engaged brother three years later your daughter no she's engaged brother three years have passed she had two abortions in the process do you know that i'm not joking i'm serious my parents you don't know what we know they come to us for help when they cannot talk to you i know we cry when we see the children of the good people sometimes people we know and they come to us you know what i have this problem and that problem but sister you are engaged to the man how could this have happened you know my father told me you cannot marry now you are still studying my my my allahu akbar may Allah forgive us really brothers and sisters open your eyes see what is going on ask the people what is happening if you think we are not living in an era of hyper sexuality you are dreaming you are dreaming you are living in a dream world we are living in the dirtiest society up to this age there has never ever been a more hyper sexual society than ours believe me everything out there is about sex and i'm saying this because i have to fulfill my duty as a scholar of islam to explain to the people what is going on out there and how we are heading in the wrong direction because we are living with blinkers we don't even know what's happening ask your children in the university is what's going on if you have a good link with them they will inform you ask them tell them what is happening or ask what is happening in the malls or in the shopping centers or at the workplace you know you can be the best and the the most pious yes if Allah has granted you protection you will always be protected Allah grant us goodness there are people amongst us and i'd like to hope that the bulk of us seated here pure good people by the will of Allah you know how difficult it is to remain on that path you know how easy it is to sin today it is easier to sin than it is to abstain from it it is easier to abandon your hijab than it is to don it it is easier to leave your salah than it is to fulfill it that is because the environment has made it so difficult to engage in that which is correct but my brothers and sisters this is why i say do not delay niqah it's not just my statement it is a teaching that has come to us from the best of creation don't delay it and at the same time do not make it difficult in anyway we already spoke about the mahar the dowry or whatever else it is either way don't be too demanding and do not become a person who really makes it تف on their sons and daughters to get married because in that particular case we will be held accountable in the eyes of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ why is it that you as a parent did this to your own daughter you doomed her you punished her and this is what you did to your son you made him you really made him leave the dean in totality it brings me to one example living example where there was a young boy whose father was being so tough with him that listen to this he wanted to marry someone who was ready to revert so his father told him no not over my dead body what am i going to tell my friends and society my brothers and my sisters my this my that brother is from Allah your status is from Allah if you had embraced this it was going to be much better so you can explain to your friends and your family look you know i tried my best but today's society you know sometimes the children are doing their own thing and we have to try our best سددو و قاربو to make the most of what it is and to guide them as best as possible and you know we will see how best they can manage but instead of that this father chose to say over my dead body so what did the son do he asked for help from some of the scholars and so on and sometimes there is a limited amount of help you could actually offer because if a man is being stubborn you cannot really win so after some time he converted and left the fold of islam and gone why because to him the child was lost and the father is still proud of his action i don't mind if he became a non muslim but at least nothing happened against my will and he told his family members you know your children if they want to do the same thing you should also engage in this type of thing how the man the woman was ready so i had an opportunity to address this young boy اور when i spoke to him he told me something that is really a question of the age when i say question of the age i mean sometimes the mind starts asking these questions he said you know this woman is such a good woman that i married she has so many good characters and conducts she told me i'm ready to do anything you know i explained to her about the little i know about islam and she was ready and then what happened is when my father and my parents said no and everybody disagreed and they you know اسی طرح کیا کہتا ہے کہ my mother didn't really mind but she has to follow what my father says so after some time they questioned me her parents to say look we were all okay for our daughter to you know to enter the fold of islam now if she is not going to enter the fold of islam then why don't you enter our faith so he said yeah it makes sense you see he said yeah it makes sense if they refuse i will not refuse you people are not refusing so he says that is what made him turn now look at this the young boys of today this is the logic they are using they will not tell you islam is correct and islam believes in all the previous messengers and islam allah is one even the father perhaps doesn't read salah correctly but he was proud with his action may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive that man really we tried very hard but to be honest with you it is only allah who can bring people back that's why i say it is foolish sometimes you might lose your child totally rather you lose them 20 percent like i said you know moments ago and this is very true i've said it here in colombo in the past and i want to repeat it we have instances where people come and say you know sheikh there is a jin my daughter has a jin we say okay so the daughter says i see stars at night i hear voices you know this is what happens when i go this way i see a shadow like this that happens that happens i know default this girl could not marry the man she wanted to marry and so she is seeing stars because now she's not eating now she's not drinking now she's seeing things now ever her life is coming to a mess and so on or sometimes it's connected to diet diet meaning you know because someone told her you're too fat you know you're not good looking so she stops eating so there is no protein no minerals no anything in the body so she starts seeing stars the blood pressure is low and she starts you know so you tell her two or three things firstly you say you want jin does not like person who is very strong you know good you know that حدیط says believer who is strong and strong both meaning in your belief and even physically اللہ سبحانہ علیہ وسلم پر من Wangب او شانہ و شانہ دیسات جانتے ہیں امرام او شانہ او شانہ خاتشاہت مقبوث بیٹ ہے دیو میں آپ معرف رہا ہے؟ آپ او لئے آپ خاتشاہت مقبوثے کے نظر پر بھی نائ試 میں کرتے ہیں وہ او نوار بہت بہت بہت ہی ہے اسمین شانہ لائے امام پر صورت ہمے کہو مخلص یہ بھی آئی اراد Lynp ساکن گھائے اور سردنی او جن ہے جن بچا تھی نہیں تھا اور sometimes you ask them a straight up question are you married no do you want to marry a particular person they keep quiet father is sitting there that's the problem he is the disaster that is the jinn the father is the jinn open our doors you know i'm speaking from a lot of experience i'm not joking with you a lot of experience we know what goes around so you find your child is very sick and sometimes it is because of some form of imbalance within the home not necessarily in the mind but imbalance in the house then causes an imbalance in the brain then when your child becomes totally mentally requiring medication for the rest of their lives who are you going to blame law but it was simple for you but you made it tough on yourself look at how today we have only started speaking but we are speaking so much of reality on the ground because this is why we do not live happily ever after wife after 10 years tells the husband i never ever wanted to marry you do you know that but it took you 10 years to tell me and husband says guess what i was also forced what is the point what is the point their parents are foolish man is telling his wife after so many years i was forced i didn't want to marry you and the woman is saying i didn't want to marry you so who is responsible for not allowing the couple to live happily ever after and at the same time there are three couples that are saying the same thing to each other because that man the why the one he wanted to marry is telling the same statement to her husband and that woman the one whom she wanted to marry is telling the same statement to اللہ سبحانہ واتعالہ گراندس goodness this is called حدید this is why the حدید says if you are not going to allow that marriage there will be great chaos and fitna on earth all marriages are breaking up today when people get married we need to ask so when is it breaking because more marriages i was thinking that more marriages are breaking than happening so someone might say but that can't be the case it can be the case because this year if they have been 200 marriages and 300 divorce those of last year also divorcing now as time is progressing there are people who are unhappy in marriage if i were to tell you my brothers and sisters without exaggeration that more than half of us sitting here have a problem at home i don't think i would be lying i'm sorry to say this i'm very sorry i apologize in advance i might be wrong but according to what i know i think i've worded it carefully i'm not saying that you are breaking or your marriage is broken but we do not have a problem at home i don't think so i think more than half of us would would would admit if we had to that we have a problem at home why because of something what is the thing ask yourself the day you were married and you said yes i accept her as my wife the name of Allah was used the verses were read you don't even know the meaning of those verses up to today and you led your life in a way that was not in that direction so today you are sitting with a problem sin actually reduces the chances of living happily ever after when you want to sin and you do not want to be responsible you will reduce the chances of living happily ever after and when you were married you were so happy are you as happy as you were that day today if the answer is no what went wrong diagnose it change it let me quickly read for you the three verses that are read in خطبت الحاجہ which is often repeated when it comes to نکاہ the first one او Shoot Nevertheless ساتھ مجھ ان کامیجاareتنے جرکمانو ہے سي właے پیچینہی سین تو تور rele کی زocate کی ب rela کی commencer کچھ امید gros meکے آپ weren who ڈر ور Fryات notifications لی لو ہے لیے اور ہم خص then امید کچھ امید خص a reclaim نیزہ ٹھولoh امید خص و امید خص و امید خص و امید نیزہ ان گار بہت MATT رو کھول درنبار Kush تلせ بین دارissors مطور دارس ہو بنی دار違 اسین ٹھولان آ tonight ان کی ، اللہ کہتی ہے ، وہ اینے مجھے کسی میں دنہاں اور اللہ کا محلوقت ہے ، اللہ کی مہمورت ہے ، اللہ کی محلوقت ، اللہ کا ممارد جنگ پر کہتے ہے ، اللہ کی تحکètresہ رہے ہیں۔ ایک جو آپ کو ساتھ کی اس مادہ کیاive میں مجھے کرتی ہے ، جب آپ één آرہ ساتھ ہیں او آپ آپ کو کư ہم کو One دردیہ کر سکے پڑھے ہیں ، یا آپ کو تو مجھے کرمارے ہیں ، آپ کو آپ کو اس اللہ کی نام کو مجھے کرنے کیا ہے ، یہ كتی ہے کہ لیکن اسکر常ب ا connotation of how sacred the name of اللہ is be concious of that اللہ whose name you consider so sacred اللہ و اکبر and be conscious of the wombs. What's the meaning of the wombs? The female the women your mother your sister your wife your daughter be conscious of them and their right over you. Are you fulfilling it or not اللہ و اکبر an اللہ صز ان اللہ کانہ علیکم رقیبا اللہ ع чет لفت پڑے یہ کہا سکتی ہے، رقیب ک allen ک wz redesign him بہت زیادہ ہے بھانی跨لاب requirements today we look for any reason to break the marriage do you know that any problem we look we look for that which will make us part ways why is it that our fathers and the previous generations lasted longer because they did the opposite what did they do they looked for the smallest reason to hold the marriage together that's the difference we look for the smallest reason to break it we have stopped helping our spouses through a problem we rather opt out of the problem that is a crisis you will never live happily ever after you caught your husband doing something wrong two things immediately today they would say i'm going home i want to divorce out why because one thing went wrong the man made a mistake something happened he fell into the شیطان اور now the house must be broken that is stupidity and foolishness it really if the house was supposed to be broken for a mistake of a man or a woman all our houses would be broken by now every one of them tell me who has not made a mistake here we had obviously mistakes out of a different nature we are not talking of you know certain types of errors that are sometimes perhaps beyond a certain limit no but we are talking of errors and mistakes sometimes things do occur a while back when the spouse made a mistake the wife would say look this is very bad i will not you know expose your you to others i will try and help you you need really to stop doing this and she bore not only patience because nowadays the young girls don't like the word sabr sometimes young boys and girls you tell them make sabr they say you are one of those mullahs who came from افغانستان what do you think man we must sit and make sabr well to be honest with you there are people in the western world who also make sabr may Allah سبحانہ واتحالہ جانتا ہے جانتا ہے جانتا ہے جانتا ہے اللہ جانتا ہے جانتا ہے جانتا ہے جمیلا بے پیشنز a beautiful patience so instead of bearing patience what they want they don't want to bear patience anymore small thing and it's gone می اللہ سبحانہ واتحالہ جانتا ہے جمیلہ as i was saying a while back a problem happens they would help each other through the difficulty i know of cases and i'm sure your parents and grandparents whose financial condition was so bad that they did not have a house which was decent to live in but the marriage did not break today you don't have a washing machine at home that she says i want to go home i need a divorce why you think i'm going to wash she's a princess brought up being called my princess by her father now she's not used to lifting one spoon one spoon i can't why where is the servant otherwise i'm going home this is why we tell those who are wealthy may Allah grant you baraka in your wealth remember do not allow that wealth to create a standard of daughter who will not be able to be a wife of someone else remember this because when you have brought up a princess you can only get her married to a king remember that and as i told you there is a shortage of kings so what will happen she will go and she will say in my father's home i never cooked so now you're sitting back my fathers and mothers who are here today let me explain even