 Alright, I want to welcome all of you back, we have about one and a half hours now till one o'clock to finish some work, so we will go at a slightly faster pace, but the commitment is that if there is anything that is not clear for you, completing the material for me is least important, the entire course can actually take place in one interaction. So I don't have any attachment to covering all the material, as far as I am concerned if you have a question and we can have an interaction in which that becomes resolved for you. Okay, this is Amrita, right? Hello sir. Yeah, this is Amrita. Okay, very good. So I have a request, would someone please give me some feedback as to how it is going for them? Hello sir. Hello. My name is Amrita. Hi. Yeah, the college's name is Amrita and my name is Amrita. Fabulous, no coincidence. Okay. Yeah, so the session has been really good, like for how long we have attended, the reading part and that was really helpful. I have been lagging behind on my reading because everything is about technology now, so I read everything online, like it's been days since I actually read a book. The last book I read was around a year back and we are all so involved with our lives and it's difficult too, but keeping a partner and trying, at least trying was helpful because for that moment at least I read something that was not online. So it has been great and keeping a promise and also when you told everyone that you know even if you don't build up, you should get back and do it, that was really good. So till now whatever we attended has been really good. Fabulous. Thank you sir. Fabulous. Can I get with you a little bit Amrita? Yeah, sure. Okay. So when you say it is difficult, what does that mean? Difficult, you mean difficult like keeping up with the promise or difficult like reading? I didn't say it, you said it is difficult. So I'm trying to understand what you mean when you say difficult. Okay. When I say that difficult because from morning till evening we're in classes and then if I'm a computer science student, so if at all I'm doing any work, it's on my laptop or on my phone. So if I'm reading anything online news or anything else, it's all online and I miss the feeling of a hard bound book reading it. So it is difficult because you have to get out, keep your electronics aside and actually take up a book or some other vocabulary or something. So where is the difficulty? Difficulty is getting time. No, no. Pulling yourself into doing it. No, no, no. So I'm not understanding. You're doing your computer work, you're doing your reading, right? On the computer, on your cell phone, etc. And what happens? Does the thought come to you that you should now read? Is that, and then you say, oh, it is difficult. I cannot, is it not like that, right? No, that's not the thing that comes in my head. See, the work I'm doing, I had the, I was really into books earlier but now I don't get that enjoyment when I read books. Like it's like a chore right now. It's not something that comes in it. No problem. So I want to bring back that. That is difficult to bring that joy back in reading a book. So the question, I'm not asking what is difficult. I'm asking what is the difficulty? The difficulty is putting aside a laptop and taking up a book. When you know that you can get. When you can get what? When you can write now for me, more enjoyment is reading. Like there is a question answer website called Cora. So reading answers and other people's opinions on that is more interesting than picking up a new book with a new and because picking up a book is an investment itself. If you, if you start with a book for half an hour and then you're like edge boring, you've lost that half hour and you don't have anything like you don't want to go ahead and you cannot get that half hour back. But at the same time if I put in the Cora thing, maybe I'll know something about North Korea or some weird fun fact. Very good. So, so yeah, if you put, if you know that this book is great and you will get hooked on to it, I will read it. But it's like getting into a new course. Very good. Excellent. Yeah, yeah, but you write absolutely. So that's the nature of anything new. See our, you know, I'm going to say it in a bad way. This isn't exactly new for me. Sorry? This isn't exactly new for me, right? Reading books isn't exactly new for me. I know, but books are boring compared to some Cora. That is new for you, is it? Yes, that has never happened to me. Very good. So you found something more exciting? Something that does give me the joy of reading and a little bit more exciting. Yeah, but it's short-term enjoyment. Yeah, very good. Long-term enjoyment. Very good. So both are important. Yes. So both are important. Yeah, okay. Okay, so I'm going to say it badly. Okay, can I say it badly? You can say it anyway. Okay. So human beings get addicted to certain things? Yes. All right. So you just got to notice and it's not like a bad thing. Not that, you know, reading Cora is bad or something. It's just that if it prevents you from doing, keeping your promise, then I would say, hey, which is greater, the addiction or you? I should be able to overcome it. Yeah. Yeah, no, don't do anything to overcome it. Just, you know, make a promise to a friend and keep it. Yes. It's simple. Yes. Don't complicate it, okay? Yeah. All right. Thank you very much. You've been wonderful. Okay. Thank you very much. I appreciate it. Okay. Archan, far away. People there. Okay. Very good. So one of you from that corner of the room, okay? From one of you from that corner of the room, please tell me what is it that you're hearing? Is it useful, not useful? I want to get some feedback. Please go ahead. What's your name? Mahadev. Hi, Mahadev. How are you? I'm fine, sir. Go ahead. Please talk. Sir, while reading some words are not... Some words are confusing, sir. While reading, I'm books, sir. And I read, sir, your PDF, sir, soft skills and I read it. Some words are so critical, sir. So I will use the dictionary and find the word and search it. Yeah. Do you... What's your mother tongue? Sir, my mother tongue is Telugu, sir. Very good. So do you read literature in Telugu? Exactly, no, sir. Okay. I can understand Telugu. So do you read Telugu? No, sir. Okay. So what are the languages you can read? Marathi in English. Okay, very good. So which one are you most comfortable in? Marathi in English also. English also I'll comfortable, sir. Okay, very good. So what you... Probably what you're doing is you know... If you need a dictionary, that's great. There are some applications available online which will help you in... You know, you don't have to go to a dictionary. You can actually just click on the word and it'll give you the meaning. See if that... So talk to somebody who is an expert at reading within your college community. Talk to some of the faculty members and take some coaching, okay? Yes, sir. And there's a lot of material on the web. I mean if you went into effective reading, there's a lot of stuff over there. But don't do it alone, Mahadev. Yes, sir. Don't do it alone. Who's your partner? Do you have a partner? Yes, sir. All right, very nice. What's your partner's name? Harsh. Yes. Harsh, how are you? I'm fine, sir. How are you? All right, so how... You've been... Both of you have been interacting or did you keep your promise or did you not keep your promise? Frankly speaking, no, sir, I have not kept it. Okay, no problem. But are you committed? Do you want to? Yes, sir, I do. You do? Sorry, so I forgot what my question was. So what are you saying I do too? Sir, I mean I really want to do my promise, so what I have done. Excellent. Thank you. Keep my promise. Thank you very much. So, you know, do you read a lot? Not a lot, but at times I read. Okay, very good. And what's your mother tongue? My mother tongue is Hindi. Hindi. And are you fluent with English? Yes. All right, so both of you, you know, the point is this, okay, this is like an invented partnership. So both of you can create it and then, you know, bank on each other's partnership to break through whatever you need to break through. Can you promise to each other again? Yes, definitely. All right, shake hands then. All right, very good. Thank you very much. All right, thank you very much. Appreciate it. All right, keep doing the work. Okay, keep doing the work. If the promise gets broken, clean it up, make a new promise. Okay, that's how you will bring power. That's how you will, you know, keep forwarding your commitment. All right? Yes? If I say yes, thumbs up. Okay, good. Thank you very much. All right. So let's move on to the slides. Thank you very much, Walshan. Thank you. Okay. Let's go on to the PowerPoint slides now. And this is where we were in the last, just before the break. I just want to give you a sense of the assignments. Okay? There are about 14,000 participants across India in this course right now. And only 47% have registered on IIT Bombay X, which is a big gap. And I don't know why there's such a gap. But, you know, still everybody's invited to please register on IIT Bombay X so that you can access the videos and do the quizzes which are associated with the videos so you can really get full value of this course. Of the people who are active in the course, only 55% have actually done the assignment. So the overall assignment rate is about 26%, okay, which is a little on the lower side given that you are committed to your self-development. I think it's important to, you know, move that number up. So for those of you who have not registered, please register. And for those of you who have not participated in the assignments, please do the assignments. And this is my appeal to all the coordinators in the remote centers to please encourage your participants so that they can get full value out of this course, okay. I'll move on to the next slide now. So here's what I'd like to do. I'd like for you to take a minute to create a partner, okay. If you already have your partner from the first session, then great. You should talk to your partner. Otherwise, whoever is sitting next to you is your new partner, okay. So whoever is sitting next to you is your new partner. So please say hello to your new partner. If you don't have a person sitting next to you, go sit with somebody who is an odd number so that they'll be partners of two, only two, not three, only two. And then with this partner, with your new partner, complete the conversation. Did you keep your promises? If yes, say thank you. If no, take responsibility for it and make a new promise. So can you please do that now? All right, Knowledge Institute of Technology, Salem. If you can see me and hear me, please raise your hands, wave your hands. I have a young participant there. All right, so someone please talk to me. Have you done the work with your partner? Do you have a partner? Everybody have a partner? Yes, sir. We have partners. Okay, very good. So what I'd like for you to do is make a new promise. Each one should make a new promise. So have you made a promise? If you made a promise, raise your hands. Okay, thank you very much. All right, thank you. Any questions, please? Any questions from your center? How will you trust if I make a new promise? Why, if I don't trust you, what will I do? I'll get angry. No, no. I mean, should I trust you or should I not trust? Yes, sir. If the promise has been break, if I again promise him, how will you trust me? I'm asking that. How will the another person will trust me? Very good. It's a very, very good question you're asking me. You break the promise once. You break the promise twice. You break the promise three times. Then I will not trust you. Okay, sir. Okay, but you know, I have to give somebody three chances. Is that okay? Yes, sir. Okay. And then what happens after three times? The relationship has gone, sir. Beautifully said. Very, very well said. That's the cost. That's the cost. You know, you really so beautifully touching upon a very powerful aspect of humanity. Thank you, sir. Yeah, yeah. So are you failing? Yes, sir. Very good. So can I give you some coaching? Yes, please, sir. Find a coach. You should find a coach for yourself. Oh, okay, sir. Okay, so see what I'm hearing is. I'll find. Yeah, what I'm hearing in what you're saying is a committed player. If a committed is failing, the only thing you need to do is get a coach. I'll find and I'll get him. Very good. Talk to me. Say something