 Okay, welcome back. We'll continue on where we were started. We were on chapter 13 looking at setting boundaries through this chapter. We were, we initially spent some time understanding how being married doesn't isolate us from other emotional affections and how we looked at the progression of how emotional entanglement and sexual relationships adultery can go. We looked at scripture, looked at a few instructions about what scripture talks about some insights from David's life, looking at some verses and problems on to seeing what adultery does and certain instructions for women as well. Now we're going to be focusing on the second part of it as to what happens or what should be done once, once someone has engaged in an adulterous relationship. In case a husband or a wife has fallen into an emotional relationship and then that has led or even led to adultery engaged in a sexual relationship as well, what is the way out? Okay, so when we're looking at what we read from scripture, what we read from scripture, we know and we see that there is no sin or nothing that is too hard or too difficult for our Lord to restore and to redeem. No matter how much we would have fallen, how much we have gone away from his plan, from him, from what he desires of us. Scripture shows us that if we are willing to repent, if we are willing to come back to God, ask him for his help, he is able to redeem us, he is able to restore us, he is able to help us recover. Okay, so you can definitely come back strong because of what the Lord has done for us. Because of his work for us on the cross, because of the sin that he's taken away on our behalf, we can come back, we have that place of forgiveness. Okay, I'd just like to read from Micah chapter 7 verses 7 and 8, it says, As for me, I look to the Lord for his help, I wait confidently for God to save me and my God will certainly hear me. Do not gloat over me, my enemies, for though I fall, I will rise again, though I sit in darkness, the Lord himself will be my light. And that's the comfort we have that when we repent, when we truly repent, confess of our sins, God takes us back. We also understand the love of the Father and one of the parables that Jesus spoke about was the prodigal son. Okay, and we see what Jesus shares about and through that entire parable talks about, took everything from his father, spent it all and came back in a state back to his father. And we see how the Father accepted the love of the Father immediately took back the prodigal son. So once the prodigal son understood that there is so much in his father's house, there is so much that there is in his father's house, he decides to return to his father's house. And when he came, in his mind, the thing that he was prepared for was to live like a servant in his father's house. But he didn't expect what he would see after having lost everything, scounded away everything that his father gave him. He was preparing for a receiving in shame and humiliation, maybe a scolding or a chiding, that's what he was expecting. But the opposite happened. He came with arms open wide, it was a love that was most unexpected. And you see how the Father receives him, throws a celebration, throws a feast, puts on a robe, puts on a ring and exclaims to everyone, calls everyone and celebrates his coming. And this parable is there for us to understand, it pictures for us what God has done for us. How the love of the Father is for us, that when we return to him in our shame, in our humiliation, in everything that we've done, it is the Father's love that is greater and stronger than the shame or the humiliation we may face. So we see that nothing can separate us from the love that God has for us. And we can be sure of this that when we return, like the prodigal son, we are brought back to the Lord. He is there to welcome us. So even in a place of adulterous sin, it is the Father's love. When we repent, it is the Father's love that calls us back, that brings us back and welcomes us. We also do see that the Lord is the one who restores our soul from every sin that has happened. He is the one who restores us because he is the good shepherd. We read this in Luke chapter 15 that he is our shepherd. Like when even the sheep, when they go astray and we have gone away, it is the Lord who returns us to him. So he is the one who restores us, who makes us complete and whole again. And it is this assurance that we have that when we return to Him, when we do return to Him, He is the one who is able to mend us and make us whole and restore us. As we keep looking at it, we also see that it is the Holy Spirit, it is the power of the Holy Spirit that turns things around for us. If you look in Isaiah 61 verse 3, it brings about how the Holy Spirit is there to give beauty for us. The joy for mourning, praise for heaviness and that is the power of the Holy Spirit. That is what the Holy Spirit can do in our life. He can turn everything that's been shameful, everything that's been broken down. That's what He changes for us. He turns our mourning into dancing. He turns our, gives us a garment of gladness for the sackcloth that we put on. Again, we read that in Psalms. So it is out of the ashes because of the power of the Holy Spirit. We rise up. We rise up. We are no more down in the dirt and the dumps, but we are there with beauty. So this is the hope that we as believers are. This is the hope that we can give people who fall into such sin. Now, when a person does fall into adultery, it is like coming into a trap. It's like being caught. And it's important that we set free and that the Lord sets us free. That He brings us out from that place of a trap that takes us out from that place of prison. And He has promised that He will open those prison doors. But in order for us to do that, it is a place of repentance. It's a place where we may need to come to a place of recovery. Now, this recovery doesn't happen in a minute. It happens through small incremental steps. It's small steps that brings us to a place of freedom. Now, whatever the kind of sin may be, specifically talking about adultery here, it's a step that makes it a journey. So one step at a time is where you're able to fulfill your journey. So every step that you take is a step that takes towards freedom. So what are some of the steps that we begin to take? So the first one is to call, to identify that we are in sin, which means calling sin as sin and not normalizing the act in itself or not defending it or not justifying it or not rationalizing and saying, okay, this wouldn't have happened if my spouse was such and such or if this wouldn't have happened if I had this kind of a relationship or a marriage. So these begin to become lies, these begin to become like deceptions. And lies, when you still build on that lies, it continues to feed into the adulterous relationship, okay? Because lies kind of becomes like a cover. The deceptions become like a cover saying that it's okay or you were justified for doing that. But sin is sin, okay? And it cannot be justified and we are in the presence of God to really answer him. So the first thing, the first step is to identify that sin is sin, calling it for what it is and also getting rid of lies or deceptions and not going into a place of rationalizing, justifying, defending or finding excuses because all of this becomes like a cover. So first is calling sin as sin, second is to get rid of the lies or the deceptions that are there. The third is to recognize what's caused the sin, okay? Recognizing, number one, how serious it is that you have fallen into, what you have fallen into and how or what has really ruined this relationship, ruined your life, ruined the connection that you have with your spouse. There must be an understanding of what caused this, okay? So it is important that a person comes to a place of remorse and to a place of repentance, okay? Because it is from that place that a person takes responsibility into changing things. So even scripture in 2 Corinthians 7-10, it says that remorse and pain is good. Godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation. So it says remorse is good because Godly sorrow, it is that sorrow that you feel that brings about repentance. If there isn't that place of sorrow, then it doesn't move you to a place of repentance. That's when there is justification, things like that, that happens. So there must be repentance and taking responsibility of what has gone wrong. So taking that responsibility and saying, I have sinned, I've recognized that I have sinned and it's been my selfishness or it's been my inability to build on this relationship. The person needs to be responsible. And the fourth one, which is a difficult step, is to cut off, is to break off the ties with the person that the person may be having an adulterous relationship with, to breaking it off, to break off that entanglement so that you will be free. You can't expect to have the relationship going and experience freedom or experiencing a place of being set free. So this becomes a difficult and a challenging step but it has to be done. It has to be cut off. Every kind of entanglement needs to be cut off. Now, how do we deal with this sin? How do you cut off to break free? Let's just look at Matthew chapter 5 verse 27 to 30. Matthew 5, 27 to 30. Can somebody please read that please? Matthew 5, 27 to 30. Prabhu, can you please read Matthew 5, 27 to 30? Okay, can anyone else please read it? I have heard that it was said, you shall not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gorge it out and throw it away, it is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. Thank you, Jack in. So if when we look at these verses, it's actually teaching us how we should be dealing with sin. So Lord through the example of adultery teaches us how to deal with sin. And when we look in through these verses, we also do understand that just a physical sexual relationship is not the only thing that's considered as adultery. Even an emotional connection, emotional relationship with someone apart from your spouse is considered here as adultery. So the idea is whatever it is, whether it's by thought or by deed, the desire to have, the desire to keep as one's own is the same as actually the desire to be physically connected. Now, this has to be dealt with, whether it's emotional or whether it is physical. The verses describe that it has to be cut off. So when you look at verse 29, it says, if your eye causes you to sin, take it out and throw it away. Now, what it means, again, it's not a literal taking out, but it is being completely, it's a cutting off of anything that is bringing about sin. It's a willful intentional cutting off or what we say is an amputation. An amputation is when you cut off some part of that body that is probably diseased or that which is a rotting. So when you do understand that the relationship rots you, you cut it off. It is a severing off of that which causes you to sin. So it requires that amputation and it has to be done definitely. There may not be any other way. You can't find a different way to deal with it. It has to be cut off. Then what is the next thing to do? Also, like we said, being able to recognize what led you to that sin. So sometimes it is, you recognize it and then you turn it back. You reverse some of those choices. So it could have been where you spend a lot of time with the person in question or it could have been communicating with them. It may be traveling with them on work. It may be spending coffee breaks alongside with them. So whatever it is that has probably led you to experience connection with this person may be an emotional pouring out. All of that you recognize what it is and reverse some of those choices that you have