 When the narcissist realizes you are done, when they realize that you are finished with them, when they realize that you don't want anything to do with them anymore, when you first met the narcissist, you were very welcoming, you were very polite and friendly, you did everything you could to accommodate them, you were glad to entertain them, but as time went by, they began to take you for granted, they didn't appreciate you, and on top of that, they disrespected you, they devalued and upgraded you, they treated you in ways that you didn't deserve, you could not build a healthy functional relationship with a narcissist, no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, they will always take you for granted, they will always be ungrateful, they will always disrespect you and refuse to comply with social norms or etiquette, they will always cross your boundaries, and without boundaries, there is no relationship, there is no respect, you cannot build anything with someone who has been programmed to destroy, at some point you get to a point where you realize that nothing you do is going to change them, you may even realize that it is not your responsibility to change them, you may realize that only they can change themselves, and that is what diminishes the hope that you once had for this relationship, that is what destroys the expectation and desire that you once had, that is when you realize that the only light at the end of the tunnel that you're going to find is when you walk away, when the narcissist realizes that you are done, they may react in ways that you haven't seen before, they may do things that you never expected them to do, they may become violent or aggressive, they may stalk and harass you, they may enforce flying monkeys and start a smear campaign, they will do whatever it takes to keep you off balance, to keep you in fear and make you question your decision of leaving, to make you believe that you should go back, they will cause all kinds of chaos and confusion in an attempt to make you run back to them, they will try to make you believe that you will never be good enough for anyone else, or that no one will ever be good enough for you, they will try to make you believe that you are not capable of living without them, as though you can't accomplish anything on your own, and if you listen to that voice inside your head, that voice that's telling you to be afraid, that voice that's telling you not to take risks, you might end up going back to them, but if you listen to your heart and trust your own intuition, you will realise that you can't go back, you will realise that you have already made your decision, and that's when the narcissist knows that it's too late, that's when they know that you're not coming back, because while they may be able to brainwash you, engage, question your mind, while they might get you to experience fears and doubts, they could never take control of your heart, when the narcissist realises that you are done, when they realise you're not coming back, they're forced to look at themselves and the mess that they've created, they're forced to move over their lives with someone else, someone who may never be as good as what you were to them, but they never appreciated you, they took you for granted, they devalued and degraded you, treated you with disrespect, they made their bed and now they have to lie in it. Thank you for watching, I hope this video wears it with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos, if you like it or not, my paypal link is in the video description, coaching required, you can email me at lartsforumcoachingatgmail.com, thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.