 The dunya is a domain of difficulty and we need to reset this understanding and perspective that when we're patient in the dunya we'll get rewarded in the paradise that we're not entitled to perfection here and what happens is when we train ourselves and our children that you're entitled to perfect shoes perfect socks you don't like your socks they're uncomfortable change it you're uncomfortable with your shoes change it you're uncomfortable with your jacket change it with your sandwich change it with the restaurant change it with your school change it with your car change it and then eventually with your spouse change it with your religion we need to understand that this is a a place that we need we are patient and we have acceptance and contentment and ridah