made. Also, you're also going to be aware of the deceptions and the lies that Satan brings about. That makes you feel, especially when emotions are so heightened. These things, it doesn't matter. Maybe it's just one call. I'll just check how the person is doing. This is the last time I'm going to meet them. Those kind of compromises or those kind of accommodations that you make will definitely bring sin crouching back into your life again. So if it is even a small thing, it has the potential to hold on at a greater level to you. So not giving the enemy any access or any foothold in your life to not permitting even that small thought or that small gesture or that small action that makes you tolerate it. So whatever you tolerate, as it says, will dominate you. So having absolutely no tolerance for any kind of a connection, association contact with the person knowing that it is going to help or benefit you. The last one is yes, to get help, to get help from our counselor, to get help from a spiritual leader or a pastor that will help you through this. It's important to be accountable to someone. To be honest, to keep reporting back to someone, especially when this cutting away is happening. Because as the more you do it, you will eventually be able to manage to get away from it completely. So getting the support of the help. So how do we deal with sin? One, it requires a cutting off. It requires an amputation. The second, recognize what is it that's led you to sin and reverse some of those choices. Third is to being aware of the deceptions of the lies Satan becomes. And fourth is getting any support or help from other people, maybe a pastor or a spiritual mentor or a counselor. Any questions up until now before we move on to two last portions of it. Any question? Come on, students. I'm sure there may be some things that's in your mind and let's make the class a little bit more, not just a monologue. Let's have some dialogue here. Come on, students. Any question, any thoughts, any maybe things you have seen or things you've come across anything? Nobody? No thoughts, no reflections? Okay, so then maybe I think I just want maybe five minutes. Hello, I'm so sorry. I think my connection went off for a bit. Can you hear me? Can you all hear me now? Okay, all right. I'm so sorry. My power, I lost power. All right. Okay, so we were looking at, yeah. So my question was what should happen? How does, let's say the adultery has been found in a couple who are believers. What do you think should happen? How should rejoining or how should a reconnection happen? What are your thoughts? What do you think? Okay, now I'd like to start calling out names because no one's talking. I think it's not so easy to accept the fact, but once, because both of them are believers, so when the other person comes to know immediately they should go to God and ask God to help them out and come out of the hurt because the hurt is so bad because it's like, it's a lifelong commitment and we are committed to each other. So the other person actually feels the hurt and they are definitely going to feel that. So they have to take them to God or they can go to somebody who's very close, maybe a friend or sister or they can trust the matter but not share with everyone and especially based on certain things that others have shared with me. Sometimes it goes really bad. That is one thing they have to watch for, but otherwise it's between them and God because only God can heal them out of that hurt because it's like emotional. Especially in India, I feel when it's emotional thing, the parents themselves say, oh, no, no, you keep it to yourself, don't tell anyone and they're not speaking about that victim, whoever's going through that. They don't want to tell the person but whatever I've seen is like, they give importance to the society and what others think rather than that. But that person really needs help. It can go from bad to worse when the person comes to know if that person doesn't know how to deal with it, then it can go from bad to worse. So that's what... Okay, thank you. Thanks, Jack, for sharing your insight. Okay, what about the others? Those in the Bible college, any one of you? What are your thoughts? Any one of you can speak for the rest? Ma'am, I'm audible. Yes, yes, you are. Anil, this is at you. Francis, ma'am. Francis, yeah, go ahead, Francis. So it's like in ministry life and physical life is adult, it's one married person going to adult. It's too bad and this spouse can't accept that. If she is a good spouse and it's like not going with the world, she or he can't accept that. So then adult is like everybody have a physical weakness. If that person is going to that, from my side, my object, my saying is they don't do that. And from coming out of that, great to God and no other option. Okay. Okay, all right. Thank you. Thank you, Francis. All right. Anybody else? Samuel, Shivakumar, Solomon, Anthony, go to God first, share the matter to the person. Your spouse is accountable to and don't involve family. It may go worse and let God do the healing because sometimes it's not easy to forgive. Okay. All right. Thank you. I think we also said repent, go for counseling. Okay. So yeah. So you're right that adultery can be extremely damaging for a relationship, right? The person who has been offended, the spouse who's been offended goes through immense pain, betrayal, a sense of abandonment, a sense of fear. Even the very fiber of who they are, their being gets so affected and they do definitely need help and they need support and time. They also need time and it definitely takes a lot of grace for the person who is offended to reconcile to this relationship and restore the marriage, right? They need time for this healing to happen and it's definitely not easy. There are, you know, I think through the practice of counseling, I do see some make it through