 So, Deji just came out with a video titled Bye and he kind of quote unquote exposed KSI and right now Deji is gaining subscribers while KSI is losing subscribers but there are definitely some valuable lessons that we can all learn from this situation. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I like to do is take a look at what's going on in the YouTube community and take this mess and turn it into a message. So, if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. Alright, so just to give you a quick recap of what's going on. I know people like PDPI have already touched on this and some other commentary channels but anyways KSI and Deji they're brothers they're both from the UK you might remember them from their brothers boxing match with Logan Paul and Jake Paul. Alright, anyway Deji just came out with a video um basically you know talking about a lot of stuff that he's been dealing with with KSI who's his older brother and I think a lot of people out there who are a sibling like the younger sibling can definitely relate to what Deji's talking about and there's a few things that I hope everybody can take away from the situation. Alright, so the first thing I want to address is like it's it's awesome that Deji came out and he talked about this stuff and got vulnerable like when I was watching it like when I was watching this 45 minute long video I'm like dang dude because especially when it comes to like men right like it's it can be difficult to open up about your feelings and you know and talking about the things that he's talking about like his older brother bullying him and things like that like I'm sure there are some crappy nasty comments on that video even though it's largely had a good reaction from the community I'm sure there's some people out there who are just like man up bro man up you know what I mean and like it's it's really awesome that Deji like got vulnerable and was able to do that and if if any dudes out there are watching this like I hope you can see other men doing stuff like this know that it's like yo it's okay to talk about how you're feeling alright now the next thing I want to talk about is like when when people were like requesting me to talk about this and I was like looking at the situation looking at the community's reaction looking at ksi losing subscribers looking at all the crazy stuff that ksi has been posting on twitter and like the other thing that's interesting is that if you check out his social blade like usually what these numbers mean is that he's been deleting videos so I'm wondering what that is and what which videos they were like my guess is that they're like videos of ksi bullying Deji but anyways like I want to talk about the community I want to talk about you baby girl like is anybody really surprised is anybody really surprised like did it really take a 45 minute video from Deji for everybody to be like oh you're right ksi is a dick like this dude has built his entire brand off of being a dick all right so I'm a little confused because this dude got to 20 million subscribers and this is like his entire brand like he started out on youtube and Deji showed clips of this in his video of him like you know hitting his brother and doing these little like you know gaming contests and everything but ksi has had his share of controversies over the years and how he talks to women and things like that and now all of a sudden everybody's like oh my god like we're so surprised that this information is coming out like really people like I think what we need to do as a community and as a society as a whole like why why are these type of people being propped up why does it take so long for somebody to make a video like this then everybody realizes what's been happening all along like this is just something that I always think about like everybody's okay with something until they're not okay with it right like why did it take Deji making this video for people to open their eyes like everything that Deji's talked about except for a few things were public knowledge like everybody's seen this everybody has seen ksi's videos like hitting Deji everybody has seen ksi's videos like telling people to unsubscribe from Deji like these are all things like and this is why independent thinking is such an important thing that we all need like it it's something that Deji touched on he talked about like this kind of like subliminal messaging and like manipulation which I agree it is definitely manipulation like getting people to unsubscribe from Deji and saying look here's what I'm doing you want to be cool like me ksi then unsubscribe from Deji as well but like this was all public knowledge everybody like open up your mind to say like wait like no maybe I like Deji's content but that's the other thing with all this like kind of drama happened you start to see people unsubscribing and subscribing over here and things like that it's like it feels like in the youtube community we're no longer in a place in these cases where people are subscribing to somebody because they actually enjoy their content they're they're like subscribing out of support or unsubscribing to show that they don't support somebody and that's just something very fascinating to me as I kind of watch like the behavior of people in the youtube community but anyways some things that Deji talked about like there were some things that have been you know offline and things like that and one thing that Deji talked about was very reminiscent to the Logan Paul Jake Paul situation was that Deji you know was you know attracted to a young woman it's not clear you know how the extent of their relationship was but then Deji not Deji but ksi hooked up with her and Deji talks about how he cried for days and that was like one of those you know one of those things that just was like a stab in the heart like having your brother like sleep with somebody who you fell in love with right but again like