 Ladies and gentlemen, I'm not sure if this thing is working Let me see here. I'm in my mobile office and Internet I'm up under a tree So my internet been struggling This whole time so this might not be working. I do not know if I'm on here or not So y'all could see me, huh? So I want to do a um talks with Tony go through a few talks with Tony for a little bit on here Talks with Tony on the inbox kind of do this live and then later tonight. I'm at practice right now So I got to go in a little bit but later tonight. I will be Doing just like a live Q&A for the bless tribe. I think I said at 8 30. I'll be home But until then I'm gonna try to get some of the talks with Tony because I've been Missing some of those. So let me see here. We're gonna come on up here So, yeah, I appreciate y'all for joining me now. I'm gonna see if I can go in order with some of these email Some of these emails See here Hi, mr. Gaskins This says not my season but still wondering make sure there's enough detail This is so weird for me This is a little tough for me because sometimes people write me who 20 sometimes people write me who 50 So sometimes to get a little tough for me, you know speaking to such vast age differences Just say hi, mr. Gaskins I previously inbox you a couple of months ago regarding a situation I had with my ex boyfriend I believe you titled the episode young and looking for love my question for you today is why don't men approach me? So I might have to go to the next one because that's you can't really answer that This one says the house was it a mistake? Hi Tony, I hope this email finds you well. I started following you in 2017 after a breakup It wasn't until 2019 that I got serious about changing my life. I am doing the work in getting knowledge I appreciate you more than you know, and I pray that God will continue to bless you and your family beyond measures I would like to add that I have a wonderful life slash Relationship coach that I found on my mentor dot life. However, I would like a male perspective on my current situation Trish is her coach y'all could get on my mentor dot life too now My boyfriend and I have been dating approximately 15 months About six months exclusively he is truly a great guy He's thoughtful consistent a believer family oriented, etc So far he's been respectful in my request for us to wait on to wait for intimacy until I am ready I recently purchased a new home. This plan was already in motion prior to me Meeting him. I lived in my previous home Townhouse for 11 years. I worked hard saving my funds for a down payment getting out of credit card debt, etc I disclosed my plans with him very early and us getting to know each other The home buying process was tough with the current market Finally, I managed to get under contract for a new construction in September 2021 Have I answered this question before because sometimes I'll be going through these and I get a little lost Get a little confused I disclosed my plans with him very early and us getting to know each other The home buying process was tough with the current market Finally, I managed to get under contract for a new construction in September 2021 I sold my townhouse in the same month too I was able to put down a nice down payment on my new home I was misplaced for approximately a month until my house was completed in january 2022 I stayed with my sister and her family who lived close by approximately two hours away from him I visited him on the weekends and we spent holidays together My current home is approximately 45 minutes away from him We discussed the distance but agreed that we will make it work He helped me with moving in which I truly appreciated. He's been so supportive throughout this process Lately, he's been making comments about the distance Also, he would comment on how bougie I am with my high-end appliances LOL Whirlpool is not bougie to me He even started talking about making upgrades to his home as if he's competing with me I actually like his home. My family and friends told me he would change once I moved They told me that he would start getting distant physically and emotionally I will admit that he is acting rather strange now I am 42 years old and he's soon to be 40 We both expressed a desire to marry when we first met After a year or so of dating I know that I would marry him if he asked I told him that homes get sold every day and that I am willing to compromise on where We would live should we marry interesting. There isn't much conversations about the future now I feel like I screwed up with this decision Did I make a mistake buying this home? Is it going to cost me this relationship? What does he think of me? Thank you for your time and consideration now listen I feel like uh I feel like I Might have seen this before but I don't know but You know, it's kind of hard to say if you made a mistake, but from a male perspective Yes, from the male perspective you made a mistake in the sense of the man wanting to build with you and wanting to You know, if y'all gonna go somewhere together do something together And you had a townhouse already, you know Why buy a whole house? Get all these appliances do all of that if you've been dating for you know 15 No a year No, yeah Dating for 15 months But it's only been six months exclusively So to the man it says you building your life outside of him you moving on outside of him and then you 45 minutes away So it does imply that he's not really a factor and It was something you wanted to do. It was your dream something you wanted to make happen But it sends a message and so One of the things we got to realize is that The american dream Might be your nightmare and so One message i'll say just unrelated is we got to stop feeling like You know buying a house is everything in the world And that that means success or that that mean we've made it Especially when we want to settle down with somebody and be married Because you could buy a house and the market could crash and now You don't want to sell that house because you might you might be losing $20,000 $50,000 and so now you keep the house and now you paying a mortgage on a house But yet you living somewhere else and got to be paying bills over there too Whereas when you're renting So if you're not where you want to be Then we shouldn't make permanent decisions now home is not permanent, but it's pretty much it could be Almost permanent just because of the fact that you never know how the market gonna go And a lot of people say a home is an asset, but a home really Can be a liability too And especially when you've got a mortgage because the way a mortgage is set up them payments You paying so much interest in the front end That that 30 year mortgage you be done paid twice what The price that you got the house for so if you single this for the singles If you single and your goal is to be married And you don't know where that marriage is going to take you you don't know who that marriage is going to be with Don't get pressured or feel like you unsuccessful because you paying rent Because even when you buy a home in a lot of ways you paying rent Because you paying so much interest On them Them payments so much of it going to interest for the first 15 20 years of that 30 year mortgage That you really ain't paid down much of the principal So if you move in the first five years three years You just made all interest payments for the most part and then So so when it's time to sell the house you really ain't got too much equity unless the market done gone up And and then you up and then moving now you got to move all this stuff You got to go through all of that. So it's kind of like If earth ain't your permanent place, we don't want to store up too many treasures On earth versus storing up in heaven. So if your Relationship status is not your permanent status Then you don't want to make super big decisions If you feel like in the very new near future you expecting a change or a breakthrough Now if you expecting to be where you at for 10 years, then that's different but It's a it's a lot of hype buying a house. It's a lot of hype, you know I own a house and I've own other houses It's a lot of hype. So for y'all singles don't feel like you're missing nothing If that ain't what you want to do right then I wanted to buy but you said months ago to just wait and get an apartment on the waterfront. Yeah, I'm telling you That way you could move around Every few years, you know when you single like I was talking to um My homeboy today and he's single And he say he'd like to move every few years well if you Got by house, it ain't gonna be that easy Right now things seem to be good, but you know, that ain't always the case Let me see here and Next question. Hi, Tony. First. I want to thank you for your content. It is very insightful So I have a very strange situation A guy and I have been communicating with a guy And I had been communicating with on and off social media and via text for a little while After he shot his shot in my dms We had planned to meet But the day before I reached out and he never responded. So I decided to delete contact I was a bit salty about it, but decided to let it go and one day while watching the dishes I had a random but positive thought about this person Even though my previous thoughts about him were not so positive And when I checked my phone, I received a text message from him I thought it was weird, but I was curious which led me to communicate with him We would just have small talk From here and there and we aren't friends Mostly just strangers slash acquaintances Fast forward And I read him on snapchat, etc And I was disappointed because he seemed to be someone that I have many things in common with From face value, but the situation wasn't going anywhere I decided to finally let go of my curiosity about this situation and forgive myself for putting too much stock And my hope in potential I had a private conversation with god about it and within the same hour I received the text from this person again Although it had been a while at this point. I feel like I am being hoodwinked Or the devil is listening to my prayers and Somehow whispering to this man every time I am deciding to let this person exit my mind for good Of course, since the communication is so sporadic I eventually end up forgetting about this man, but I randomly started thinking about him again And one day I had a thought about the person texting me that brushed Texted me that And brushed it off because I was tired of wondering And the mind mystery behind this individual I had just already come to the conclusion that this was just some weird experience It felt like a strange case of deja vu I began to become annoyed because I was beginning to think about the person again and wondered lord Why is this person on my mind? Just said lord, I don't need him and was still hoping for the best for this person And within that same day If not the same hour That this person was finally exiting my mind. He texted me Probably within the same hour. I wasn't checking my phone. It is so strange. Tony I'm not really interested in dating or anything right now because I am focusing on my love for christ and self love But it just seemed to be a very strange supernatural type experience That I really can't even explain Now some of y'all have heard, you know stuff about this right here and Just about the I believe it was Bob Proctor Who talked a lot about just the the mind waves and the frequency And I don't know what it's if it's telekinetics or physics something I was talking about it one time and One of the a guy put a name to it But that happened to me all the time just right here that happened all the time And one of the things that we got to stop doing Is we got to stop thinking everything is spiritual In the sense of or everything is a sign everything is spiritual because we are spirit having a human experience but Feeling like everything is a sign Because it is said that The way the telephone the way Bob Proctor Teaches it he says the way your telephone You pick up your telephone and you could call somebody in china And that just sent a signal down the line down this phone lines and bouncing off all this stuff And then this person phone rang in china A few seconds later the way he described it is that's the same way the mind work And so a lot of times I will have a thought about somebody And I'll wake up the next morning and they text me So it's a lot of power in the mind that we can't really describe It's words and teachings about this stuff, but There is power. That's why the bible says such as a man think it so he is There is power in our mind and a lot of times when if you spend some time thinking about somebody A lot of times they thinking about you And I don't Understand it or have an explanation For it, but just to understand the spirituality and how God created us Before a telephone was in existence I would imagine before telephones you think about somebody the next day They might walk over to your house and say hey, I was thinking about you yesterday wanting to come visit you And so God might have just put that in the mind for that reason So there's some is you know, it is deep now, but you can't take it too serious if you know somebody is not for you Now this here ain't got no title to it Hey uncle Tony So my husband now separated wants me to split with him on the divorce process, which I refuse He said that we should come to an agreement on the amount we'll both have to give to the lawyer What bothers me is the fact that he couldn't find the time months ago to come to an agreement with helping with the kids We have two kids under four Financially and or physically he said he needed to get himself together first before He could have spoken to me about the kids I then had to put him In court in order for him to give me funds for our kids every month But so ironically he could find the time now to want to make an agreement on the money for divorce What do you think? Thank you so much for always giving us your time and helping us women to win um Well, I'll tell you this on situations like that I say if you really want to be gone, then just bite the bullet and be gone Just bite the bullet and be gone and so Sometimes it's better to pay for our freedom then To let somebody else be in control of our bail money It's like if you got it Just go ahead and do it and get on out of it Because why are you waiting just for him to pay everything you stuck in it? so And just like with the kids When when you need to be free you need to break free You got to see your kids as a hundred percent yours If you got to create a side hustle if you got to you know work a little over time if you got to save more spend less For your freedom, although it's not fair You got to do it and sometime when you show a person that you don't need them and you're not going to wait on them That's what make them get they But as long as They feel like you need them to make something happen They got some power over you. So you want to think about that uh Key of bathroom body said get your own attorney. That sounds like some good advice del one in a million Now this person wrote in to the anonymous And put her name in the first sentence I'm on now If I just was reading in one pan of tension I would have said your whole name on here and your co-workers on here Oh, that's what she's going through Hey tony god bless you my name is such and such I am 29 years old will be 30 march 1st this year. That's this email old night y'all I'm behind on these emails. I am emailing you because I have been watching your videos for almost a year now And with some help from you, I have definitely grown as a woman I have grown definitely from this current relationship. I have been in for the last five years I have been with this man who is now 37 will be 38 in october 29, okay, he's about to be 38 I met this man one night through a mutual friend who has now been deceased two and a half years We met one night and shortly after I left the country for a few months without saying anything about it I came back and that same day. I got back to the us I ran into him and we went to his spot again and it was almost as if Since then I never left. We have spent every day together unless one of us had gone to jail Y'all spend every day together unless one of us had gone to jail That's a little interesting About a year into our relationship I found Jesus Christ and received him as my personal lord and savior And I grew out of the street life And going to jail And the lifestyle alone with it Although it seems street life is all he's known He always respected our relationship and I never caught him cheating only texting a woman or to a couple years ago recently I have been distancing myself because We became homeless and he became real violent and it's been like that since then It breaks my heart and has destroyed my attraction to him, especially in bed I can't enjoy myself or feel like I'm not good enough or please him I recently started working and got us a room for rent But he hasn't got no job yet and it kills me because he had an inheritance from his dad $10,000 last year and blew it on God knows what he has no car No home no new clothes and he did the same thing again a few weeks ago With the other 10,000 he got from his dad. I had to go work while sleeping outside And him ghosting me for three days He listens to me He listens with me to your videos sometimes and you have helped him a little But I just don't know if I should stay after so many years and I'm getting old or should I stick it out getting old You tell you turn you 30 years old Nah, listen, I try to help everybody But I I struggle a little bit helping Uh, I struggle a little bit now with a man Who in his Greek life and homeless Because I have to be very careful what I say because I don't know how he feel about what does he have to lose So if I say the wrong thing and he lose you And he homeless And he done got $20,000 from his daddy dying And he them blew through that I just don't want the man coming for me You see what I'm saying? Let me see y'all got to forgive me trying to book flights for us Y'all gonna delta tripping and so So yeah sister, let me see now and it's been a while For the last five years and y'all like they're like Bonnie and Clyde You say you say we spend every day together self for when one of us go to jail Now that opened off their sister that opened off So I'm just curious just what y'all got going on that y'all going to y'all going to jail And then y'all go from going to jail to being homeless And then you go and get a job so sister listen. I really in situations like that. It ain't really much I could say because That brother ain't got nothing to lose So you got to choose that's that's a personal choice right there Because a man down like that a man down bad like that. They don't tell him what that man'll do you leave him Sister I'm praying for you I'm praying for you my goodness But you got the internet Because you emailing me So where you get the internet from? If you y'all homeless, I guess it's a data. There's a data plan God bless you sister a keep your head up. Keep your head up. You found Jesus This is his spanning last name you got So y'all ain't in the cartel at all because the cartel got money Mm. God bless your sister. God bless. I'm praying for you. Let's try Lift up y'all lift up in prayer that the Lord could deliver Because the title of this email is one in a million I don't think he won in a million sister and then if you 30 and he 38 He about to be 38 in october. He 37 he's seven years older than you And he's still going through about some homelessness after getting $10,000 drops of money Yeah, sister you you might be barking up the wrong tree God bless you now God bless you Okay internet cafe. Okay Yeah, it's been a while since she made in I show hope she then made the right decision God bless you Now this one here from one of our people in africa This is an african name I need to get my african name back Try to call me tony. My name is kungta Get my name back This is somebody over in africa Hi tony. I am 23 years old and I'm really struggling with the reality of my life This what this y'all be me with this Y'all be this social media here Y'all be 16 and a half tony. I just have not hit any of my goals and dreams I'm ready to be married and pregnant And I just can't find myself. It's like listen y'all cannot take yourself that serious now That first sentence just throwed me off all the way off again Hi, tony. I am 23 years old and I'm really struggling with the reality of my life I graduated from university last year and I've been looking for employment for the last six months It is really difficult. It is a really difficult time financially. I have received job offers But those men want me to be their side chick in exchange. I have offers from Well off men all the time wanting to be my sugar daddies, but I refused all of them My morals and values will not allow me to give my body to men in exchange of money slash opportunities I listen to your videos all the time for encouragement to do the right thing and stand firm in my decision It gets difficult at times because I question if having morals is even worth it, especially in this generation It seems like everyone who is just living wild and carefree is succeeding I ask people in my life and they all tell me that I'm young and should stop being uptight and to loosen up because it's just sex No big deal. Am I doing the right thing? Please help Lord I don't know if y'all will ever see or realize why I'd be needing to break When he talks with tony or these be some questions I'm telling these really be some questions sister I do you definitely living in in in another country and this look like an african name I don't know if you're in africa or somewhere else, but I know this ain't america because we got the me too movement You're if a man try you like that in america you're gonna have so much money from that company And that company gonna be paying you to rest of your life So you somewhere else? Well, it ain't y'all ain't got no me too movement yet but I'm gonna tell you sister what I say in a situation like this you need to go to a bigger company You need to go to a court with with checks and balances in place not even middle of the way companies not these smaller companies Not each startups And if it's still like that you might need to start your own company You might need to start your youtube channel You might need to so in business or your cooking business or your drawing business or your t-shirt line You might need to tap into your creativity and start your own thing and trust the blessings on you I ain't got much longer y'all because my wife told me to get some food For my sons before I picked them up because taitan got testing he's doing his standardized testing right now So he needs to be able to get home and get straight to bed But I'm gonna be doing a q&a answering y'all questions later. Lord willing lord willing and Lord willing this one is toxic family members. Hi, Tony. Let me see how long this is Hi, Tony. I just wanted to get your opinion on this subject. I am a 66 year old female Now y'all see what I was just telling you about It's really hard not for your mind to talk to a 23 year old and then the next email talking to a 66 year old and this uh Because it's difference in the generations, you know I wanted to get your opinion on this subject. I am a 66 year old female I am the youngest of all my siblings So I grew up in a different generation than my older brothers and sisters This is kind of hard to explain because this email would be too long if I went into details However, this is mostly about my oldest sister and also Her husband my mother and father are both deceased now Most of our relationship and siblings was through my parents until they got sick and was not able to take care of themselves That is when all the biggest problems between us started She was always on me about not doing enough to help her take care of my parents I had always done things for my parents Especially when I was still single and living at home I did all the little things nobody else had to worry about Once I got married and moved out. I had two young children to take care of also Plus a full-time job She was retired and her children were adults Y'all got to forgive him. My wife texted me trying to book flights and I'm gonna kill multitasking Once I got married and moved out. I had two young children to take care of Also plus a full-time Job she was retired and her children were adults, but that's not the whole story Now that I am divorced and I have a life of my own To live I still feel like she is trying to control my life As if I am still a kid and does not have a mind of my own My brother-in-law even puts in his two cents on things that my sister speaks about Please understand usually it is nothing Nothing major for them to speak on but just wanting to be in my business I think it's because they don't have anything else to do They sit home and look for everybody else to call them visit them, etc I don't mind doing that at times. I am really easygoing person I have been a people Please are all my life and in my older years I have tried to love myself and do things that make me happy I get the impression that because I don't have a husband They feel that it's okay to have a say in what I do and when I do it Example if she calls and I am sleeping later than they think I should sleep I have common sense. I know when I am ready to get up. I know it sounds petty But that is only one example Also some serious things that happen in my life or a source of jokes for them Please give me your take on this. We all grew up in church and we know right from wrong You know, this one of the things that that bind a lot of people and that's family members and toxic family members but one thing I'm gonna tell you is Blood somebody being your blood don't mean they get the right to drive you to an early grave and I give anybody My behind the kiss It don't matter who it is If somebody can't respect and appreciate your peace Then you got the right To tell them to kick rocks with open-toe sounders And so but what you do to not be confrontational with this is just don't answer the phone so much Be busy and what you can do is you could let them know. Hey, I'm about to work on a project A big project. So I'm gonna be out of reach and out of touch A lot of times because I'm gonna be locked in and focused Your big project is working on your happiness. They ain't got to know that And so what I started to do with people like this hill? They'll text the day I won't respond for two days Then I'll tell somebody so sorry miss your text because I've been busy working on me They'll call I can't call. I don't answer the phone and text them back. Hey, can't speak right now text me And so you got to stop being available. You got to stop being accessible And when you get a little distance and they keep talking, that's all they is they jealous of your youth They jealous you 66 and they whatever age They jealous of your freedom. They jealous of your ability to be able to move and shake When you ain't got nothing going on in your life, you want to make other people life your business to give you something going on So so you're not already pegged that you just got to find a way now to not be as accessible They'll not be there. So so readily available So hey y'all I got to go my wife need me To move something around. Oh my goodness and this is what I try to tell y'all man life ain't man listen This life ain't easy So here we is my son get a grant from mit But the three flights for me hunt tating to go up there with my son for the presentation of their invention is over $5,000 and delta Aiken up the out keep crashing She went on the out and the things say the flights round trip flights Is going to be $4,600 Old raggedy app wouldn't work and then went on the computer to look up the flights And it then went up the 5600 If it ain't one thing it's another And I got to be putting out fires and so I'ma tell y'all When you the head of the household And you got to you know make these things happen. It's a lot of stress come with that And a lot of women want a husband and a lot of women want a husband that could provide But let me tell you that providing ain't easy Because now this extracurricular this extracurricular And and my son They school already cost over 30,000 a year then The club that he in didn't have the money To get the kids up there So I had to go on my network To get an investment of $6,000 a donation of $6,000 that they needed that was from my network And now it's about to cost me another $7,000 for me and my wife and my son to go up there So I'm $13,000 in Supporting my son opportunities And and listen here So it's like when they say new levels new devils A lot of time we'd be praying for stuff on that next level and we'd be praying for Oh, I want my child in a better school. Oh, I want my child to get this hill grant But to be there to support your child it costs money So on the daily you put not fires, but you know what as as a provider And a protector we not allowed to voice That stress that come with that we ain't allowed to voice that None of the kids wouldn't be going had I not raised the money for the kids And I don't even know if I got a dog on thank you card And right before that I gave the school $21,000 to redo the bathrooms And on top of that the 30 some thousand tuition now this 13,000 for this hill thing Y'all see how they add up taking care of family on this hill level of schooling Which is the opportunity that you want you want your child to get a grant from mit And have that in they roller on they resume For for college stuff, but that thing costs And then he got a dream to be a pro soccer player So five days before We get an email that he get invited to georgia We don't live in georgia So now I got to make arrangements to dry him the georgia and book a hotel And it's like these kids is expensive and that's why I always shout out single parents Single women or single men who they doing it Without no help your hat you got to tip your hat to the single parents And especially if it wasn't your doing that got you to be a single parent somebody sold your dream and didn't cash in But I got to go God bless y'all And uh, we'll talk soon. Lord willing. I'll be able to be back on eight at 8 30 when I get home But that's why I'm trying to tell y'all about my process and how I have to do stuff because when you family I'm sitting in my mobile office at my baby boy practice But my oldest boy got practice at the same time at a different field So I had to drive both of them to practice But I had to take the oldest to practice at his field drop him on 15 minutes early Then get the youngest to practice at his field and I sit here and I got to work What I'm doing right now While the youngest is practicing now I got to get off to go get up get them some food Because my wife is real tired because she was out of town yesterday with her family member That's having health complications and is coming close to the end And so she needed to go say her goodbyes just in case that's the case And so she flew out in the morning flew back that night got back about one o'clock in the morning Then had to get up at five to take the boys to school by you know, she leave at about seven But she get up at five So she tired feel like she says she feel like she been hit by a truck today So she didn't want to cook And so I had to leave to go get the food Get back to get him Then the other one got to wait after practice When all the rest of the kids getting picked up they going home He got to sit out there like like the homeless child until I get over there And I'm gonna be late to him because both of them practice on travel Elite travel soccer teams at the same time on two different fields And then I'm on here, you know doing this right here what God called me to And so that's why I tell people that's why my block finger That's why my block finger be working the way it worked Because I already be on the edge when I get to read some comments and somebody come out of my own slick Block Block I'll be about to spray my finger Hit that block button. I say Woman or man, do you know what the world I go through to make a youtube video? So listen, hey, God bless you get your shirt that say blocked Should be up under the video. Hey, God bless you and we'll talk soon I'm on the computer. So I got to figure out how to end this string. It's a little different than the phone God bless you now Oh and for the patreon so for the patreon supporters, um, I'm doing a little production You know, which all support gonna help me produce a little song that'll be on youtube later this year Keep your eyes open for us We'll talk soon. Now, you don't know about it. You ain't on patreon though, but you'll find out about it