 okay we are live on both platforms oh my god I always seem to be just a tad late for every single thing that I get myself into which is always fun how are you all doing as you wait being so far love to know excuse the big green earphones but some reason my computer is having a bit of trouble connecting the usual labors to the computer so I'll have to go with that for now gotta listen to my tunes while I'm doing a bit of streaming you joined first thanks gay chaos eb says hi I'm good autism ways as high make sure that I can see the YouTube stuff hello at time how you doing nice to see me cheerful and smiling yeah it's um I'm starting to feel a little bit better at the moment I'm still kind of rolling with the punches as it be for like mental health wise and stuff I'm not you know I haven't really been able to handle a lot of workload this week sadly because of that but I'm hoping that that'll change and I'll have a bit more energy to to do stuff what am I listening to nothing at the moment I still need to find probably my autistic chills playlist it's like a compilation of all of the songs and relaxing music that I have that doesn't have those like annoying noises in that kind of set me off so I've got a good good kind of relaxation playlist for that eb says do you have any favorite stems I do have my my favorite stems tend to be either the gym or roller coasters or getting spun around you know it's spinning around on my chair and stuff that tend those tend to be the things that I like in terms of stems yeah what kind of autism spectrum spectrum do you have I don't understand can you can you share your playlist I can try I should probably my link through no I don't know if you search for Thomas Henley you might see a picture of me on Spotify with my red t-shirt on you can check through those if you'd like eb I appreciate the request to be on the live but not the moment thank you I I don't do guests on the on this stream in particular big nerd Sammy asks how do you navigate sensory overwhelm in the gym very good question I think it's a question that a lot of people have because it's it's definitely like if you could package all of the benefits that exercise has on like your physical and mental well-being into like a little pill it would be like the most revolutionary pill ever because it just has so many positive effects for us coping with life anxiety mood things like that and I suppose that one of the issues is is the self-consciousness aspect to it you know obviously like you go into a gym and you're working out and you perhaps alongside a whole host of different people it's gonna plug my phone in who have varying levels of gym experience prowess things like that and that that's number one I think that's something that you get you tend to get over after after a little bit of time at the gym because after a while you kind of realize that you know if you're feeling like this and you're worrying about these faults that you're having about yourself and what people think of you it's probably it's probably it's probably the case that they're feeling the same too and they're not not too fixated on on what you're doing but I understand that the fear is there there's also the lights they tend to have quite harsh contrasty lighting in the gyms and music and you have people so there's there's those things and I would just say like you know a lot of you might see some videos from people who say like oh you should never look at your phone you shouldn't distract yourself between like sets at the gym and stuff I'm like no like that is one of the the best ways to avoid meeting someone's gaze at the gym and just locking in on your own workout and chilling so definitely do that and also stick some headphones in that possibly if you can get some noise-cancing headphones those are great but also just headphones in general just so that you can drown out the noise of all the different background noises and stuff so yeah that's probably what I would say I'm actually gonna do a post about it at some point in the next week or so probably going further into the ways that you can I guess some go to the gym as an autistic person so when you look at their previous comments okay my favorite sensory feedback is massages me too is a good one you know it says hi how are you you sound horse and it's probably I probably sound horse because my mental health is just being really bad and I have been struggling with my energy and not speaking very much to people and socializing and doing all the stuff that I usually do maybe that's why or the hay fever could be the hay fever so I do live like very close to a field I appreciate you all thank you very much so I guess if I can just check over on Instagram so I've been posting about lately see if I can dive a bit further into some of the things that I've been talking about so I talked I talked a little bit about how to talk talk with autistic people which kind of got mixed individuals like I don't know why that is let me have a look at some of the comments on it actually I think it was pretty well received again is someone asked me about whether like my my pay line for autistic people or not because I do make a lot of content which is kind of geared towards people who aren't autistic and that that's in my head because because of a lot of the communication issues that we can have between our different neuro types I feel like autistic people tend to get quite a hefty amount of information about how to adjust for and understand and communicate with neurotypicals but not necessarily the opposite of around so when it comes to things like dating and relationships I feel like the biggest hold the back of letting these things flourish is usually because the neurotypical person may not may not understand understand about autism so that's why I tend to have that deviation a little bit but I understand that there are there are definitely things that you can do in terms of like perhaps more in relationships but in terms of dating it's kind of like this you know it really depends on your own set of life circumstances and I don't