 My name is Andrew Metter. I am currently unemployed and I'm loving it. I just got out of the military. I was in Green Beret for a few years. I took the Art of Charm program because it was an itch that I wanted to scratch for a while. It was something that I had been thinking of and felt like procrastinating was hurting my chances at actually living a fulfilling life. People often felt that I was being either harsh or cold or I had this more intense stare. I thought I was angry, but actually I was just thinking and I didn't realize the signals that I was putting off to other people were putting them off. I was super skeptical at first. I didn't know what to expect. I didn't actually personally know anybody who had gone through. I wasn't referred. I was kind of on my own and then I met the other guys from the camp and the next day we got started and I was immediately put at ease. The approach of the instructors was professional, friendly, familiar. They were not judging anybody. They had obviously seen a lot of different personalities come through the place and I think they were relieved that we were pretty male actually as a group. The program is probably for most people the time when you'll have the most social support from other men and for that matter women who work with AOC then you may ever have or have ever had. So if you're in college and you've got a circle of guy friends but they're always judging you or if you're in a workplace environment and you don't feel comfortable talking about certain things with other people going to the boot camp is a useful way to get that out in the open. People aren't going to judge you for anything. You can talk about pretty much anything that you want to. The best moments were seeing the other guys around me change incrementally because it proved to me that I was actually doing the same thing. When I could see it in them, when I could see the enthusiasm peak and guys start to break out of their shell I knew that they were moving in a positive direction because I was working just as hard as they were and putting myself out there as much as they were I knew I was actually improving too. It's no coincidence I'm sure that within two months of finishing the program I'd actually fulfilled a true goal of mine which was to be able to have a longer term relationship and instead of just seeking hookups and being part of the hookup culture or never really leading a fulfilling relationship life. I'd say anybody from college kids, married guys, military, non-military, average working Joes, corporate types everybody comes in and is on the same level so you all work through things together and it's a unique experience like that it's also something I think every man could benefit from especially moving forward, 2015 is coming up and heck man, the world's changing you need to be a charming person you need to be out there networking, getting to know people you need to be positive it's no longer okay just to be harsh and insensitive and still get away with it