 Welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast I'm your host Rob dial if you have not yet done so hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode of this podcast And if you love this podcast, please give us a rating and review however you listen to us The more positive rating reviews that we get the more that those platforms like Spotify and Apple podcasts show this podcast to people Who have never listened to it before Therefore we can impact more people's lives and by you giving us a rating and review It actually pays it forward for us to be found by more people We grow podcast grows more lives are changed, and I would greatly appreciate if you would do that today I'm gonna give you three keys three ways to stop procrastinating now before we do that I'm gonna flip your mind a little bit on procrastinating and what it is. Okay, I want you to just answer this intuitively answer As soon as I ask the question, I don't want you to hold yourself back I don't want you to think about it. You can say it a lot if you want to if you're in your car Do you have a problem with procrastinating answer it? Yes or no? Do you procrastinate more than you would like to do you procrastinate on things that really matter to you? Do you have a problem with procrastinating now? I'm not in the car with you. I'm not in the gym with you I'm not in the shower with you if you listen to me in the shower But I would guess majority people are gonna say yes I have a problem like one of the things that's holding me back One of the problems the thing that's holding back the most from the life that I want is Some form of procrastination and I'm actually going to tell you that I think that's bullshit I don't think that that's true. I was talking with my team members And this was about three weeks ago and we were talking about The ways that people hold themselves back and one of the ones that one of the things that was said is You know this person that I spoke to on the phone They had a problem with procrastinating and I said do you think procrastination was a problem one of my team It was like yeah, definitely procrastination was his problem and I said procrastination is not his problem procrastination is the symptom of the problem Now what does that mean? Well, if we look at somebody who has I Don't know some sort of disease some sort of illness something like that That's not the problem. It is the downstream effect of that problem And so there's a problem the cause and then there's the symptom the effect this thing that's popping up So it's like for instance, I can give you a great example, you know my fiance Lauren she used to have on her arm She would get eczema real bad like crazy bad eczema there was like right on the other side of her elbow And it would be so bad. She couldn't stop itching it and it was like real real bad And now you would look at that and you would say okay the eczema is definitely the problem But it's not the problem. That was what happened because of the problem So she starts learning and learning and learning and learning and changing the way she was eating She actually found out that gluten and soy were the problem So the problem was the food that she was eating was going into her gut It was breaking through the blood barrier and it was actually leaking in and her skin Was what ended up getting the brunt of it like the part that was beat up and you could see and you would think to Yeah, her eczema was the problem, but her eczema wasn't the problem It was that she was eating soy and gluten She didn't realize that she was allergic to soy and that gluten Breaks the blood barrier and allows the soy to get through her gut and into her body And so not going too deep in the woods. This is a nutrition episode But you will look at it and think eczema was the problem eczema was not the problem The problem was soy and Then the gluten that obviously messed up her gut as well. That was the problem The downstream effect of her having it was the eczema on her skin And so when I talk about procrastination procrastination can seem like the problem the thing that's holding you back, but that's not it That is the cause of what you're doing. So let me give you an example Maybe you just started a new business and your new business. You're all excited about your new business You want to do well, but you're not taking the action that you need to to grow this business And so you might say I might say to you like what's the problem? Why you're not growing your business? You might say I'm procrastinating too much. No, no, no, that is the eczema. That is the the effect of what's happening That's the symptom of Something else and what could be I'll give you an example what I see a lot with business owners because I coach a lot of business owners is that The the real thing the reason why they're procrastinating is because there's some sort of fear and the fear could be You know, they're not making phone calls to grow their business Let's say I'll give you I'll give you an even better example. I want to put some context to this, right? Let's say that this person has a landscaping business and they're Procrastinating knocking on doors to give out their cards to talk to people because I know around here There's always landscaping guys that knock on doors and they're like, hey, you know if you need landscaping done Here's my card So maybe the person's like I'm procrastinating my business my landscaping business isn't growing because I'm procrastinating and I'm not Knocking on doors. None of that is the issue the issue That's the downstream effect of the business not doing what you not them not doing They're supposed to in the business The actual problem might be that they're afraid of somebody rejecting them that they're afraid of somebody saying no to them They're afraid of somebody saying get off my fucking property. That's what their actual problem is and the procrastination is just the downstream effect of that That's what it truly is making sense. And so the Growing the business the procrastination seems like the problem But the real problem is what's behind all of that, which is the fear And so if you have procrastination before I give you the actual three steps The real question I want you to answer is what is the fear behind your procrastination? That's holding you back from taking the action that you need to in order to create the life that you want What is the actual thing