this, some just find that they are not able to work with this pain. They try hard and, you know, some choose to go ahead and to keep this act of reconciliation going on. Some choose to attend to another marriage. They end the marriage. No matter what, whichever way that the person who is offended goes by, it is important for them to release forgiveness even though, you know, whatever has happened cannot be changed anymore. So the offended person number one is to work towards having a heart of forgiveness, having a heart of love and being able to accept and love as the way God loves. So it is important for the affected person to live out of that grace, okay? And we're going to be looking at the later chapters which talks about overcoming challenges, okay? And it is important to, especially when moments of pain have been extremely severe. And so it's important to come to a place of being able to receive forgiveness and to, I mean, sorry, to give forgiveness, to release forgiveness, to go through that pain, to be able to work with that heart of love. And we do understand that it's important that you give them time. And in this journey, doing this alone can feel very lonesome, right? But when you get the help of somebody, maybe it's a council or a trusted friend, or someone who doesn't add fuel to the fire is always helpful, okay? Radha has written something, marriage is like a team. If the spouse is not able to meet all the needs and the other one is looking at his or her needs from outside, then will God hold both of them accountable for his or her unfaithfulness? Okay. Now, it's true that there are, in marriage, that's what, and you put that rightly, you know, it's a team and you need to meet the needs of the other. But something that we understand, we need to know that all our needs, whether it be, all our needs is to be met in God. Now, there are some needs in marriage that you get, you have from your spouse, like for your physical needs. But there are many marriages that go without these needs being met. Yes, God will call you to be accountable for your works here, right? How we have been, whether we've been able to do our bit or not. And he will call us out, whether it is to do with marriage or anything else, we have been called to fulfill the work of God, fulfill his heart, his desire, whether it be in a marriage, in our workplace, in our parenting, in our time ministry or whatever he's called us to do. Yes, we will be called to account for the things that we have or we have not done. So yes, that will be there, right? I hope Sridhartha that answered your question. Okay. Now, when we're looking at, so when we're looking at the offended party or the person who has, who's the offender, when we're looking at the offender, we are also, the offender also just like the way God has forgiven him needs to receive forgiveness and accept that there will be time that is taken by his or her spouse to come to a place of healing and also choose to accept the decision that the offended spouse may bring. Maybe either to stay with them or not to or giving it some time of separation. They may need to honour and accept that and also choose to continue to walk in a place of peace rather than retaliation, no matter what, what kind of decision that the offended spouse would have made through this, through this season. Okay. Also for the offended person to go down and see the cause of what brought them to this place so that it does not become something that repeats in time. Okay. It could be a place of last or it could be a place of selfishness, a place of pride or wherever they are to be able to deal with it at its, at its root. Okay. Now, when you look at, and this again we're going to be looking again later in chapter 12 where it doesn't even as, even as the offended person makes the choice on whether to continue or not, the, the, there are, there are two, there are two, what do you say, there are two aspects by which a divorce is permitted. One is when there's adultery and when there is abandonment and there is scripture there for that. So if the offended person chooses to get away from the marriage, it is something that it is scripturally, we understand is scripturally permitted for adultery or for abandonment. Okay. Nevertheless, the reconciliation, as we know, is always, is always best but it needs two people to reconcile. It needs two to come together. Okay. We, we do see that especially we may have seen examples of how people have come, come out of this, this adultery infidelity and come out together and being faithful to one another. And that we know is the Lord's doing but I'm sure that their journey has not been easy and there's been a lot of grace that God's given so that this place of healing and reconciliation has come about. Okay. If, now in case a couple chooses to move away separately to choose their separate ways after this as a church or as people who you may know we need to be loving, need to support them and encourage them to continue living in the ways of God and continue to helping them pursue what God wants them to do. There may be ties that these herds cannot be changed. It cannot be reversed but we still believe that God is able to restore and redeem each person according to his plan. Okay. The next quickly we're just going to look through what are some of the fences, some moral fences or boundaries that is necessary for a couple to build up so that, you know, so that we don't fall into fall into sin. It's always better to be preventive and curative, right? Prevent whatever things that can happen rather than being curative. That is taking something has taken place and then attempting to cure the disease or cure the illness. Okay. And we look through some of these principles or some boundaries or certain disciplines that are there in the way that one interacts with the opposite sex. So because this will go a long