 Hi, I'm George Cal and I'm here with Amparo. She's been one of my clients and she's gonna be sharing some business lessons With you today, and I'm excited to have her have her share. Hi Amparo. Good to be here. Hi. Thank you so much George It's good to be here. Thank you. So let me read your bio out to the audience so that everyone can have a sense of Your background and then we'll go into your business lessons and I'll go from there. So so Let me get the bio up here Amparo is a business coaching consultant for the spiritual entrepreneur trying to reach a Multicultural audience with a penchant for mixing the ethereal with the practical She supports small business owners and creating compassionate businesses that treat their clients their teammates and Themselves as what they really are Multi-dimensional beings on a lifelong adventure to bring more joy and awareness To communities across the world. I love that. Amparo. Thank you for embodying that so I mean as a business coach, I think everything you're gonna stay today is gonna be helpful for my audience But just in terms of building your own business your own journey There's a couple of things that you know, you you sent to me in preparation for that You know that what we should talk about and one of them I think it's especially Appropriate especially relevant on now and during the winter times and just kind of where the world is at these days But talk talk about You know the experience of depression and how that relates to purpose and just your your business journey anything you want to share there Yeah, absolutely, so my process of Stepping towards this transition of Walking from sort of the standard working for someone to creating my own business around my purpose it coincided directly with a cycle of depression and it was a very very very tough depression like I just never been that low before and In pulling myself out of it what I came to to understand about my own journey Was that the reason why I had sunk so deeply into depression? It was it was one of the main reasons why I had sunk so deeply into depression Was because I had walked away from what I deeply felt was what what was my purpose and it was something that I was sort of semi-conscious of as I was sort of navigating life and Thinking that I had to walk away from it in order to be prepared for it something that I felt like I had to do but I sort of lost my way along the way and I went sort of a little too too in that direction and I ended up sinking into really deep depression and I found myself so deeply depressed that I literally couldn't leave my house. I I would lay in bed for hours literally unable to leave and that's something that Depression is still very highly stigmatized mental health in general so highly stigmatized We don't really talk about this stuff, right? And we make so light of it We dismiss it so much, but it's such it's such a real thing and it's so important to be okay and accept that Sometimes you literally cannot get out of bed literally cannot and in that moment you have to be okay with doing whatever you can do Sorry for the background noise I mentioned before if we started recording they live in New York and so it's just noisy all the time Even though you're not on the ground floor, you're like way up. It's like the sounds of the city Yeah So I had a moment where I realized that I had a choice to make and I could either choose to continue to let myself go deeper into the darkness or To try to gradually pull myself up and I chose to gradually pull myself up and I didn't have resources to try to go to find a Program that could support me so I had to pull myself up from the deepest depression I had ever been in my entire life and There are some very important lessons that come from from doing that you can't do it fast You can't you have to do it gradually you have to be a very self-compassionate You have to celebrate all your successes Even if that success is I got out of bed to go get a glass of water You have to celebrate every success right so I went through this process. It took me I would say about a year before I started feeling like I was making enough progress So I was starting to see glimpses of who I used to be like significant glimpses right more than just a moment here moment there and as I was pulling myself out of this depression I started walking back Towards what I felt had been my deeply held purpose that I've felt very strongly was it for a decade or more and I wasn't One in my mind wasn't Intentionally connected to the other I wasn't walking out of depression in order to get back to my purpose Though I knew at the time that a part of me knew at the time that the reason why I was depressed was because I wasn't living in My purpose I wasn't anywhere within the vicinity of my purpose. I knew that but it just so happened to take that route that as I started to feel better as I started to have longer moments of feeling okay and of feeling optimistic and a feeling like myself again. I started to I Started to live in I started to live that purpose even though I wasn't channeling it out into the world right I was being in that energetic space of Who that person is who that person has to be in order to be Purpose filled in that moment purpose led in that moment and it was a very important life-altering realization for me Because there's no there's no going back after you've experienced something like that There's still a gradual process, right? I'm still taking it relatively I'm not on the fast track at this point yet and it's a very intentional Because I know that I have to be very kind and gentle with myself Still and I'm okay with that But that that experience taught me so much about how intimately connected mental health is with Feeling like you're being purposeful like your life has meaning like your life has purpose Like the things that are innate to you the things that you are naturally talented in are being utilized by you For you for the people that you feel so intimately connected with to serve Right like all those things are so Super important and it's very deeply ingrained in me now and it always was But I know it more now because of what I've lived It's it's part of my DNA now because of what I've lived and it's and it's It's like I've taken a painting and I've added more strokes of different colors to it So