 You have decided what this situation should look like, according to you, according to society, according to your parent or your friend or your co-worker or some random person online. That's not your higher self voice, your voice that's connected to your spirit, your soul to God. That's your human voice. Once we figure out we're living in our own means through our ego and not through our spirit in God, how do we fix it? First, you have to want to fix it. You can't do anything about it until you stop being stubborn and decide that your trust in God is where you want to be and that supersedes your trust in your own decision making and your own self.