 This question is for Brian. So when meeting new women, I am I get really nervous and I start you know start rambling on and How do I either use this energy to I guess in my advantage or how do I slow myself down? this is first off you got to own it if you keep resisting it or fighting it or trying to trying to hide it. It's It's gonna only get worse. It's never gonna change. So you've got to You got to first acknowledge it accept it basically welcome the feeling and I've had many students and myself have success with just yeah, I'm fucking scared But I'm gonna show up anyways here. I am look my lip is shaking look. I'm nervous, but you turn you turn me on Versus hi kind of half saying hi half being there and the more you own it and step in there And don't play the victim to the energy even though it's running in the background and even obviously running The faster you get over it if you play victim to it and kind of half ass you got one foot in the door one foot out trying To step into the energy. It's not gonna really change. It could even I've actually seen people get worse from that So really stepping in and owning it and then not not pushing through it so that you shut off You can't go unconscious to it. You got to fully feel it and acknowledge it and step into it That's what breaks it up. The other thing you can do that. I think is really important and Several people on the panel talked about it is meditation Doing meditation learning to calm your nervous system learning to calm your mind learning to feel your body Because all that anxiety is stored in your body and most of the guys that I run into In this business or in their heads a lot and that's why the anxiety won't go away I liken it to there's a safe door and it's locked and you got to figure out that lock and get down inside the safe Which is your body before you're gonna be able to desensitize your nervous system and calm it down and get the anxiety out So learning to meditate and and feel farther and farther down into the center pillar of your body all the way down through the whole Body down to the legs is really essential for desensitization. It allows you to learn to relax It allows you to learn to let go So that when you go out later and you step into that anxiety and talk to a beautiful woman You're actually feeling it fully and then you can start learning to let go Versus trying to do it from your head I'm gonna speak to that too The first step to change is awareness. So the fact that you're aware that you're rambling and you're going into that is great and One thing that's awesome to do is like Brian said own it, you know make fun of it Record yourself in conversations. It's really easy From like right from your iPhone You can just you know wire yourself up mic yourself up and listen to it and as you listen to it, you'll start to We'll start to you know become more aware of it and it'll be easier to change and I find that anytime I'm doing something that I want to stop if I just Don't focus on it to the point where it makes you crazy But just learn to laugh at yourself learn to not make it such a big deal then you can transform it