 It is the founder and CEO of Universal Connections, Inc. the world's premier relationship firm that is revolutionizing life through wholism and truth. A highly sought life and relationship coach, professional matchmaker, astrologer, philosopher and author, Ayelet is always Ayelet. This episode of Always Ayelet is brought to you by mezzigrill.com, USGoldCoins.com, that's 1-800-HOTCOIN and CarpeVM, CarpeVM.com. Hello and welcome to Always Ayelet. Thank you so much for joining me and it's my absolute pleasure to be here and I'm excited to do yet another show due to overwhelming demand and request. I have been inundated with emails from my viewers and voicemails from my viewers. So today we're going to dedicate a special show, a special segment of essential Ayelet, wherein I'm going to talk about a few important matters, items I think should be brought to your consideration and your consciousness. So we're going to do a special segment on Ask Ayelet, where I'm going to actually finally get to answering all the Ask Ayelet voicemails and emails. Not all of them, but I'm going to get to as many as I possibly can. And there were some great questions in there. So please stay tuned and I trust that you will enjoy the show. So today is the first, today is an auspicious time, actually a memorable time for us. It is Labor Day weekend and one of the things I wanted to talk about in essential Ayelet is the importance of Labor Day weekend and what it represents and I don't think many Americans actually know why we're barbecuing and what I find interesting and I think is lacking in the United States of America is a sense of nationalism in its true meaning and its true sense and I think if that existed, you know today there's the patriot movement if you will or the Tea Party movement which I don't want to, you know, endorse or represent but patriotism and nationalism I think are two very important elements that are essential for us as Americans and are essential for our country at this time and Labor Day is and Memorial Day. Memorial Day brings in the summer, Labor Day ends our summer which is interesting and both of these days actually have somber origins but yet we're barbecuing, getting drunk and you know using it as marking points for the beginning and end of the fun season of summertime in the United States of America and I just thought it would be important to share some insight and background as to how this holiday originated. I believe it was declared a national holiday in 1894 during the second term of President Grover Cleveland interestingly to audience is that Grover Cleveland was the only president in American history who was re-elected to two terms, two terms of presidency that were not consecutive and so I think that's very interesting but the origins of Labor Day did not have such happy beginnings, they came about through a lot of sacrifice and even bloodshed and loss, material and soul loss to our country through the labor movement that originated during that time and today when we're barbecuing and grilling and you know aggregating with our families and neighborhoods and friends I think it's important that we might consider where and how and the heartbreak that created the holiday of Labor Day and why we're commemorating our labor, our work in the United States of America. So just something for you to keep in mind while you're barbecuing and having fun this weekend, we did the labor movement originated to help create an environment that was more affable to the worker, to workers so that they would not be misused or abused in their employment by management and oftentimes, I'm having a hard time today, I'm sorry folks, but please bear with me, oftentimes people lose sight of what gives us the powers that be, I know I can speak as a woman and being a feminist yet a traditional conservative but yet a feminist in my own right believing in equality and equal rights, I couldn't be where I am today if it weren't for my predecessors in the movement of the 60s and 70s and of course, I mean that's a whole other show that I intend to do at some point in the future but every revolution, every movement has its strengths and challenges and so we need to take what it is and be grateful and not deride from whence we've come and from where we came and originated so just to kind of give you the heads up on that, the strikes and work stoppages that were opposed, they were brutally opposed back in the time and we got to a place where for the most part we're able to work in a country if there are jobs, that's another issue, but we're able to work in a country if there are jobs with greater equality and rights for all employees and we mustn't and can't be abused by employers and management as such so enjoy the holiday folks and I wanted to bring up a very important word that has come across my palate especially today on my ride into Manhattan, I was thinking of the heartbreak that ensued that created the holiday of Labor Day and I'm preparing a very important show next week which I urge you all to watch, it's a very important show it's going to be my commemorative episode for 9-Eleven, the 9-Eleven Memoriam and I have a family who's going to be joining me next week and I was corresponding with them in preparation for the show next week and the word heartbreak came to mind and of course my heart's been broken numerous times and in numerous ways and as I was contemplating the words of my guest for next week and she wrote in her email to me, she said my heart is broken, I wrote her with great compassion and exchanged with her dialogue and writing and I expressed my empathy and sympathy and compassion for her loss, she lost two of her children as a result of 9-Eleven and I can't, I remember corresponding with her husband and saying is your wife still sane because I can't imagine the pain and anguish that one would experience to lose two of your children within two years, it's heart wrenching, it's heart breaking, my heart broke