 ممولانے پانل تنمیہ ایشا اللہ سی درسیم سواتر ہے میں اپنے پورا بہترانے میں اس کو مذہفید کے جہاں ہوں اور اس کو اپنے پورا بہترانے میں بہترانے میں باتا ہوں یہ سبھا لیکن جانا ہے میں بہترانے میں سے 7 منطلات سواتاریں میں پہلے ہوں اور میں اپنے کالیگs میں اپنے باتا ہوں میں یہ ساملی ہم نے تصفیح کی کامی شکریہ دیکھا ہوں۔ اور آپ کھل مجھے آپ کو براہی بیٹیوں کو لگا دیتے ہیں۔ ان شاء اللہ تو بہت زیادہ آپ کو جنگ کرتے ہیں۔ بہت today میں مجھے آپ پر مخمانوں کے لئے کہ میں بھاکوں کے ساتھ جب آپ کرتے ہیں کہ یہ ساتھ مجھے اور بہت اپیبٹی میں جانےہاں اور آپ پر مجھے اپنی ساتھ اپنی اپنے ساتھ بہت بہت ہے۔ آپ پر قرآنی کی بہت اپنی مضغطہ ہوتا ہے۔ آپ کو اللہ سے دعای کرنے کیا ہے سبحانہ وتعالیٰ آپ ہم بہت تک سپلک کیا ہے کسی ہمارے میں نہیں رہا ہوں کہ وہ اس کے اپنے حیث میں ہے کہ when we start looking and when our eyes begin to notice things that they had not noticed before we remove اللہ سبحانہ وتعالیٰ from the equation and this is why I say that is the point where you are supposed to turn to اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ ربنا حبلنا من ازواجنا و ذریاتنا قررت آعیونن و جعلنا للمتقین اماما او او رب او او رب گرانٹ اس from our spouses our offspring those who will be the coolness of our eyes and make us the leaders of the righteous and not only that دعاہ you سپلکیٹن any language you want asking اللہ to bless you with the best سپاوز because that spouse your you will get married to will become a parent to your child by the will of اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ and I pause for a moment to pay tribute to those who don't have children even though they may have been trying for many years it is اللہ's choice اللہ's decision اللہ's mercy اللہ's divine wisdom we سرنڈتو it we will keep trying knowing that اللہ only does what is best for us if اللہ knows this is going to be our ticket to جنہ so it will be don't become depressed at that go and look after children and I've seen so many who look after children who may not be biologically theirs but they become closer to them than their biological parents at times may اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ help us all so I pray that اللہ بلس you all with offsprings say I'm in look at these young men who are not even married saying I'm in مشاہ اللہ it's good you must say I'm in because it is an inclusive دعاہ it actually means if you say oh اللہ بلس me with payas offsprings and you are not yet married it starts off with the good wife or the good husband automatically so my brothers and sisters don't forget the دعاہ aspect of it the supplication call out to اللہ and on top of that make sure you know how you are looking where you are looking for your spouse because many people complain about parenting but my brother my sister you made such a big mistake in your choice of a spouse and the parents out there you sometimes make mistakes when you say no to your children when they want to marry a righteous person when they want to marry someone who is a good man or a good female just because they come from the north or the south or they don't belong to your particular tribe you say no by doing that you have destroyed the cornerstone of positive parenting or successful parenting because they will remain issues between the spouses if you have not resolved your matters as husband and wife how do you expect to show or to lead that particular offspring that اللہ blesses you with in a way that is exemplary or that is good when you have not even solved your own matters so this is why I call out to parents from this particular platform to make it easy for your children to marry those who are decent reasonable people no matter what their race what their color what their tribe etc. etc. that is all besides the point اذا اتاكم من تردونا دینہو و خلوقہو فزوجو ہو if someone comes to you with a proposal their level of deen is okay their level of اخلاق is okay it is acceptable to you then you let your children be married do not prohibit if you do the same narration says اللہ تفعلو تکن فتنتن فل ارضی و فساد عریض if you are not going to do that they will be great chaos and corruption on the earth and who will have caused it unfortunately the parents themselves so remember this it's important I've started that point because I believe firmly that the choice of your spouse plays the biggest role in whether or not you are going to manage those children by the will of Allah ultimately it's the help of Allah also those who are married you know you might be just looking at me to say oh gosh I've already made these mistakes now what insha Allah well we will be hearing how best we can develop correct ourselves listen with an open mind insha Allah and we will be able to benefit the floor will be open very soon for your interaction as well I want to continue with that do I like I said we make the right decisions the right choices do not be do not be attracted to a materialistic spouse or someone who has succeeded is successful solely and only from a materialistic