feel like I'm 100% equipped to be talking about dating but relationships I can do appreciate your honesty thank you and she says I hope you're doing well if you're comfortable answering this question how do you feel about the possibility of getting married and having kids in your future it's a good question I don't think it's going to be in the near future I can definitely say that but possibly down the line it's not necessarily something that would make or break my life in that sense like you know I'm quite happy being like on calls and like things like that to other people not necessarily having like my own kid and stuff I'm also not like you know if I'm with somebody in a relationship you know marriage can be something that is kind of like a big milestone for some people and they can really like fixate on that but for me like it's pretty much the same set of rules for the relationship so it doesn't really change much in my head how do you deal with money with autism well I try I try my best I asked in how you're doing man what's your favorite comfort food I actually have a lot of different comfort foods they tend to take the form of um sweets mostly not gonna lie um I do have particular dishes I like to eat like for dinner and stuff I mean just kind of like rotate them over and over I can tolerate most foods like I've never really had an issue with certain foods like there's been one which is tomatoes and it's because of the texture of it I just don't like it used to be mushrooms but now I actually do like it so um it's interesting I just Angela says hello everyone hope you're all having a good day hi Angela not too bad how are you uh Austin says finish leg day allow now work time all right it's the opposite way for me well doing nothing and then going going to the gym for likes real estate he asks how do you make it clear to people when you don't want to talk to them um I don't really get myself in situations like that I just say that you know I'm gonna go and then to leave and just just just turn away and just leave that's usually what I do I imagine this is kind of like within the social you you meet someone like out in the street you know that situation where you just really want like some task done um at like the shopping places and like you see someone that you know and you actually do you do like them and you like like being friends with them um but then they kind of approach you and you see them and you're like oh my god like I don't want to talk to them now have you ever had that situation because it's uh it's it's plagued me sometimes um I try and associate my eyesight as much as possible when walking so I can just go straight to my destination um yeah I imagine it's kind of a situation like that but I'd usually I'm usually pretty direct and up front I'll say that I can't talk for long gotta gotta leave in a sec um most people take it well some people can be a bit weird about it but it's how life goes and me like says that I am a teacher and leave right now but I am here to learn from a person on the spectrum instead of educational professionals opinions yeah um I'd say that that's a brilliant thing to do I think a lot of educational professionals and scientists and doctors um you'd be hard pressed to find someone who I guess understands the experience of being autistic or other than autistic people and you know if you can find someone who is in both areas like someone like neurodivergent insights Dr. Megan Neff um then it's it's it's a really really great place to be social medias thank you Austin for the the one-up uh sticker thing is that a super chat I don't think I've had a super chat before thank you uh Mr. Farley says yeah I'm autistic and I find it hard to approach a girl to ask out totally well I think I think a lot of us struggle just approaching people in general like it's not in a conversation I think that's that's definitely a you know I don't I don't I don't hear from or talk to many autistic people who are like oh yeah that sounds like a great thing um but it's a skill you know and it's good to to start doing that in environments where you feel comfortable that's that's all I would say try and find somewhere where you usually feel good about it um and and just try and get in your groove try and feel comfortable and if you see the opportunity to speak someone just say hi I'm like how are you and see where it goes from there um for me that's that's the gym although I'm not incredibly diligent with approaching people at the moment due to my mental health um but there's uh yeah there's a lot there's a lot of things that you can do I have made a post on it before I don't want to go too much into it uh Jack Lerz says Tom so good to see you I did DM you to see how you were but I'm so glad to see you live hope you're okay remember it's more than okay um if you're not thank you I appreciate that I I'm not very communicative over on DMs but I actually find it easier to do like a an hour's live stream than to text and reply in DMs because it's just um just feels a bit more natural and easy for me I guess would you ever write your own novel um I tried I've done I've done a little bit of it um I've started many books in my time never finished one um I just don't think I have like the the space and the time and the the money to be doing that kind of thing at the moment plus I think if I was going to make my my book it would be an experiential angle on my life and I imagine that I'm probably going to have a lot more experiences under my belt a lot but a lot more knowledge when I when I get older so it might be something I do when I'm about older Rob Harton says I'm autistic I went through a phase where I really wanted the girlfriend if I'm the first one two years ago after a year of dating we broke up however we remain close friends well that's good um you know if you if you were the first girlfriend for a year that's that's that's really great real estate says I over share so instead of telling people too much or the wrong thing sometimes I try not to say anything to someone yeah I get that I get that as well