way in keeping you away from such hardships, from such afflictions. Okay. So you establish those boundaries in your mind, in your behavior, in your heart in the way that you relate to one another. Okay. And it's important for us to see what are areas of weakness, areas of vulnerability. So we are able to stand guard in the way that we, you know, we relate our affections and our appetite. Okay. So let's just look at a few. It's to how do we keep some of those boundaries firm. And I'm on page 144. Okay. And in the book, I'm on page 140. So let's look at each of them. Okay. And we'll go through them point wise. So here are some practical ways to do that. So first one is to be able to maintain fulfillment within your marriage, whether it be sexual, whether it be emotional, to be able to find joy in marriage, to find fulfillment in this togetherness. Okay. And this is one thing that we were talking about, preventive measures. It's finding ways to stay fulfilled, to inspire the spending time together, doing things together, finding the joy in connecting and rebuilding back one with another. Okay. And the next one is being careful not to do anything that you wouldn't want your spouse to be doing. Okay. That if at any point of time you're doing something and you know that you don't want your spouse to do it, is to refrain from that. Next one is to avoid being away from your spouse for extended periods of time. This is all especially for those who may be traveling quite a bit, who may need to stay long gaps away because of work or because of ministry, whatever to staying away. It's important to stay connected with your spouse regularly. Okay. If you're a person who's working not to pair up for trips or business trips with someone of the opposite sex, you know, just you and the other person rather going out is a group. So being careful not to pair up with that. So again, these are preventive measures. Okay. Next is refrain from going solo with someone, right? Or either on a ride or on a coffee or on a lunch with the opposite sex other than your spouse. Again, going as a group is always helpful. Also, be careful about what you're doing privately. You know, not no sense because there's so much that happens on a phone. There's a life that happens on a phone. The use of social media, the way that we interact online with the opposite sex, it's important to be able to keep it professional, to keep it just what is needed. Okay. And also being open about your messages or your emails or your passwords with your spouse always keeps your guard. Next is to be able to keep a guard on your mind, your thoughts, your feelings and your affections. A lot of things start with the thoughts, right? The moment we begin to feel a wrong thought towards the opposite sex, it's important that we deal with it and important to consecrate those that place, that thought and that affection. Be able to cast out that which is not of God. Next is to be able to maintain internal boundaries that is not fantasizing, not taking time to think of somebody else other than your spouse. And being aware that the space where you're thinking is only kept for your spouse and you keep that as sacred, right? Because when it doesn't take too long to break external boundaries if the internal ones are broken. Next is to be able to speak positively about your spouse and your conversation with others, all right? Or to avoid giving compliments to those of the opposite sex. Or also to be careful about the way that you interact with someone. Suppose you have a feeling for someone or you have some sense of a liking towards someone drawing a certain boundary, the way that you not just interact but also openly expressing your feelings to the other person gives it, you know, permission sometimes, okay? Being careful not to play with someone else's emotions, not flirting, not saying things that are more romantically inclined, okay? Also to keep away from pornography or other sexually related material that can cause you to sin in that area, okay? Avoid giving advice or even counseling somebody of the opposite sex. Avoid discussing personal problems that you may have with the opposite sex, things that may be very personal to you sharing it with someone of the opposite sex can also be, you know, get one into trouble. It's important to also cut off past relationships that you had is, you know, prior to marriage or in teenage or in early adolescence to cut that off so that there isn't, you know, the temptation to reconnect and rebuild and also to be able to establish any specific boundary that may be relevant to you, okay? So it's only we who understand and know what, which space we are and to actually cut that off and not be in a place where we compromise on anything, right? Now this is just not for the matter, but even if you are a single person when you establish these boundaries right now, you will be in a place of being more mindful, being more guarded even when you are married, okay? All right. So since we've come to the end of this and we've spoken about establishing these boundaries, we looked at some scriptural thoughts and scriptural verses, we've understood certain instructions and what are some moral fences and boundaries we can keep, okay? Just opening this out for any questions or any thoughts or any anything absolutely. Yeah. Anybody? Pasta, this is a real life incident that I'm trying to help out my previous colleague when I was working. So she just called me. So she is actually not working now. So her husband is working in a firm and then she helped her friend to get a job for her husband's firm. And now that she has sensed that something is not right between her friend and her husband. So she feels bad that she's helped her because her friend was really bad in her financial situation and she's done with all good intentions. But now that she's suffering, her marriage is