I see it I see it It looks like a very different painting than what I started off with a decade ago That's beautiful. That was number one. Yeah, that's really great. And then and then I mean you mentioned this but Compassion talk about that part of it Yeah, so compassion. What was what got me out of depression? One if I were to boil it down to one ingredient it would be lived compassion and and channeling the back back to me and compassion in action again, literally I don't use that word a lot But I mean it literally at the beginning meant watching videos of baby animals And lip syncing because that brought me joy in the moment And that evolved right so that evolved so that compassion in action meant listening to your videos, for example So over time it evolved and over time it it looked more like from the outside looking in Oh this purpose this person is She's acting in what her natural talents are but it's always compassion in action and what I wrote to you was that Compassion cyclone the power of compassion to really transform Anything including a business including the people that you serve and that's why it impacts the business, right? And and and let me clarify when I say the people that you serve. I don't just mean your clients. I mean your teammates I mean yourself I mean the people that are looking to you and maybe not necessarily taking action But they're being inspired by you you serve every single person that you come in contact with period And so when you keep that in mind and when you when you start to test out What compassion and action looks like for you and you start to expand that to to First of all take it unconditional, right? What is unconditional compassion and action mean? It's like huge important questions But you apply it to the people that you serve It changes the relationship because it goes from what can that person do for me to What can we do together? what can Just being present in this moment And allowing all of who we are to be present in this moment What can that do for this relationship? and what does that person really need that I can provide or that Either by action or inaction And what I've seen in entertaining those questions and and the answer is differ by person and they differ by moment, right? But what I've found by entertaining those questions is just it's it's I don't I mean this with so much seriousness. It is mind-blowing and I mean that so Strongly because I think that um, first of all one of the reasons why I really was attracted to what you have to share is because it's not it's it's it resonates naturally with me, but it's not found everywhere, right these ideas of authentic Connection with your clients and thinking of them first But I believe they're so important and so powerful and they change a business Where it's unrecognizable at the end after these principles have been applied to it And the quality of your relationships with each of these people is just dramatically different There's a huge difference in quality between a relationship that is superficial or that is um That is lack based or scarcity based or that is or that is even mean based quite honestly versus one that is forward thinking And trans transformation focused and compassion focused So, yeah, I I'm a huge advocate for all of that When one of the things uh, that you you mentioned in your notes is about this You know when we approach a client when we have a client meeting or a teammate Or or you know, maybe maybe our partner, but And we we we have to take this attitude of what have you done for me or why haven't you already done that? Which is very common, uh, especially if If there was a previous agreement or an expectation So so talk us through that what's how do you bring compassion or how can we transition or transform that? Yeah, it's a good question So again, it's it's very specific to each relationship and it evolves over time and it involves a lot of honest open conversations Which you don't typically see in business But I think are so important and again, they transform the business when you do right because there's so much Oh my goodness and every relationship people tend to hide so much, right? And so let's take a romantic relationship. Everyone has to some level experience a romantic relationship, right? I would say that it's almost a Universal principle at least in the western circles that I've been a part of That when you keep something hidden in romantic relationships, it's not typically good for that relationship Right and I would say that the same thing is true with regards to professional relationships Especially when you're working with someone that's part of your team. So that's one is that it involves a commitment to more openness but also Being okay with the discomfort that will come from that to begin with right because Anytime that you open up Something that's hidden there tends to be at least surprise if not a range of other emotions and then And then and then commitment to to the process So realizing that Sort of Seeing the impact that commitment to these principles has in other areas of your life Sparks curiosity and commitment to test our commitment to these principles in this area of your life that is uncharted and that commitment itself then inspires the The conversations and the actions. So that's the other thing and then The the third thing that I would say is um And I know this sounds sort of off topic but absolutely not is a commitment to silliness and a commitment to lightheartedness because in a in an environment that is more joyful and Loving again loving is not a word usually here in business, but loving and caring that Relationship automatically opens up to those new channels of of open honest conversation and and Vulnerability And once you start to experience that and you start to see that other person as a multi dimensional person with their own needs then Uh for most people I would say that Uh, I would say that the natural result from that is increased compassion And it again differs by person and differs by relationship and Uh, yeah, so it's case by case, but commitment to ideals is what I what I generally um adhere to And there are a couple of principles that you outlined That I thought was interesting about for example knowing that every voice has a purpose Yes, uh knowing that every stumble Has a purpose, but