you know sometimes I'm not in the the best frame of mind to be like wording things in a nice way and sometimes it just comes across as very like blunt and direct sometimes but it's never intended to be uh like a screw you I'm not talking to you kind of thing I tend says uh people like me people treat you like bad word lately I got rejected by a girl I was admiring for a while so no cheerful autumn for today I'm sorry to hear about that man it's um it's just one of the things we're dating you know you've got you've got your ups and downs and sometimes things don't go well I'd be doing okay we've got some more stuff about um relationships perhaps perhaps let's let's change oh we could I suppose we could talk about it a bit more I know I know I have made some posts on it um iron frequency says I've made it to 44 having never had a long-term girlfriend and going years I'd stretch without even a date I can't maintain a woman's interest for too long and it's hard for me to escalate it sounds tough for you it's um it's definitely not an easy thing you are like trying to to live around or be with and do things with another sentient human who also wants to do different things and has different ideas and ideals um Mike model model ski says I hope things are improving for you thank you I'm trying it's it seems to be paying off somewhat but my brain is definitely not on point at the moment Rappan says one of the things I've learned about autism and dating is not to sound desperate more importantly importantly not to compare yourself to anyone else yeah yeah of course um you know needing a sort of desperation from anyone can can turn a lot of people away it's probably not the best thing to do and you know you got it I guess you've sort of got to approach it like you're on even playing fields with everybody because if you put someone too high up we put something too high down um in comparison to yourself it's obviously gonna lead some weird interactions um where they're kind of the the whole dynamic of getting to know people and going on dates and then finding a relationship is kind of models um so yeah I would agree with you there and also not compare yourself to um if you have like neuro-typical friends who are just naturally adept at speaking to people and uh going out on dates and having their social life and doing all of these crazy charismatic things um well it's not good to compare yourself to those people because you know they're not they're not necessarily um well they're not the same they're not autistic they you know so comparison I guess in general to anybody can be pretty pretty bad you've always got to try and improve yourself and not focus too much on others I would say Mike Mulder says the same I'm finding sensory balance really hard I don't miss the dating seeing it was not for me it's it is a very complex place so the lead says you do whatever works for you when you're interested in collaborating and podcast at the moment we must do soon maybe maybe at the moment autism waste says what kind of hobbies do you like I love the gym as you will know I love taekwondo martial arts um I'm really into my music I do I have done quite a bit of traveling in my time which is something that I tend to do in like big stretches like going to like really cool places and backpacking and things like that I enjoy that I enjoy the odd bit of gaming you know I used to used to play um a few online games not so much at the moment just because of time and things like that but yeah I mean I like a lot of stuff like pretty much any sport is um is is cool for me petty crocker treats um it says I'm dating a late diagnosed adult with ASD and I'm doing my very best to help understand him your content has helped me bridge in that gap very relatable content thank you for your insight you're very welcome I'm glad that I can I can offer that hello autistic skater just a suggestion the guys could look for ND people today very true very true um there there are differences in speaking in generalities of course because that's the only way that I can but um there could be a whole host different benefits to dating an over autistic people or not it it really all boils down to the personality of the person that you're dating like or the values that they have and whether those values align with you and whether you have the same sort of sense of humor and you like similar things or you like a particular thing that the other person's interested in you know so this it's not always as easy as just like you know date autistic people I think it really depends on the person but if you're looking for someone to kind of inherently understand and get some of the experiences that you have and could be a possibility I heard a lot of people who have uh who are autistic or ADHD and they date ADHD or autism that seems to be a very cool dynamics sort of like a strange thing that I've seen in my own life where like I just seem to get on with people who are ADHD as an autistic person something to do with like the communication differences and stuff it's I've talked about it before so I won't go too much into that M3 Milismay I said uh said I stopped dating when I realized I didn't even like me and now that I do like me I'm very picky about who I let in it's probably the best way to be and it's it's good to to hold yourself in to some level of esteem it can definitely allow you to be a bit more careful a bit more choosy with the people that you let into your life which is always really important um for resorties and it says uh the seconds that about dating ND people but generally I don't get how people date on purpose with a goal in mind I've always fallen to the relationships through my life just by making a difference interesting I um I don't have that experience but it's always been you know I gotta go out and date or or not not do that uh Ayola Edwards says hey hey andola says I'm dating a man um who's autistic he has difficulty with feelings and emotions especially love because bad experiences in the past um no he wants to be my boyfriend but he said that he doesn't have any