if you are from a good home that is Allah has blessed with wealth get your daughters trained to do the certain duties that they may have within the home that is what it is and i don't even want to get into the debate as to should she cook in the house or should she not cook what is this wallahi look when there is a role to be fulfilled you fulfill it we have not got to a point where we want to argue and we want to mix and we want to do this and that in islam we believe that men and women are equal equality in terms of spirituality but physically they are different emotionally they are different and their roles that they need to play in terms of their gender is absolutely and totally different we believe this and the whole world agrees with it and i've told you in the past in this city that they are loose that you will find even outside this hall there is a picture of a man and a woman which which says this toilet is for males and that is for ladies gents and ladies why do they have separate toilets because they admit and they agree that the people are different physically they are different emotionally they are different and to be honest with you i when i entered one you know public loo in one of the airports i was shocked because two men entered holding hands i said this is more dangerous than having a loo which is mixed اللہ او اکبر اللہ او اکبر می اللہ سیف گادس when you see two men holding hands hugging each other entering the loo you are supposed to be worried they should have a separate toilet for those type of people می اللہ سبحانہ او اتالہ گرانٹس protection this is society and these are things we have seen and sometimes they are hidden from the eye of the innocent you know we sometimes you have an old elderly person he's never seen those things he's not bothered he doesn't know how the internet works and so on i am surprised i want to tell you siri lankans are some of the most advanced when it comes to the internet believe me very advanced indians and this this part of the world completely you will find everybody you want to get a message across one little tweet the dunya knows about it it's a fact می اللہ سبحانہ او اتالہ سیف گادس so this is why my brothers and sisters we say and we repeat and we reiterate we need to make دعاہ تو اللہ سبحانہ او اتالہ we need to ask اللہ for guidance and ask اللہ سبحانہ او اتالہ to open our doors the verse that i read the first verse of that خطبہ اللہ is warning us watch out how you treat your women look at what happens like i said do not break your marriage because of one thing or two things or five things no your duty is to work hard i know of cases and i'm sure you would like i said your parents and grandparents perhaps they did not even have proper homes and yet your grandmother's and mother's lived with them that is when you were born and that is how you grew up without shoes today if your husband cannot afford a shoe and your husband has lost his job people say i'm going home why because my lipstick you can't afford anymore اللہ سبحانہ او اتالہ سبحانہ او اتالہ سبحانہ او اتالہ سبحانہ او اتالہ and i think in some societies is the other way around man sitting back at home relaxing he says i'm divorcing you why you're not bringing enough money into the home look at how the world has become upside down the world has become upside down so we need to be careful remember look for something small that will hold your marriage together do not look for something small that will break your marriage how they lived happily ever after was they helped each other through their crises and problems they bore patients for eight years for ten years for 15 years after that they lived happily ever after without that patients and without correcting one another without accepting correction you may never ever live happily ever after because they will come a time when you will be completely lost remember the sweetness of the fruit of patients that was born for eight years is so sweet that it will last 80 years and even beyond sweetness of sabr and patients is something that is really it needs to be tasted in order to be understood so i call on the young boys and girls of today those who are married remember your spouse has one weakness work with him try and help him or her and try and you know learn to forgive that's something big we spoke about it yesterday when you hold a grudge it's excess baggage and wallahi it is if you learn to forgive wallahi you will appreciate your life happily ever after why we say this today when your son listen to this point when your son or your daughter does something major that is wrong you are ready to forgive them but when the father of that son or daughter does the same thing wrong you are not ready to forgive them but he is the father he was there before the child you follow and with the mother as well your daughter did something wrong you can forgive her but the mother of your daughter did the same thing wrong i can't forgive her but she was there before that one in fact she the daughter was a result of the union between you and the mother of that daughter may Allah سبحانہ وتعالہ protect us i am saying this just to make us think it is not necessary for us to just bear sabr when we really cannot endure it anymore no islam comes to your help and says no there are certain cases when divorce is really only the option that you have right now that we know we are not denying that but today we are talking of happily ever after if divorce happens to be the only choice out of a specific issue then سبحان اللہ that will be the way and perhaps that will grant you a life happily ever after but today we are talking about growing in marriage not growing in divorce the second verse اللہ سبحانہ وتعالہ says اویو who believe be conscious of the almighty as he is meant to be میننگ اکوڈنگ تو his level be conscious of him اکوڈنگ تو his level ابیسلی that is something very difficult and do not die except in the condition of submission which means lead your whole life in the submission of Allah you'll be happy if you lead your life in the submission of Allah سبحانہ وتعالہ you'll be happy because Allah has the solution to your problems and Allah has laid rules and regulations to help you avoid any problems whatsoever if you understand the plan of Allah you have the knowledge of the deen you have abstained from what Allah has asked you to abstain from and you have thanked Allah you have engaged in what he has asked you to engage in in that case even if something happens in your life that others would consider نگیٹف for you it is a win-win situation now this verse is read خطبت الحاجہ it is that important خطبہ which was repeated by محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم so many times a lot of us don't even know that we are supposed to be in submission and from this verse we can also pause for a moment and we can learn a lesson that my brothers and sisters when you engage in sin your marriage cannot work as such you cannot guarantee yourself the happily ever after title you cannot why because you are engaged in sin who owns that happily ever after title who can give it to you Allah so if you are in transgression if you are against the commands of Allah do you think that will happen sometimes you might be very happy your spouse is excited you are excited you live for 30 years the problems come after your child grows old then the problem comes when sometimes your grandchild can cause distress for you اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ پروٹیکٹس may he make us from those who can be the coolness of the eyes of our parents and may he make our offspring the coolness of our eyes so this is why we say don't sin when you sin you have reduced the chances of living happily ever after the third verse the third verse i would like to think in terms of marriage is one of the most important verses او you who believe be conscious of Allah look this has repeated itself for the fourth time now two times in the first verse once in the second verse and once in the third verse be conscious of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and only utter that which is upright your tongue 99 percent of problems in marriage are connected to the wrong use of the tongue abuse of the tongue or not occupying the tongue with that which is beneficial so the tongue the quran says and this verse is repeated even in the خطبہ of نکاہ خطبت الحاجہ it is repeated in that and the prophet ﷺ used to repeat it a lot if you know how to use your tongue you can save a marriage سبحان اللہ حالت your wife talk to her say good words or your husband tell them how good looking they are tell them how you appreciate their sacrifice for you my brothers and sisters marriage is about sacrifice the more you have sacrificed the more you will win the heart of your spouse sometimes even if they don't like you that much because of the word you might have uttered or mistake you might have made your sacrifice will act as a soothing cream over that particular گش that might have been caused and very soon the mark will be gone why because you say you know i appreciate you really you have sacrificed you have given birth to so many of my children and so on and you have done this and you have done that you appreciate because there comes a point in the life of man when he realizes that allegiance is with the one who has sacrificed for him all along what this means is some people as they're growing up you know they're interested in this one and that one but brother you are married they're interested still in that one this one here good looking this person that person good looking and so on and you know that person is very eloquent and this person is like this and like that but there comes an age when they realize you know what my wife is the best why she cooked for me she cleaned for me she has my children she stayed awake with those children she brought them up she did this she did that she tried her best she is religious she's trying to please Allah she is at the same time this and that she might be seven kilos overweight so what even if she's 70 kilos in total we don't mind میں اللہ سبحانہ هو تعالیٰ قرانت اس گودنس why because you realize that now you're old you get your you cannot continue following these little small models of the age like we said yesterday and the day before it's not like you're going to get them anyway and even if you want them they will not want you perhaps they might want your money and they might want something for a little while and after that they are also finding someone who has more wealth than you and perhaps slightly younger اللہ تعالیٰ قرانت اس گودنس my brothers and sisters when a person has faulted how do they make things right like i was saying the نکاہ how should it take place it must be simple very simple نکاہ we must not try and compete with the johns's know that that family had a very big نکاہ with 2000 guests we want to have one with 3000 guests that family gave this gift we want to have that know you are making it difficult there will be no baraka in that marriage you can invite how many people you want keep it simple keep it segregated separated make sure you understand it is a religious function it is not a social function understand that it is a function that is sacred and this is why treat it as though it is a function that is held because of the pleasure of اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ alone and then you will understand today we have you know people who get together music is blasting men and women are there the bride who sometimes is very religious the day she's getting married her hair is showing her cleavage is showing her legs are showing she's sitting in front of all the men and the husband comes in he's supposed to be a religious person but even he chooses clothes that do not depict any religiousness at all and he wants to sit right in front of everyone and everyone is taking pictures and congratulating them and all the young boys and girls Its has happened where a man has seen a woman at his own marriage prettier than his wife so he divorced his wife to marry that woman while I'm not telling you a lie it is a true story looking at this why because we don't do our things properly and then some of us say no and these people are like I said ملہ سبحانہ وえる اللہ سبحانہ و اللہ سبحانہ is a religious ruling I mean if someone tells you to hid your salai does not make them a bad person if someone تو آپ کو اسکا جو دیکھا جانتا ہے کہ یہ تقومتا ہے جو ہر برای کا ملیہ ہے تو جو سرائی میں جنگری بھی کچھ سے لکھتا ہے۔ اور میں جس کو مجھے لیکن ملیہ کیا اسی ساتھ دیکھا ہے اس سے ملیہ سے ملیہ ہے ، اندرسیت کے لئے ہمارے کے بارے کے بارے کے بارے کے بارے کے بارے کے بارے کے ساتھ اندرسیت ہوں ۔ ہمیں ایک بارے کے بارے کے بارے کے لئے لیکن ہمارے کیا جاتا ہے۔ and that is the pure جو دیزم ، سبحان اللہ ، لیکن ایسی سروں کو اپنے لیے جاتا ہوں اور کہتے ہیں اس سے باربریک رلیجن ہے لیکن ہم شبکتی ساکتے ہیں لیکن ہمیں رسائل هذه لیتا ہوں اور ہمیں کیسے congressional اس پر کیا ہے؟ بریس دوستانیزے میں وقت مل دل تک ہوں سیٹنیزم میں وقت مل دل دل تک کیی ہے سیٹنیزم میں وقت بھی کیا ہے اس کے سارے کو کارملیے کاتا ہوں مجھے تو پر سارے کو کارملیے کارملیے کارملیے کیوں مجھے ناں ایک آپ لیکن ہی ہے Chicago قیام کرنا اور یہ کسی بار کی ضرورت نہیں ہے جو پر مجھے بار کو نہیں ہے کے لئے پر مجھے لگا مجھے ہوتی تو مجھے بار یہاں سے لگی اور بڑے ہے لیکن آپ کی عنہتہ لگی اور بڑا ہے بوکر کرنا ہے بڑے کے لئے آپہار زیادہ بھی رہا ہے کہ اللہ سبحانہ وٹعالہ اپنے حالی کو سیدہ کی ضرورت کو سچھنے کیا کیا ہے جب یہ اللہ سبحانہ وٹعالہ کا دیشت ہے لہذا جانا ہے جب کہ ہمрамاہی کی زیادہ ہمرج ملی اور گزری کے ہاتھیں گے ہم کہ ہم جب جرلہ سے ہمیشسی سے ہمیشسی ہے۔ اگر بلاہِ لطیقت ہے تو بہت نفس پر ہم مخود کو علی حلی کرنا چاہیے ہے۔ سمجھا جس میں کہاں آپ کو عرفت کرنا گا، لیکن ہم بس بے لیکن ہم نے بہت ساکتی ہے ، جب بس بہت ساکتی نہیں ہم خود کیا ہے۔ اللہ یہاں دیا جب محظوظ ہے ، میں ہم جاہی ہورا ہم سمجھا ہے۔ وہ جو آپ جو لوگوں نے اللہ کی توانستہ کوPAچ کرنا ہے ، اللہ کے لہ dazu جو مفارادہ ڈاوالیمان افترا ہی، اوہ مفارادہ اچھا رہے ہیں وہ اللہ کی رہے ہیں وہ تب ہے سبھاکا مخیط ارقام ہوتا ہے کوئیرانوں اللہ مرحبا بھی سوانان کے لئے حقائق امام دیکھا لہذا انہوں کی توبہ یہاں بھی زیادہاں ہوتا کیونکہ جب کبھی جیسے لوگی بھی مرحب ہے کبھی ناپر ہمارا ہمارا ہمارے ہمارا ہمارا ہمارا ہی کبھی افراد ہے ان کا معایت6 فرم Tôi جو ایک بابا ہے ان کو محزشتی پر اگر انہوں کی حکوم کو مصلوح جاتا ہے پر مجھے اگر کہا ہے کہ سبراہچھا ہے ہے ، اس بارے کو لوگوں کے بارے کی باتا ہے کیا ہے کہ آپ کے بارے کی تلانی بھی آگا ہے کہ آپ کا معایت نقا четы corridors کے بارے میں کیا ہے؟ ایک بارے کے بارے کے بارے میں کیا ہے کے بارے کے بارے میں کیا ہے؟ جو اگر آپ کو اپنے دلوں کو دنیا کرنے کیا ہے decir دیکھنے میں لسے آپ کرنے پر آپ کرتے ہیں س 검찰ine兒 Rangers کیناسبنے کے عیصدین اللہ کے ملی کرتے ہیں اگر میں لوگ میں تو مि満ا سارے تو آپ کے ملی کرتے ہیں تو بھرک کے处 نہیں کرتك اور اسم آپ کے اعملین کنے chooses DankeAndMe اللی احمل ھا جوizzز closely مطلب فرمت پاس پی oil ٹلیعن اسی برانک ا chance of Islam ایسٹLES سپرتえっی'llپی صورتا ہے جھانے لیئ کے من و ال ہمارے سامنے پر اپنے کاملے کو اپنے دن نہیں جانے گئے اور وہ اپنے کاملے کی簿 کو Lost اور میں کہا کہا کہہ روک ہمارے کے لئے گئے ہے ہے دے لوگ کو لسن ہمارے کے لئے روک نہیں ہے اِلحااصبحانہ وتائلہ گراندوز گھڑنس جو میرے بھائیوں اور سوالوں کو میں بالکرزة جانے گا سکت سeled اور ایک چیزی ساتھ بہت بہت بڑی رہا جانے گا 所以 ایک بہاں بہت بڑی رہا ہمری� آسانے کی کم دیکھوکا ہی کوئی باد allí کے جانتے ہیں کہ سالتنا ہوں۔ سالتنا ہوں۔ آپ کو سالتنا ہوں۔ ہمی خوش جلیہ بھی تک ہ professionals چاہتے ہیں۔ پہلال ہمی چاہتے ہیں کہ ہم جو اکسی باریو بھی سوگ نہیں ہوئی ہیں گا۔ ایانی عظید لگہمی ہے۔ آپ اس سالتے ہیں۔ ایک خ장이 ہوں۔ ہمیں ایانی مکروش کی رہے ہیں۔ آپ کو انوش از مقابلتے ہیں۔ انہوں کا ذہب میریک ہے کہ سالت کوئی باریوچی چاہتے ہیں۔ کے بارے میںانا تھا اس سے ، وہ کہتا تھا ، پیغہ لی محظور ہے۔ even if it is against your own spouse ، آپ جھو ایک خقل ہےfachا Zero لگو جعینہ آپ تیارہ رہتے ہیں آپ کے بارے میںانا تیارہ اور شاہی ، بھلکہ ہمارے بغیر اگر آپ کی بارے میںانا ہے۔ ہمارے سا thanس پہنچھ پہنچ ہورا ہے۔ روپ Couldn someone can blackmail ۔ روپ yesterday Can someone can frame روپ تھا مجھوے سن that the man was about to repent from بیکائم بہنی اثر نے مجھے آپ کی ررتی پڑے حصل ہماری جو ویارانے کے پاس ہماری جاتاہے ہمارے تو ، پر چیٹنے کی بہتنے جاتا ہوں گا ، But they are life جو ان ان آپ کو حالت اپر موردہ پر قرار ہوں گا because they are not even aware of what is ڈاکہ مالہ کے بھی جہاں ہے انہوں کی زیادہ ہے اماری اللہ سبحانہ وچہالہ جانتا ہوں گا یہ جیسے تھے اگر سیچہ لی promotions ہے ایسا ماری ہماری اپنے لئے اس میں ستاننے کا مستعمل ہے کہ ہمیں نمی ساتے لے آپ کے فرصہ فرمز میں کچھ جرک پر صفیقت۔ جو اگر کم پر کچھ رہنا ہے اور اس کی حالت میں خوف یہاں ہی لگتا ہے جسیada اس کو پر ملکک رہا ہے کہ پر آپ جو بہت تک آپ کو کبشاہر رکھنی ساتھ دور ہے. پہلے آپ کی سبوز بند پہنі ہے۔ sail plane مجھے سکرین ہے۔ تو اس میں اپنی داسوان پر ویردیا ہے۔ جب آپ کو سبوز بند پہلے بھی آپ کے سpartوں کو کہتے ہیں ، ہماری بات ہو جو سیکوڈ کو تصمیہ کر لیتے ہیں ، آپ کو پہلے ہیں۔ لہذا now you have a man he's on his phone every time he's secretive he's holding his phone when his wife comes he does this now brother if you don't want to instill that mistrust in her what are you doing what is this going to achieve so now you do this and then he says didn't you hear the talk you're supposed to trust me i'm just testing you whether you're trusting me or not you see the laughter means this is what some people must be doing i'm testing you whether you trust me or not well that is foolish because you don't do that do not invite mistrust no do not invite mistrust another mistake that people make you don't need to confess all your sins to your spouse because they are not a اللہ remember that they are not اللہ your spouse is a person yes you will be the closest to them they will help you through your sin and to eradicate it and so on but you confess your sin to اللہ and you eradicate it as soon as possible when you are nabbed you ask اللہ سبحانہ وتعالیٰ to forgive you you may have to say a few things and you may have to make a few promises and so on but if your link with اللہ is strong you will not need to worry about your link with your spouse because what will go wrong what will go wrong this is it and this is why we always say ita اللہ ita اللہ look at it four times in those verses but did we know that secondly the issue of time my brothers and sisters many of us are guilty of not spending time with our families time will build your relation to the degree that you live happily ever after because time is very valuable spend time with your wives your children your your family members very very important sometimes people sit with their friends sometimes they sit on computers but i'm at home so what you're sitting on the computer it's as good as being somewhere in another country altogether because when you are on a computer and this has happened to all of us when you are seriously working they can be talking to you you don't know what they said nothing you just you know the typical one would you like some tea yes did you even hear what they said you didn't let's say so do you know today i went to the school yes you know today it was your child's graduation yes you know today he won a prize yes but you haven't heard anything you know you are very stupid yes why because you didn't hear anything you just said yes yes because you are busy with in another continent that is time you are not giving time set aside the time put away something spend it with them look at them talk to them wallahi this is how you will help your children one day to live happily ever after because they saw my father did this i will do it also for my spouse my mother did this i will do it for my spouse today we have a difficulty father is in his own world mother is in his own world and the children are in their own world when they get married they are also in their own worlds because that is how they grew up watching their parents in their own worlds but when the father spent time with the mother they were very fond of each other they they you know they exchange these very romantic glances and whatever else may have been within respect in front of the children obviously respect is required but they need to see that there is affection between the two of you so when they grow up they understand that love is not just about the outward looks of a female but it is something far deep after my mother gave birth to so many children still my father considered her as the rose of his life look at this so the child learns but no father is busy he doesn't have time for mother but when the secretary walks in oh yes how are you okay yes have a seat can i get you some coffee but mother was asking you if she could get you coffee now you are asking her if you could get her some coffee and this is a totally different person allahu akbar so with the child watches so what are we doing we are reducing the chances of the child living happily ever after let alone ourselves because the child is watching this is why we say spend time with your children very important i put a value at one meal a day with your child is worth 10 000 us dollars and probably more more because sometimes that meal a day might make your child say something you guide the child you spoke to the child had it not been for that they would have got guidance from someone else because they never get a chance with you and then they make a wrong decision in life which results in their total destruction what then it only costed you a meal a day allahu akbar allahu akbar this is why get home early don't go every day and say there was a lecture tonight this is why we only remain here for three nights or four and we go away so you cannot go home and say tonight there was a lecture which lecture what did they say are you going to say that they said we must not spend time wasting time outside we must get back home physically home even your friends believe me many marriages have broken because of friends the friends say hey you know what are you doing man you know how can you be controlled by your wife you want to go home the time is only 10 o'clock man the night is still young but my wife is also young remember that if the night is young your wife is even younger she deserves it more than you my brothers and sisters many marriages have been broken because of late nights people sitting on the internet people chatting haram way to people they are not supposed to be in touch with how did it bring you goodness wallahi it doesn't you want to live happily ever after close it you don't need to be on that chat it's life will not come to a standstill without you believe me but your real life may come to a standstill with that chat do you know that اللہ اکبر اللہ اکبر میرہ اللہ سبحانہ وطعالہ گرانٹس کنٹرول the internet is a tool that