 Hot girls, maybe Richard Brantz isn't sleeping with them But yeah, we've been told since we were little boys you get the car you get the life you get the job You get the hot girls So, okay To be successful with women you've got to learn a skill set it's just like if you want to be successful at golf or surfing or Running a business. There's a skill set you need to learn If you have this skill set You will be successful with women Yeah, I mean you can be massively successful with women if you don't have this skill set you'll never be successful with women and even if because of What you are or what you do you get a good woman? She's probably gonna make you so miserable you wish you didn't have her and I get a lot of clients in their 40s who think that So success with women is a skill set Confidence, which is what women want the most comes from knowing what to do Confidence comes from knowing what to do and this skill set involves things like I was showing you with Rebecca. It's touch It's eye contact. It's how to start and sustain a good conversation It's it's how to plan a date so that it's fun and leads the bed which I'll get on to in a second Because of all the things I've talked about tonight It's so easy Once you get these skills and you apply them to beat the vast majority of other men in America Australia, Canada and the United Kingdom because Most of us don't approach women Even if a girl looks at us and stares at us in ways. We still don't approach women if we ever do we're drunk and a lot of us compared to Certainly European men don't dress that well And a lot of us are just obsessed with work. It's it's really easy if you just take a few steps to get really good at this Point number five lacks energy Does anyone have it has it a guess why? people who are rock singers and surfers do pretty good with women sometimes incredibly good and You know a lot of computer engineers and charred accountants don't can anyone have a guess why that is Talk some more Sorry Yeah, can anyone tell me why very good and what are the other guys doing? Sorry good guess good guess yep Yep, okay some great guesses my belief and maybe I've spent too much time Meditating in India, but my belief is when someone's you know lead singer of a rock band You got all these guys supporting you and you got all these people cheering you on you're picking up a tiny little bit of all their energy If you do a good job, you're picking up a lot Surfers they're not stuck in cities surrounded by petrol fumes and cars and toxic people huddled over a computer Watching TV never getting near a tree of the ocean. They're out buddy surfing They're picking up the massive almost never-ending energy of the ocean and particularly waves So I think most people what they really want in life is to get more and more energy That's really why a lot of you and me want hot women because when you walk around with a hot woman Everyone thinks you're great and they look at you and they give you energy. That's why rich people buy houses with great views so So I believe it's so much about energy In my opinion success with women comes down to two things It's having the skill set to be good with women that touch the eye contact and it's having enough energy You need How much energy you need to approach a woman in a bar? Mountains mountains just to even get started even to approach from a bookstore You need a little bit how much energy do you need to do to start a good conversation? How much energy you need to ride over? You know uncomfortable moments, which is a huge part of being successful with women How much energy you need the first time you lead her back to your house and into your bedroom? But you're gonna be you're gonna be absolutely throwing energy on her like crazy So at every stage of getting better with women It's really about energy. How many of you have a mate with a big smile and lots of energy He's not very good-looking. He's not very bright. He's not very anything who gets lots of women Yeah, whereas you've got an IQ of you know 120 and you huddle over a computer and You have most your sex while you're on the computer. Oh, it's pretty sad. Anyway, I shouldn't I I should say I was worse than anyone. I was the biggest Retard when it came to women on the planet and I'll take you on I was essentially a virgin class 31 I had three minutes of sex when I was 27 and that was like a mercy fuck because the girl had the choice between sleeping on the floor and being the third wheel with a friend of mine who was sleeping with her friend or coming to my Queen-sized bed in an okay apartment and sleeping with me. I think on the third night. I was so scared the first time I had it I managed to sort of get it up for about three minutes and it was when I mean up I mean sort of like that. It wasn't like anything impressive and I think I just touched her nipples when I came so That was my first sexual experience at 27 and it was another four years until I had a second one so But ironically, I you know, I wasn't a superstar, but I had a great job I had a good income a big muscles. I was good at sport. I'm really skinny, but I had big muscles then See, I did have a few things going for me, but I Profoundly lacked Certain social skills like if someone left me alone in a bar just for five minutes I would shit myself, you know, unfortunately I smoked back then which wasn't as much I'd like to chain smoke and I'd chain drink to just couldn't stand being alone in a bar by myself which was really funny and There was so many very very simple things about women I just didn't get so to get better with women You do need to have a certain understanding of women and I was so bad socially that I was you know I was okay at public speaking so it was part of my job. I could do a presentation to You know in some cases over a thousand people On a topic I knew and I wouldn't really be nervous at all But before the presentation started if I had to go around and meet people before the presentation guess what I'd do I Run to the bathroom and hide I'd sit there on the toilet hoping no one came to get me to talk to people I had no problem going out to give a presentation, but to just walk up to someone and say hello I was terrified a lot of you are looking at me like you don't believe me, but I promise you it's true So Lex energy Can anyone guess what I think is the number one cause of approaching anxiety certainly for most of my clients? Very good guess not quite That's big too. You do need to know what to do Otherwise you probably get rejected a lot But if you don't know what to do and just walk up and say hello I'm whatever your name is with a bit of energy you'd be surprised how many girls will actually talk to you Particularly if you dress okay. I think the number one cause of approaching anxiety is computers Does anyone can anyone relate to that? Great. I've got a fairly good story about that. I worked for charisma arts for four years and I Went around the world. I don't have any 15 cities. I did boot camps in new city every week I'd got two or three nervous students who like Shitting themselves and I gave them a quick lecture. I took them out to bars. I mean they were nearly dying These get James and Damien can tell you when you're out with students on the first night. It's like Just their energy is just killing you because they're so nervous Yeah, I go at that. I'd do a couple of approaches. You see that see that yeah Yeah, you do that you that and then I get them to approach women I do this in new city after new city and I'd slept with God knows How many girls and I was doing that and several models and two girls in one boot camp and this sort of thing Got three sims out of it And it wasn't really that much bother at all. It was a bit tough on Friday, but I got through it Now I'm trying to run my own business I sit in front of a computer 30 40 hours a week Man when I do a boot camp on Friday, I've got to warm up for like two and a half hours I'm jumping down like a moron actually one of my favorite exercises a bit of hide them up the microphone Is this I call it the semi-raw? Turn the sound down. I just I got this from yoga And sometimes I do that in the street if you do that a couple of times I'm serious. How many times have I done that? Yeah, I'm an absolute idiot I'm singing Bohemian Rhapsody of the cab driver at the top of my voice Just before I did this speech. I'm not too ashamed to admit it I took my shirt off and ran up and down the park because again, I've been hunched over a computer You know most the week and I'm staying in a horrible hotel room. You've got to warm up You've got to warm up if you walk into a bar from a computer and talk to hot girls. I Don't think you're gonna do it. It's just so hard if you get out of a Mutile sparring ring or go from having a surf or go from jamming with your rock band and go talk to girls Yeah, you might do pretty well. You'd probably do very well if you know what you're doing You have to separate computer time from approaching time and socializing time and For you really smart guys who are engineers and doctors and stuff who are had a lover a computer a long time Man if I was you I probably wouldn't even pressure put pressure on yourself to be social on Friday I'd work your five-day week and if you want to go out on Friday just go out with your mates and have a few beers and You know if there's opportunities and you feel like I take them But don't beat yourself up after working a week on a computer if you can't approach girls because I can't There's no way I could. Oh, I mean, I may be able to but I would really struggle However, if I take Sad day off and I do something fun and athletic and particularly getting into nature. It's quite easy for me So yeah, do not try to mix Computers and left-brain thinking with socializing and seduction because it makes it very very hard for you