I think it's really interesting looking at the the relationship between Logan Paul and Jake Paul and then looking at the relationship between like ksi and Deji and you know when I when I look at these situations like I have a son he has a little brother not my kid but my son's mom had another kid with her new husband and I look at this and like they're both boys and I understand you know boys are going to do certain things and you know you know whatever but like there's this is definitely an instance and you know the Logan Paul situation with Jake where like that friendly competition like goes way too far like way too far and just like ways that you should not treat a family member right and if you're somebody who's in this situation now it's not about a family member hooking up with somebody you know you were in love with but like it's important to know that you can set boundaries with your family members like you don't have to hang out with them then you don't have to talk to them on the phone you can tell them straight up like hey listen like I do not appreciate the way that you talk to me I don't appreciate the way that you treat me no I don't want to hang out with you like this is something that all of us can do now it's easier said than done and a lot of us you know we we have concerns like oh but it's family so this this voice in our heads is we have to hang out with him or we have to talk to him like my message to anybody who has that voice in their head like the hell you do if it is affecting your mental and emotional well-being no no you don't like yeah it might make some family functions have one last person there but we need to prioritize our mental and emotional well-being because if we're not in a good space we are more likely to maybe have an argument at you know some like family dinner start a fight we can't be of use to other people in our lives because we're letting that toxic behavior into our lives so we have to be able to set up those boundaries the last thing that I want to talk about and this is the situations I referenced in my Thomas Halbert video is more and more we are seeing YouTubers who are attaching their self-worth to the numbers right to the subscribers to the viewers and Deji talks about how we got into a dark place and was questioning like his purpose and talking about how depressed he was and the possibility of just ending it all and that is so so so sad to me right because like this is this is a bigger problem than just YouTube but now we're seeing it in the public spotlight like so many people when they lose their job they wrapped up so much of their identity with that job so when they lose that job right they no longer find this meaning or purpose and that's why we need to find like our own purpose on this planet that has nothing to do with our job our job is a part of us but it is not us you know what I mean and I really hope people are monitoring what is happening with youtubers because if something's not done or if youtubers don't start realizing how it is affecting their mental health like I fear that we're going to see some really tragic things happen in the next year or two so at the end of the day like I'm proud of Deji for making that video but like if you know me I think everybody needs therapy so like if you can relate to this like I hope you get therapy family therapy is an option like Deji and KSI and their parents are heavily involved like hopefully they go to family therapy family therapy is so beneficial because you get an outside perspective on the situation you get somebody who's coming in and they will teach you ways to communicate with one another they will teach you ways to set up boundaries with one another hell you know it'd be a sick series for Katie Morton start doing family therapy for some of these youtubers out here who are just in constant conflict and starting beef with each other because we've gotten to a place where things can't even be settled offline even anymore like they're all happening in front of all of us so if we're watching this thing we need to take something away from it so if you're struggling with family like here's my recommendation see if your family would be open to getting therapy doing family therapy but something I was taught a long long long time ago and it is stuck with me and I hope it sticks with me until the day I die and it's this it is a lot easier for us to fix ourselves than it is to fix other people and what that means is although other people in our lives may not want to fix things they might not want to change they might not want to do family therapy we we can take action we can take the steps towards getting better so although they may never change we can begin working on how we react and respond to those situations and how those situations affect our mental health all right but my suggestion to you if you can relate to any of this stuff and you're dealing with these toxic family situations like talk to your doctor see if they can recommend a therapist talk to your insurance company see if they can recommend a therapist talk to family friends see if they they're working with a therapist that they think you might like as well I personally use BetterHelp online therapy they help support this channel I have an affiliate link down below so if you would like to do online therapy go ahead and check it out like it's pretty affordable so basically what an affiliate link does if you sign up it helps support the channel as well I've been using it most of this year so far and my therapist is the bomb but anyways let me know your thoughts on this subject down in the comments below let me know if you've had to set up boundaries with a family member or even a friend in your life because it was drastically affecting your mental health all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel of our Patreon you're all amazing and if you would 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