is so addictive that you lose track of time the minute you are hooked onto it so we ask اللہ سبحانہ وطعالہ to grant us understanding another very important point my brothers and sisters to live happily ever after you must be neat and tidy i know someone might think well what does this have to do with you know the whole thing we want to live happily ever after sometimes a spouse does not like you because you are shabby and tattie they cannot tolerate you because you know you leave your smelly clothes lying around here and there you get up and you are not in order sometimes you after you use the loo it is as though there was a whole chain of people who have used that loo اللہ اکبر اللہ اکبر and you will leave it so dirty and filthy that the wife تکرم my job now this man married me only to wash after me to wash after him why is that the case you need to be neat be tidy cleanse yourself take pride in your dress code for your spouse for your family to watch your children will see that my mom always looks smart and it was not to you know to attract the man at the mall know it was for my dad and for us and she was always a person role model in the home you have dressed smart and پرمان پروپ your clothes are good and you know neat and so on according to your level so that is a very important point if you would like to live happily and if you would like to live happily ever after make sure that you are dressed prim and prop neat and smart and make sure that you have presented yourself as the father of the home or the mother or a person who is a good spouse who is dedicated towards that marriage very important point we spoke about already i'll just say it the point of communication you need to communicate with your children and with your spouse if you do not communicate with your spouse you cannot expect that marriage to work you must have a good relation they must be able to say to you and you must be able to say to them whatever is in the heart in a respectful way and remember how you talk to your spouse also determines how long you will be with them because if you keep on screaming and shouting they won't tolerate it more than a while after that they're going to get fed up they will want to go home nobody spoke to them like that in the past you need to know speak to them with respect utter good words the minute you shout scream swear lie cheat deceive that will not be tolerated more than a certain amount of time no so stop screaming and yelling at home stop using words that have a better alternative i have spoken about the term shut up shut up is a very bad word you rather say keep quiet it enhances your respect and it will achieve more than the term shut up have you thought of it keep quiet is a far more respectful term even with your own children so communication and how to communicate is a skill that will really help you in marriage thereafter one very important point take correction when you are corrected admit your fault and nod your head and appreciate it whether you are a man or a woman even if your wife tells you you know what i feel you are wrong who do you think you are i'll send you back home that's the attitude of today that's the attitude no your wife has the right to tell you look i think this relation was unnecessary i think the way you should handle this should not be in this particular way you should be thankful no i appreciate what you've said and immediately i will do something about it mashallah now you live because you appreciate they are a female females are today big big ceos of some of the most successful companies on the globe have you realize that and sometimes in our own home we don't even give them a say allahu akbar no say i'm a muslim and you are not supposed to tell me anything you are a female i'm a male where did you get that from which islam are you following brother where in islam does it say your wife is not allowed to correct you show me any verse any hadith any saying of any of the scholars that wife is not allowed to correct husband they the women have rights over them or they have rights that need to be fulfilled similar to the rights that they would be fulfilling which means the rights are on both sides you fulfill they fulfill like we spoke about spying you do not want her to spy you don't spy on her the same thing سبحان اللہ ماء اللہ سبحان اللہ تعالی قراندس goodness so if you would like to have the right to correct her she has the right to correct you too we should not give islam a bad image by making people feel that you know what our women are just slaves whatever i say goes but when you are wrong she has the right to stand up and say you are wrong so much so that if you are very wrong beyond the certain limit she has the right to actually apply for a nullification of that marriage without even your involvement and she can get it do you know that she can go to the to the شرعی court or to the group of علماء who is handling these marital crisis and she can say i would like to apply for a divorce on this grounds this grounds this grounds if those grounds are valid she will be awarded that after the fulfillment of certain system that takes you know a certain steps that take place may Allah سبحانہ وتعالہ قراندس protection so the issue of correction we need to take correction i spoke about sacrifice sacrifice is the cornerstone of a successful marriage remember young boys and girls people think i'm getting married you see that's the last smiley smile you see i'm getting married see i'm getting married and when you see him the following morning he says i'm married i'm married but what happened ایٹو کیم one night to realize it's a big responsibility on his shoulders he now needs to look after someone's daughter he took her with the name of Allah he needs to provide for her he needs to make sure that he respects her he has a new relation in his life needs to change if your life does not change after marriage then perhaps you don't understand what marriage is all about this is why we say sacrifice is the cornerstone towards living happily ever after when you get up the following morning you need to realize i must get up i must do this do that when you are lazy yesterday i used the term a bag of lazy bones wallahi it's a fact if you are lazy you cannot expect to live happily ever after there is no room for laziness when it comes to marriage both for the male as well as the female get up and work hard to insha Allah to prosper in that marriage of yours then what is very important is to support your spouse to stand by your spouse to be fair and just here i need to spend a few minutes what is the meaning of fair and just your mother has a problem with your wife you don't just side with one of them no you must be just you must be fair if your mother is wrong she is wrong even if she is your mother we have an attitude where we say my mother is my door to paradise my brother sometimes your mother is your door to hell did you know that from islam i'm telling you if that mother of yours is oppressive and she is doing something wrong she could be your door to hell not to heaven do you know that wallahi and i i am saying this with all passion because we have seen a lot of marriages where the mother-in-law thinks she is the queen who is married to the woman who you are married to before you and then she comes and relays all her unjust instructions which are absolutely unacceptable and the man just sits down that's my mother that's my mother that's my mother how long are you going to keep on saying that's your mother when she is