 So if his professional life isn't solid, if his emotional life isn't solid, if there's contention in his life, a man nor a woman can show up fully in a relationship. So to the extent that they can go fully invest in a relationship is based on how solid the foundation of their life is. Do they have a contentious relationship with an ex? That's gonna create an imbalance to life. They have contentious issues with children. Do they have contentious professional issues? And most importantly, do they love themselves? You know, a lot of people are so deeply wounded from their childhood traumas and adult traumas that it makes it difficult to fully invest in another human being because they're operating from a very empty self-love cup.