 I can probably talk about postpartum depression forever subhanAllah and how much our cultures and ourselves particularly even as women but I'll also say all people including doctors I can't tell you how many doctors don't believe in postpartum depression it's the strangest weirdest thing I'm like how did you graduate from medical school and you don't know that postpartum depression is real sometimes it's their own lives as physicians that I'm they're saying yeah get over it what do you mean get over it have you not studied that particularly I'm going to go into whole spiel now forgive me but certain mental health conditions are biologically connected postpartum depression is absolutely one of those because it is hormonally based more often than not other types of sometimes in the postpartum depression itself for other forms of depression anxiety could also have environmental causes so if you're living in some really difficult circumstances think about all kinds of things that kind of really cause you anxiety and difficulty could also cause you postpartum depression after the birth of the child or now we mostly call it perry part of depression even within the pregnancy and after it or if it's not biological and it's not genetic and it's not environmental it could be actually cognitive it could be spiritual it could be many different things actually but to me it's so amazing that we get so stuck on these things can't possibly be true when in reality the very same hormones that allow that baby to be in the mother's womb and carried for all those months is also are the same hormones implicated in postpartum depression if you believe pregnancy can happen then you believe postpartum depression can happen too plummeting of those hormones causes some woman to experience postpartum depression we had I don't know how many you saw the father how many did we have in the room over 300 yeah the stats are one in four women experience postpartum depression now count off one two three four there are so many women in this room alone plus all of our sisters online we see you in here if you love you who also have experienced postpartum depression in their life so when women negate that I'm like hold on you know your own sisters and yourselves this is very common the quicker that we could actually get over this issue and be there as a support for each other the better we're all going to be for it the better that we say to our own daughters and our own sisters snap out of it or shame on you Allah gave you a kid how dare you be upset these are real things that happen and so in short yes maristan alhamdulillah is our local islamic non-profit that dedicated it's dedicated to mental health and actually integrating islam into the therapy it offers all kinds of therapy and support alhamdulillah professional by those who are trained professional therapists the booth is at the back I think sisters just meet us or somebody somewhere and can answer your questions inshallah but also please know that is also virtual so again for the state of california anybody in the state of california can access that care and also please know that we also make sure that it's financially available MCC's been a wonderful partner we're able to have financial support for those who can't afford the therapy and I encourage everybody to get that support even if it's not postpartum depression even family counseling for your own kids if it's academic support that people are struggling with test taking anxiety let's say or whatever kinds of difficulties please get the help folks now back to the sister who's asking what can I do about the stories related to pregnancy that seems that I was very clear about the story that I told about say the amina the mother of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam what she experienced was a miracle are we clear about that the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam that is entirely a miracle and so clearly his pregnancy was going to be a miracle too the fact that she didn't feel the heaviness that a woman feels when carrying a child or the difficulty that comes with it or the very mere fact that when he was born he didn't have any of the filth you know the the stuff the fluids that are on a baby he didn't even have that when he was born the whole thing sallallahu alayhi wasallam the whole story is a miracle so clearly that's different than any one of us right and yeah pregnancy stuff and I too wish that our cultures and our communities would stop minimizing the difficulty that actually comes with it and also the struggles and pains of infertility there are struggles and pains all throughout whether having children or not having them and so what do we do we support each other and we understand that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala actually allows for us to understand the wisdom behind either the challenges or the ease that Allah gives us and every one of those pregnancies is different or the lack of them is something also challenges and difficulties that Allah has given us to help us through into that next stage but a lot of that comes with wisdom and I hope you'll find that people along your path inshallah will help you understand those wisdom inshallah