to me. I'm listening. Sir, my friends are ready. So they want to ask some questions. Okay, sure. Sure. Them. Sure, please. So how to find a new coach, sir? All right. So you have many teachers. All it is, should I prefer while I want to find a new coach? Okay. The coach has nothing to do with your success. Okay, sir. Because who you are is a great player. Okay, sir. Coach will only make sure you keep your promises. Yes, sir. Okay. Okay, sir. So if a coach, if you promise something to the coach and coach reminds you, you will not like the coach. Yes, sir, I agree. So the only quality that the coach should have is whether you like it or not, the coach will keep reminding you. Yes, sir. Okay, good. So now you know what to look for in a coach. Yes, sir. To keep our promises, just we want to promise to them that I will do it definitely so that we can step up. And you will not do it definitely. Sir, why, sir? Because you are a human being. Because you're a human being, you will definitely not keep your promise. That's true, sir, and I agree with that. Very good. So if somebody reminds you, then honor that you ask them, see, here's, I'll give you a simple example. We set up an alarm to get up in the morning, right? Yes, sir. Why? Sir, to wake up early. Yeah, because we have- But actually we don't do that. We just lose that time. Ten minutes. Five minutes. And again, 15 minutes. And we will never get up. Very good. So when you go to sleep, you have a commitment. That's why you set up the alarm. And then in the morning, when the alarm starts, you keep throwing it away. Smoothing. As human. Yes, sir. Perfectly okay. Are you human? Yes, sir. Can you laugh at yourself? I do, sir. Very good. But you seem a little serious right now. Are you serious just now? Are you very significant, very loaded, very heavy? Sir, a little bit. I know, I know. That's human, right? Yes, sir. Okay. A little nervous. Yeah, very good. So if you- I understand. I appreciate that. Now, if you can be light and if you can laugh about your own humanity, there's a lot more power available to you. Yes, sir. Being realistic. I don't know why. I don't know what reality is actually. So I'm just saying, realities are created. We will talk about that sometime. But what is realistic means what? What does that mean? Being realistic. Enjoying what we love to do and what we- we just do what makes us happy. So we just don't need to tend ourselves into other things which bring stress to us. Being real in the sense we just expose ourselves to what we know and what we do. All right, very good. And I just want you to know that most of the great athletes, most of the great sports persons, their muscles are always paining. Sir. So I'm not worried about whether you have stress or not. Sir. I'm only interested in your greatness. So are you okay about being stressed? Okay, sir. Are you? I'm okay. Yeah, see the relationship that you have with, you like happiness, right? Yes, sir. But you don't like stress? I want to be happy. I understand. Why don't you want to be stressed? Yes, sir. Okay, sir. Both are equal. Sir, now I'm okay with that. I'm not stressed. Yeah, yeah. So you know we haven't- we were talking about addiction, right? Somehow human beings have an addiction for happiness. If I'm working hard, if my muscles are paining and if I'm stressed, why is that bad? It's perfectly okay to be stressed. No, sir. Now when you are stressed, continue to be stressed, but can you laugh about it? I'm stressed and continue. Sir. Yes? So say something back to me. I want to hear what you're hearing. No, sir. I'm enjoying. Okay, very good. And- Sir, I- And you promise? Sir, what? What to promise you, sir? You promise me that you will keep including everything in life? Yes, sir. Damn sure. I will promise. Fabulous. I will take both happiness and stress equally. Absolutely. And many other things. And many other things which life will show you. Yes, sir. Okay, sir. So that is a mark of a great person. Okay, sir. Can you hear it? Yes, sir. I can hear you and I can understand. Beautiful. Well done. Really well done. I want to- On behalf of all the participants in all the centres, I want to thank you for having this conversation because I think it is the heart of the matter. Okay, sir. Thank you, sir. Thank you so much. Fabulous. Well done. Well done. Really well done. Thank you. All right, very good. So now we'll go back to the slide. Okay. And that's all there is to it. Here's what I'd like for you to do, which actually happened in the conversation we just had. I'm sorry I didn't ask you your name. But you know, the conversation that we just had, you actually took responsibility for your own greatness. Okay? So I'd like for you, not now, we're short of time, but at some point in time, I'd like for you to write down all the circumstances in your life that you use as reasons when you have not kept a promise. There are always some reasons. There are always some circumstances because of this, because of that, I didn't keep my promise. So who has power in your life? Not you. The circumstances, the reasons. Okay. Then what happens is because I have, you know, somebody very nicely said that you fail once, you fail twice, you fail thrice, the relationship is gone and guess what? You actually stop making promises. Forget about big promises. Even small promises you stop making. So you can't do that. Okay? If you're talking about soft skills, the only place soft fails are available are in making promises and keeping them, making promises and keeping them, making promises and keeping them. Small promises, medium-sized promises, large promises, happy promises, stressful promises, it doesn't matter. Life gets lived inside of promises. You start making promises and you're keeping them. Fail, it's okay. Clean it up, start again, clean it up, start again. That's how you learn how to ride a bicycle. And the last thing I want to say over there is welcome to the world of leadership. I don't have it here with me, but, you know, I'll send it to you. I'll upload it. There's a very nice quotation. Actually, it's not a quotation. It's a series of events, the number of failures that happened before Abraham Lincoln was elected as the President of the