when I heard this, I was literally moved to tears for about 20 minutes and so she wrote me back and she said yes my heart is broken forever and so it made me, it moved me and it made me think and made me think about heartbreak, you know what is heartbreak and being the Ayelet that I am and in my area of expertise I've of course worked with this subject matter and throughout my career and I have some thoughts that I'd like to share with you and hopefully Christine is watching and all of you are watching because heartbreak is a universal experience without getting too metaphysical or too spiritual, I will never denounce my spirituality, my sense of spirit, my sense of self, my relationship with God and what that means and without getting into too much and it isn't religious, religious or about religion, it's just about who I am but it is my belief that we have souls that live forever, our souls are immortal and it is my belief too that before we come to earth in this incarnation and I firmly believe that any religion that you may subscribe to if that is what you do, my audience, they will not reject any of what I'm about to say so what I'm about to say isn't going to contradict any belief system that is currently prevailing in your respective diversity. We have a soul and I've had arguments and debates with atheists in my career both professionally, personally and even familiarly and an atheist allegedly doesn't believe in God and so when I have this discussion with clients and I have the ability to or even personally when I have the ability to refute this position I say okay well if you don't believe in God then you must believe in science because that's usually the opposing argument to any faith based belief system and the person would generally say yes I believe in science so I would say well in 7th grade science class I remember learning that then I would say that okay well do you believe in energy and as a scientist of course we believe in energy so do you believe that energy doesn't die and the person would respond of course and energy doesn't die, energy gets transformed well don't you believe that there's an energy force within you that propels your life that that sustains your life your existence and the person would say of course well what do you think happens when your body dies that energy moves on and that energy in my belief is your soul your spirit the core the essence the essence of who you are and so it is also my belief that before we come to we're here to learn folks we're here to learn our life on this planet is full of heartbreak and often times the heartbreak you're experiencing or you're feeling isn't necessarily what you isn't necessarily caused or even precipitated by what you think it is and I think I just said that correctly the heartbreak that we're feeling is embedded within our psyches from before we even came here and they're here to show us and teach us that which we must master which we must learn which we must overcome in order to grow and evolve spiritually and please don't take this in the wrong light as if I don't empathize with the loss of a son or the loss of a daughter of the law of the loss of any loved one or of anything whatsoever I have less compassion for material loss but a loss of life a loss of blood and soul is it's irreparable but there is purpose even in that pain I believe our you know there was also the debate about heaven and hell and the discussion on heaven and hell and I believe that life on earth isn't always fun and I think our approach to life on earth will determine whether we're living a heavenly existence a divine existence or we are creating hell on earth here for us I think my message of living a love-centered life seeking liberty seeking life seeking freedom seeking truth will facilitate having heaven on earth and that is my aspiration yes call me an idealist call me but I'm a pragmatist as well you know and I've analyzed this in my years of philosophizing and theorizing and experiencing and observing life in the matter in which I uniquely do and it's more cost-effective practically speaking it's more cost-effective to be truthful it's more cost-effective from a material sense from pragmatic sense from a spiritual sense from an emotional sense to be truthful to be free to seek love not power not control not dominion just to simply be who you are and say what you think and I think in attaining that we will attain heaven here on earth or at least a semblance of such so back to what I was saying about heartbreak when we're when we're in ha before we're born into this incarnation on earth we're in heaven I believe we're in heaven and we're in heaven and we're with God or whatever this with the source or whatever you want to however you want to articulate or define that sense of being which does exist and for whatever reason whatever our souls purposes we meet with God and we decide together we choose together to come back to earth to learn to master some vital spiritual lesson and before we come to earth we know what that curriculum is it's just like you going to college you're signing up at NYU when you're taking a course in film and theater so you know what you're going to be studying before you take before you learn the lessons and then you're gonna be taking an exam and you have to write papers and it's challenging but you're already prepared because you signed up for this curriculum and if you signed up for it you can you can and you will withstand it I don't know if you will you have the ability to if only you do the work you have to do the homework you have to take the lessons you have to go to the lectures you have to write the papers you have to take your exams you have to prepare for your exams and that's what we're doing here on earth in life we're learning we're we're mastering ourselves our unique individual selves and so what is heartbreak heartbreak is the spiritual lessons that we must overcome as individuals and everything that happens to us on this earth that breaks our hearts and I'll get into that in a minute but everything that happens to us on this earth that breaks our hearts is just reminding us of the pain we already knew when we were in heaven we knew this existed and we were sent here to master that pain to master that lesson and so we will have experiences we will have relationships we will have gains and losses and and and joys and sorrows that will remind us of what we inherently already know and the purpose of heartbreak is to allow us the opportunity now here on this earth in this University of life school of hard knocks however you want to define that to master your individual self and the degree you get the degree you get is not a piece of paper you're gonna hang on the wall that says you know coma you know graduated cum laude and you know you're now a PhD you're gonna become a PhD in you and that PhD is going to give you a sense of contentment and peace and wholeness in your current life in your current existence no matter what no matter what adversity will come your way and if we're not already able to withstand the pain we will not have suffered it and sometimes the heartbreak that perpetuates or that another okay so you have a broken heart you have a bad relationship you get your heart broken you move on but sometimes that heartbreak isn't really about joe breaking up with you it's about something much deeper than that joe is just a reminder of the pain that already the wound that's already existing within your soul and you know your father leaving you when you were five or your mother you know abandoning you when you were 12 whatever that whatever the wound where your mother dying when you were 12 that's a horrible pain for anyone to endure that wound is now going to be reopened by the perpetual relationships that are going to continue to cross that person's path until that person is able to master themself and understand why they're attracting teachers to to show them to re-show them the pain that they already know they're going to attract or we're going to attract teachers to to help us overcome this pain and to God willing with our own unique individual strengths eventually grow grow and evolve from that experience so if you just you know we're dating someone for the last three months and you know it didn't work out and now you're heart broken because why why are we what what is heartbreak from a pragmatic sense it's a disappointment it's a disillusionment and it's a shock and or disbelief in something we believed in that's what breaks our hearts you know as little children we believe our motties and daddies are going to love us and protect us and care for us and be with us forever and guide us and cherish us forever and a lot of times that doesn't happen in one way or another but the wound is still the same my cousin 37 years old prime of his life a good a good husband a good father just dropped dead finished his shift and dropped it at the age of 37 he left behind three little girls is the pain for those little girls any different than the pain of a father just upping and leaving you know when they were 12 or 13 no it's the same wound it's the same scar the factors that created that wound are different in each of our respective lives but the wound is still the same there's a sense of abandonment for those little girls there's a sense of loss there's a sense of grieving grieving and that's a wound that is going to recur in their lives unfortunately and hopefully they'll find the strength to overcome and to grow from this and eventually heal so heartbreak is created from a sense of loss a sense of disillusionment a sense of disappointment a sense of you know disbelief you know I can't believe I believed in something I trusted something you know how could this happen why is this happening that's that's what brings a heartbreak on but if you're having a hard time overcoming that pain whatever that loss may have been there's a wound deeper within your soul that is being reopened to enable that pain and I think if we come to terms with the spirituality of our being the essence of our being that even our children our gifts our lovers our gifts our benefactors our gifts our parents are everything we have on this earth every every person we encounter whether they are here for a reason a season or a lifetime whether they are blood or they are just a stranger passing by they are in my view angels coming here to give us a sense of life or teach us something about ourselves about our lives and our purposes to learn and not attach to one particular being or lesson indefinitely but to to just move on with life and I know that sounds cold and I didn't mean to say that but just to continue to grow from the moment we're born the universe our chart is cast and our universe is constantly moving and constantly changing and and we need to we're growing we're growing internally we're growing biologically we're aging we're trying to stop that of course and cosmetics do have a great role in preserving our youth and our our longevity and I believe that that that's part of the new era that we're approaching but we have to we have to continue moving with life don't let life stop you heartache and heartbreak is sad we have we bear children we birth children some people lose their children in the womb some people lose their children right after birth some people lose their children after 20 years or 30 years there's no greater pain in life than to lose a child or to lose a loved one in any capacity and but we need to understand that that person was here to give us that love never dies that person never dies their soul still exists it's just their physicality no has ceased but they live on in the love that we have for them and in the love that they gave us for whatever it was for how long as it was and even our enemies the people who have heard us deliberately or maliciously or intently even their value lives on hopefully in your lives through mastering those lessons mastering those pains and learning that and acknowledging their presence in your life as such and thereby not allowing them to get the best of you and not to lessen who you are or what your value is because of because of how they behaved or mistreated you we need to take a break and thank our valued sponsors so if when we come back we're going to talk more about heartbreak and some other important parts of essential Ayelet right after these messages from our very important sponsors first I would love to thank me as a grill dot com where authentic Mediterranean food meets modern flavor now serving breakfast on 8th Avenue at 55th Street in New York City just a couple of blocks south of Columbus Circle and I'd love to thank us gold coins dot com that's 1 800 hot coin our trusted advisor for investments in rare gold and silver coins and he takes the mystery out of buying silver and gold by holding your hand they take a hands-on approach better to call and speak directly for current inventory that's 1 800 hot coin and car pay via dot com sees your market say it with video Charlie works closely with you from beginning to end to ensure that your video makes an impact video on the web is ideal to age of your viewers and I'd love to hear from you so please give me a jingle at my ask Ayelet voicemail which is 212 569 6969 again my ask Ayelet voicemail is 212 569 6969 or you may email me at Ayelet at only TV dot com that's it at only one TV dot com if you ask me a question I may answer it on an upcoming episode of always Ayelet also if you have trouble emailing me or remembering this email address you can find you can ask Ayelet questions at ask Ayelet dot com and I will be happy to answer your question on air at my first opportunity so back to back to what I was saying with regards to heartbreak I trust that what my words are or my messages is that we no one can cause us nothing on this earth can cause us pain that doesn't already exist within us it only happens to give us the opportunity to heal the wound with which we were born the reason the purpose the essential reason why we are here to grow to perfect our souls to master karmic lessons life lessons and grow emotionally and spiritually and eventually ascend to a higher plane when our purpose on this earth is completed so I also wanted to bring in make an important mention folks of the word love I often use the word love I think it wouldn't be I yell it if I didn't use the word love and I've been critiqued in the past you know don't call my husband darling and don't tell me you love me and you know what I do love you if I'm saying I love you it means I love you and not in the way you think I mean or or what what I think is misperceived in the world at large and part of my personal purpose on this earth is to reteach people what is love how to love and how to be truly loved and so I just wanted to clarify that very important point because I received a message this week I was corresponding with someone online and I got a message back it's quite humorous actually from someone who wrote dear sister and I'm not going to mention names but the message said dear sister for what you posted and this is misspelled miss it's poorly written but it's an important point that I think it ruffled my feather and I thought it was an important message I mean since when is saying you love someone or using the word love a dirty word why is love a dirty word why can't we all say and and love in the way that I define it which you can find on my website at always a yell it dot com love is not an emotion it is not a sexual desire it is not even a neurotic desire love very simply stated and I elaborate further on my website but love very very simply stated is value it is honor and it is and it is respect respect and honor are interchangeable obviously but love is compassion love is understanding love is acceptance love is tolering tolerance love is caring and when I say I love you when I say that you are my beloved audience that's what I mean I mean I value you and I mean you are important to me I mean that without you I couldn't be here today doing what I'm supposed to do on this earth and fulfilling my life purpose and hopefully enlightening your lives entertaining you somewhat and maybe adding a little levity or humor in some in some in some areas but this is very funny actually she writes dear sister for what you post it in my husband saying with lots of love which by the way it's my standard closing to all of my correspondence I think some people are not happy about it he is a god-loving man and love his family well that's wonderful I'm glad to hear that well I think God would be very happy to know if he's a god-loving man I think God would be very happy to know that there is someone else on this planet that is sending him lots of love because frankly I don't think there's enough of it on this planet right now and if love or saying lots of love is a dirty word really folks what is this world coming to not to mention the other important current events of the week is the United States government are you getting this folks the United States government is suing the major banks of the world for it's just so convoluted actually I'm going to to share with you how I most eloquently can share with you this preposterous I mean what does it say about our government what does it say about our country folks it's time for the truth and if anyone has an issue with what I'm saying or you don't politically agree with me you don't spiritually agree with me you know what you're not listening with your heart you're not if you're not understanding what I'm saying politically spiritually emotionally in whatever context then you're not listening with your heart and I urge you to open your hearts open your minds and listen with your heart because your heart will always know the truth if you're if you're in a relationship that isn't suiting you your heart is speaking to you listen to your heart because your heart will always steer you right your heart believe or not is rational it's the mind it's the mind that is now when I say heart the heart is rational it's your subconscious inclinations that can be irrational and those most often my darling beloved audience are fear-based issues that we generate and I talked about it a lot in my last episode when we talked about love and fear-based choices and I emphasized the very important point that love and fear are the two prevailing deciding factors affecting human choice love and fear are the two prevailing deciding factors affecting human choice and fear is usually propelled by the mind the mature mind not the innocent child mind but the the mature mind and subconscious inclination your heart will always know the truth and when you're having a conflict an internal conflict between your heart and your mind listen to your heart rationalize what is being said and then make some pragmatic sense and if you need any help in this regard you can always reach me at always a yell at comm I would be happy to have a one-on-one with you I'm also offering a special promotion for only one TV viewers if you can save $395 if we register online today for an only one two for only one TV viewers if you register for our special intro package you will get an extra one-on-one at no additional cost that's an extra that's two one-on-ones with me at for the price of the already discounted significantly discounted special intro offer you can find that or learn more about that at always a yell at comm you can always call me at my ask a yell at voicemail which is 2 1 2 5 6 9 6 9 6 9 again my ask a yell at voicemail number is 2 1 2 5 6 9 6 9 6 9 or you can email me at a yell at at only one TV comm that's a yell at at only one TV comm so I'm always happy to hear from people one-on-one everything you tell me is always utterly confidential unless you want to join me on the show that's another story then that wouldn't be very confidential but you'd be helping yourself and also helping others through your through your lesson but I'm also able to do that I think through my show and with guests or just essential I yell it so what I wanted to bring to light as well is heartbreak destiny and fate two very other important elements to our purpose here on earth and oh yes I was gonna talk about the very important current events yes the U.S. government basically forced banks to make high risk loans these loans defaulted okay and so the government takes over costing taxpayer takes over these defaulting loans costing taxpayer billions of dollars and then now is suing it's just so convoluted and it just doesn't make any sense and it's what's happening folks so it's time for all of us to learn to listen to get informed stop labeling people I don't care if you're labeling them Republican or Democrat or right or stop labeling listen to the truth listen to your heart if something isn't making logical sense in your rational mind it cannot make rash it cannot make sense in your heart it cannot if someone is feeding on your fears you will follow that fear if you're not strong enough and will fall victim to that manipulation but if you're listening to your heart you will know the truth and I urge you folks to please open your minds open your hearts ask questions inform yourself make your own don't just follow the lead just because everyone's doing it do it because you want to do it that's freedom that's independence independent thinking independent independence is thinking for yourself feeling for yourself knowing your own truth and doing being true to yourself preserving yourself preserving what you represent whether it be your own individual life the life of your family the life of the people you love the life of your nation we must do whatever is necessary to first and foremost self-preserve and defend ourselves at all costs and that's a very important message so without any further delay my darlings I think it's about time I answered some of my ask Ayelet questions and I hope that my essential Ayelet will resonate for you and that you might even watch this show more than once and see if some of the concepts of heartbreak and truth and love and the use of the word love will resonate to you you know in Europe in London love is just like darling yes darling I mean what's wrong with using the term darling what's wrong with you why is using a term of endearment to engage with someone whether you're dealing with them personally professionally or other why is that a bad thing shouldn't we all be endearing ourselves to each other aren't we all human aren't we all part of the same race part of this aren't we all brothers and sisters and we all have the same blood that flows within our veins aren't we all universally alike in the end of the day and so I believe if we live with love lead with love govern with love and be love we will essentially attain heaven on earth so enough of that without further delay I'm going to answer some of my ask Ayelet questions my very valuable viewers and I have some interesting questions here actually I had a lot of relationship questions but I thought in order to bring some levity to that heartbreak discussion we just had I would answer a very important question from Sarah from Sacramento Sarah from Sacramento what wrote I yell it I love Oscar she writes I love Oscar let me just put my glasses on because these are hard to read she writes I love Oscar I have to say he has to be the cutest thing I know how much you love him and how important he is to you what do you feed him I'm I'm considering adopting a dog myself what do you feed Oscar and how would you ensure that he has the best or the best life the best the best nutrition that he that he needs well the answer to that Sarah is and oh and where did you get Oscar they want to know where I got Oscar Sarah from Sacramento well Sarah from Sacramento first of all I feed my little boy Oscar wellness food I researched it extensively and wellness is a great brand I'm not working for them I should get credit for this I suppose but their their ingredients are all natural all human grade real you don't want to feed your little boy your little canine or feline boy or girl anything with animal by products because essentially what you're feeding them is ground up chicken bones I mean it's an in horse legs and God knows what else it's I can't imagine kissing my little boy after he's eaten something like that so especially since he's my kosher little boy too but back to what I feed Oscar wellness is a great brand I buy it at Petco and it's all human grade all natural foods they use real deboned chicken and greens and vegetables and you see how he's waking up when he knows you were talking about him yes baby my mommy's talking so and Sarah from Sacramento yes now I have to say in advance that Oscar is a unique exotic breed he's the only one of his kind and the story behind Oscar since you're asking Sarah is a great story actually it was about actually it was our we just had our six-year anniversary so it was about six and a half years ago where I came to a crossroads in my life and I decided I could not live without a canine little boy any further and so I set out to find the perfect little boy and Oscar is exactly when I had a vision in my mind my soul what I wanted who I needed to complete my life at this stage in life it was Oscar physically in every way so again that goes and coincides with my my message on faith and belief and believing in the universe that the universe will always provide exactly what you need exactly when you needed and how you need it so the story behind Oscar was I was I wanted somebody just like Oscar Oscar weighs 3.8 pounds he fits in a carrier bag and yes I dined with him in five-star restaurants and I've stayed at five-star hotels and no one ever knew the wiser because he's my little angel and yes he knows we're talking about him yes Oscar okay oh mommy sorry pumpkin I'm sorry about that what happened yeah Oscar is very sensitive so I always teach my clients that there's two sides to every coin so that part that makes him so affectionate and loving and darling also makes him a little bit of a mama's boy so but I got that out of my system with Oscar and not my biological son but anyway so the story with Oscar I was setting out to find a little boy and I was researching and learning and discovered that there were a lot of not nice people on the internet out in the world marketing little little little boys and girls because that's what they are to me they are all God's creatures they're all little boys and girls and I in my venture of you know getting Oscar making sure that I get a good you know a healthy little boy I learned the proper questions to ask you know to to to dis to discern whether or not this is a real deal breeder or just another you know bad group of people trying to whatever exploit animals and people in the process so in my search I was look I wanted a cute little dog I was thinking a Maltese I was thinking a Yorkie my mom had a Yorkie at the time I was allergic to Yorkies and I am allergic but I'm not allergic to Oscar FYI Oscars hypoallergenic so my mom suggested I get a Papillon she thought that would be the perfect little little canine for me and so I didn't know what a Papillon was believed or not but I went online and at that point I had already started researching the adoption process and when I went online and I found Papillon the first website I found I called and the lady I discovered immediately was the real deal breeder long story short she had been breeding champion Papillons for the last 10 or 15 years prior to this episode and she just rescued Oscars biological mother from a woman who apparently didn't know what she was doing and she put Oscars biological mother in a room with Oscars biological father Oscars biological mother's name was Jasmine and his biological father's name was Zachary and Zachary was a feisty little one and if you want to learn more about this you can go to my what Facebook my always I yell at Facebook page and you can see the the photo story the photo journal of Oscar and his life and the onset of his life and so I'm hoping this is answering your question but Oscar when people ask you know what kind of dog is Oscar what kind of breed is see I say he's a unique exotic breed he's the only one of his kind oh but what kind is he well I gave you half the story to learn the other half you're gonna have to go on my Facebook and watch the photo journal to learn more and so Oscar was born I believe right about the time I contacted the breeder and there were four in the litter I was clear that I wanted a little boy and I was clear that I wanted a little boy and in the litter there were three boys and one little girl and the first boy was Oscar the second boy was black and white and I'm sort of partial to black and white and the third was another boy that was Oscars color and then the fourth was a little girl so I was certain I didn't want a little girl and I won't elaborate as to why I didn't want a little girl but the I was torn between the first puppy and the puppy number two puppy number two is black and white which was sort of like my theme color and how I kind of see the world and I was inclined towards number two but puppy number one and I told K the breeder that I wanted a little boy that I could take with me I have a very dynamic lifestyle and I'm working all the time I have a very dynamic dynamic lifestyle and puppy number two was growing that I wanted a little puppy that I could put in my bag and take everywhere with me and puppy number two was growing at twice the rate of puppy number one so I in the end think it was at 15 days old I made the life-changing decision to choose puppy number one I named him Oscar Oscar is my name I named him after Oscar Wilde who is my absolute favorite writer I fell in love with Oscar Wilde when I