 Hey guys, welcome back to my channel or welcome if you're new There's hair in my lip gloss. I recently moved from Northeast, Pennsylvania to Wilmington, North Carolina And I've been sharing that entire process if you're interested in any of that kind of stuff then make sure to subscribe Oh, no We're starting with that. So today I thought let me just sit down and do okay Squeaky toys have to go in the bedroom. They're right back Here, chew this instead Yeah, there you go Nice and quiet No, you can't lick off my makeup. I just did it anyway today I thought I would sit down and just do a super casual video on The floor. I don't have a couch yet in my living room. 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I got a few questions that were just very simple and to the point How's your mental health? How have you been adjusting? Are you doing okay? And I really appreciate that um, yeah, I'm doing really well actually I Fully expected to just feel like lonely and kind of sad or homesick and I haven't Surprisingly that's not to say that it's not going to kick in at some point. I'm sure it will but so far I'm actually Feeling really good about the move and I love being here a few people also were asking How do I plan on looking for and making new friends? I honestly haven't made that A big priority just yet. I'm still just focused on like getting settled in and kind of learning my way around town and all of that But honestly having a dog helps a lot. I live in an apartment complex, which that's another thing Ideally I would have liked to just be in my own house and have a yard and all that But I decided to go the apartment Route because I knew that being in a complex around other people would increase my chances of meeting people But yeah, having a dog definitely helps because taking them out for walks I'm constantly encountering other people that also have dogs And you know when your dogs want to go and play with each other Then it kind of forces you to have a conversation with the other dog's owner And I know once I get back to doing hair I'm gonna Meet people very easily that way too. A few people are asking What made me want to move and why North Carolina and Wilmington specifically I pretty much always knew that I wanted to move Somewhere warm because I've always hated cold weather and winter But there were a lot of things that kind of held me back from it You know, I ended up making a career change and going back to school And it took me a while to like really get established and get to a point where I was like financially stable enough To move and to afford To be on my own and then I don't know I turned 29 earlier this year and it just kind of hit me like Holy shit. My 20s are almost over And I'm still here in my small town And it feels silly to still be living somewhere where I'm miserable for half of the year And then things just weren't really working out in my relationship. So I was like, you know what? I think this is just the perfect time to finally take the plunge and do it And I knew that I wanted to still be on the east coast because I still wanted to be somewhat close to my family And the south is just so much more affordable living expense wise and north carolina was just kind of perfect Because it was still south enough that it was going to be warm, but it wasn't too south So I would still get a change in seasons Because I don't want to be somewhere where it's just hot all the time And it's still close enough that I could drive home in a few hours if I wanted to go see my family It's about a 10 hour drive to where my parents live. So it just kind of felt like the perfect location I had been to north carolina multiple times on vacation, but I had never been to wilmington specifically But I just did a lot of research online and it just kind of felt like the right place It had everything I was looking for as far as like being by the beach Having a lot to do and having a pretty big population of people But still having like a small town feel. So yeah, one day I just drove down here with my mom Explored the area a little bit felt it out looked at some apartments fell in love signed my lease And that was that what's your favorite thing about your new town besides the weather? So kind of like what I just said how there's a lot of people here. There's a lot to do There's a lot of stores It very much feels like a city in some ways, but then it still has that small town feel. It's not as Busy as like a really big city. You kind of get the best of both worlds And I also just like how nice everybody is and it's also very diverse like everyone that I've met is from all over I met somebody that is from New Hampshire. I met people from West Virginia. Someone from Louisiana, Mississippi I'm moving from Florida to Tennessee next year. I'm nervous of leaving family. I need tits Just FaceTime this year is actually going to be my first Christmas by myself not spending it with my family and It's going to be weird But we're going to FaceTime and open gifts together and try to just make it feel like a normal Christmas Were you nervous to live alone again after living with your boyfriend? Any tips if you weren't? I wasn't nervous Honestly living by myself It's been great. I just posted a vlog where I talked a little bit more about that There's definitely been times where I missed the comfort of having somebody else there And just having somebody that can help me with simple things like bringing the groceries in Taking Bernie out, but I would say just look at all of the positives, you know, think about the fact that You can decorate however you want. You don't have to clean up anybody else's messes You don't have to worry about anybody else bitching at you about your messes You can eat whatever you want cook whatever you want Buy whatever you want watch whatever show you want on tv Like there's so much freedom in living on your own And also remind yourself that the stage of your life is not going to last forever, you know, eventually You probably will find a lifelong partner So enjoy this time you have now to be single and living on your own while you can Where do you see yourself in the next five years? Did you bring your cats with you? No, I did not because the drive down here is so long I just didn't think that they would handle that very well and I figured to Anytime I go back up to visit my family, you know, what am I gonna do With them I would either have to board them or they would have to do that long drive with me again And I