 When the narcissist knows you know if you've watched enough of my videos, you will know enough about the narcissist You will understand their behaviors But when the narcissist knows that you know This can put you any difficult or hopeless situation Narcissists are very difficult people Because they are very insecure They are very uncertain and anxious about themselves They compensate for this with arrogance and grandiosity But at some level they are aware that they are difficult to deal with They are aware that they are very insecure They may appear to have false or unrealistic beliefs or opinions But they are not completely delusional They understand that there is an unpleasant result and affect their behavior They understand that how they behave is unacceptable They understand that it doesn't make them look good But sometimes they just can't help it. They can't control themselves They are very impulsive They do things suddenly without careful thought and they have a strong sense of entitlement They believe that they have a right to behave that way Which makes it difficult for them to stop themselves from behaving in an unsep- unacceptable way and They don't really think that they need to stop themselves They have this urge to relieve their emotions of tension They're unable to relax because of nervousness anxiety or stimulation Which results in a need to vent it out They may also use addictions to cope with these feelings of tension Many narcissists are addicted to drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping and video games They will do whatever it takes to relieve their tension and they are aware that their behavior is causing a problem They are aware that it is harmful to the people around them But they will always find a way to rationalize it They will always find some inappropriate reason to explain or justify what they're doing But somewhere in the back of their minds They know that what they're doing is not right But they just can't help themselves They have to relieve their tension They have to let it out and their entitlement makes them feel like you should just let them get away with it You should let them say whatever they want to say Because in their minds life is so unfair to them They are stuck in some unfearable situation, but in their minds they always know what's right They always know what's best So everything should go their way They think that should be they should be allowed to have their temper tantrum if they can't get their way They should be allowed to have an uncontrolled outburst of anger and frustration This is how they think in their minds, but they know that they cannot tell you this Because they know that it would not be acceptable But that's exactly how they think And there's a point in the relationship where they know that you know It's very slight But they realize that you get it You're not taking the bait as much as you once did They're not able to entice you, they're not able to annoy you, don't you? Which makes them realize that something's wrong Something has changed You're not feeding into their games You're not defending yourself or trying to explain yourself You may even seem more confident You may value yourself more when they threaten to leave you It doesn't bother you, it doesn't make you anxious You're more able to deal with them now because you understand how narcissists behave When the narcissist knows you know They become even worse It puts them under more stress And results in them behaving even more poorly and inappropriately Because now you can see their insecurities You figure them out You see them as the weak vulnerable person that they really are And they can't stand it When you take a step back from the narcissist Their behavior will get even worse Because they can't get the same reactions out of you They can't get supply They can't relieve their tension They need to be able to entice you They need to be able to annoy and taunt you So that they can throw you into disorder And take you off the hinges And then they can point the finger at you and feel better about themselves When the narcissist knows you know They will become more unkind, spiteful and unfair They will become more vicious and aggressive in their behavior They will insult anyone or anything you like or are interested in They will target anything about yourself That they think is a trigger for you Anything that they think will get a reaction out of you They might make him a remark about your job to provoke you Whether the narcissist knows you know It gets even more harmful and unpleasant But when this happens You must refuse to change your opinion or give into the argument Don't let them crush your emotional strength and spirit And eventually the narcissist will calm down They will return to their regular state But that is only after their temper tantrum That is only after they have expressed their anger and rage Which is going to be far worse than it was Before you knew what you were dealing with When you finally figure out what you're dealing with The narcissist senses it They know you know They are very receptive But in a self-sinted way They're always scanning the environment for threats They feel like people don't treat them as well as they deserve They feel like they're too good for this world They notice when something changes They know when people have knowledge They know when people are suspicious or aware Of their actions, behaviour or intentions Every narcissist reaches a point Where they realise that they have done something too extreme Where they realise that they have pushed someone over the edge Until the other person sees his activity But this doesn't bother them so much with family Narcissists tend to take their family for granted They don't really appreciate them But when it's someone they do value or appreciate That doesn't approve of their decisions or behaviours Then it really bothers them It really makes them feel ashamed The narcissist realises that other people can see their behaviour And those people treat the narcissist as though they're mentally unbalanced They do not like it It triggers their shame It makes them feel bad about themselves But deep down they already know that they're mentally unbalanced So they end up in a difficult circumstance Where there is no escape Because of these mutually conflicting and dependent conditions If you're in a relationship with a narcissist And you realise what you're dealing with You will instantly lose interest in them You will instantly lose concern for them You become very distant towards them It's like you're picking your way through a minefield You're behaving in a careful way to avoid problems in this difficult situation And that is when they realise that you're aware of their instability But they can respond to this behaviour in different ways In some situations they may experience violent and controllable anger They may mock you and say that you're just acting like a victim for no reason While in other situations They might try to show you that they can maintain their composure And avoid overly emotional reactions They might try to show you that they can suppress their instincts or urges They might try to show you that they're a good person But all they're really trying to do Is control you And they're also trying to control how people see your relationship They want to manage their supply While also maintaining this image Of a person who does the best they can do Everything is about control Which is why when they know you know They're going to want even more control over you They're not going to let you take away their control They need to control their narrative They need to represent the situation In a way that is favourable to them But once you understand it It destabilises them And prevents them from regaining control over the situation Which just makes them even more angry You cannot escape their anger There is no way for you to understand what they're doing While they still remain in a calm or relaxed state It will always make them angry And at some point you will just get sick of it and want to leave But if you can't leave for whatever reason You will just carry on without any real interest, feeling or effort You will just carry on without spontaneity or enthusiasm Because you realise that this is a hopeless situation You accept that nothing you do will have a positive result or effect Or you hope that they will leave You hope that they will find someone else to deal with them Because you don't want to deal with it When the narcissist knows that you know They struggle to be calm around you They will try to destroy you with that anger or rage Or they may just run away from you Because your presence makes them feel disgusted with themselves It makes them feel bad Which may not be what you want Maybe you don't want it to end But once you figure them out It's really out of your control They will immediately leave sense when you are on to them And it will either make them very angry Or they will just leave and find someone else to be their fool They never noticed you when you were upset They never noticed you when you needed their help or support But when you figure them out When you pull back on the supply you're given to them That is something they will notice They will sense it immediately Because that is what they're honed in on That is very important to them When you figure them out They will act differently towards you They will tell that you've changed They will feel like you're lacking affection and warmth They will feel like you've become unemotional They may say that you're acting weird They may say that you lack social skills They will treat you like an abnormal person Because you understand them When you figure the narcissist out It can cause a lot of problems for you in the beginning But in time you will manage to succeed When you finally get it You may feel empowered You may feel stronger and more confident But when you start behaving differently The narcissist will notice It will make them feel very uncomfortable Because they once had power over you When you didn't know what was going on You didn't understand what was happening But now you get it You understand how they managed to trick you But they will notice that your behaviour has changed Because now they can no longer dominate you They can no longer confuse you And this will cause tension within them Which will come out as rage But it is very important for you to figure this out Then you can stop blaming yourself Then you can stop feeling like you are the cause of these stressful events You can stop feeling like you are responsible for their emotions and behaviours Because it's not your fault It has nothing to do with you But when you finally saw this mystery They lose their power over you It may not be a pleasant situation But at least now you understand it You're no longer confused Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.narcsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon