 What's up guys? Welcome to SPM Buzz. This is Friends Vibes and we're here again to give you a juicy conversation so on today's episode we're going to be talking about relationships and boundaries. We want to know when you're in a relationship, what boundaries are you not supposed to cross? And I'm here with my panelists. My name is Liz Jackson, the richest girl in East Africa and... Eddi Mastore. Eddi Butita, the wealth. Oh, wow. Nice to have you. The what? The what? We need to find a name. We can't find a name for me guys. It's alright. What boundaries are we talking about? Boundaries. So there's this viral video that went about social media where you know there was a party and we were seeing Milichebi and Bahati having fun dancing together. Was that a boundary that was crossed? What boundaries do you have with Milichebi? I don't know whether that's the right word or not, even if it's a panga, but yes, that's the video. What's your name? Kutwakiwa na? No, like your wife to your girlfriend. Like your wife? Yes. And what's your name? What's your name? I don't have a wife. What's your name? I don't have a wife. And what's your name? Sasa you see, my thing is, I would not do something, you should not do something in a relationship. My thing is, you should not do something that you know you'll get mad when I do it. So twaking is twaking, once you are in a relationship, you should stop twaking for 100 people? Yes. And you should not be twaked for if you expect me to not stop. I should be twaked for. You can't, for who? I should be twaked for. So even me can't talk for another person? No, you can not. It's not about atiyo kujipenda, but na jua chaliya kitwakiwa na dhim. Mesa mimi nikiwa na meka twivi, dhima kujia twak. Nana dance too. Like there's nothing big about that. So boundary is only applied to men? Clearly. That's what you two are insinuating. Because you feel like talking, me talking for another person. Nan married. Ya listen, you feel like if you are in a relationship. My point being. If you are in a relationship and you feel like me talking for another person, but that's a boundary. That's a boundary for you. So wait, we are in a relationship when you are talking for other people? Yes. Una jisikiya una jisikiya. No listen, that's a boundary for you. No, it's a boundary for you. I should not do that in a relationship. It's a red flag. But you can be twaqed for and it's okay. So that's not a red flag. Aami, you see you people, you have with all your heart. When you twaq, you are making it from the heart. No first of all dancing for women, I can't talk for anybody in the club and you are alone. I can't talk for anyone in the club and still go back home alone. No, you are visualized, it is emotions. Like you are giving it. You can talk in the club because you are single. You can't go and twaq in the club and you are married. Come on. But you are a married man. Me as a married man, I can go to the club and somebody twaqs for me. In fact, you are a woman. You are a woman. You are a woman, you should feel good that my man can be any. I am attracted to that I am twaqia. Hey. And you are married. Yeah, you should be proud of yourself. You are a woman, you should be proud of yourself. You are a woman, you should feel good that my man can be any. I can't tell you who I am. What I can't tell you is that you are a woman. That's why I am married to you. Here is a poor woman who is a man who is pro-wrestling. Hey, you are the best. You are a married man. Shoo. Actually, if you are married to a woman who is old, wiz cheke teni mua dara teni na tizi teni meref 2001 ..tsema tfu that'sf verkini sof bi regardless cheke�� ayon jok craju uf ½ kama hima kniyiko kama hayoko cheka ..if kama kum dating And then all of a sudden, nusha kwa kevin hard. Now you niche kashangi. Sasa yoni good time. I'm giving your friends a good time. Ay, why is it that when it comes to the men? Ya, I'll be your hand now. At a good time. Ono nga watu burita. First, yaman nga umonono pata, umedata shoma early. Uda pata, ako so insecure to assend that anam valisha. Ushona gawale wazai ame valisha wa suuti na tena ame valisha kako fekena katsu yuadi. Ten na nini koka kola. Anata katu watu wa sukwone. That's a lie. Awa na kwa nga insecure na sisi. So when they have a man, actually do you know edu? Girls do not introduce their boyfriends oftenly to their best friends. They don't. Because they fear what are we sure. In Nairobi. Okay, no, no. For me and my friends I introduce them. Like you introduce them, but it doesn't really depend. No, for me, I introduce to my best friends to vets. When they have a good time, they don't know what to do. They don't know what to do. When they have a good time, they don't know what to do. No, this is