 So in this video we're going to be talking about how Smokey Glow was wrong about Taylor Nicole Dean and it's Morality Monday so we're going to be talking about how moral and ethical debates can kind of make you look like a hypocrite but before we jump into the video I got messages for two people out there so great news Taylor Nicole Dean I just realized today that she unblocked me on Twitter so Taylor if you watch this just know that this video is made out of love it's for education and my DMs are always open so feel free to shoot me a message. The second message is for everybody else out there I am not in the business of people liking me I am in the business of saving lives. What's up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health addiction recovery and what I like to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community and try to see what we can learn from people's successes as well as their mistakes so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So yes this is not an attack on Taylor Nicole Dean Smokey Glow I don't even hate her but there will be some critiques of her in this video but anyways like I said my channel is to learn from the mistakes and the successes of people so I do want to say that I am very very proud of Taylor Nicole Dean I've actually made a few videos about some of her sobriety successes I will link one of the recent videos down in the comments below and in the description if you want to go check it out alright but anyways let's jump into the story for those of you who haven't been following my channel or you aren't fully caught up to date alright so yeah Taylor Nicole Dean she got out of her second rehab stay this year and when she was in treatment she ended up meeting a guy now when Taylor broke up with Johnny Sins like it was awesome like I made a video about that as well there's a lot there are a lot of people who relapse because they don't get out of the toxic relationships especially when you have two people who are using so I was super proud of her but she jumped in started hooking up with a guy in treatment so I made a video titled I forgot what was titled but was talking about rehab relationships or rehab romances right those of you who don't know me I am clean and sober for over seven years like Taylor Nicole Dean my drug of choice was opioid started with alcohol but I also worked in addiction treatment center for a little over three years and I'm currently in school right now getting my certified alcohol and drug counselor license alright so I like I said I use examples from the YouTube community to try to educate and teach people everybody who's watching this stuff go on well anyways when I made that video there was a lot of backlash alright I got a lot of nasty comments I might put some up on the screen right here but anyways Taylor and I we kind of had a back and forth over on Twitter and speaking of mistakes learn from mine I said some really dumb stuff and I actually reached out to Taylor about that um but anyways after that not only was I getting a bunch of comments but people started making videos alright so Smokey Glow is somebody who made a video about me and she got tens of thousands of views I think last time I checked had over 60,000 views alright Smokey Glow she is also uh someone in long term recovery and she's going to school to help people I believe she said social work but you can correct me if I'm wrong so anyways like I said in my video I discussed why it's a bad idea to hook up with people in rehab or why it's even worse of an idea to get into relationships with them so after I got a ton of nasty comments Smokey Glow made her video Taylor Cole Dean posted this on Instagram um which has since been deleted I actually got the screenshot from a channel called I think it's called whatever I'll link her video down below alright anyways Taylor said he was a cool dude until he got angry and threatened to kill himself on two separate occasions just because I said I needed time and space to improve myself and also manipulated me in several different ways just because I needed to work on myself I spent 24 hours away from my phone and he threatened to post my nudes due to it and threatened me on twitter too so goodbye you were super kind and loving in rehab and hope you get back to that state but you're clearly unhealthy and manipulating me when I'm trying to recover from abuse ain't cool so I gotta blast alright so let's make it perfectly clear like this this is terrible and it's awful what happened to Taylor and Nicole Dean like nobody should be threatened like that alright especially right after getting out of an abusive relationship but here's a thing here's a thing like I I hate being right like I hate in instances like this being right about something when it leads to the suffering of somebody else like I don't get my rocks off to this like I was constantly teaching people in treatment like about not getting in relationships not hooking up in treatment for these reasons like I would rather I would much rather people just listen and learn from my mistakes other people's mistakes than trying it on their own like just to kind of put in perspective of how I don't get joy from being right about these things like I have a 10 year old son right and I remember when he was younger and we would go to the pool in the summer and he'd be running around the pool I'd be like Dylan stop running around the pool you're gonna slip and fall stop running around the pool you're gonna slip in the fall and then he would slip fall bust his butt and start crying like I didn't run up to him and say told you so no like I would rather not be right I would rather him not slip and fall and bust his butt on the ground while running around the pool you know