behind the procrastination that's holding you back? What's the fear? That's back there So that's what I got for you on on the procrastination some of the think about so let's dive into it when we talk about Procrastination really what it comes down to is you can still feel that fear So if we go back to the fear of people saying no to you when you're knocking on doors You can still knock on someone's door in be filled with fear the entire time So having a fear does not mean that it's impossible to take the action that you need to in order to grow your Business or whatever it is that you need to do that you're procrastinating on you can be filled with fear and still knock on those doors The key is discipline That's what it comes down to what is the discipline that you need to create because the fear will naturally start to subside When you do when you before you knock on your first door, you're gonna have a ton of fear But when you've knocked on a thousand doors that fear is subsided It might still be there, but it's nowhere near what it used to be Right and so the key is discipline to take the action that needs to be taken and there's two parts to discipline number one Is starting and number two is finishing Number one is starting and number two is finishing. Okay, so key number one. It's to not negotiate with your mind How often are you on the couch and you don't feel like moving and you're like, oh Yeah, I don't feel like doing this I don't give a damn if you feel like doing it if you said you were going to do it You need to get it done the other day. I Feel like I give you guys examples of me in the gym all the time I always have a mental resistance towards working out and I'm trying to get better at it I still struggle with it, but the thing that always gets me through it is just doing the movement Just getting my body moving because motion creates motion More movement creates more movement another thing that motion creates is emotion And so if you're sitting on the couch And you've been sitting for a while it makes it, you know Your emotions are down your blob your emotions are usually going to follow your body a lot of times And so motion creates emotion. And so if I if I'm like, you know what I'm supposed to go work out. I Don't feel like working out. I don't know about that. It's kind of late in the day Maybe I'll do it tomorrow all of this stuff Then my brain will start to go down that route, but if I'm like, you know what screw it I'm just gonna go do some jumping jacks in the gym. I'm gonna go do some jumping jacks What I'm gonna do so I guess my graduate do some jumping jacks I got a gym out there do some jumping jacks my body starts moving and start feeling a little bit better I'm like, you know what screw it. I'll do I'll do 15 pull-ups. I do some pull-ups I do some jumping jacks and I start to force my body My emotion starts to go from yeah, I don't know. I'm lazy. It's not really the day I'm not really feeling good today. My stomach hurts The other day when I had this happen the thing was I actually had a really really bad stomach A I must have eaten something that was bad the night before and I was like, I don't I don't feel like my body can do this I'm not really good at and then literally I was like, I'm just gonna do motion I'm just gonna do motion. It's gonna whatever it is. It's on Saturday. I put on college football I was watching on the TV that was in the garage Watching it. I started like moving I started moving in my body and my brain started catching up with each other They're like, okay, I could do a little more. Okay, I could do a little more. Okay. I do a little more But the thing was I told myself I was going to work out on Saturday I told myself I was going to do it. There was a part of me that was like, don't worry about dude Just just just go do it tomorrow Then there was another part of me that was like get the fuck up Because you said you were going to do it and when I say don't negotiate with your mind It is if you have made a plan to do something if this is part of what you told yourself You're going to do do not negotiate with your mind do it because you said you were going to do it That's what's important too many people say they're going to do something to somebody else And to themselves and they don't follow through and whenever you do something the way you do one thing is The way you do everything if you do not do something that you say you're going to do You are now starting to become the person who doesn't do what they say they're going to do And if you continue to keep doing that your life You're going to be downstream of that one year two years three years five years down the road You're going to see you will get the results life will always give you the results of the Action that you've taken in the future or I'm sorry in the past It will always give you the the results of the actions that you've taken in the past You will in five years get the results that come from somebody who decides to skip workouts Someone who decides not to knock on the door somebody who decides not to make the phone Call somebody who's size not to read the books you will become the person That you're going to become based off of the actions that you have taken in the past Which means five years from today those that past is right now in this moment So if you said you were going to do it do it do not negotiate with your mind Because your mind will always try to talk you out of doing anything That's the first thing number two Finish what you start Everyone is great at starting people are always like yes, I got a new I'm gonna start a new company I'm gonna start these the sticker company on etsy and I'm gonna become a millionaire I'm gonna make some pretty designs and it's gonna be so much fun. It's gonna be great. I'm gonna it's gonna be stuff like hey Heart heart heart love everybody heart heart heart I mean everyone's gonna have on the bumper stickers in the back of their car and they're all excited and they start They're good at starting and then they're just terrible at finishing Become somebody that is really good at finishing whatever you start no matter what it is I give you an example you decide to start cooking Guess what you're gonna need to do you're gonna need to wash all those pots and pans Don't leave them for tomorrow. Get them done today Wash them Finish the act of cooking finish the act of eating even if you just take a hot pocket You