 When the narcissist goes silent the narcissist will give you the silent treatment a stubborn refusal to talk to you Especially after a recent argument or disagreement Which is designed to punish you by them being indirectly resistant to your demands And it's intended to make you guess About why they're behaving that way to make you do all of the work To make you try to correct the problem So you may try to make things right You may try to talk to them, but they're just playing a game with you You may have done something that was of little importance Something that wasn't a big deal But the narcissist will blow it out of proportion They will exaggerate it to make you feel bad about it Because they want to make you suffer So they will go silent Because now you don't know what's going on You don't know why they're not talking to you But it's all just a game To see how much you're willing to tolerate from them And if you try to fix it They know they've got you under their control So they will be distant They will act like they don't care As though they have no particular interest in you As though they're unconcerned To show you that there is a disconnect To cause you to feel anxiety To make you feel like you've done something wrong They're not connecting with you They're not talking to you Which causes you to feel worried and nervous Where you have a strong desire and concern to do something or for something to happen It increases your eagerness and desire It makes you long and yearn for the narcissist to come back It causes you to become very impatient Where you may show a tendency to be quickly irritated and provoked And you may have tried to fix things already You may have tried to make things right But it's still going on and on Because that's the whole point of them doing it That's the purpose of their tactic To make you feel like a fisher of water To make you feel out of place To make you feel unhappy and uncomfortable To make you feel like you lack experience, familiarity and expertise To leave you walking on eggshells Where you become extremely cautious about your words and actions You become very careful not to offend or upset them Because they get angry very easily And you don't know what's coming next They do this to make you agitated and confused To cause disturbance and problems Which interrupt how you naturally function Because then that gives you a power to them They have control over you They can dictate how you feel They can encourage and make unfair use of your emotions To give themselves an advantage To cause you to experience a state of dissatisfaction, disturbance and agitation Where you're constantly wondering what they're going to do next The narcissist will often suggest or hint In an indirect and unpleasant way That they're going to do something harmful to you In return for something you have done They constantly keep you thinking that they could possibly do something But then maybe they want To put you in a difficult situation that you can't get out of So now they can control your actions From something that was small and of little importance Because now you're already experiencing so much anxiety So now they don't even need to go through with their threat to retaliate Which may make you feel reassured or relaxed Following release from anxiety and distress But this is actually how they gain further control of you Because now you don't want this to happen again So you begin to adapt to this type of treatment to deal with them You begin to examine yourself You automatically do whatever they expect you to do Because you're trying to avoid the anxiety and the punishment That may or may not happen But they put it on your mind They keep you thinking about what might be coming next What they're about to do Why they've gone quiet Why they haven't talked to you for a few days You're going through all of these potential sequences or developments of events You're coming up with all of these different possibilities for why this is happening Which is exactly how they want you to be They want you to be guessing and wondering about what's next Which is why you end up suffering from stress and emotional exhaustion You're always on edge You're always tense, nervous and irritable Because you're unable to relax You're constantly thinking about what they're going to do next And sometimes they're not even doing anything They're just watching you They're seeing how it affects your behavior They're seeing if it causes you to behave angrily or emotionally And then they might come back and do a kind gesture for you They will do something to give you hope That things will return to normal Things are going to be okay But then they will do something later that same day To cause you anger and displeasure Because it's all a game But people who are serious and really love you Won't play those games This is just what narcissists do Sometimes they stop But they always start again They will always go back to playing the same games again and again The games never end Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.naks.fivert.uk Thank you for watching Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon