 welcome everyone to another NARC Survivor Live video today is our fourth anniversary yes the channel has been here for four years I posted the first video on the 16th of August 2018 and we're still going today posting daily videos over 145,000 subscribers 37 million views and I'm sure a lot more to come as well and definitely more videos are on the way so today I'd like to do a special video something that isn't talked about often but it's something that really needs to be discussed because so many people after they've been involved with the narcissist they left feeling invalidated the left feeling like they're in a state of injustice as though the situation is unfair but everything has a balance in life of positive and negative you might not always see it especially in the beginning but it is there and I can assure you that if you've been done wrong by the narcissist karma is on the way so let's talk about it in the beginning the narcissist love bombed you and then they seem to not appreciate anything you did for them nothing you did was good enough they devalued you they lied to you they future faked they gave you false promises they made you believe in a future with them but they never took the steps to make it a reality and then when you finally started to catch on when you finally started to figure them out when they used up everything that you had or they got bored then they discarded you they just got rid of you like you never meant anything to them like you never existed they just disappeared maybe they ghosted you and they left you for someone who in their minds is a bigger better deal this shiny new toy who has more to offer to them because of course you were never good enough for the narcissist nothing you did was ever up to their standards and expectations and in their minds that justifies them leaving you they basically just robbed you they stole everything you had and then their excuse the justification for doing that is because it wasn't good enough and then that's how they can just move on and they didn't even think that karma is coming for them whether they believe in it or not they're not anticipating that and that's when karma really catches them at a weak point it catches them off guard which means that they do experience the full effects of their karma narcissists have this black and white mentality where something is either all good or all bad and at some point they start seeing you as all bad and someone else is all good they start to see the grass as being greener on the other side they think that other people are in a better situation because nothing is enough for them they're always looking for the bigger better deal they're always looking for the next shiny new toy they're never grateful with what they have and that's why they got rid of you because they didn't appreciate you because they thought that there was something better somewhere else at least that's what they thought they didn't intend to end up with someone who is very foolish someone who is not smart someone who is not able no they didn't expect that but this does happen a lot of times and it's because they always think the grass is greener on the other side they're always comparing situations and people they always think that other people have it better it's like they enjoy seeing people do something that's more appealing to them than them actually doing and experiencing it themselves they don't find any joy or satisfaction in that especially after some time has passed and of course when the opportunity arises they're all for it they don't plan for it they don't have any morals or values they don't care about what is right and wrong if they did they wouldn't go through with it but they do go through with it because all they care about is themselves all they care about is their own materialistic gain where they're trying to obtain money cars or clothes or some other material possessions they're not trying to gain anything deep and meaningful something significant something that actually matters no they have no interest in that that's why it was so easy to just discard you just throw you out like your garbage because your love and kindness really is just garbage between narcissist they don't value it they don't appreciate it that they'd rather have materialistic things so yes they will stray they will wonder off like a homeless person going from one park bench to another one or like a stray cat or dog yes they will do that but one thing they're not suspecting one thing they're not intended to happen is to wonder off into something that is very harmful and dangerous for them they're not intended to run into someone who is a player or a narcissist themselves someone who doesn't give two shits about them but knows how to play the game someone who knows how to create the illusion and sell the dream of something better of having something more of being able to meet the narcissist standards and expectations they're not intended to run into someone like that someone who knows how to play the game someone who knows how to manipulate them sell them a dream and future fake but more often than not this is how they end up this is what happens and they're sitting over there trying to sell that same dream to you when all the while it's fake it's a facade and even when they eventually figure it out they're still trying to sell that dream to you they're still lying to themselves because the truth is too painful for them to admit the narcissist wants to sell this dream to you but they've moved on they rode off into the sunset they're living this perfect life with this perfect person and that's how you know they're full of shit that's how you know that they're bullshitting because nothing is perfect there's nothing that doesn't have any problems or difficulties but of course when you had those problems and difficulties with a narcissist that's when their eyes started to wonder that's when they started to look elsewhere they started looking at other people's relationships they started to look at what other people are doing and they just accepted everything as they saw it with their own eyes rather than looking more deeply into it so they never realize or come to the conclusion that what we see in other people's lives and other people's relationships from the outside it's all a facade it's a deceptive outward appearance it's an act it's a display and it's not real these people you may see whether it's in public or on Instagram they have the same problems and issues that you do they have the same arguments and disagreements it's really not as great so as pleasant as it looks it really isn't but the narcissist has this black and white mentality it's either perfect or flawed good or bad right or wrong and they're always looking for the next shiny new toy the next bigger better deal thank you narcissism for the condemnation so of course when they see something that looks good it looks shiny on the outside they believe what they're seeing and they react to it and that is when they start to distance themselves from you because now they've got this fantasy in their heads and they're looking for it they're looking for this new situation in real life because in their minds it's going to be a hell of a lot better than what they had with you but they're not thinking clearly they're very unwise they lack good sense and judgment there are a lot of players and narcissists out there there's a lot of scammers a lot of corn artists a lot of bullshitters people who exaggerate and lie people who talk nonsense people who modify their game to bait people just like that in these types of people who are going through a difficult time they're in a vulnerable state maybe they've just left a relationship and they're easily impressed it's easy to excite their interest and curiosity because after they've just left what they think is an unfavorable situation they're just looking around for something to be better and this new person plays on that and they bait and hook the narcissist in by creating this illusion this facade by selling them a dream and the narcissist is just eating it all up without realizing that it's a dishonest act a scheme but there is a reason why it's so effective on the narcissist because you have to remember that there were things that you wanted from them there are things that you desired but they neglected you they were very lazy they didn't make much effort with you like they did before and the reason for that is because you were being very realistic about things in life you were being sensible you were being practical about what can be achieved about what can be expected so you were being practical you were being aware of things as they actually are instead of trying to sell them a dream you weren't trying to sell them a dream you weren't trying to sell them a fantasy and for that reason you were boring to the narcissist you weren't any fun because you were based in reality rather than a fantasy an illusion or a dream and this new person they are selling a dream they are given the narcissist a fantasy and the narcissist is buying it they're believing in it they're falling for it they're being tricked they're being deceived because in their heads this is exactly what they need it's exactly what they've been looking for all this time so they will be putting out with this new person they will be giving them all of their effort and energy they will seem very kind and generous to them but that's only because they don't realize they're being deceived so they will do more for this new person all of those things that you want to them to do but they refuse to do it or they future faked they will do that for this new person and in fact they will do more of them and what they did with you and the new person will be running their game they will seem very charming and charismatic everything that the narcissist wants to see this new person will be that because they're getting something too it's a transaction they're getting something in return the new person is creating the illusion the facade they're giving the future faking they're making all these false promises for the future but they have no intention of making it a reality and the narcissist is putting out they're dealing with this new person with a lot of effort and energy because they believe in the dream they think it's what they need they think it's everything that they were looking for they think they've won the lottery they think their dreams have come true so now they're really extra about it they're doing the most showing off the desperate the thirsty because they want nothing more than to be chosen than this new person 209 live viewers please give this video a thumbs up let's get this message out there thank you yes but this new person isn't really serious about the narcissist they just see it as a bit of fun bit of enjoyment and amusement entertainment they just see it as a game they're doing these things to impress the narcissist and they're enjoying the reactions that they get in a return the narcissist is charming them and wooing them they're appeasing them and this new person is loving it how the narcissist just got rid of you how the narcissist kicked you to the curb threw you under the bus made you seem small made you feel like you ain't shit yeah the new person is loving that they're listening to all of this stuff the narcissist is saying about you how you ain't nothing they're talking bad about you they're laughing at you together and this new person is loving it they're eating it all up it excites them it gives them a thrill because yes there are people like this out there sadistic personalities people who get off and other people's pain that excites them they find it amusing because they got the narcissist to leave you and you were meant to be so special to them you were meant to be so important maybe you knew their family you met their family you were close and maybe the narcissist was your husband or wife maybe you were married maybe you even have children together and they just went I got this person who you invested your entire life into they got them to leave you and