 Hey survivors, in this video I am going to be talking about the narcissist anticipation mode. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. If you are interested in one on one coaching, you can email me at naxvivercoachingatgmail.com. The Narciss Anticipation Mode. This is another one of the Narciss modes of behavior. I have done a video on the Narciss Observer Mode. This is where they will watch and observe whatever you are doing. For more information, please check out the video, the Narciss Observer Mode. The difference between these two modes is that in the Observer Mode, they are trying to figure out what you are thinking or feeling. In the present moment, the Narciss Anticipation Mode is when they are expecting or predicting something. It is the Narciss Recognizing the Possibility or the Probability of you saying or doing something or someone doing or saying something that could be beneficial or favorable for you. This is what the Narciss will be expecting or predicting. They might be calculating whether or not you or someone else is likely to say, do or be something. They might believe that someone or something is going to arrive soon. They are estimating what will happen in the future or what will be the consequence of something they've done, something you've done or something someone else has done. This is about control. The Narciss is trying to control the situation or the environment. They are trying to control any potential human interaction or stimulation you might receive. They are trying to limit or restrict anything that might be beneficial or favorable for you. Narciss are very envious people. They want to destroy everything that is good or treat it as though it is worthless or beneath their consideration. But just because they cannot get the same fulfillment from you or the things that you enjoy, it doesn't mean that they are going to let someone else partake or let you consume the things that you enjoy. You have to remember that as an extension of a Narciss anything that you engage in will affect them and because they are opposed to anything good or anything that is beneficial or favorable for you, it will affect them in a negative way. It will cause them to feel enraged and then they will take that out on you. This is why the Narciss has developed the anticipation mode. It's about knowing where you are going to be, what you are going to be doing and who you are going to be with at all times. They don't always get right but they have to make a prediction or have an expectation. They feel great discomfort from not knowing what could potentially happen in the near future. It's risk management. They are predicting or estimating the risks of anything good or anything that could be beneficial or favorable for you with the identification of procedures to avoid or minimize their impact. You have to remember that anything that is good for you will hurt them. Anything that satisfies or fulfills you in any way, anything that makes you feel a positive emotion is a threat to the Narciss' false self and could cause them to experience pain or discomfort. The Narciss will watch and observe you in the present moment. They will look for clues, a piece of evidence or information to discover or identify what could potentially happen in the near future. Where you are going to go, what you are going to do, who you are going to see. Some Narciss will hide this evidence or information to avoid a potentially hysterical response from you. They understand that their behavior is not normal so most often they will hide this evidence or information from you but some Narciss will even give you hints that they already know what you are going to be doing. They will give you a slight or indirect indication or suggestion of what you might be doing in the near future. This could be something you are going to be doing later that day or later that week. Some Narciss may even plan this out months or even years in advance. You may not realize that they made the indication or suggestion until you carry out the specified action or behavior and only upon the completion or the execution of the specified course of action will you then realize that they had made an indication or suggestion of this before you even did it. Victims of Narciss' abuse who have experienced the effects of the Narciss' anticipation may be fooled into believing that the Narciss may have some supernatural ability to perceive events in the future or beyond normal sensory contact but what they are actually doing is they are examining you or your current situation methodically and in great detail. In order to explain and interpret it from their interpretation of your current situation they then create these expectations or predictions based on probability or from when they have studied or observed you in the past. They pick up on patterns or routines. They identify problems or things that need to be dealt with in your current situation and then assume the probability of when and how you are going to resolve the issue or deal with whatever requires your attention. There is also the possibility that they are guiding and controlling your actions and behaviors by use of suggestion. They have likely isolated you and taught you to neglect your own intuition, your own ideas of what you think is right, how you believe something should be done and they have taught you that everything they do is indisputably correct. Over time this becomes a belief where you really believe that everything they are doing is right and everything you are doing is wrong. They might begin by giving you direct verbal suggestions of what you should be doing but later these direct verbal suggestions can be reduced to something more subtle or covert. These covert suggestions are a form of hypnosis. The aim of this is to influence the victim, the victim's unconscious. Without them knowing from my experience it does work and it can cause you to act in a way that you wouldn't normally act and it can cause you to even feel a certain feeling or do a specific behavior. The narcissist might use this tactic to get you to do something that benefits them or they might get you to do something that you wouldn't normally do so that they can later blame you for it or get you into trouble. Be cautious that this could be something the narcissist is doing. It does work. Suggestion is very powerful and repetition fuels belief. McDonald's doesn't spend billions of dollars on advertising for nothing. Suggestion and repetition are even more powerful when you are isolated or have no other influences. Be cautious and be aware that this is something the narcissist could be doing to you. That's all for this video. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bear icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching queries, you can email me at narksfivercoaching.com. 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