 Don't just ignore the negative feelings entirely and then use a bandaid called positive thinking to plaster on top of that Because that doesn't do anything. They don't go anywhere. Hey guys, Dave here again. I'm just gonna quick question From a viewer and if you have a question you can contact me in my email Send me a message and see if I can answer your question You can also book me for one-to-one sessions if you're going through something maybe something similar to this person here is So let's just dive right in and see if this topic can help you as well Okay, so the question is about positive thinking and feelings of depression Negative feelings that are coming up and how to process them. So the question is Hi, David. I've been going through very difficult time these past few months I can't quite understand where these feelings are coming from You talked about trauma in another video. Yeah Maybe I'll put the link for that, but it's about past traumas and how those can bring up these negative feelings in our lives I Don't think I've had a significant trauma So I don't know why I am feeling this way, okay, so Maybe that's possible. Maybe there is no, you know significant trauma, but you are a human being and The simple fact of being a human being Means that you're here long enough. You'll realize that life is not easy. Okay, so while it might not be the textbook trauma you know a parenting issue or Maybe a bereavement or a death in the family or anything really obvious to point out like that Just the fact that you are a human being living in this world is Kind of a traumatic experience, you know feeling like you're a separate human being all alone Maybe you feel vulnerable about life, you know, there's When you have an ego you could say that you're going to feel some level of trauma So just because there's nothing significant that you can point to doesn't mean it's not there It could also mean that you're just not quite aware of what it was So that's I hear what you're saying there Okay, so I don't think I've had a significant trauma I don't know why I'm feeling this way. I tried to use positive thinking I Watch positive videos every day, but I still feel bad. Is there anything I can do to stop this? Thanks Okay, so I I get what you're trying to do you're trying to use positive thinking The issue though, isn't that you don't use positive thinking Your natural state of being is to be happy. Okay? I've talked about this in past videos as well You're a naturally happy person even though you don't feel like that right now So the problem isn't a lack of positive thought or emotion The issue is that there are limiting beliefs there in place harmful painful ones and Those are the beliefs that will need to be dropped Before you feel like you're yourself again. Okay, you before you start to feel positive relaxed calm powerful optimistic So you can't really Choose positive thoughts If you're feeling negative okay what you really have to do is drop your belief in the negative beliefs and negative thoughts and then you automatically move into a place of emotional freedom and Peace of mind. Okay, so there's a process now. How can you do this? first of all you can It helps to have someone to talk with you can book a one-to-one session with me or you can go to a therapist or something like that someone who Wants to help you work through why you believe these negative beliefs You may not even be aware that you have these negative beliefs. They could be hidden beliefs But the emotions bubble up to the surface every now and then based on what those beliefs are so It's fine that you watch the positive videos and stuff But what I would suggest that you do is you start a journal and when you journal give yourself full permission To be as negative as possible Get in touch with the shadow part of your mind, right the part that we don't want to look at we don't want to acknowledge and Start to write down everything that's wrong and if that's difficult for you what I would suggest is and You're not actually even feeling the negative emotion sit down Start a journal and say if I was feeling bad if I was feeling negative if I didn't like myself What would I write? What would that part of myself say? Really give yourself permission now do it with the intention of Hearing what it has to say, but then also allowing it to be Changed so you'll feel right the negative stuff But allow yourself also after you've spilled that out onto the page to allow yourself to then slowly start to change the language Okay, so you don't want to end the journaling session with negative negative negative all the way through although that is helpful Allow yourself to then start to change it slightly Okay And you will notice then that you're given your shadow self awareness The negative feelings that come from these limiting beliefs and thoughts will start to Feel seen and heard and it won't throw up these Outbursts of negative emotion to get your awareness to get your attention okay, so The positive videos and the positive thinking are okay As long as you're doing that as well Does that make sense? don't just ignore the negative feelings entirely and Then use a band-aid called positive thinking to plaster on top of that Because that doesn't do anything they don't go anywhere The only way you can get rid of these negative negative beliefs and negative thinking patterns is to look at them because when you look at them Maybe with somebody to do that work to facilitate you through that process when you look at them You realize they're all based on fabrications stories narratives I've been telling myself none of it is as true as I think it is we believe it's true You better you better believe we believe it's true. That's the issue But when you look at them in the cold heart Hardly a day you realize actually these are not as true as I thought they were at all Okay, so give that a go. That's a journaling exercise. You can start to do you can also look at the work of Byron Katie She's very very good. She loads of videos on YouTube and she has a process of inquiry that you can start to use as well But you know don't complicate it. Just take out a pen Write negative feelings and allow it to be transformed. Okay One final thing I'll say is before you do it. Maybe spend a minute or two meditating Okay, and setting an attention of I want this exercise to be helpful to me Okay, that's something else you could add to it. Okay guys. I'm gonna leave it there. 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