 What you got for me, so I'm speaking on my mother. My mother was a single mom. Okay, your mother was a single mom Yes, how did your mother? My mother now she's older. She's 50 She's 50. How do you I'm 24. Okay. She remarried actually Because her first husband had passed. Okay, but hold on. I need you to understand something Mm-hmm. What did I say is your mama a baby mama? No, no, no, I'm not finished. No, no, no. I'm asking is your mama a baby mama No, initially she's a widow. Right. So by definition, it's not the same No, but I'm not done go ahead so, um The next guy that she was with After him things did not work out She did have a kid with that with that person And that's where all the other kids came in and she was able to find someone else even though she already had And your point is ultimately what? My point is ultimately you can find someone else to be with you even if you are right Now why don't you go out and have a bunch of kids to see how that work for you? I don't think that's gonna work for me. Okay. Well, why don't so if you had so if you had daughters You go out and recommend doing the same thing Um No, that's not the point. Oh, yes, it is. Oh, yes, it is. Oh, yes, it is See when you ladies like you like to come in and say yeah, but see I know one person that it happened to work out for And see the exception doesn't disprove the rule it proves the rule First of all your mother was married She wasn't a baby mama to begin with but then she turned around and chose to become a baby mama and then got married again That's the way life worked out for her. Yes. So why don't you go? So what you want? So what she's trying to tell you ladies is go out and have children And it'll work out for you magically like her mom Is that what you're telling them? No, then what is it? I think the only reason to be 100 honest with you why it worked out for my mom is because My mom was like really She was really beautiful So why are you so again? Is every woman really beautiful? But then you said if you know ma'am is every woman really beautiful. First of all, I'm going back and forth with you But here's the net net of Do you know any women who have children who got married these days? Because see your mother's 50. I'm from the same generation. You're 24 Right, you got any friends that have got kids I have one friend right now that got married over zoom and she had a baby And she got married over she got Well, it's in the COVID pandemic moment. All right, so again ladies I'm going to tell you if you want to listen to this go right ahead Set your sights and play the odds But if you were out here giving women advice, what would you tell them? Bank on a COVID pandemic marriage? No, no, absolutely not. She was with him for a moment before What would you tell women to do? I would tell them don't make the same mistake twice What do you mean don't make the same mistake twice? Would you tell them to get married before they had a baby? That's not of course. Okay, then so Again, if you would tell if you were telling to get married before you had a baby the whole thing about your mother you just You just uh negated that No, I think that's a different generation. So my mother was fortunate. No, I'm I'm 51 years old. It's not it's a different It's not a different generation the odds are bad back then too see You got all kind of you got all kind of things going on because your mother was attractive woman She found she had more bites at the apple so Getting having a child outside of a marriage is dumb Just because your mom lucked up does not make it the thing to do Just because you could have a friend who can get married on over zoom does not make it a thing to do Why do you black women like to argue for the for the hard path? I'm not arguing for the hard path Well making the point making the point making the point for it is arguing for it You're speaking. No, no understand something in debate when you are for something that's arguing for it I'm saying don't do it and you come in and say well, no, I'm going to go the opposite. So you're an affirmation of this No, yes, that's what you did No, no, no, no, no, that's called what you're saying doesn't have any nuance and I don't no No nuance see the the wonderful thing about life is you ladies like to play all this nuance when it comes to me And it's very black and white your mother was in she in the extreme minority Would you suggest that women go out and do what your mother did? No, then that's all you need to be speaking about going out and telling women Well, I wouldn't suggest that you did it, but it can't happen. Is that the wise course. You know what? You know what you may not you may not od on heroin or die, but it does happen But go ahead and take your chances Yeah, it really kind of is so at 24 years old. Why aren't you married yet? Boyfriend, um, why aren't you married yet? Did you go to college? Yes, okay. What college did you go to? Do I have to say my school out loud? I don't care. Did you graduate? Um, yes, okay, uh By 20, did you notice it? Do you have any college friends that you went to school with white friends non-black friends that are getting married? Because when I was good most women are getting married right out of college between 22 and 25 Hmm, I don't want to be like I don't want to sound racist or anti-Semitic or anything like that But a lot of my Jewish friends were married during college. Exactly. And so when I ask you, why don't you marry? You look like I asked you Something difficult. Why aren't you married yet? No? No, I don't think it's difficult. Um, don't want to get married this young I'm I I love my boyfriend. I'm happy Right, you