for a few people. By the way, it's very serious. Yeah, and the same goes to you even. In fact, at the headstin madem, nini. Nini, when let me say my boyfriend is introducing. Like I'm your boyfriend now. Don't. It's okay. We can use that as an example. It can be a bad example. Very bad. Just an example. Yeah, you're introducing me to your friends. Yes. Immediately na toka hapo evo. Your friends are the ones texting me, DMing me. No, not the friends that you have. Exactly. The friends. Imagine. The friends you have, but you know. At the head, you are the one who is sharing the same message. There is a very big difference. What is the difference between them? They are the ones who go behind your back. That's why I'm telling you. Okay, there is a very big difference between a girlfriend and a wife. Boundaries have to be there when you are married. But even when you are in a relationship. Technically, even a man that is married, there are some jokes. I don't know why you people find it. Ladies find it okay to have male friends. But they don't find it okay for us men to have female friends. There is a very big difference between married and having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Marriage should have boundaries. I don't know why you find it okay. Girls find it okay. Ladies find it okay for them having male friends. And they don't find it okay when we have female friends. It's because of boundaries. Because they know female friends might try to tempt us. But they don't want us to think that male friends can't tempt them. Because on rainy day, that male friend will really piteo that thing. So you don't have which kind of friends? No, that's true. Listen, listen. You as a woman, you can't have a male friend. Like a tini bestiangu tu. Mini, mimi kama boi friendo kwa. Ili siku tu neza kwa sana kido go. Nona, chances are uta muende na umutama lize na wuku. Ya, that's true. That's because that's how you think. No, there's no single man, listen. There's no single man that you as a woman will be just your friend. That's it. Aiii. Goja edu. So tu mesa, tu samarai kwa tu pole pole. So akuna kwa dance suggestively. True. Just laughing two of you, aimlessly. Laugh. I should not have said that. Because I'm married. No. So edu, edu demia kwa niyuna hoa niyuna hoa niyuna. Demia kwa fai kuchekeshwa na mutu? Ufai kucheka wu. Na wama niye simpan. Oh, wio-wio. Kucheka, yes. But kucheka wio-wio. Atu wana wana kufuraisha. Yes, suggest. Una tumbuizwa. Yes. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ie niyu, na kisha wana kucheka wu. Tema kuna jika. Kucheka wu seme. Ah, Aribani. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. Ufai tumbuizwa. So sabu, wimia kucheka biyana hua. So dancing. Laughing na niyuna hoa niyuna hoa niyuna hoa niyuna hoa niyuna. Na ii niyuna maziman, ya akuna friends. Akuna friends. The 4th one. The 4th one. What is the 4th one? 4th one, minafikiria. Kamwa kusu. Kwa maini wa mico, na ma demiya mico Okay hini na peregunama, usiazikubia demiya mo kusumataere kind na boka. Siakusumata nandu qusumata Na ambiya zdi demiya mico naka fi miti Enalizi yu guys are very like And they kind of got very insecure If I have a girlfriend and she's dressed well She knows that. I've told her she looks nice So she should not be complimented? So when someone tells you you are complimented, nla bakini kuakili ya ko like 24 hours? Oni. Buna ue ue senia mi na katanga fiti ya ra undi compliment? Ega ma skuambiyangi, basi pii amini ko nama kosa, sasa unafa uhu nabi wendi. But kama na kuambiya, what was kwaandi? So what you're trying to tell me? No, in case you can't be one, it's all right, but this is a boundary that I'm telling men. What's the kusimad? Ati demi hangu, ni kitu. Ati we ni kitu. Ati we ni maili. Ati we ni maili, ati una kaafiti. Eh, we ni mini piya. Ati no, mi weza. Eh, wuki skia demi akona ni yemi mi weza. Ama demi akona ni yemi mi piya nukuni. What do you feel, Adi? Ay, those are just compliments. Just a compliment, guys. Very short and precise. Exactly, ume weza? Sinivo. Una ka poa. Short and precise. Siya ti, una ka poa. Jana dewe kwa sayi niza problem. So ati bile ina se mani shida. Iwa, asu se maraka, eli una kaafiti. Him na ka ni kaafiti. Na nikijangili. How do you guys stand this? Remember this boundary? It's like it's freezoid. This boundaries, we are very clear. We are not setting boundaries for you ladies alone. We are also telling fellow men, these are the boundaries that we don't want near our women. So we are also free as ladies to tell us these are the boundaries that other ladies should not cross when dealing with your men. Like you know, it's what boundaries we do. Dema si cross. Asifanya iwa na mutuwa. Kwa ni demu kuna chali ya me iwa, e doa paivi. Una get. Ni