oppressing your wife something somehow somewhere needs to be said either speak to your father or tell your mother mother i love you so much i did not marry this woman for her to be a means of taking my love away from you or your love away from me the love i have for you is totally different from the love i have for her so mother i will love you forever but i want to tell you this is the line you do not cross my beloved mother and you kiss her forehead you can kiss her hands and her cheeks and tell her that my mother you are wrong lay it down when you do not lay your territory your marriage cannot work people don't know where's my limit they don't know so how can your marriage work your mother doesn't know your father doesn't know some fathers issue instructions to their daughters in law worse than the instruction of their own son to that wife of theirs so what was the point father why didn't you just marry this woman one time that is not fair you cannot just come and say that's my daughter in law i must tell her you stand here you go they know they have their life give them their freedom understand they too need to grow in marriage to live happily ever after it's not just you who comes and dish instructions and go out i know this what i've said here might be a bit bitter for some people to digest but it is a fact of life it is a red button that we press and we need to press it and constantly remind people because when you talk about happily ever after remember you need to address issues that are current and valid otherwise you are wasting your time i cannot speak about a fairy tale because none of us will then learn something by the time we walk out of these doors so this is why we say you need to be just tell your father where he should stand with respect and please the parents do not hate your child just because he needs a bit of time with his wife no or the wife needs time with the husband or the children no allow them that let them go you do not have to go everywhere your children go we are going for a holiday for example to pinang or to lankawi so now father says we are coming with okay you come with mashallah the next year we are going to holiday we are going to this place we are coming with the following year we are so whenever did they go alone never why because mom and dad tag along give them once or twice a few times give them their own tell them look you guys go along inshallah enjoy yourselves and next time we will join you perhaps you can arrange for us yes it is very important to look after your parents believe me we are not at all undermining that that is a rule on its own look after your parents but be just when it comes to your relation with them and the relation with your spouse be just even your children some people and this happens in some homes they have more than one child so the children begin to get children so those children who live with them in the same home every time we shout them we pick on them why because they live in the same home and when the other sons children come because they live far away oh my son where were you what happened these children are watching they are seeing look at this grandfather of mine these people here does he know what they do at school and here he is embracing them it is only because we are foolish human nature makes us get irritated with those we live with sometimes and we don't know those who are really irritating are actually so close to us because they are far this is why we tell parents sometimes you need to make sure your children live a little bit of a distance from you so that you can be even closer in relation and I have seen in my life with lots of experience that those children who do not live with their parents are sometimes closer in relation with their parents they have a better understanding and they have a much better relation and I am not promoting people to abandon their parents no you need never to abandon your parents if you do that you are sinful of the highest order but what we are saying is give each other your breathing space is very important give each other breathing space some women they get married into homes where mother-in-law sits and dishes instruction right today we will cook this this this this this i'm inviting 20 people for lunch 40 people for supper tomorrow morning 60 people for breakfast but hang on man i'm one daughter-in-law here we are a few people here what's going on if this happened once a while it's okay but you cannot just sit back and dish out instructions as though this is a restaurant ماشا اللہ if you really want i have a friend who owns a restaurant known as dine more down the road perhaps we can go there ماشا اللہ ماشا اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ قراندس goodness i had to mention that because you know there are a few restaurants we've been to here ماشا اللہ the cuisine is something else so my brothers and sisters i'm just thinking of it probably the cooks are are males not females remember this when you say food is very nice a sharp woman would say well that's a male cook which means now let's eat here every other day اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ قراندس goodness so the point being raised is be just be fair be balanced you cannot keep it lopsided all along because you will have your children they will grow up they will get married how do you like your daughter to be treated remember this remember a very important point then a very important point also is non comparison in two angles you want to live happily ever after دو not compare your marriage to someone else's perhaps they have bigger problems than yours which are hidden and you don't know don't compare your marriage you look at your own condition are you happy is your situation okay you have you are living in a hut masha Allah you have a bedding on the floor and you are so excited masha Allah the water is there everything the minute you see another man who has a beautiful home you entered and there is a big bedding there with a lovely mattress and five six پلوز مشاہ اللہ this happens and that and then you you come back home and you are upset why you know those people are living so happily man look at them why should you destroy your hut looking at the bungalow of somebody else you are never going to get there اللہ اکبر you are not going to get there so do not compare your marriage to others you be happy with your situation for as long as it is okay you make the most of it one day if Allah wills he will grant you even better پہلی ہماری جننہ این جننہ you get what you want so comparison in terms of your marriage another thing to compare children also reduces your chances of living happily ever after you know and you don't allow this to happen the worst is when someone enters your home and starts comparing children or you yourself in front of your children this one is very dark in complexion this جو关یا سے یہ جا رہ جا ہے اور یہ ت儿ام شاملہ ہ اس کو ایک دہاں نہیں ان 거 سے کہ رہا ہے ایک اللہ improve کمی کبھی یہ کمی لیکن کسی ج opportunا profitability دنائے یہ جندہ کی ، جمین 가자� جس کہ وہ جو بہن ا BER رہا ہے کہ انہyba لگ малоahl دوں انہیں اپنے کتنے کے حیث دیکھنے پر واقبش اپنے کما کو economy بس exploitation ، кол NAU nosotros بہر من فوج زیادہ روح سی Add古 ان کرف A و حاولیں و حاولیں و عق around و آپ'tے معلومت پہنانا چاہتے ہیں. بہت ایک از ساتھ سب اصلہ کی سوانتی میں۔ اور جب جلوہ کے تواں ہمارا کہ ہمارا چاہتے ہیں ، ہمارا چاہتے ہیں ، اسی بردی۔ my sister you are calling your son a dog how could you do that if your son is a dog I don't want to ask what it makes you. اللہ وسلم اللہ وسلم my brothers and sisters very پرک دردیے سواپ، ملہ سبحانہ و عطا عالہی سمتوں کو دینے کی مطابق ہی ہے۔ ملہاں اپنے دردیے کے دلے کرتے ہیں۔ ملہاں مبادر ہماری اہمینی سائنہ بہت لئے ع accurately��ی نقش جاناً جو ہی جاناً۔ چلنے کے آنگر آنگر ہے جس� کو خیلی جانا بھیا جانا ، اور یہاں ملہاں یہاں سانے کی بھی خیلیان میں سے حامل ہاد، اور اپنے بھی بہت ساکتے ہیں کہ کیا یہاں Bonjour ، اللہ سے خاہلاتی ہر ہوتا ہے یقرار اور تریخہ دلٹا ہوتا ہے ، آپ مجھا کرنے بارے میں مرنے اور دوماہیں بھی زاتکار ہوتا ہے اور اس کی مجھے سائلładہ ہوتا ہے۔ اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ اس کا مبالہ دور ہے۔ میں بارے کے مجھے جو بودہ ایشو سے لگا جاتا ہے جس اور ہی ایشو کی چالتا ہوں تو جو ایشو سے حلی بھی ہوتا ہے اور ایشوایت کو مجھے پیدائے ہوتا ہے۔ آپ کو کچھ کرتے ہیں، یہ انا آپ جانتی ہے اور یہ آن گتا ہے اور یہ ہے مرحباا ہے ، یہ ہے کہ یہاں جو ہم کہنا today ہم پہلیکمی آہے ہمارے ہمیں کہو جانتے ہیں لہذا ہماری بکنی دیدہ کرنا چاہتے ہیں, با کیوں کہ یہ سوئتے ہیں ہے۔ ہمارا آپ تاکہ ہے کہ پہلیکمی آپ لیسا سامنے کیسا ہوتا ہے کے معرفتہ ہوں کیا ہے اگر آپ درکار ہے ا saints کبھی باری شہر ہیں اور داریی کیوں کہ ساتھ پہلے ہیں لہذا now you have people who keep it a big secret and after four years it comes it pops up you know like bread coming out of the toaster and it's burnt and then you expect things to live rosy and you go to make your wife feel like a non muslim you know to say you know what if you do not accept this then you are not in islam what is this my brothers you need to be reasonable these are human beings you are dealing with not animals they have feelings they have a heart you need to talk to them you need to make them feel wanted you need to make sure if you are from amongst those who has more than one spouse you need to make them feel equally important you need to go out of your way to build that love with either spouse if more than one or two because we are muslimin because it happens in our society you would really be serving yourself the death blow if you ہت to prefer one over the other in terms of the statements that you make to them or being unfair may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ سیف گاڑا سو really you are not allowed to go out to one and to make her feel that she is so low and cheap compared to the other why that is haram forbidden perhaps the one who gave you children first the one whom you were married to right at the beginning perhaps that one may stand up for you the day you needed most and at the same time you may have benefit from the other and perhaps the third and perhaps the fourth you may have benefit and they may come with their own goodness so remember each one comes with a unique goodness سبحان اللہ you need to know how to identify the goodness in each why is it that we want to identify the weakness and we want to get irritated and remember sometimes it takes a little bit of time for women to come to terms with this if you are a man and you are a real muslim and you fear اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and you want to follow the sunnah of muhammad ﷺ you will realize and understand that your spouse is only but a human being you need to stand up and make them feel as wanted as ever it is not difficult to make your wife feel like she is the queen and to make the other one feel like she is exactly the same queen اللہ و اکبر it's not difficult but you need to know and you need to realize the statements that come out of your mouth mean a lot go out of your way to utter good words don't compare things and remember we as muslimin are taught to work on the goodness and to identify and praise the goodness you know i was asked a question by one young man this question has repeated itself so many times perhaps i have received more than a thousand emails in this regard people who are hooked onto pornography so they tell you and this is an example i'm bringing it up for a reason they tell you you know we are young and you know the one one brother says i i try to leave this but i really can't what is it what can i do now it's not easy to advise someone especially from long distance and you don't know who they are so one of the best ways of advising them is the advice of some of our scholars who have given the following advice they say when you have a sin that you are engaged in you are trying your best to come out of it but you are falling back into it you are trying your best to come out of it falling back into it one of the ways of tackling it obviously is to increase your good deeds so much so that your bad deeds will become automatically decreased when you increase your salah your tilawan your your condition of your thickr your goodness you're going to the masjid you're attending the islamic lectures or talks or lessons or the schools and what have you so your good deeds have increased so much and your thicker and what have you has increased automatically your bad decreases when you do Fuck your bad deeds party and you will find your bad deeds decreasing automatically if you read your fiveDid in the Masjid every day you will find it difficult to commit adultery. مانتکل لیں. اگر آپ دائیں جو ایسے مرکہ صلاح داریں جو جو ایسے بھٹا ہے آپ انہوں کو آجنے کی معازجاہ کرنے کے لئے صلاح کے لئے آپ کو دلتے ہیں آپ کے جو بھی جو اللہ کیا جو صلاح کے لئے بین نہیں ہے آپ کو آپ کی وقت لیں ستاری کر دوسر دباری ہے لیکن آپ کو جو آپ میں زیادہ سا کہتے ہیں لیکن انہیں سبت تھی اوہ میں اپنے ساتھ ہوں کہ آتے ہیں When I Hear the Landline Ring at My Home I Know It Is An Important Call because those who have your landline number are those who need to have your number اللہ گھران دهزی جو سوچا ہے لیکن لائنٹ لائنٹ своей کلنے کے بارے ہیں there are some countries they are not even worried about landline anymore you ask them landline they just you know they give you the typical Asian head shake just you don't even know whether it means yes or no ، اور آپ جو آپ جو کسی سالتی نہیں سکتے ہیں ، اللہ اکبر ، اللہ جو برسیت کردے ، اور جب ہمینا رہا ہے کہ اللہ سبحانہ ہمی طاعلہ سے خاترہ ہوتا ہے. تو یہاں ہم ہم ، ہم ایک ناوہ سے ملی ہونا ہے۔ ہمیشہ کیا ہوتا ہے ، حیہ میں متاہد اگر اپنے اگر مجھوہ کیا ہے جس جانتے ہیں ، اور ہم ایک حسن کے بارے درسیتے ہیں ، ہمارے سے حصولیہ سے ملی ہوگا ہے۔ انہوں کو کس طاقت ہم بھی کم بن کیا ہے اور کبھی انہوں کو کس طاقت بھی بہت پر سکتے ہیں اور اس�ور لیسے اور بہت سے آپ کے باتا کو سکتے ہیں یہ کیونکہ یہ بہت سے خالط جنہی ہے اور اگر ایک جانے کا بیٹھانی کم رہے ہیں اتنا کس حر کے ساتھ ہوسکتیں سب نوش ملک جس جانے کے ساتھ ہوا ہے جب آپی tomorrow نام یا ترانی لئے ہند، آپیاںوں کے زیادہ نہیں کیا ہے جب آپ کے ایک چلنجی سے بھی اوڈی کا احوال کرتے ہیں جب آپ نے حاصل کی تعلیموں کے نام میںپر you've some تک ہوتے ہیں آپ نے گمانا کیا ہے تو آپ نے کل ہی خود کیا ہے آپ نے تعلیم کو کل مکرو پر کیا ہے اللہ سبحانہ وطعالِ قرآنتا ہے آپ نے خوانیت ہے گمانا ہے جب آپ کو کوزار ہو سکتے ہیں والی کیا ہے اور آپ کو کوزار ہو سکتے ہیں جو وہاں پہلو اکتا ہوتا aging آئا رہا ہے permit اسی مرد کیا ہے ما کے لئے ترلصہ ہوئی آپMatt جانا ہوتا ہے جو اس جو کل 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حقیقا کہ ہم جانتا ہے کہ قرآنی ہی بیٹنے سے ایک بھی بیٹنے میں چاہتا ہے میں ایک تعلیم کو ایک جو شاہی میں ایک آرائیی جانتا ہے جو آپ کے نام کو ایک نام تک ہے جنا کے جو ایک نام کے لئے جزاکم اللہ خیر اسی جانتا ہے them are on the ground we face them they are challenges and this was a means of letting you know how through experience and through the little bit that Allah has given us we would be able to move forward Insha'a Allah in a way that would result in us living happily ever after may Allah grant that to us until we meet again next year if Allah wills we say we peace be upon you to Muhammad