United States. I'll send it to you. It's fabulous. It's very inspiring. I mean, it's so inspiring. Every time I read it, it actually makes me cry. I'll send it to you. Okay, that's my promise to you. I'll send it to you. Okay? Let's move on to the next slide. So this is the new promise you're making to your partner. If you want, if you don't want to go with a specific promise that is on the screen, make a promise that is workable for you. But don't sell yourself short. Don't make a small promise. Make a promise that will make you push. Any time a great athlete has to go to the next level, their muscles have to develop to the next level. The muscles pain when you actually are developing them. So please make promises to your partner. Right now, I'll take half a minute. I'll be quiet for half a minute. Make the promise. Then we'll continue. So I'll give you half a minute to make a promise to your partner, exchange your phone numbers, exchange your emails, and then we'll start again. So I'll start in half a minute. All right. Very good. So let's move on now. I'm not going to ask questions now because we don't have enough time. But here's what I want to say. Here are the possible outcomes from today for you. One of the things that stops us as human beings is our fears. And when I make a promise that fear may not be there, but when I have to fulfill on the promise the fear is much bigger than me. Who made the promise? I made the promise. But when it comes down to fulfilling on the promise the fear is so much bigger than me that the fear wins. Fear is not going to go away. So don't worry about fear going away. The only thing that could make a difference is when you become bigger than your fear. And we'll talk about that when we do the video on risk. Laugh at yourself and make mistakes and laugh at yourself and make mistakes and laugh at yourself and make mistakes and laugh at yourself and make mistakes and then laugh and then laugh and then laugh. Then be ready to communicate. We haven't done enough laughing at ourselves. We've taken ourselves too seriously. We haven't opened up new opportunities for anybody. We've been so worried about ourselves. The moment you can take yourself lightly there is some room for you to be able to communicate and after you've communicated there's room to laugh again. So this could be a possible outcome from you today. At the end of today if you walk away home and you have the freedom and the ability to be able to make mistakes and be able to laugh at yourself then we're beginning to get somewhere in the space for being able to communicate. Another possible outcome could be that there'd be an appreciation, respect, honor and acknowledgement. First of all for yourself, for others, for your partners, for your family, for your teachers, for people around you, for life and the universe. That's another possible outcome from today's interaction. I'm just going to assert that all of us want our lives to matter. We want to be free to be able to express who we could be not one day, not one day, not one day, not someday, not someday, not somewhere, but here and now we want our lives to matter. So when you create a future from that freedom, you create a future from a place of freedom and then you communicate that as who you are. So you actually have the freedom to be someone who makes a difference not one day, not someday, not somewhere, but here and now and when you create a future from that place of freedom you get to communicate. That's who you are. So I'm going to leave this open now for you to share with your partner today as to what are the possible outcomes that you want to create. I'll move on now because this is short on time so I'll move on. Actually, I'll take one interaction. So I'll take one interaction from one person to say what is it that you are going to take, what is it that you plan to take away from today's session? Hi, Geetanjali. Hi, sir. All right, very good. So one of you please share with me what is the possible if you were to go away from this session with some outcome, what would it be? It could be a positive attitude of making promises and fulfilling them. Very good. And a nice attitude which make our relationship stronger with our friends. Very nice. Very simple, isn't it? Yes, sir. Yeah, human beings have this addiction of making things complicated. Yes, it is. Yeah, very good. So please go ahead. Tell me, I'm listening. But if we can make it simple by just some words, it would be very easy to communicate with the people rather than taking some distances from the people which makes the relationship pile into complicated complicated things, that means which makes the relationship to break due to making it complicated. And also I get a very well said. Thank you. Keep going. I have got another possible outcome is that now I can confidently tell what I want and I can confidently tell who I am to anyone around me so that I can give promises as well as make them possible and also take promises from them and make them possible from them also. So I just want you to know that I'm using you as an example to salute. Salute every one of you articulating the value that you are committed to generating for yourself. So for that I salute you. Thank you so much sir. Welcome. Very welcome. Very good. Give a big hand please. Big hand. Thank you so much. Thank you. We will move on to the slides now. So ready to begin the journey? I guess all of you take a moment close your eyes. Quiet for a minute. No I am not giving you a minute. I don't have time so we will do this quiet time later. Let's continue. So I am going to now show you a video. You may, most of you may have seen it but I am showing it to here because it opens up discussion. Now here is how to see these videos. Ready? Some instructions. Do not look for answers to your questions in these videos. These are no life solutions. There are no life solutions in these videos. They are intended to have you inquire as an intelligent human being and see if you can bring value for yourself. There is opportunity to reflect and add new dimensions. Example is that you already know how to walk. These are intended to open up a door to now learning how to ride a bicycle. Once you learn how to