talk us through a few of these principles. I think these are interesting Yeah, yeah, so um sort of connecting the the two ideas I'm I'm so of the mindset that life is like this big Big playground of play-doh and Whatever hand grabs that play-doh is going to make something completely different, right? But if you stick to general concepts general ideas Then those those formations may look different, but they'll still be within the same general world, right? So, uh There were five principles that um, I laid out in my email you you touched upon two of them So when I mean that every voice has a purpose what I'm talking about is and and Every Sorry every knowing every voice has a purpose is not the most, you know Mind-blowing idea a lot of people say it but what I mean by that is going a little bit deeper Which is to say that every voice within ourselves has a purpose because We're always sort of experiencing a conflict Between all these different ideas and opinions and voices and we tend to hush Some voices and listen to others, right and sort of label this one Good or bad and then put it away, but what my depression taught me is that That voice that may feel too harsh in that moment it carries a very important At least one lesson for you So it has a purpose And it has a purpose that I may not reveal to you in that moment. It may reveal to you later But to reject something to dismiss it if it's internal to you or outside of you You sort of delay The the understanding what that purpose is. So that's what I meant that every voice internal to us has a purpose And the second one that you mentioned was knowing that every stumble has a purpose So something else on my depression really drilled into me. This is something that I had conceptualized beforehand, but really had to learn really had to experience that stuckness and Things that are related to that right doubt and and other emotions that people really don't like to experience They're not just there They're they're they're also filled with meaning and with purpose that starts to reveal itself to you when you accept it When you welcome it when you befriend it and it takes time, right? I'm not saying you're feeling depressed you're feeling angry you're feeling anxious Okay, you know what what are you doing running away from this emotion sit down and be come friends with it? That's not what I'm saying I'm saying over time over time Trying to change your relationship to it so that It's heavy and it's it's painful But that's all it is Right in that moment. It's heavy and it's painful But recognizing that it is its own mosaic as well that over time It may reveal a little more of that mosaic to you a little more a little more a little more And for all you know the reason why you're going through that depression the reason why you're experiencing that stuckness the reason why you're experiencing that doubt Is because in 10 years you're going to find a cure for it for another group of people The reason why you experience this illness the reason why you experienced x y and z poverty um harassment All these really heavy things that people have been dealing with for eons, right? But it feels so concentrated and mucky and dark right now I very much believe that there is a very important purpose that Is to some degree uh revealing itself little by little And it has to do with the spreading of the opposite Of it the spreading of the joy and the spreading of compassion and the spreading of of the positivity of community and it comes from the mosaic of The purpose of that thing So yeah beautiful. Wow Well, I think this is a Amazingly this you know, we've we've covered a lot and the time this is you know for this conversation that's come to an end but Thank you. Thank you for Sharing so openly about your journey. I think I think this will be encouraging to a lot of us You know, I think we all go through You know the valleys sometimes and of course some of us Have have had much more serious levels of depression or You know sort of chapters of darkness and I hope this video will encourage people that There is always a light At the end of the tunnel and there's there's a greater purpose to all the experiences that we have and Compassion is the way there, you know, so thank you. Thank you. Um, how can people get ahold of you? Actually, we I should mention Uh, a little bit about what you are offering folks at this time. So you do Business coaching you have you also do customized programs depending on the client's needs. You have three Month programs 12 month programs But anything else you want to say Yeah, in fact, you even have you even have a special Offer actually for those who are watching this. So I'd love for you to mention that Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Um, so as you were saying I have I have uh three month programs I have six month programs and I have 12 month programs But it depends on the client's needs right depends on where they are in their business And what it is that they really want to get out of the next three months six months 12 months for themselves and for their clients And uh, there's a special offer that I wanted to offer to Anyone who is watching or listening is that um, if you send me an email to um, battle at upliftinginfinity.org For dot com I'll have to send it to you. So you have the right word dot.com is what I see here Yes dot com I'm battle at upliftingfinity.com And you put in the subject line everyone is sacred then you'll get 30 off of any package that I offer That is amazing. That is so generous. Thank you so much And I love the you know the the name of your website uplifting infinity I think that Gives people a flavor of the energy that you bring to your work. Um, and just so people know on paro is spelled a m p a ro so a m paro at upliftinginfinity.com Put in the subject line everyone is sacred and you will be able to get um On paro's current packages at 30 off I should mention that's probably for a limited time. I don't know people might be watching those years and years into the future. So You know sort of do it closer to when this video was published, you know early 2019 Then you'll be more. Uh, you'll be able to access the the special offer. So thank you on paro for your work and your Well the compassion that you bring to your clients and your audience. Thank you so much. Thank you