better say that because you're gonna see the video but you but he but why didn't you marry him yet? Um, he wants to get married. Okay, so he's broke No, he's not broke. So he's so he's so what's wrong with him? Nothing's wrong with him. Let me get this right. He's not broken. He wants to marry you, but you don't want to get married What's wrong with you? Oh, I never said I don't want to get married. Well, I asked you why aren't you married? We're just not married yet How long you been together? We've been together. We're going on two years. Why aren't you married? I'll take the six months So let me get this right. He wants to get married Yes, he's told you he wants to marry you Yes And you told him to go buy a ring? Yes And he has it Oh, I have a ring. Yeah He's dropped on one knee and proposed to you. Yes, and you said what? Of course, I said yes, but we just hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Whoa. Whoa Of course you said yes That would make a fiance not a boyfriend I mean No, no, no, no, no, no. I was very clear He dropped on one knee ring proposed. You said yes, that makes a fiance not a boyfriend Yes So why are you calling your fiance your boyfriend? Because it's very new That's bullshit. Most women who are That's not no That is bullshit. That is bull that is bull that is bullshit when women get when women get engaged Into a man they like and they got a ring. They can't wait. They brush their hair all the time and Look, either show me your ring. Give me your hand. Show me the hand. Put your left hand up No, no, no, no, no, just give me your left hand It's in my dresser No, see see guys ladies Pay attention This woman came on giving you advice She has a boyfriend who she says is a fiance that she don't even claim The ring Ain't even on her finger. Ain't even on her finger. Yeah. Yep. See here's here's what's called She's what I she's what I consider to be pretty rich She's what I consider to be pretty rich Let me tell you what's wrong with pretty pretty rich women like this Pretty rich women are some of the worst women to deal with Why If this was a man that she wanted to marry First thing she would have married him a long time ago She damn sure wouldn't be calling a fiance a boyfriend. This is why I tell you BBD don't trust the big button to smile Bet not be trusting this pretty face just because you say something see Women like that tend to think men like myself get enamored with their looks I'm not impressed. I see pretty women all the time I don't let you just say some shit because you're pretty So what I get down to the meat of it. I question her just like I question everybody else and you see the same bs another black woman Who's apparently stringing some guy along because if he bought her a ring and it ain't on her finger I asked her if she'd married I wish I could rewind it. Are you married? This chick ain't got no plans on marrying this dude She's waiting till a better dude come by homeboy if you're watching Rewatch this tape with your therapist and act accordingly And if her momma was out there making moves like that you better The apple don't fall far let me confused. It's not true That's not okay. Then okay Back on the camera, please go ahead and came up I want to see this ring Here, uh-huh. I want to see the ring. I want to see the ring. I want to see the ring All right, uh-huh. Let me put it back on. Okay. Put the ring back on I don't need to see yeah. Yeah. We ain't trying to look at your boobs. We're trying to see the ring No, I just told you my dresser sir. Okay. Uh-huh now. Where's the man? He stepped out. He wants to get me some food. Right. You guys live together Yes And how long you've been engaged It just happened how long you've been engaged Literally like a week ago. Okay. Where do you propose? Right here at home. Uh, I said did you drop to a knee in public and propose you said yes I didn't hear in public. I just heard on a knee Because we can't go anywhere. Nothing's open right now Y'all been together two years. Have you started planning the wedding? Going on two years. I have to start planning it but like I'm a little worried because I'm calling up places and nothing's open and they don't know when they're gonna open and Who's paying for the wedding? Our parents And us Your mama's paying for it. No, no, no, no, no Um, his parents are putting something in and my parents also putting something in and he's also you mean your parents You mean your mama because you haven't talked about your daddy Um, my daddy passed away. Okay. I saw you hear that so his family's paying for it Mm-hmm. Is he just how old is he? He's 26 26 Have y'all gone to counseling Why premarital count because premarital counseling is usually recommended before you get married Oh, I didn't know that was a thing. We don't have any issues. Uh, no Premarital counseling is a wise thing to do Especially for a woman who's not claiming her fiance is as her boyfriend It was just a force of habit speech Okay Congratulations Thank you, sir. Are you gonna have any kids? Um, um, of course, I would love to with him. I don't say of course. I don't know He's a great man. I think he'd be a wonderful father Here's the thing if he's great put the ring on wear it and start calling him a fiance not a boyfriend That's in social that's that's I mean, I mean, I'm being serious one, but I'm being serious It's Not calling me your fiance is is is insulting to him because as people in the public Yeah Okay Yeah, premarital counseling would be wise Out here. I'm just like I'm nobody No, you somebody's fiance supposedly Say it nag like it Alrighty Whoo boy. Yeah, but get some counseling up in that much