 You know, telling someone that everything happens for a reason and a purpose, where they are going through tragedy and trauma can be so invalidating, make someone feel so unseen and managed and handled by how we want them to be in that space, often because of our own discomfort about their upset and their trauma and their difficulty. You know, the truth is some stuff is just crap and should never have happened. I'm going to need to learn to leave some stuff right there and not try and tidy up, sweep it into a tidy pile and connect our narrative to it, thinking we're helping when we're not. Some stuff is just crap and should never have happened. Who needs to hear that from you today instead of all your cleaning and tidying things up? Hope that helps and I think it helps us to be kinder and more empathetic to each other and more there for each other in the midst of the things that we often are going through. Send you love and press to all of you right now watching, listening to this that are going through something tragic and traumatic and are surrounded by people telling you everything happens for a reason is just crap. Keep your head up and push through it. Better times are coming. Love you guys.