 Chasing versus pursuing, what is the difference? Well, in general, you want to be pursuing women, but not chasing them, okay? Chasing a woman means that you're pursuing your nonstop and you're showing her the most unattractive quality a man can have, which is neediness. You're showing that you need her to be happy, to have a good life or whatever it is. There's something missing from your life that you're not getting from her. You don't want that, okay? Pursuing, on the other hand, shows that you want her, but you don't need her. Now, what's the biggest difference between the two? How do you know when someone's chasing and someone's pursuing? Well, when someone's pursuing, they know when to stop. The guy who's chasing doesn't.