now they're on their hands and knees doing everything they can for this new person it just makes a new person feel like that this top dog was conquered you they've climbed the mountain and they're up there waving the flag makes them feel like they're the best it makes them feel like they're the shit but really they're just very egotistical they're very insecure and they're just doing it to feel better about themselves that's all it really is and it isn't real anyway it's all fake it's all a facade they're not really happy they're not really having a good time people who are genuinely happy don't have to do this kind of stuff they don't have to sit around trying to hurt anyone and what they're actually doing is they're trying to disguise a very embarrassing issue about themselves it's a distraction they're pretending like they've got it all together when in reality that thrill and excitement does not last long it's short-lived because they didn't have to work hard for it they just jumped into it and all of the money that might seem great at first but they spend it very quickly the very reckless the not good with money so it isn't long until they're back to square one they're broke and they end up being in a worse situation than when they were with you and that's what I mean when I say karma is on its way karma is coming to get them because now they're stuck now they don't know what to do because how can they come back to you now they said all of these things to you they did all of these things to hurt you they told their family and friends that they'd done with you they said everything that's wrong with you and then they ran off to something they thought was a bigger better deal but then they discovered that this new person is the real problem they're the real deal but not in a good way they're the real player the real narcissist the real person who doesn't give a damn about them and they often get married and have children or they move in with this new person and it's all for nothing they just wasted their time and once they figure that out there's really nothing they can do about it because as they did to you it will be done to them the new person will kick them to the curb and find someone who doesn't know what they're really about because they were never serious about the narcissist anyway they never planned anything for the future everything was just in the moment it was just fun it was just a game they saw the narcissist a dream and the narcissist bought into that dream they thought they could find something bigger and better than something that was already good but that idea that mentality is what caused them to run into something that broke them down something that brought them right back to reality life does not work that way you can try and run off into fantasy you can try to escape from reality but it's just gonna bring you right back you're gonna come crashing down to the ground and now they're worse off than ever before because now they're in such an embarrassing situation they can't even come back to look at you in the eye they can't even look at you especially if you knew what happened especially if you knew how bad they were done because they know you're never going to see them the same way again they humiliated themselves they disrespected themselves so now how can they expect you to have any respect for them after what they've gone and done so it's all over they're left with nothing because even this new person they didn't have anything to lose that's why they took the risk and got involved with the narcissist it was just amusement it was just a game and the narcissist thought they were going to one-up you they thought they were going to gain advantage over you they thought they had something better but instead they were treated like a prostitute they were waiting on the corner they were picked up and dropped off and sometimes they may be used to punish someone else this new person may have been dealing with someone else and they want to punish them they want to get back at them so they're just using the narcissist for that purpose they're just taking pictures with them go in places with them to punish someone and that person could be you and it could be someone else as well they get off in it that's their idea of fun hurting people and it's really empty it's really sad it's a sad way to live the new person just bought their way into the narcissist life they treated them like a prostitute they just use them for a good time and it's not a feeling it's not a good feeling to be used they were much better off with you they were in a much better situation but they took you for granted they minimized your value and for what just so they could chase a dream and end up with nothing just give it time give it time karma is on its way they always end up worse off in the end Nala has decided to join me here come on Nala and say hello I think she's shy yes they always end up worse off in the end after they try to play you after they just used you for recreational use like a game and it's their karma in the end their karma is on the way anyway got 244 people watching now please give this video a thumbs up it's a special video for our fourth anniversary the four years of making videos please get this message out there I know there's a lot of you out there who you've just been discarded by the narcissist and it looks like they're rising off to the sunset they got the better of you they used you they chewed you up they spat you out I know it looks like that but honestly this is the truth narcissists are very gullible they believe anything and the love-bombing phase and they fall for other people's tricks happens a lot so I do hope that this video comforts you and please as always give this video a thumbs up share your thoughts in the comment section I appreciate all of you it means so much to have your support it's been four years already looking forward to another four years of putting out this content spreading the awareness thank you all for joining me and I'll talk to you in another video very soon