ride a bicycle, you would not have forgotten to walk. So we added a dimension. We didn't change it. We didn't replace it. Now I put the word walk and bicycle in inverted commas. You can choose to replace those words with anything that you want. So what is it that you call walk is up to you. What is it that you want to call bicycle is up to you. So these videos are really intended to open up some new inquiry. It is not an answer. It is not a solution. So I hope that is clear and now I would like for you to enjoy the videos. So the first video is now going to be Game of Communication. Hello. I want to welcome you to this short video. We have titled it Game of Communication. This is a part of the Technical Communication Skills course as a part of the D10KT. When I am looking at Game of Communication we usually don't relate with communication as a game. But if you were to look at it, you would probably want to know what is a score board. So I am just going to share with you some of the thoughts, some of the experiments, some ways to empower you as well as people you would be dealing with. And whatever I am sharing with you is things that have worked and because the time is not enough I cannot share with you all the number of times that we have failed. So really if there is one thing to communicate or communicate in this episode is I would really encourage practice and sharing as a discipline. So I am able to say what I am able to say because there have been a large number of students and I should say generous students who have given an opportunity for me to work with them and so the practice that was available in doing that and then the sharing of it. So from one class to the next class the sharing of the work that got done it is a part of the discipline that I have come to imbibe. So I just want to share with you that as well that practice and sharing is something that I would very strongly encourage you to do. Let's just take a look at if communication is a game and we want to become effective. We may want to look at what is the game at present. So by and large my understanding is that most of us got trained to focus on what you are going to present. And sometimes once you know how to present also how to present it. A little bit more about the shift in the game. If your focus has been on what you present and focus on how you present it it allows a certain kind of an outcome. So to give an example we knew cricket to be a game which was played as test matches and then at some point in time we started doing the 50 overs, limited overs one day cricket. And then more recently we have the T20. Now the quality of participation the quality of engagement has completely changed by virtue of the scoreboard and the scoreboard first was given by 5 days of game and then 50 overs and then 20 overs. When I was a kid I used to think earth is flat I am sure most of you did too till the first lessons of geography and we figured out that earth is not flat. But there was a time when not just me as a child but all of humanity used to think that earth is flat and so the ships would go up to a certain distance in the ocean and then come back because they were afraid that they would fall over. The moment the paradigm shifted the moment the reality shifted that human beings are living on a planet which is spherical our entire way of relating with the planet changed. So we are going to be talking about paradigms so communication if it lives inside of a paradigm if it lives inside of a certain reality that I know that I only knew as a flat earth then some things are possible and some things are not possible in that flat earth. However now that the paradigm is changed now that we have an understanding that earth is spherical maybe there are some things possible now which were not possible earlier so that's the magic of actually being able to recognize a paradigm and then work at the level of shifting the paradigm. So in that sense I am actually saying let's see if there is a shift in the paradigm of communication that we can bring about. So the shift would come about the access would come about in moving the focus from what and how to who is presenting and who is it being presented to. So I just want to stop there for a moment. The focus still now has been on what we are going to present and how we are going to present it. I am actually now asking you to look at it from a different angle or a different perspective and the angle of the perspective is coming from two questions first one is who is presenting and if you are the person who is presenting then who and you might say your name or you might say your designation but that's not what I am referring to when I say who we will see how and who is it being presented to is it a student audience is it a group of scientists is it a public hearing I know our students to be a particular way and given that they are a particular way I then deal with them in a way that works for them I am actually asking you to question who you think they are or who they are for you such that then you can begin to shift the paradigm and begin to relate in a way in which it should be effective. So just some ways of looking at it the moment I say who is teaching the person who is teaching is someone who is committed to improving somebody's knowledge or improving somebody's understanding some of us also are doing it because it is a job so I am someone who is fulfilling on a job so who I am is someone who is fulfilling on a job I am a teacher so I am fulfilling on my job as a teacher and whatever the interpretation of teaching is for me some of us could even be doing it because it is a duty I don't know how many times you may have experienced this but I am sure at some point in time you have experienced it too sometimes if I say thank you to someone a lot of times especially in an Indian context the response comes up is no sir don't thank me it was my duty and it almost for me is like can I if it is your duty can I still thank you for doing it so a lot of times people see duty as something they have to do it so that is you and me who is actually doing the teaching or who is communicating who is presenting then there is the other side of the audience or the other