nini utaki. Okay, your friends, your girlfriends. Chana, Bami, Marafizako. If my friends should ever get my boyfriend's number or even just DM them. You see? Atakama akuna bieshara. That's different. Bieshara again. But bieshara, ita kwa mimi, through me. Any communication you are having with my partner should be through me. Iena kwa kwa iwa. Any communication as my friend or anyone that have introduced you. Do you mean on my introduce? So how come you are going behind my bar? Iena depend. It does not depend. You have to start everything through me. Penginewa na bestiako. Penginewa ni demu kuna bestiako ni bestiago. Sinsi ni mudiwa through wewa. Ima kwa bestiako. No, your girlfriends friends are not your friends. Yes. If we are dating, my friends are not your friends. And even you, your friends as my boyfriend. They are not my friends as well. So even you guys are insecure. No, we are not insecure. That's unnatural rule. That's a boundary. Let's give it to them. No taking phone numbers from boyfriends. Like you are telling girls that today on camera stop taking phone numbers and DMing other people's boyfriends. Second boundary. Give us another one. Mini kwa na boundaryingine. I think when I post my man on Instagram don't follow him and then you start liking his photo. Then why do you post him? Sitru just make it public that I am in a relationship. But what's wrong when people follow him? Then what's wrong when people follow him? Like I just post, now I'm liked by Naisa. All of us. I'm post, liked by Naisa. What do you post? Apana ni boundary. That's real. Ikitu ni kama kusema iti ni kama tego. Ni kama iti kuna mapakazina chazapo but iti kakajama apana. No. No, that's not true. Sir imagine, no shanko me. Let me put it in your own perspective. Yes. Imagine me post it in your own perspective. Na edu acha acha like didn't follow her, ama ni ni. But all of a sudden since edu nubesh teako we're talking about friends. You get. I'm a people like you know. All of a sudden edu ame. And the son of Naisa kuna he likes. He comments. He comments. He wants to do it. He wants to do it. I'm on Instagram. No. Yeah. Instagram what? That's how you call it. That's okay with you. Like my picture. Apana. Is that okay? Okay. That one I'll share with you but why you liking my girlfriend's picture? Exactly. Why you liking my boyfriend's picture? But me meeting him alone. Okay. Liking is good. Just like it on social media. But comment. Yeah. You're there commenting. Oh, cute. Ah, no. Comment it. It's beautiful. Kamade miyango me pige picha mombasa. You guys. Uliza yo ni utili gani. You guys are parameter. You guys are parameter. Because mi miya think. Listen. Miya think. Thank God. Yeah. But is ni apanya darani like on like and comment. Ah me fanya darani. All over sudden. But if you go to the DM. No, that's it. That's it. Yeah. Actually, because already we come up. Yeah. You need to be called. Apana, no. Come on. We go up as a hake ni. Exactly. Naki ni mi si hands a, uliza, uliza ni zinu na m actionable. One other. Mi na kwen miya kamiya kamaa li, muliza ni zini. na kwa hafira after iss kaisAUote nakiwa Koshi wini wini �o Sukuli Lise Aper wiki nul 2ndu 1,000 tom sayu 1,000 tom sayu know 3rdu 100 We need to ask the 524 for Not sure what it is but you have to forget some. What's that? Those earning $2000 per hour. What's that you earned $2000? It's flatCom... Man... Is it considered no work? That it is and wouldn't work out well. Did it accept me? S that's the matter? I have an question for you as a guy cause I want to admit you're not my girlfriend. No that's girlfriend's now trigger... This is your very close friend Are you okay, wo they do? Like but you ok hanging out with another person's girlfriend no why would i Unless I have an issue Personali mi na rispet kubuwa sana Demi ya mutu si faniwa ginaibiesa na higine Unless one ake na jua Okay Atini mi hangout na bibi ya kwa simi Because things happen I might start being just genuine Na pigetu story na if ya ganafani pende So kiki kupenda you give in To that pressure Temptations happen Okay mi, I'm saying I can give in Si wezi wacha Tuna na? Tuna ku jua Chanda we This thing you're not a kani Oh my god So hanging out is a red flag Okay So and in the scenario Because we gave in Another red Boundary Boundary is I have to know where you are In a relationship Like every time or what? Every time Every time like wherever I'm going I have to call you I'm here, I'm here No update me if you're in town Uki tokatao, also ni meto kapa Super lezi It's just Would you like the same? Yes, I'll do the same This is I'm telling you this for free Unge taka ku chunga boyfriend ya ako Sim chungi Sim chungi That's why this is why I'm telling you guys You guys are making it seem as if Sim chungi I'm giving him that option Of him telling you So before ni hanzi kwa DCI The problem is The problem is mi mi na ona If you do like that ita fika ma Ita bidi hanzi kwa danga No The reason for them Me nezao encourage mu su But monome kiyo nangori nafa atapigasi mu Mi sababu Unazo siya monome vibaya Umona ume Anafa adjuwe ni mona ume Anafa adjuwe Siya ti angoji kulizu wana de mi ake Atu kwa api Unafa nyanini Naka ni kama Na chania kwa kulizu zoma suali Then he's not caring Inifak tu ekama de Nafa ni kulizu kwa api So this is one way Unafa nyanini Make it make sense Kifika sa amoji You need to be taken care of Why can't I take care of you? Wana ni sijuwe mali uko Adjuwe nini Mali nini kwa ni jenini No Why I'm asking Why I'm saying this is because To avoid unnecessary things Like I'm not telling at you Lazi ma ni kwa Amantakulizu Kwa uko api Ama ni mi No, it's just that It's catches and I don't know Just to say Beb By the way, Leo This is my program I know But you know sometimes Inakwa gaha It's not that I'm forced At wu Kwa api Nini namaskini No Unapata I'm with my boys Ma zitu na Exactly, tell me You are with your boys Then unan pigia Unan pigia Unaju anita kwa mi Mali niko Uranemi wu kuna nani Unafa niya So ma boys Oki skia ni kiki Explain I do ma zi Kwa didi Naka lutaru diwa Kwa ma poliza Kwa ma poliza Kwa ma poliza Uko api That's a concerning Question Una fanyanini Kwa zia Anu liza Lakin ya kiaza Na nani Una fanyanini Muna dua lafa katesi Muten after 20 minutes Usai yuko No, that's security Uyo nimpelelesi Buona Chansa sewe kupata mutu Anaku pigia tukujwa mali yuko Inakwa nga losa Inakwa gatu anata kujwa nga nani No No, it's not like that I don't know I just want to know I just want to be let To be let To be filled in To be filled in To just know I don't want to like Ukinia meya Ukinia meya beb Nime tokat niko tawo That's it Uki tokat tawo And you go to another place Just let me know No, it's okay I don't even have to ask you Just let me know If you're going to hang out with your friends Go hang out with your friends Just let me know Siungo aja nirudi Nikupati faw In the fact But you expect me to tell you my every move No, I'm caring That's the point You should I can't take care of you Now you guys complain We don't take care of you Ask when you show care It's upelelesi Where we are talking Kwa ni niya kukula keiki Sayama na kula keiki You may teach us order Yoni patines Yoni patines Urasimawa na zimo asebe They must Yes, it's required I don't know how you guys have this one For these guys I want to send people I want to send men to talk to us Not this one Not this one This one This one As women As girlfriends No, that's what you guys want You people have tabled boundaries We also tabled boundaries So you people have said That I should report every time Not report But as we are saying Let me know That is a boundary Lik wacha na usikro si Niaje umekunyoma jigani Minero water So we have tabled boundaries We have tabled yours Let's see what the audience asks Can I ask you a question On that note If I ask you Be kumekula ni ni Was that upelelesi Yama caring Ah, that's caring Yoni romantic Yoni caring Ukonanani ni upelelesi Ukonanani Alaptina ingina Ukonanani Uksha muambia Munafanya Yosu za ni easy Yosu za ni Yoni commission of inquiry No, but you can't tell me You know you guys You can't tell me Ati nikonama boys And all I'm hearing is Girls shouting shots Munafanya Ya, nazima ni jwe mahala Waka ni kulise What do you mean? The next thing I would want to know What's your view on Passwords za simu? View haji Like, munafakwa na Munajona passwords za each other Password is a boundary Password is a boundary No, iPhone is a boundary No, iPhone is a boundary Nizakwa boundary Nizakwa da simu Nizakwa da simu So, just assume Your partner is responsible Even men I don't advise you to get it Yeah, partner's fault But me, we have a different opinion I know you do Yes, of course Me, my password is my Uasis house Why doctor? Tosa ni niniu na tafuta Ati kuwa na easy ma bitise So what value do you get By having her password? Mine is private Ya ke As clear as Ie ni ma liya ngu Wari wei wei simu liya ke? Mimi ni ma liya uma The thing is simu yungu Ya ke ni yetu We get my points Mimi simu gabi wu du ya ngu No Wari wei ni ma liya ngu Mimi ni ma liya uma Ako na ati tima posta ba rua Ati posta ba rua Ati ni ma liya uma No, the fact that na se ma usingi ya kuwa simu yungu Imani shi tana tu ni karebi usherati No, it's just Niju, usi ya ke tumitu kwa positionia Ati wei umi chu yungu ati ya ko No, but with the points, do you know Ati aka mamtu wa shi tana ni ni You'll always find something Udu trust your partner with your MPSA pin? Ya Udu? Terain million ya? 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