angle or perspective because if that's the case remember one day they may not have that or one day they may betray you as a spouse or you may find habits that become so bad that you would have to ignore sometimes I know of many emails I receive unfortunately from this country mostly unfortunately from this country where some of the sisters complain I've got a very good husband but he drinks alcohol and he see it's like nothing is wrong he gambles and he and he goes out with any woman he wants but he's a good man in the house he reads his salah I was shocked well I couldn't believe it is this what is really happening I hope it's not true my beloved brothers let's never let that happen when Allah blesses you with wealth wallahi wallahi it is going to be your ticket either to jannah or out of jannah it's up to you to choose where you want to be wallahi when Allah has blessed you with something cut out your bad habits cut out your your wrong ways your sinful behavior cut it out it's never going to help you cut out this arrogance look after your spouse and your children and yourself in the process so my beloved sisters you see when we go and even brothers when we go for that which Allah has told you to watch out regarding and when we fall into the trap for example you only look at beauty and nothing else you know you have to look at beauty when people read the hadid they say oh there are four things you just look at the deal no there are four things five things you can look at all of those things but that the factor that that is the final factor would be the deal it doesn't mean that a woman is married for her beauty or for her wealth or for her family lineage etc etc or for the deal so now you marry only for the deal hang on hang on hang on I need to see her I need to like what she looks like I need to talk to her I need to be somehow attracted to her the same applies to her some of the culture sometimes are such that you play no role in who you are going to get married to the father comes and says I found a husband for you and a good daughter a pretty blossoming you know child who's so gorgeous and she comes and sees the husband oh my god oh is this the guy اوذو بلاہ اوذو بلاہ you know she fell short of saying me as shaitan because she was she but she says اوذو بلاہ we need to be careful there has to be a spark don't misinterpret the hadid the hadid speaks about these things because wallahi it's important to look you want to be positive parents you have to have a positive union without the positive union how can you be a positive parent my beloved brothers and sisters so when you want your children to get married ensure that there is some form of compatibility there is a little bit of a spark on either side you know you cannot turn on a candle without a match so they needs to be some form of a little flame in order to get that candle a light may Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ grant us deeper understanding say I'm in so we make the correct decisions based on the hadid of رسول اللہ صلہ وسلم and guess what the final point I want to raise as my I've spoken for 10 minutes actually I really apologize for that but the final point I want to raise is we need to make sure that we become closer and closer to Allah as the days pass I want the best husband the best wife but I don't read salah I want a lovely man but he doesn't want me you know why because he's not looking for a person like me I want to marry such and such a person does he want to marry me he's not looking for someone with my qualities because why I'm far off the mark سبحان اللہ I need to get closer to Allah I need to ask myself will such and such a person want a person like me if the answer is yes insha Allah and if those people are closer to Allah it should develop us in a way that we become closer to Allah may Allah make us closer to him so if you want to look after your children you start off with the spouse if you want a good spouse and you are not fulfilling salah you have a problem if you if you are not fulfilling the obligations unto Allah you have a problem so the point I raise make lots of dua work according to the advice of Rasul اللہ سلام we will be hearing a lot of this today insha Allah and you better make sure and I better make sure that as the days pass I become closer to Allah not further away from Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ you know gone are the days when and I'm talking here to parents insha Allah gone are the days when perhaps we دلی دالید a little bit now they are children who look up to us for guidance if we are not going to be striving towards the guidance if we are immature ourselves even though we are 50 and 40 years old how do you expect those children to be rightly guided may Allah make us the true role models of our children to begin with and my Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ bless you all اقولو قولی حذا وصال اللہ وسلم عالہ نبین عوض