side which is the audience where who is there who is sitting over there someone who is learning because they have to pass an exam okay my entire learning my entire studying is oriented to pass an exam or it could even be I mean probably passing an exam gets to be somewhere in the teenage years when people begin to see that they have to pass an exam but maybe a little earlier sometimes people don't want to be punished or they know that there are some consequences and therefore one has to do it if you don't do it then there be consequences so that is the kind of thinking that is out there in the audience the people who we are trying to reach so who is there who is learning is people who have a collection of these conversations so there is one side which is teaching whose teaching is someone who is improving doing a job being duty bound and the other side we have a people who are either learning to pass an exam or they don't want to have punishment they want to avoid consequences and therefore they have to so that's the range that we have with which we've been playing the game so the next step then is to actually inquire or articulate into who are you the next step would be who are they because without an articulation of who you know yourself to be or who you declare yourself to be and who you know them to be or who you declare them to be there is no game communication is not going to happen it's going to be just by default in a condition in which we know sometimes it's effective and sometimes it's not effective but if you are in the game of communication and you want to win these are two aspects that you may want to begin to articulate for yourself before you actually design the communication one of the exercises that we could do is that we design a communication and then ask this question is what is the question that they the audience the students should be able to answer successfully at the end of your communication so one more time if there was a question that you would ask at the end of your communication which they can successfully answer what would that question be if they answered it successfully then you were successful if they couldn't answer it successfully and there was a failure who failed and that is adequate there's nothing else to be done with that that's adequate that's complete in and of itself when you recognize that it failed you start again okay and that's where the practice cycle goes over and over and over again and each time there's a new communication each time there's a new audience each time there's a new you new them so with that the game continues thank you for your attention all right so let's open up a certain amount of discussion and there are questions I'd really like to take questions if you have now these this is a video that was already put up and some of you may have seen it some of you have may have even answered the quiz questions but a large number of you have not seen it so therefore I wanted to make sure that we open it up for discussion and ask if you might have any questions so we are right now at Surat Sarvajanek College of Engineering Sarvajanek College of Engineering hello very good so do you have a question on the video anything you want to ask hello how are you good please tell me any questions from the video anything that opens up for you after watching the video no sir have you seen this video before yes sir it was uploaded on the site excellent did you do the quiz yes sir okay very good so it's clear so after seeing it is there anything that opens up for you anything useful for you sir it's about how we learn from the teachers it's about knowledge you know if you learn for the sake of maths then you won't get it but if you if you try to learn for knowledge and then implement it in a practical life so it will help very good so are you going to be interviewing soon no sir I am first year student first year no problem so where you are standing is in a very appropriate place very powerful place and the first year right now the important thing is for you to learn so the teachers will relate with you a particular way but how do you relate with teachers so if you are going to go and discuss with them and if you are going to go talk to them like they were they were your coach you are a great player you are getting trained to go out after your graduation and be a great human being then you are looking for coaches teachers then are not just teachers who are there to have you pass your exams but these are people who actually have a lot of experience a lot of wisdom and you become the you become the recipient you start receiving these from them so you don't have to wait who you are is someone who is willing to be trained someone who is willing to be coached if you are willing to be trained and you are willing to be coached automatically the teacher becomes willing to relate with you as somebody who is coachable and therefore they can coach you so it's about how we approach it depends upon us yeah absolutely it totally depends on you who are you if you are someone who will approach then that's who you are and that's a whole new dimension of life will open up fabulous okay well done thank you very much what's your name Atharva thank you very much Atharva please give a big hand Atharva I know there are few people but you can give a big hand thank you very much thank you Atharva bye bye Periyar how are you Periyar hi so what are you hearing in the video in the video that is the question sir have you seen the video before no sir I didn't see no problem so you saw it for the first time today yes sir okay very good did you see what is the value from the video yes sir how to be gay and how we are and how to do our work with responsibility and how to keep our promises okay very good alright so you'll have to maybe listen to it again and you'll have to keep practicing okay you'll have to spend time on it so that it becomes a part of your thinking okay very good thank you very much what else from Periyar hi sir have you seen the video before yeah just know I've seen this video okay in this video what I like what I learned means first of all you know yourself you know what you are and you realize yourself these are the things I