 The second thing we want to do when approaching someone confidently is we want to make good eye contact And I know there's a lot of confusion How do we make good eye contact with not appearing too creepy and also not appearing aloof? So the simple rule of thumb we have here at the art of charm is we want to make eye contact when we're talking to someone And we want to turn and give them our ear when we are listening to someone that Breaking of eye contact creates a space for your mind to actually process what it's hearing and studies have shown That when we are making prolonged eye contact our mind is not able to process Communication effectively so breaking that eye contact actually allows your mind to catch up and become more engaged in the conversation Your eye contact is a direct window to your confidence in the interaction It also allows the other person to know that you're speaking to them and when we break eye contact We want to break eye contact at eye level. We don't want our eyes darting up and we don't want our eyes darting down It's actually going to distract the person that we're talking to so we want to soften our eye contact when we're talking to them and Break our eye contact keeping them at eye level when we're listening It's going to allow us to be more engaged and allow the other person to feel more comfortable with us