what I mean like another example of this is Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash as many of you know Trisha Paytas got very mad at me when I was making videos about how this is what an unhealthy relationship looks like like I didn't want to be right about that all right I wish that they would have gone to you know couples therapy and things would have worked out because all of you have seen the fallout between Trisha and Jason I'm not like yay that's awesome I would much rather that that didn't happen or that that relationship didn't happen in the first place you know what I mean but when it comes to Taylor Nicole Dean I'll say this okay because when I say learn from successes and mistakes I mean my own too I made just about every mistake you can in the book when it comes to the first year two years hell I'm seven years sober and still make mistakes but the one thing Taylor Nicole did right was not pick up all right that's what I tell people I when I'm teaching people in treatment or other newcomers I'm like listen don't take my advice I do not care but here's the thing just don't pick up no matter what but like the thing is too and I think a great video that a lot of you guys should watch is Taylor Nicole Dean sharing her experience being in treatment like and she talks about you know what the counselors were telling them to do and not to do and the rules and everything like that like I want to make it very clear like something I would teach my clients all the time was like I don't get a bonus for every person who doesn't get in a relationship I don't get a bonus for every person who doesn't hook up and rehab like the only reason I say this is because I care and want to see people succeed and I've seen far too many people fail because they're hooking up in treatment right like whenever we're getting help like from a therapist or in treatment like we have to ask ourselves like what's their motive like why are they saying this like I had to learn that when I first got sober and I had a sponsor and people giving me suggestions like they weren't just saying it for fun there was a reason why they were saying it but one of the primary reasons we tell people this is because things often aren't going to work well when you meet people in early recovery like you have to remember a rehab and addiction treatment center it is a mental health facility when people like me first get sober we are still very mentally unstable and what you saw from taylor nicolle dean's post was that that man was very unstable still right like we don't just get rid of the drugs and alcohol and all of a sudden we're fine you know what I mean this is typically why we say don't date your first year of recovery now like I said smoky glow made a video about me and my original video is about taylor nicolle dean right but here's the issue okay as many of you know I've been diving really deep into moral philosophy and moral psychology I think it is a terrible idea to get into a debate about ethics and morality and things like that like those types of debates like I don't like those I like going off of facts statistics and things like that like even if somebody has an opinion like where is that coming from and something that you see is when people are debating from a stance of morality and ethics like it's so subjective that they're arguing from a place of emotion and they often can look very hypocritical and here's what I mean by that since taylor nicolle dean got sober and got out of treatment she has been doing her best to help her audience and anybody out there who might be struggling with addiction trying to educate them trying to share her experience like you guys like it is so difficult to come out there and share your story of addiction publicly and taylor nicolle dean has a massive audience but taylor nicolle dean does only have four I think she's coming up on five months sober but smoky glow did not have a problem with that so I just want you to compare the two you have taylor nicolle dean with three four months sober making videos about addiction recovery giving advice to her fans and she has an audience of 1.79 million subscribers meanwhile I'm over here and I have 80 000 subscribers so again going back to debating from a place of morality and ethics and how it makes you look hypocritical you won't find one video on smoky glows channel saying that she disagrees with taylor nicolle dean giving people addiction recovery advice right because from the place where she's coming from she believes that people who aren't licensed should not be saying things like this or giving anybody advice and she calls it quote unquote dangerous but if that was truly her moral compass she would be making videos about taylor nicolle dean as well and why she hasn't I don't know but from my perspective and I might be totally wrong about this smoky glow if you want to reach out and correct me but it seems like because a lot of us do this when we dislike somebody we form our opinions based off that and the problem is is that it often last lacks logic and rationale but I've had a lot of requests lately to make videos about the advice taylor nicolle dean is making so make sure you're subscribed because tomorrow I will be discussing that but just so you know I am so glad taylor nicolle dean is discussing this um I just want to clarify a couple things that that she said just from my own experience and education and everything like that but I've had a ton of requests um specifically uh was her talking about 15 of people having the addiction gene and everything like that so I'll clear that up tomorrow now something else smoky glow was mad about was I made a video titled please stop enabling taylor nicolle dean and what that was talking about was when taylor nicolle dean and I had a back and forth on twitter and like I said I was wrong in that situation but I said you know no treatment professional no sponsor would say it's good to date in early recovery and taylor nicolle dean said that they they said it was okay oh my god like first off it's somebody newly in recovery like I don't know if you knew this or not but drug addicts don't like being told what they should do okay like again like I mentioned in the video yesterday like do you think do you think any therapist doctor counselor caseworker anybody in their right mind would say huh yeah yeah taylor nicolle dean I think it's a great idea for you to meet somebody in rehab and start hooking up with them that's gonna work out phenomenally and the fact is she is lying to you okay like I hate to say that but to put out there that her her her doctors and everybody thinks this is okay is a blatant lie because nobody who works in this field would ever say that in a million years okay right and like I said a lot of us are still not in our right state of mind in early recovery but she then came out with this clip but this is when I started swapping my addiction for men because now I'm so emotionally vulnerable and I'm in this horrible place and I don't have the drug to help me so I started seeking it out and men doing a lot of things I wasn't supposed to be allowed to do with men on campus and they were kind of picking up on it staff they didn't have proof that anything was going on but relationships aren't allowed in rehab and so they put me on a behavioral contract so yes taylor nicolle dean at that time was lying to justify her actions and what she was doing so I I admire smoky glow for being in school right now and being in recovery and learning about helping other people but like like I said I have seven years sober three years working in a massive drug and alcohol treatment center working with thousands of people like it's important that we know when we shouldn't be enabling people and call them out when they might be lying to us especially when it's a life-or-death situation so in my opinion I think one of my biggest problems is my delivery all right I come from this this type of tough love place but like I said like even though I'm here to kind of like entertain and make these videos engaging and talk about some subjects that not many people are talking about like I'm not in the business of people liking me I'm in the business of saving lives so I'll end this video with a quick story to kind of wrap up the moral of this video when I first got sober and this is one of the reasons I apologize to taylor nicolle dean because I came off like these guys who I hated when I first got sober there were so many men and women in 12-step meetings who had years of sobriety and they came off like dicks all right they would just say stuff and I would just get so hurt and so offended because they shouldn't talk to me like that they should talk to me like this da da da da right but as I continued to stay sober and I kept seeing these same people and they had years of recovery I started to sit there and say okay I don't like the way that they're delivering their message but they're right like these guys have pointed out every single time someone is going to relapse they've said things where it seems like they know me better than I know myself even though they've never talked to me so what I'm getting at is like we can't if we want to learn if we want to grow we need to realize that some people are going to come across with a message and we don't like how they said it but what we have to ask ourselves is are they right are they correct you know what I mean like there are many people who saved my life and when they were saving my life I absolutely hated them right when I was working in treatment I had so many people so many people who hated my guts in treatment and a month later once they left they'd call me back and say Chris like now I understand why you were tough on us you know what I mean so I just want you guys to kind of think about that and try not to you know lose the message because of who's delivering that message or how they're delivering it try to get to the root of it right you could take that advice or leave it but I'm letting you know right now it helped save my life but I want to end this video with a question for all of you too for those of you especially who dislike me like now that you know that I've been right about different situations has that changed your opinion right I'm just really curious about it I'm always trying to work on my presentation and make it a little bit more well well-rounded like I've been used to working in addiction treatment for so long though I'm trying to get used to YouTube but I do want to kind of know the balance that all of you guys see with you know being right and having that kind of experience and just the way the message is delivered because I know for me personally I didn't I didn't really benefit from people kind of like calling me and giving me this really soft message you know what I mean so just let me know down in the comments below all right but anyways like I said there will be a new video coming out tomorrow I will discuss the the aspect of Taylor and Nicole Dean giving advice because there are some hate videos going on about her and I just want to clear that up because I don't think what she's doing is wrong and I want to discuss it tomorrow all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon as well as everybody who supports the channel by buying my books and by the way I have a 50 percent sale going on for Halloween so check my Instagram check my Twitter I put all the info up there all right thanks again for watching I'll see you next time