suffering because of that. So she's got a lot of emotional trauma. I sense an emotional entanglement but there are believers. But I don't know how much the Lord or their spiritual growth is concerned. So how can we help in the situation? Because the other woman also, if she's expelled from work, she will suffer. But it's like a real challenging situation and we've been praying about it. So how can we help in such a situation faster? And this is both of them are aware of? I mean, the husband is also aware of? No, the husband is trying to be more secretive now because he sense that. So it's not out in the open you're saying? No, no, no fast. Okay, so I think the first and foremost thing is it's important to confront for the wife to confront the husband to really understand what is going on. Right? Because being in secrecy is something that really leads to further sin. Right? So the first foremost thing is to find out if there is something going on. So even if she's had an intuition to confirm that intuition by by confronting the husband on that. Okay, the second is now depending on how that response goes let's say he has he has confessed then what we looked at is he needs to do what is on his part to severe that. Right? Having someone, let's say a spouse going through a dump free and not willing to make changes in it is a red flag. Right? So there may be times that the offended spouse may need to make certain they may need to make certain decisions. Right? Suppose there is secrecy, there is a denial it may be needing to involve someone maybe like a trusted friend or a spiritual elder or a pastor to bring this out and deal with it so that you know whatever if there is something that's so obvious there it needs to be dealt with and of course to help the wife through this process to deal with that pain and that the rejection or the disappointment that she's going through to just keep encouraging and working. It gets difficult where things aren't out in the open or when there is denial or when people don't come out to really share the truth. That becomes really difficult. Right? Then it becomes messy because as a believer you may know that your husband or your wife isn't sin and allowing them to continue in that sin while you are in there in there may not be a right thing to do so doing whatever is possible to to involve one or two trusted people to bring about a confrontation to see if there can be any reconciliation. If there isn't let's say the husband continues to deny but may have the affair, maybe there is evidence to it the spouse should take a call on what she would want to see right? And that may be different for different people but she should take a call on whether a time of separation would probably help for him to reconsider right? Or to see if there's a cause change. Now this may be different for different people but I'm just giving an example that that's something that may be looked into because for the wife to be in that same environment where there is denial and where there is refusal to change when there is an evidence of sin can be extremely damaging for her, for if there are children in the picture for the children it can be damaging. So to really be use that wisdom to step forward in what needs to be done till a healing and a reconciliation can take place. Jacken, is that helpful? Yeah, yeah pastor my second question is so in such situation we shouldn't help a person out of good intentions. Should we keep it as a principle pastor? So it's just my thought because if this person has not helped then she wouldn't have got into the situation at all. So Jacken, I don't think that's true. I mean when you help people you're helping people out of your good intentions but it can be misused in any way isn't it? Like for example you're helping your kids out of good intentions maybe you're giving them something but then they misuse it. So does that mean you don't give it to them? May not mean that right? But you're teaching it's through that that you know it's not because she's helped that he's getting there. I mean this could have happened anywhere else as well. This may not be the root cause of it. The cause of it is that there weren't boundaries. There weren't those fences that were kept. That was that's the issue. Not about helping and because this person came because I joined this job is why I got into this adultery. In that way you can't do anything. You have to sit at home and sit locked. That's not possible. Makes sense. Thank you. Thank you. Anyone else with any other thoughts? Close with a prayer. Let's just close the prayer. Heavenly Father we thank you Lord for your word that gives us guidelines and practical understanding. Thank you that you have called sin, sin. And we pray that in our lives we will recognize and identify places where we compromise, where we may just tolerate a little bit here and there what Lord could lead us into the pit. Father we pray that you will keep give us wisdom Lord you will give us a heart that's guarded Holy Spirit that you will work with us Lord to establish some of these boundaries. Father we pray for people who may have gone through much pain in their lives as a result of infidelity. Lord you are the healer. You are the restorer. You are the one who makes all things clear. Lord we commit these couples, these individuals to your throne of grace and pray that your healing touch Lord will get into the depths of their hearts Father. They will be able to experience love and walk with the heart of love. Whatever decision these families have made Lord we pray that we who are the community around them will see them in love and not disengage and not stigmatize but Lord accept them with the heart of love and understand. Thank you for hearing our prayer. In Jesus name we pray. Amen. Thank you class. Thank you for joining in today. We'll meet you next week. God bless you. Thank you.