feelings for me that's confusing um I think a lot of a lot of autistic people can carry like a lot of negative baggage just from the general experiences that we have with people like you know if if you've had such negative experiences with people you're obviously going to have some level of like ways that you've coped in that situation or protected yourself and that those are not always the best things in when you when you find a stable partner and you you were someone for a long time um if you imagine that you know originally you were quite open and vulnerable uh you did that and then you kind of felt a bit unsure and you kind of got some some bad feedback from that and so you close off a lot more that kind of thing um it's definitely something that has propped up in in my life so perhaps being a little bit avoidant just because of you know there's those early experiences of rejection from all angles at school um but I think it's you know I understand the part about I guess that there's experiences in the past it might just be the case of it being a slow thing and maybe they're just not ready and um if they don't know if they have feelings for you might be a case of a lack of irony there um because if they say that they want to be your boyfriend but they don't have feelings for you it doesn't it doesn't yeah there might be some disconnect with the emotions that in terms of a lack of irony possibly might model ski so as I dated someone who was autistic and had matching difficulties and we didn't mix well now and with someone very much the opposite of me and it works very well mostly interesting how that works interesting uh I'm curious about traveling as an autistic person that overwhelming clever use of hypervigilance very much overwhelming um and lots of hypervigilance I would say but you know it's all cool uh autism the autism way says are you straight gay bi or something else in sexuality I am straight um I I understand that from like just from some other comments that I've got on my my posts like because I really like rainbows like I really just generally like looking at rainbows like I've got like a rainbow light there and all that kind of stuff and and to me it kind of I feel like when I use that rainbow or rainbow like colors on my posts um it's because I like it and it pleases my eye and it kind of somewhat looks a bit like diversity you know you can think of like the neurodiversity infinity and stuff like that so that's the reason um I've also been told quite a lot in in my own sort of personal life that you know I come across as not being straight which is is is strange I'd be interested to know why what what people think that you know why people think that but um yeah thank you for that question I have I've been wanting to talk about it because it does seem that I do get some some messages about that uh posh mark says hi there hello posh mark how are you doing um Angie uh says since we're on relationships have you ever experienced demand avoidance issues with dating relationships yes um I I have demand avoidance issues I don't do well to people telling me what to do um it's it's never like overly like aggressive demand avoidance it's more like um inactive so like if someone tells me to do something I just won't do it if they say they ask me and they say could you could you help me with this or you know that kind of thing then I will um it's it's a difficult line to walk um I think when I was younger I'd be a bit more stubborn about it I think nowadays I tend to have like be able to tolerate it in the short term but if it's like a long term thing that happens over and over again then it just gets on me too much it just drains me so a lot to do there's a lot of misconceptions about demand avoidance as well like they think we're just kind of being difficult or it's like an ego thing well whereas a lot of the time it's it's due to expectations that people have with us and and how much anxiety those expectations can produce for us so it's interesting I love traveling great sexuality is a spectrum too it is indeed it's because you're too handsome I don't think that's I don't think that's the I don't understand why that would be the case to why people don't think I'm straight but um thank you Angela says um we both have that in common I've been in a very abusive a abusive marriage both um with him I feel feel safe and we're having a lot of fun thanks for your answer sounds like that could be the problem you're very welcome um they're not easy those things those relationships and dating and stuff this it's uh very oversimplified by um online stuff and it's a very complex thing I would say Bree says I love I love traveling it is overwhelming but I think it helps me connect to the earth and experiencing different uh other cultures actually helps me understand humans more I would I would agree with that because you do see some trends in the way that people interact with each other the social norms perhaps the the personalities that you come across the mindsets and values that people have from different cultures that was that was very very much something that that added a lot to my understanding of life because I'd only come across British people really um you know about some some people I had moved moved from another place and came to England but um never really sort of been out and talked to and developed like friendships or relationships with people of different culture because um I just didn't have the opportunity to I guess so when it when I did in my adult life it was very much like a like a light bulb moment in my head I was like oh my god you know not everybody's like this and in the world like they are in Britain it's kind of nice because you when because I went with a group of evil I kind of felt like an even playing field in terms of like social abilities because we all just you know like couldn't really speak the language that we were at the place that we're going to so you know it was it was a little bit easier actually to talk to people when comparing myself to other friends do you have any clothes you don't wear