have just seen this video okay very good and you should also know that you are not fixed you as a human being are always expanding so you will have new realizations every day inside of which you'll keep growing as a human being okay this phone has certain dimensions it is fixed this phone has certain dimensions it is fixed you and I as human beings are not fixed yes sir we can keep growing every day you can invent a new you every day we are grown up we will learn lot of things yes we are not fixed sir I agree with the statement so you know why I am saying that is because you said that you have to realize yourself you have to realize yourself you have a conference sir you will get a conference then you will concert your works but you have less much of conference you have a doubt in that things no problem if you are doing something which is new you will always have doubts you will always have lack of confidence so what I am inviting you to is that there are things which you are good there are things in which you have confidence very good but then if you want to expand you will have to on goingly deal with doubts and lack of confidence the thing is new means I have less confidence in that thing I have no fully about that thing means I have very I have more much of confidence very good so what what you already know you have confidence no problem but if you want to grow you will have to do things that you don't know so then you confidence will not be there at that time I create the interest at that time I create the interest I have to know what is this what are the things is going on I have to know I have to know about that thing excellent so who you are I create the eagerness I create the eagerness and willingness I doesn't know about that thing so I create the willingness about that thing I have to know then only I create a confidence excellent so confidence is something which happens afterwards when you start learning how to ride a bicycle you keep falling after you learnt how to ride the bicycle you have confidence that you can ride the bicycle but first of all I make practice practice and then I get the confidence very good so you decide that and you keep expanding okay so you keep becoming a bigger human being yes very good so who you are what's your name? Parvachalam sir okay so you are always growing that's who you are okay so who you are is someone who is always willing to learn okay sir who you are is someone who is always willing to take help for your learning coaches excellent so you are a great player coaches will help them to how to learn very good so you are a great player you understand what I am saying sir no I can't hear sir no problem so what I am saying is that you no matter which game you take whether you play football or whether you go and do a job whether you go in a relationship whether you take care of your parents all the different games of life right yes so you are a great player in every game it is not possible I am not perfect in all the things well done okay well done congratulations give them a big hand please alright very good alright Valshan I am back to you now so tell me what is it that you heard in the video anything that is of value any questions anything you got out of it I have seen the video before and even now I saw the video the video of game of communication what I got to know is that what you are presenting and how you are presenting matters but who you are and for whom you are presenting that also matters very good and some some people do it teachers do it as a part of a job or as a part of their duty and the way we are presenting the audience must do it what is your name Gunjan Gunjan my request is not to tell me what is in the video because I spoke it right I am interested in what is it that you got out of it I got that no matter if you fail you have to practice and improve okay I have a question for you who are you I am a human being excellent that's a good place to start now let's create something right so who are you I am a student of engineering excellent now you are a student of engineering why because I am here to learn new things and what I am interested in excellent and so what if you learn it then what if I learn it I will get to know the new things I will grasp it and I will be updated to what is happening around me and then what and then I will implement the things why because I will be interested in it or if it would be my duty very good what are the things that are of interest to you as a human being so let me ask you differently 20 years from now if you were to be introduced at a college if you were to be introduced in public how do you want to be introduced 20 years from now obviously successful as what as what as a software engineer excellent very good who you are is someone who is committed to software development for what to help the developing society to connect with the digital world very good so Gunjan can you now begin to hear that you are now beginning to articulate who you are as a commitment yes sir yes you understand so if who is sitting in the class is someone who has that commitment your questions you will ask are very different than if you were to pass an exam yes very good so welcome to you thank you sir ok so now who are the teachers for you sir we have subjects for each subject no I am not interested in subject my only subject right now is you yes so I am the teacher for myself no no you are not the teacher for yourself teachers around you will certainly not have a job so I am not you are the subject your commitment is the subject yes now the teachers around you begin to show up differently right yes what are they training you for they are training me to become a better engineer in future and to get no no no they are now committed to your success as a commitment yes but you have never asked them you never told them what is your commitment correct so now your relationship with your teachers have changed maybe right so my request to you is this ok and as I am requesting this to you I am requesting it to everybody who is participating my request is start speaking your commitment that is who you are and then sharing it with your friends with your family with your teachers so that the