 This is Mike with the 21 report behind the scenes in Orlando, Florida for the 21 convention 10-year anniversary I'm sitting alongside Ross Jeffries Ross welcome to the show the great Ross Jeffries the great the mighty Ross Jeffries The living legend of seduction the Prince of Pune the islet the Ayatollah of moist paintola That's that's quite a way to introduce yourself Ross so welcome Before we get into some questions I've written down I was wondering if you could give everyone a brief overview of your talk and why you chose to talk about it well it wasn't a talk it was a training session and fundamentally what I introduced are some core concepts among them is that a powerful tool For attracting women is to learn to use your language to capture and lead their imagination and emotions and to bypass The levels of her mind where she might kick off the boxes and look at you through a checklist that you can't meet So that's one of the primary things I taught the only thing I taught is the idea of Not programming back in the mistakes you make through the questions that you ask so I taught that I thought some pretty interesting things truth of the matter is when I teach I go into an altered state of consciousness And I often don't remember what it is that I teach that's true. So Ross You're a really interesting man, and you've definitely led an interesting life Yes, I wanted I wanted to ask when but my criminal record has been exposed. Oh, what a giveaway So when when you're meeting someone for the first time and they ask you the question, what do you do? How do you respond depends on who they are if it's a female who's attracted to me? I said well I mean I teach men how to be more attracted to women Debbie you know that gap that space between you and a man Are you feeling attraction for it? And you'd like to experience that tension of let you know something amazing is about to go down Oh, I teach men how to do that in a way that's naturally part of the personality. I can work and they'll go Oh my god, really sure then they usually will get curious about it, and then I've got them roped in So you mentioned in your talk that most men have bad learning strategies Yes, can you expand on that? Sure two bad learning strategies number one for every one unit Excuse me. I'm taking action They think about it and think about it think about ahead a thousand times It's like learning to walk by taking one step every five weeks You can't do it the other bad learning strategies to ask questions like why do I keep fucking it up? Or why did I fuck it up or how did I do it wrong? All they're gonna do then is dwell on the mistake and Program it right back in something. I didn't say in my talk. I'd like to use this metaphor You know Newton's laws of motion For every action. There's an equal and opposite reaction objects in motion tend to remain in Motion unless acted upon by an outside Source force force objects at rest tend to remain at Bay rest I rest right so these old patterns of thinking and feeling and reinforcing They have what I call cognitive momentum and emotional inertia So they're gonna come up so strongly The temptation is going to be to stare at them and feed them with your attention And so what we wind up doing is we wind up if you've ever had the experience of Really wanting to change where it feels like one aspect of you is Holding you back when the other ones go forward like there's an internal civil war It's a good metaphor for what's actually going on if you have a hundred thousand repetitions of dwelling on a mistake And you start to do a thousand repetitions of positive thinking Which one's gonna have more momentum and more inertia? Which one I don't know the one with more repetition Does that make sense? Yeah? Yeah It's like a I Don't need to use that metaphor. I made my point. No, so there was that one moment in your talk when you Asked ask the audience to write this down and what that was was women see us through the emotions They feel for us. Yes, can you expand on that a little bit? It's pretty simple axiom Women will see us through the emotions. They feel for us. So if a woman is Give you an example you ever see a Beautiful lady with a guy who's what you would call a loser. No job farts at the table if he spill if he's Doing this with his food. She doesn't like what it pigs. He thinks he's so in touch with its primitive side Right because she has all these feelings for him. Anything he does is interpreted through that filter But then again, you could see a guy who she feels nothing for he's doing everything, right? She'll go What a what a scent what a loser. Why is he doing that, right? He could have impeccable manners and she could think what What a win what a metrosexual whereas mongo who she's in love with. Oh, wow. He's so primitive She's looking at us through the emotional filters. She's holding up for us So in your totally a map. Yeah. Yeah, so you also mentioned in your talk About the importance of creating tension and also that initial Magnetism when two people who are attracted to each other, you know make that connection. What's the I mean? You're all about speed seduction, right? That's what I did. What's the secret back to get that initial Magnetism well, you have to first of all be in the right state of conscious You have to be in the right state of mind yourself. You have to be interested in the girl, but invested in your skills Yeah, average frustrated chums have it backwards. They're invested in the girl and maybe a little interested in their skills I'll draw the distinction with a metaphor and a breakfast of bacon and eggs The pig is invested and the chicken is interested You get the metaphor so a Player a guy who understands what's going on. He's invested in a skilled side. He's interested in the girl But he's invested in his skills The guy who's not going very far with women. He's invested in that girl. He's maybe a little interested in skills You got to turn that around So Ross, this was your first time speaking at the 21 convention, but I've been speaking teaching since 1991 So it's really not my first time on the stage. Yes. You can tell that right? Oh, absolutely And my question was gonna be How has this convention compared to maybe other events that you've spoke at? um You know true to be told I haven't spoken at anyone else's events in a long time But I think you have a you have a much bigger audience and I think one of the other things is the the slant towards the men's rights movement and red pill and Anthony's message that destroying feminism is a actually creative positive thing to do We also have to move towards positive masculinity. I've never heard that term brought up before So the other things places. I've spoken at it's been strictly PUA This is the first time I've stepped into an arena to use that metaphor where it's more than PUA going I know they have red pill here. I have significant disagreements with red pill. I think they're big holes in it I also like a lot of it's in there. Yeah, cool. So If people want to learn more about you Ross, where's the best place they can go go to rjcoaching.com That's pretty easy to remember rjcoaching.com awesome So with that you can see Ross's talk first on 21university.com or by clicking the link below this video Ross. Thank you so much for being here It's been great having you good. I got a hot babe and a warm dinner wave So this has been Mike with Ross Jeffries signing off for the 21 report. Thank you