um what do you mean you mean ones that I like and that I just don't wear um probably um it just in general what clothes I wouldn't wear no idea maybe I wouldn't wear like some some monk robes probably wouldn't do that occupy the voice as question for you how many people in the world are autistic but either never think or believe that they have it never get tested let's take my my payroll as well probably a lot I would say I mean it's like what what is it like one in 44 in the US it's like a more of a recent study um I'd say there's a good hefty amount of people I don't I don't know I wouldn't be able to speak on the actual statistics of that because that would require me to um do statistics but um I imagine I imagine that it would be a lot higher than people think I think that neurodiversity is in general because you know if something's not very well known about and it's not very easily picked up by a lot of general healthcare practitioners it's um it's going to be difficult to like shut them down a certain pipeline for getting an autism diagnosis or an easy diagnosis um you kind of have to be aware of it yourself and go to them saying like oh you know this this has happened or you go to someone in psychotherapy something like that and you talk about your experience and they'd be like oh this you know can't really pump my finger on it and when you're running through some diagnostic tests and stuff so I think the answer is yes there's probably a lot more I would say I meet a lot autistic people you don't know that they're autistic hey Joshua G how are you doing man don't worry about it I've got Joshua G here with our high our weekly hydration reminders make sure to get that water in on these warm UK days beholder mx says hi there hello mickey Jeff says I think university is great where you can meet people from different places and cultures university opened me up to new experiences I would say the same as well um but I think it was kind of it was assumed on my part that if I went to university then I would just have people around me to be friends with and to do stuff with um I really struggled like in the first year so the first two years trying to really understand the social landscape and go out and do stuff and meet other people um in my third and you know my year abroad my third year and my fourth year it was a little bit different and I did actually have a bit more agency to go out and talk to people and do stuff uh ruxy heart says I feel like a lot of people born in the 80s early 90s have not been diagnosed especially in the US because if they could talk then they weren't considered they're diagnosed of ADHD instead like me interesting woodchip very says hi hi woodchip welcome to the stream rellis kitty says uh is there ever a case in which you wouldn't want someone to know you're autistic yeah probably on a um a guest the autistic show you know they line up a bunch of bunch of you know people like like mean in a in a line and they have to try and guess who's the autistic person probably that one I think in most situations I would probably say that I'm autistic like to anyone got no filter on it everyone must know the holder mx says hello from Mexico I'm checking in to get an assessment maybe a diagnosis at 37 wow going for that late diagnosis Josh oji says doing great thanks hope your mental health is doing much better Thomas um it's it's okay it's it's not the best still but I had a burst of energy today and I feel like I'm able to jump on and chat to you guys because it is something that I think helps me um and so I felt able to do it today uh the holder said it would make a lot of things in my life make sense true awesome so we have about 20 minutes left on the old livestream so if there are any questions any at all that you want to ask me before I depart after these 20 21 or so minutes then please put them down I can see that someone's asked a question in the actual question box I have already answered that one okay okay Angie asks how would you feel about living in another culture permanently or long term um I think it would depends like if I was going with a partner like someone that I knew and perhaps it was a bit more close to home than it might be a bit more of an open thing for me but I have to feel completely like safe in in that place I need to probably have someone with me just because of the fragility of of thine mental health um so that that would probably be the thing where the babies come from uh autism in a way says every parent uh handles the children with autism differently how does your parent handle the situation after they heard from the doctor um they told me and they said that I was different and uh yeah it was it was a life-changing moment for me even at the age of 10 years old which ed ferry says uh how do you feel you've changed since having a youtube channel um um the thing is is that a lot of the like my conversational skills have changed a lot from doing the podcast um my knowledge has just steadily grown over time but a lot of the actual like changes that I've made to myself are some things that I've are the are things that I've done for myself changes about um you know my stance on things I guess perhaps my personality a little bit has changed I'm a lot more like straight open than I was when I was younger um perhaps a little bit less disagreeable as well I don't know it's um I don't feel like I've changed that much it's just the way that I present maybe has changed but who knows so what it's a while ago since I started a youtube no questions just want to say thank you for your work thank you beholder uh petticoke treats says what what your thoughts on polyamory I think that anyone who has a agreed agreement with a new human being should be able to do what they want I don't think it really matters what I think about it or you know whether it's something that that I would do or not it doesn't matter because it's too consenting adults or multiple consenting adults so that's that's kind of my stance on it he's gotten hotter Rob pattern says I never went to university in college the teachers judge me solely by my diagnosis they put me in a unit with people with disabilities I had to educate myself in the library there yeah that doesn't sound too lovely I've got to say now yeah I can imagine why you didn't go to university if you've had that experience with school Angela says my son has autism and I have a board I have borderline three of my friends are autistic and are the best friends I've ever had in my life that's interesting so you're surrounded by by autistic people my best friends like that got like me as uh me as the best friends and then it seems that she's just kind of heading a group of autistic people to her all the time uh hi so um wellster shut about yeah so um I may be starting a stream at some point and I'm giving it more and more thought and I'm thinking about when I can do it when I should do it um so I've been having to think about that and it may be something that that happens in the next few weeks or so I will probably start doing it on YouTube um and that won't that that won't be on Instagram because I will be like sharing my screen and watching videos and stuff but I'll still keep the aughty time live stream up and running because I do enjoy doing this and it's nice to connect with people over insta as well um as well as youtube especially jay says uh hope everyone has had a great day afternoon all night remember to stay hydrated with some water definitely definitely the good thing to do um eb I don't understand why you keep requesting to be in the video it's it's fairly irritating angie says that my first my university years followed a similar timeline to yours socially years one and two with the loneliest time but I didn't know it was autistic do you think knowing your diagnosis was helpful or unhelpful then I think it was it was helpful to a certain degree because I could like somewhat have something to point to if I was different to other people or I I did something that people disapproved of so it's kind of more of a crutch or like like struggled with certain sensory aspects of of life I can be like okay it's because I'm autistic um but I didn't really understand the complexity of just like how much autism just impacts every single part of your life and the way that you think and the way that you perceive and the way that you communicate or the way that you want and prefer to communicate um so yeah um it was helpful but I didn't really understand at that time uh just how much uh what there was to autism other than those sensory social aspects uh do you speak a second language I can speak a little bit of Thai I haven't practiced it in a long time though not gonna lie right a b I'm gonna I'm probably gonna block you if you keep doing this thank you uh real estate says when people ask me what's my love language I just tell them it's autism it's a good one that right one second just gonna go block someone I don't know if I can actually access my keyboard sorry that was noisy okay dope there we go all sorted that was very frustrating right so adi carp so adi carp mf and uh we've already said that so adi carp means uh it's like hello so adi my is like how you doing uh miski says I'm nearly diagnosed um autistic 13 years after my adhd diagnosis 13 for several years now I suspected that there was more to my struggles than I already knew I've yet are you um so you only recently got diagnosed wow I imagine like we were already part of like those social media communities in terms of like adhd and neurodiversity or did you just kind of jump in when you when you heard when you when you learned about autism be interested to know that uh ruxy heart says thanks so much for sharing stuff about alexa feimer and interception I never knew what they were and I very much struggled with them both yeah um those two were definitely like a lot of uh like you know I was talking earlier about you know just seeing autism and sensory and social things you know alexa feimer it's quite a quite a big part of autism from from what I've understood from my own life and other people's like there's a massive part of it and it's not it's not even like known about by a lot of the people that you talk to um I think when I had my podcast with uh temple grand and I don't think she understood what alexa feimer was so that's like that's crazy uh Austin asks her how big do you want to get in terms of size from lifting um I guess as as big as I can get I don't know um the the thing is I have a very poor sense of like body image like I really don't have a appreciation for how small or how skinny or how fat or like how big I am like I just never have a good indicator on it other than like perhaps looking at the scales or something like that which is something that I don't do um so I don't know like I just don't have that in a compass I guess um so now the goal is backy yeah the goal is backy back you would be a good one uh joshiji says uh did I miss much before joining uh we were talking about some dating relationship stuff earlier I think um whilst we were talking about god my working memory is still still not on the scratch thank you rails gatey uh miski says uh yes I've been around in the community for a few years that's why I suspected I might be autistic but I really wasn't sure about that I will doubt it sometimes and I kind of feel like an imposter sure now I get that and I think as well it's something that I experience you know feeling a little bit like you're an imposter um within the autistic community sometimes but you gotta remember that like there is such a variation in in the autistic people that we see like not even accounting for things like cultural differences living in different countries having different health care having different social norms like so many things and um a lot of people have a lot of co-occurring conditions as well so one person you know they might be autistic ADHD and dyspraxic um someone like me might be autistic and clinically depressed so yeah there's a there's a mixed bag and it's it's not always easy to I guess encapsulate what autism is like just from one person you gotta look at it in like a general sense I think and um but now I understand that because she you might feel a bit if if you were to share your experiences being autistic that you're kind of taking the voice away from autistic people that you you see to be autistic so I I get that I do it's um I think it's a it's a fault that many of us will have uh Roxas Roxie Hart says also I would love to see um you face another person discussing Ella's Downwell syndrome or over comorbid conditions on your podcast I have ED EDS and growth disease um I do actually have a podcast episode which is on that it's it's one of the earlier ones with the the chronic couple we talk about EDS so I would check that out okay we have seven minutes left to go well we're not going to go back into dating and relationships at the moment I've I've had enough talking about it I just says that do you know anyone who is considered um quite autistic but by those around them who so how does this influence your sense of your own autism I think I think I know what you're trying to trying to say and I think it's something that a lot of people don't talk about but no I I mean I would just say that that person is autistic and they have a learning disability I think that's what I would say you know because it's you know it it is the case you have watched it do you want me to do another one Roxie do you want me to line that up as a new a new episode at some point Todd Stacey says hi are you feeling better this week a little bit I'm still not up to speed in life at the moment a lot of rest not really doing much at all still still going to the gym that's one thing that I'm I'm keeping up but other stuff not not not really it's not really been going well but we'll see no I'm I'm strong I've been through this before so now I've got to keep going thank you for your reassurance you're welcome I behold says uh I feel an inability to connect with people like they managed to become special to each other I just can't become special to anyone that's super hard give you've got to have a varied amount of experiences like there is you know someone out there who will get you and understand you and like talking to you and have the same similar sense of human to you and they might not have all of those things bold into one but there's definitely going to be people out there who who do it's just the hardest thing about it is is meeting new people like you've got to see if you get on with them and sometimes that does come with some odd interactions and uncomfortable interactions but overall it is the way that you do that other than perhaps joining a site and finding friends for you there I would I would try and go to different clubs try and get put yourself in different scenarios different environments that would attract the type of people that get along with you if that makes sense Angela says sad to hear about that hope it gets better soon it happens you know since I was 14 uh it follows me around everywhere that blood dog uh dotty dodo jojo will this live be available to watch back sorry if I missed whoops sorry for missing so much you're welcome uh you it's okay rather you're welcome no this all of all of my um or t-time lives do go up um in full so you'll be able to you'll be able to check for a few if you really want to see it uh I love DGM says hello I learned a lot from your posts I'm very glad very glad yes really scary to you this is indeed looks fluent says not a question but thank you for helping me understand myself better you're very welcome looks I appreciate you sending me a message like that I love DGM says my son and I are both on the spectrum very very cool autism waste says who do you recommend to follow on instant instead about autism being curious to follow over autistic people from the world too uh I would I would follow neurodivision insights or TNL a different spectrum there's a few others that I I can't rattle off on the top of my head but there there's a fair few if you go through my um follow follow follow list like the people that I follow you'll probably be able to find a few people who are autistic creators or you can just look up uh like hashtag actually autistic find some creators like that or neurodivision or neurodiverse um just have a look through the list see if you can find anyone with a lot of a lot of likes and or a lot of cool content and follow those people um Austin says I use the gym as productive self-harm so it helps when I'm sad oh and it speaks to my soul that Austin you've encapsulated exactly why I'm still going to the gym but it does also make you feel better after it's a ritualistically torturing yourself with rests in between oh my god lived your first on dating good I am glad I'm always very apprehensive about making stuff around relationships and dating because it is such a like a very emotionally charged topic and in order to speak um on things I need to be very general and that means I need to make a lot of generalizations with dating and relationships um so that can be hard there's a lot of like who am I thinking is this too hyper specific to things I've seen or to me or not just trying to figure that out it's sometimes a hard thing um stranded 360 says I find I can usually talk to yeah um I might not read that one out because I know it contains some language that people they're like I love DGM says I agree the gym is excellent for us essential I would say thanks I have this account for two weeks thank you for your recommendations you're very welcome you're very welcome uh so we have come to the end of our live stream and I really hope that you've enjoyed it if you're on youtube please drop a like if you'd like this and um if you're on instagram I do have some badges that you could use for next time if you want to show some support for the stream to keep it keep it going show some support to me I also have a podcast which is a 40 or two podcast you can find all of those links in my my link tree in my profile or or below in the description on youtube and you'll be able to see you'll be able to see um I 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