 Hey Psych2Goers and welcome back to another video! Before we start, we'd like to give you a huge thanks for all of the love and support that you've given us. Psych2Go's mission is to make psychology more accessible to everyone, and you help us do that. Now, let's continue. Have you ever wondered why we flirt? Well, according to the Social Issues Research Center, anthropological research shows that flirting is a universal and essential part of human interaction. But if it is instinctive to all of us on some level, then why do we sometimes get it wrong? If you clicked on this video looking for a guide to help you flirt better, you're not alone. Because like many other social norms, much of the do's and don'ts of flirting are dictated by unwritten laws of etiquette that we generally obey without even realizing it. This is the Social Issues Research Center. With that said, here are six common psychology-backed flirting mistakes that may be keeping you single. Keeping it cool. According to psychology professor Dr. Aaron Benzieve, although playing hard to get it is a common flirting tactic, a lot of people swear by, it can actually hurt more than help your romantic chances. By pretending we're not interested in someone it creates insecurity and uncertainty early on in the relationship, which can lead to more deception and emotional manipulation. Playing such superficial games may also attract the wrong kind of person, says Dr. Benzieve. Waiting too long. Another common flirting mistake, especially among women, is never making the first move. You may think that all the subtle signs you're giving like making prolonged eye contact, smiling and casually touching them, or liking their posts online, is enough for them to take the hint, but it also leaves a lot of room for miscommunication. If you want to date someone, says dating expert and self-help author John Berger, it's better to make the first move instead of just waiting around for them because it's a way of taking control of your relationships and being more intentional about the partners you choose. Stay light. According to Dr. James Wadley, psychologist and chair of the counseling and human services department at Lincoln University, bringing your pent up frustrations with you on a date or while flirting with someone is a big no-no. Why? Because although it might seem like a natural and easy conversation starter, showing too much of a disagreeable attitude early on in a potential relationship is a turn off for a lot of people. So when you're flirting, Dr. Wadley suggests, it's best to keep things lighthearted and positive for now. Similar to our earlier point, don't make the mistake of thinking it's okay to talk too much about why you're single or worse, how much you hate it. Seeing singlehood as a problem, says psychologist Dr. Karen Anderson, can paint us in a bad light, both to ourselves and others. We may start to see and present ourselves as being too picky or too needy and that there's something undesirable about us as a partner and that we can't see our own self-worth without one. For romanticizing, according to relationship and well-being psychologist Dr. Amy M. Gordon, we need to be careful of having high expectations of potential partners because while having high expectations can be good, like when it increases commitment and helps us behave more positively towards one another, it can easily turn bad if we over-romanticize our perfect type. Having unrealistically high standards can make us miss out on someone great because it only sets them up for failure. Over-romanticizing crushes can quickly lead to relationship dissatisfaction. The moment they inevitably make a mistake or fail to live up to the perfect version we have of them in our heads. Hiding your heart. Last but not least, hiding how you really feel is perhaps the biggest flirting mistake that's keeping you single. Why? Because although it might seem terrifying to confess your true feelings to someone, never letting them in or showing them your true feelings will only discourage them from pursuing you and getting to know the real you. According to a Healthline article reviewed by therapist Dr. Jennifer Littner, by hiding your emotions, you prevent clear communication with the people in your life and that's not something you want to make a habit of when starting a relationship with someone. So can you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here? Did this list make you realize some of the flirting mistakes that are keeping you single? And if the answer is yes, don't worry. Flirting doesn't come easily to everyone and it's not a skill that's ever explicitly taught to us, so it's understandable to make mistakes sometimes. What matters most is that you become aware of your missteps and all the other ways you may be unconsciously holding yourself back from finding love. What are some other common flirting mistakes we've missed? Let us know in the comments down below. Till next time Psych2Goers, thanks for watching and remember, you matter. Are you looking for a cuddly companion that brings positivity and mental wellness to your daily life? Get your very own Psy. The lovable plushie is here to brighten your days. It embodies the spirit of Psych2Go and it serves as a reminder to prioritize your mental well-being. Its green leaf symbolizes growth, renewal, and the importance of self-care, whether it's for yourself or as a thoughtful gift for a loved one. Psy is ready to be your snuggly friend through all of life's ups and downs. Buy your Psy plushie today. Link is listed in the description box.