teachers actually have the opportunity to contribute to you in your development forces will happen no problem classes will happen no problem but the game yes sir surely you see the game will change I agree sir very good thank you so start practicing it now yes sir definitely I appreciate you thank you very much salute to you thank you sir now we will move on to the last so we will take another 2-3 interactions because we have about 7 minutes left the other 2 videos are available and we will make sure that they are available to you so you can watch them and maybe even do the quiz but at this point in time I want to take 5 minutes to hear some more commitments from you as to who you are and what is the game you are up to so let's move on to where are we now Mepko, Sivakasi hi Mepko a very graph known it's really exciting being a part of this course I have a question sir yes at the end of the presentation to know whether the presentation is successful or not we have to ask a question how do I choose that question to know whether my presentation is successful or not yeah so if you know how to ride a bicycle yes sir I know how to ride a bicycle so I do not know how to ride a bicycle okay so please tell me how to ride a bicycle first you have to sit on the seat before that you have to move the stand and then you have to sit have the keys both your hands on the handle and step by step you have to start for the legs okay very good so but then after that I will have to do it myself I will have to fall right yes sir okay very good so I am inviting you to sit on the bicycle of the question you asked okay sir you will have to fall a few times okay sir then the other question yeah then the other question is we have stated in the video that our presentation should be within 4 minutes 49 seconds so whether this question should fall within that time or after once the presentation is over after that time after that then the other question we say have is sir today during the discussion you told that we must have a coach so that time I had a question raised within my mind is there a difference between a coach and the mentor or both are same it is similar but a coach is in my experience a coach is a little tougher so mentor is someone who is closer to a teacher they are teaching you something coach is someone who is not teaching you because you are already a great player does that make sense one alright thank you very much I appreciate it thank you very much okay singer college how are you hello sir ask any question actually sir I have one question I have seen your video in that it was written that it is equally important who is presenting and who is presenting and I have one question that after the presentation if somebody does not get your point means in audience if somebody is not getting what you have said what you have presented then who is failed means the one who presented that presentation is failed or the listener is failed so my question is that who is failed in that communication very good so it's a matter of being it's a matter of taking responsibility if I am a teacher and my student did not pass the exam I can take responsibility for not having done a good job if you are a student then as a student you say take responsibility and say I didn't do what was required to do so therefore I was not successful so it's where you are that you can take responsibility it's not both are responsible it depends on where you are so if you are a student you take responsibility as a student if you are a teacher you take responsibility as a teacher I just one since you ask that question I will say something else so I want you to know who I am should I tell you who I am yes who I am is that air pollution in India will not be there by the time I retire I work in the area of air pollution right so who I am if you ask me who I am who I am is someone who will make sure that there is no air pollution in India by the time I retire okay now who are you for me that's who I am right actually I am a student yeah I am a student doing engineering but I will tell you who you are for me yeah please okay who you are for me is my partner who will make sure that air pollution in India disappears oh so what happens now you and I have a partnership right yes we have so that's the name of the game my communication with you is not about soft skills anymore so it's about interacting means how you communicate and how you interact depends on that means who is who is gonna fail or not so if you are my partner you know who I am and I am relating to you as my partner in the fulfillment of a commitment then my interaction with you is very different right yeah that's the invitation so when somebody is going for an interview who is going for an interview somebody who is looking for a job or somebody who is looking for work somebody who is looking for a job absolutely then he will work if he gets a job no very good but I am saying if you are going looking for a job then you will get a job but if you go looking for work then they will give you work and you can actually get paid for it but the work that you love to do so you have to present yourself as someone who loves to do this kind of a work and if they are if that work is suitable for that company they will give you the job for that company then you find some other place where what you want to do they can give you money for yes thank you now who you are going into an interview is not someone looking for a job who you are is someone who is going for looking for work that you love to do and that love for your work will show up yeah absolutely okay thank you very much alright so I love you out there thank you very much I just loved being with you absolutely it was great and you should just know that when I am having these interactions with you that I also am growing as a human being so I want to thank you for the opportunity and all the contributions that you have made to me and my life by interacting with me and having discussions with me we will see you again at 2 pm for the next session which is the workplace communication session so till then have a great break have a great lunch and then come back at 2 o clock sharp to begin okay so bye bye then take care