just felt bad putting them through all of that. So I just left them with my family They're comfortable there. They're fine. They probably don't even realize I'm gone Then I also got a lot of questions asking me about work. Am I going to be taking hair clients? Am I going to do a salon suite? How was the process of transferring my cosmetology license? All of that kind of stuff So I knew before moving down here that I wanted to take a little bit of a break from doing hair Nothing crazy just like, you know, maybe two or three months just to give myself some time to settle in Get to learn the area a little bit before rushing back to going to work and luckily YouTube is part of my career as well So I'm able to do this in the meantime, which I'm so appreciative of which by the way Thank you guys so much It's because of you the fact that you enjoy my content and that you watch that I am able to do this And not a day goes by that I take that for granted. So for now, I am just doing youtube full time I am not taking hair clients right now But I will be I'm hoping come like april maybe I will start to but I don't know any details for sure yet Make sure that you're following me on instagram on my hair page Styled by sam vei because once I know more I will be announcing it on there So if you do live anywhere in this area and you'd like to get your hair done I would love that And I will keep you posted But I haven't transferred my license yet over. I'm in the process I have to get in contact with the pennsylvania board of cosmetology Have them send my information over to north carolina So that I can get my north carolina license, etc Luckily pennsylvania and north carolina have reciprocity Meaning I don't have to retest or take any more like hours at school or anything I just pay like a little fee and it transfers over I don't know how long that process is going to take Some people have told me that it can take a couple of months But I will fill you in and I'll share the whole process of transferring my license over and building a clientele, etc Do you plan on living where you're currently at permanently? Do you think you'll move back? I don't know And I'm not even going to try to pretend like I know for sure All I know is that I wanted to move here. I wanted to try out something different so far I really like it, but I've only been here for Not even two full weeks yet. So it's a little too soon to say when I move back to my hometown Probably not. I maybe would move back up north at some point in the future I don't know to be determined. I guess but as of right now, I really like it here a lot How'd you get over the fear of letting go even when you knew it wasn't right anymore? And then I also just got a few questions asking like how have I been post break up one thing that I always say to myself And I always say this to my friends whenever they're questioning their relationships It's like what are you benefiting from this relationship? What does this relationship have to offer you and what is it that you are looking for? I mean a relationship should be benefiting your life It should be making things happier and just good for you, right? If you feel like it's bringing more negativity than positivity and if you could be doing even better just being on your own Then what's the point and what's also been really helpful is writing down all of the reasons why you know It isn't right So that way whenever you're having like a time where you're just feeling kind of emotional or sentimental you're questioning your decision Look back at that list and remind yourself why you're making this decision And also make a list of things that you want like qualities that you want in an ideal partner That you feel are lacking in your current situation What was that moment when you finally decided to move what cemented it for you? And then similarly was it hard for you to tell your parents that you were moving So actually what really like solidified it for me was anytime I told someone That I had this idea of moving Because it wasn't even for sure just yet. I just kind of was like toying with the idea of it in the beginning Everyone was so supportive My family my boss my therapist All of my friends not a single person was like, oh, are you sure that's a good idea? Like immediately everyone was like, yes do it. This is going to be so good for you But telling my parents was super easy because they've always known that I didn't want to just stay in that town and they didn't want that for me Anyway, like they want me to go out and Live life funny enough the hardest person To tell was my boss I was the saddest about leaving my salon And leaving her are you excited to start dating again with a fresh slate new place new state new boys? I don't know. It's like when I think about dating. It's like on one hand. It is very exciting Getting to meet new people and especially being somewhere like I said earlier There's so much diversity and people are kind of from all over It's exciting to get to meet people in general that are just from somewhere different But on the other hand, it's kind of nerve-wracking because I don't know dating can be kind of scary But I feel like now I'm at a point where I'm more secure in who I am I know what I want. I know what I deserve That makes me feel a little bit more optimistic about it. And then I'm like, oh, should I actually go on a dating app Or should I just be patient and hope that I maybe meet someone in person just as I'm out and about Let me know comment down below. Should I get on a dating app? And if so, which one? How do you plan on rebuilding your clientele and are you nervous about building a new clientele while we are still in Covid I have two videos actually where I shared how I grew my clientele in the first place through social media So I just plan on using the same tips that I share in those videos I'll link them down below and I've kind of been in the process of doing that Even before I got down here. I started using local hashtags tagging my location stuff like that I know I'm not nervous about building a new clientele because even when I was still in Pennsylvania I was getting new clients all the time. I think that was most of the questions again Thank you guys so much for sending in your questions and for following along on this whole journey Thank you again to dossier for sponsoring this video. Don't forget again to check the description for a link and discount code Thanks for watching and I'll see you in my next video. Bye