know hope you're not eating hot pockets take a hot pocket You throw it on a plate you put it inside the microwave You eat it You got to do something with that plate you could put in the dishwasher Couldn't you you could wash it couldn't you or instead of doing that you could leave it inside of the sink Just be the person that gets better at finishing things You know when you get out of bed You wake up finish the act of sleeping and make your bed When you do your laundry I'm preaching the choir on this i'm preaching myself I always throw stuff inside of the dryer Forget about that shift for like a week right when you throw stuff in the dryer this thing that i'm working on personally When I throw some some stuff in the washing machine when I throw some stuff in the dryer finish the act of laundry It's the little teeny tiny things You know if you decide hey, I'm going to try on some clothes for tonight and going out And you try on outfit one you try it out for two three four five and you look back on your bed Do you have a bunch of clothes that are sitting on your bed before you leave? Take two minutes two minutes and become the type of person that finishes the act of trying on clothes You take all those clothes you decided not to wear and put them inside of your closet on a hanger put them away It's just what you should do become better at finishing finish what you start Make breakfast make breakfast you eat it you wash it you put it away be done with it If you don't have discipline, it's because you've trained yourself not to have discipline So if you want to train yourself to have more discipline Train yourself to be the type of person who finishes what they start the way that you train yourself to be the type of person Finishes what they start is to start finishing things that you start And you will start to become that person and over time You fast forward 60 days 90 days 365 days you are the type of person that finishes what they start. Okay number three third tip Do more than you said that you would Do more than she said that you would I remember this story and you might have heard this story before But I'll remember this probably till the day I die. I was at gold's gym I remember where I was in austin. I was at the gold's gym that was on the corner of 35 and um What is that road for those you guys are in austin William cannon, that's what it is William cannon in 35 when I lived down there I remember being at the gym and I was There we were just getting doing a workout and I was doing 10 minutes on the treadmill to get my body warmed up to get my Heart pumping and everything. I was at you know a 10 percent incline And my goal is to do 10 minutes. I remember I got to the nine minute and 50 second mark Then I was about to hit the stop button And it was like this light bulb popped up in my head and I was like, oh hold on I said I was going to do 10 minutes and I'm about to stop at nine minutes and 50 seconds and if I stop Nobody on earth But me will ever know that I stopped 10 seconds short But you know who will know Me and if I'm coming up 10 seconds short on this the way I do one thing is the way I do everything I'm probably coming up short in all areas of my life a little bit in my relationship a little bit here a little bit here a little bit here And so if I want to be a type of person Who does well and finishes things What if I'm not just type of person that finishes things but goes a little bit extra I was about to be the person And you know james clear says that every action that you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become if I stop a little bit short I am voting for being the type of person who comes up a little bit short anything that they do So I was like I gotta go a little bit further I'll go for 10 minutes and 30 seconds. It was only an extra 40 seconds But you see how you start to reprogram yourself as to who you are if you say you're gonna do one mile Do 1.1 miles do 10 more if you say you're gonna do 10 reps do 11 do 12 See what you could do if you say you're gonna make a you know 50 phone calls make 52 Just do a little bit more than you say you're going to do and if you do this Go back to that quote every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become If you have action action action action action over and over and over again And the majority of them are over and above what you said you were going to do You are going to start to build yourself into the type of person that goes a little bit above on every single thing that you do Same way that when you finish something you start something and you finish it You are voting for the type person you wish to become And so you have to guys if you want to get past procrastination Ultimately what you're doing is you're training your mind to start and to finish And to not negotiate with your mind and to get things done This won't happen right away. It's not going to be a complete reprogramming But I promise you I've been working myself for 16 17 years now I am not the same person that I was back then because I'd see these little teeny tiny actions these consistent things That I tried to do all of the time and i'm not perfect in any sort of way of doing that I fucked things up all of the time I hate when people are like rob has to have his entire life figured out. He's got to have it together. No guys I'm just bumping into shit in the dark is the way I feel like I'm doing in life But I'm doing I at least have a little bit more light than I used to and I'm bumping into less walls than I used to right You have to decide Number one, you have to figure out what fear is behind my procrastination And then you have to go through these three steps number one Don't negotiate with your mind number two finish what you start in number three Don't just finish what you start start getting better at doing more than you said you're going to do And if you do that ultimately procrastination is not going to be a problem for you in a year two years three years But it just takes consistent action of you doing what you need to do So that's what I got for you for today's episode if you love this episode Please share it on your instagram stories and tag me in it rob dial jr ro b d i a l j r If you're at the gym and you go a little bit further you do some extra reps you lift more whatever it is tag me And I want to see what you guys are doing out there. 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