was in London when I visited London in 1997 and I went to see a play in West End called an ideal husband and I was deeply moved by the brilliance of his work and I went out in London and bought the collection of all of his works I believe two collections of all of his works and then I said when I when I'd have a little boy a little canine boy I would name him Oscar and so I did so I named Oscar and then at 12 weeks I drove out to Wisconsin he was in Wisconsin two hours north of Green Bay and I drove non-stop 15 hours straight don't ever drive through the state of Ohio FYI if you're trying to avoid any traffic infractions I drove out 15 hours straight got to the breeder at 2 a.m. Eastern time which was 1 a.m. central time stayed the night and the following morning I'll never forget my little boy the first time we met in person he was he came out on the on the it was August August 7th and he came out on the little picnic table they had in the backyard and he was shaking he was all tiny and and I drove him home the next day 15 hours straight through the whole ride not a peep not a poop not a peepee nothing and we've never been apart since and that's about my story from my little Oscar and so I haven't fixed Oscar it's against my faith to do so it's my belief it's denying the human or the human the animal inclination to procreate in my opinion is a travesty of justice and of and of and is in humane and of course I protect my little boy and he hasn't misbehaved he's still he's still a virgin my little ask we need to find him a little we need to find him yes Oscar yes he's in love with his mommy we need to find him a little virgin shih tzu we need to find him a little virgin shih tzu to procreate with and God willing if anyone's interested when that time comes I'd be happy to give any female puppies to those of you who would like another Oscar because he's the only one of his kind and so I hope this answers your question sour from Sacramento and I wish you luck in your search for a little canine friend and I have to say it's the best love but you have to give Oscar doesn't wear a leash the love that I profess I have with Oscar there is freedom there is love there is trust there is caring there is understanding and I and he was raised he was born into a breeders environment where he was bred in that manner and I continued on as such and that is why he is the way he is with me and he's so well behaved and etc so you reap what you sow but I but start off with a real deal breeder know the questions to ask ask the right questions and then make your choice and I wish you lots of luck and lots of love in your quest for your perfect little canine boy or girl and or and or feline boy or girl because it's the best thing Oscar is the best thing that's ever happened to me this far I have I think time for one more question John from Long Island asks how does one build a healthy lasting and truly loving relationship thank you for your question John I really do appreciate it you're going to have to continue watching my shows you know into the future you can also log on to give you the answer in a nutshell you're also going to have to log on to my website at always I yell at calm to learn more about what true love is and what a lasting truly loving relationship is what I refer to as a true connection but in a nutshell just to answer you quick quickly a healthy lasting and truly loving relationship must be founded on a solid foundation of truth it must be founded on a solid foundation of truth if your relationship is founded on a lie on a manipulation on any coercion on any sense of fear whatsoever in it it may last but it's not a loving relationship and if you've seen any of my previous episodes you'll know that marriage lasting loving relationships are not a marathon oh how long can we stick it out no no no no no that's living a hell that's living a fear-based life that's living hell on earth living the heaven that I refer to living a love-centered life must be founded on a foundation of truth so if you're online online trying to meet people and you're lying about your age or you're projecting nonsense of who you think you are who you wish you are that's not how you're going to find true love in your life if you're putting on an act if you're if you're being anyone but exactly who you are always you're not going to be able to have or build a lasting truly loving relationship so to answer your question it starts with a solid foundation of truth and if you can envision a pyramid and you'll be hearing this again into the future we'll be elaborating on this more into the future as well if you have a solid foundation of truth and you can envision a pyramid you must have truth at the foundation of the relationship and I don't care if this is a romantic relationship a business relationship a familial relationship a girlfriend a boyfriend a male friend you know a buddy relationship any type of relationship must be founded on truth with honor value devotion and trust and love emanating from its center that is how we build and develop a lasting truly loving relationship I hope this helps John from Long Island please tune in again next week I do have lots more questions I'm sorry took me so long with my whole heartbreak diatribe but I hope very much that you've learned something maybe have strengthened somewhat and maybe you've recognized that the most recent heartbreak you've just experienced is merely an old wound being reopened and an opportunity for you to heal completely that wound so that it can never be reopened again and life isn't easy folks not for any of us and we must be strong we must be love and we must be exactly who we're destined to be so with all my love I wish for you a wonderful week ahead please be sure to tune in next week I have a very important episode and commemoration of 9-11 and our and its victims with all my love I wish for you a wonderful week ahead God bless a love-centered life and I am always a Yellat