 I am not my father. That was my statement of defiance against the terrible fathering I got from my dad. He was abusive, violent, alcoholic. And I'm still today dealing with traces of that trauma from my childhood because of my dad. Maybe you are too. I think my dad did what he saw his dad do and history repeats itself, doesn't it? It always does, whereas there's no resistance to it doing so. So my mantra in my parenting, when my kids were growing up, of I am not my father was my statement of defiance so that history would not repeat itself on my watch. And defiance will be perceived as disrespect and that doesn't equate to that. My defiance was my attempt to say, not on my watch. I don't know where Father's Day finds you in your fathering today. But maybe you need to say like I did, I am not my father. I'll do better for my kids. Send your love to all your dads out there today doing the best you can. Happy Father's Day. Love you guys. Cheers.