 This is voice practice thingy So unaza na besiki panda panda na suprano But na fokusena it's a lovely day today It's a lovely day today It's a lovely day Ya, so on and so forth Are you feeling like it's a lovely day? Because I feel lit I feel it so much You should tell me how you feeling this cold morning At 4-5 for our Facebook At 4-5-4-10 on Twitter Hashtag is quite in the morning Or since we are WCWC Hashtag is girls Tak Now my name, funny enough Remains the same Since the beginning of the show My name is Valentine Or at color me val And today we have a very interesting topic But I also have a very specific question It's been trending We've seen a couple of videos And I chose not to show Coz I don't know if feelings will be caught But the question remains And before we get that Let's introduce our panel Hi guys Hi No, metikavizushi Gosh, let's start with the haiku Nakavizushi Thank you Meto nani And it was pretty shablin Hey, ya you're pretty That's your name Yes, it's my name Kia wuduma namba Wuduma namba iko apu Sir Murdo I see you I see you I see you What can we find you on social media On Instagram The African Lamborghini We are sorry Yeah On Twitter is pretty Under school lore On Facebook is pretty lore Yes All right And kikavizushi Hi, kwee How are you? Hi, I'm fine Karibusana kwechu Asa, Antisana Uhu, ni ni ni sota eto ni yengali Nakavizushi Kasma Asa, Antisana Monakuita nani My name is Monika You cannot Monika Wanjirungoge I'm a student You can find me on Facebook At Monika Goge On Instagram at Wanjirungoge What do you study? I do media Technology Ah, so you're in the red Yes, I'm in the red Ya ni wewa tasi Mimi siri kaya kwaen technology Mimi media technology I like that I'm Karibusana Asa, Antisana King, hi Hi We last saw you on Monday And I cannot tell you how happy I am to have you again Me too You're a fantastic guest Thank you What is your good name? My name is Zulu Benjamin I'm a Tlingo psychologist And a confluence speaker My Twitter And Instagram Zulu Benjamin We are zero at the end And then Facebook is Zulu Benjamin Gmail Zulu Benjamin At Juna Now before we get into the topic Which is online suspicions Plus my very special question We have comments already On the Facebook Surakitabu no? No, okay Please just tell me what Facebook means in Xweli How to translate I tried to perform Facebook Why did I try to turn on Twitter Hashtag is What in the morning All right, so we have DJ Bax Bax Kenya Topiki kupwa But most in my dame Dohutube Bajinga Oh, that didn't mean At just Atakwambia Good Night Kidogu And online kuchatisha crash Oh, DJ Bax Bax From Kisomo Manyata Icon Loft Xavier I see you Zime ni shikaya Hi Topiki ime Ni guza What watumie muli kamuizi How am I daman? What watumie maliziana Brain cancer Gosh Kipunjala says Kapsa Pagana bagin kajuliza Ni nani anachat nae Sisi Ju ameni ambia Good night Hawa mandege wa chekutitiza Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa Ia Trellendo area code I see you Njeru Dennis All the way from Embo County To Coloct Harper Namtu Wangu Hiyo story Mimi nili zoe Whoa, yani mazniku Zoe ambaka Okay Sofi Roo Good morning See it hard So fast So fast Can we pull it up A little bit Okay Imagine says Good Sofi Roo says Good morning Valtopi Colit Kamamtu Anabu Itabidu Mimshu Good night Ndoa Continue na Doa continue na haja I see you Sheldon Muchilu Wasu Good morning Val Good morning Sheldon Watching from Naivasha Hiyo story Ni noma sana Whoa All right So I saw Imagine says Good morning Sikwezi Watu Hawa Lali Badaya Free air time Kua introduce in the midnight And it's true I don't know Netruk subscriber liyo na haji Jokindu kusas Uki boeka niyambe Histori Yaku bagi online Sipua Abii hapangarad Coloct Kano From Kirinaga County Says Inabidu twambianu Kuele Uki boeka na Mtu Mshutru Wambetru Eh Namkuna opinion I really like it Nancy Mjanja Jaja Wakeno Wew Mimi It's my tongue This morning Mimi Tamangi Come Tukakini Shokunet Alafoni kawne online Nakaweka status Yaku kafilisha Ay Kufilisha biba ya Liam Haswell says That's hush And it's an ultimate turn off In case she makes such a move Kudos to her I won't force a conversation Nantan lipeza Two I say Talipeza Bamburi well represented We see you Liam MC Momani You can actually See her online Doing other things Like checking out your mails Or you can forget to switch your data off Ama Ukuna waipa kwenyumba nome la la talking to you Consistently Is not proof of loyalty Wew Apu angizeni volume Volume Volume Volume Nancy again Wakeno says Kenomassive well represented Charles Ireli Good morning Man James Wewa Aww Thank you baby Raph Stoppersa Student from Umoja See it in me Waya mbe wa nijana tu Nili ambe evo Halafu Mtuakakwa online Hadisa Sita From 8.30 Ui boy child Ui Raph Stopper again I see you travel James Representing Nyeri Good morning travel Kindly bigger for me Those guys over there Kus misalimi wa sana na chiva So okay Ya yukwanga Fun them in truth One more One more One more Keith Wanjala says Kapsa Bakana baki nkijulizan Ni nani anachatna ya nasisi Nasi mimi ju ameni ambe Good night Aha Chawzi Renisas Good morning Jeia Ui Baby let's let's talk about this Inakata si si si Tuna mbe wa good night Mi si tuna mbe ana All right The tables have turned upon us Do not be afraid to use The social media handles Your voice will be heard Miske mano mepona sauti Lakini volume ni pesa Uku silas mo kuna pesa Uku etu online Okay Do your thing And use the hashtag Why in the morning guys Tuna pima wa norma Sindi ya Not really Se kwa pima Hatu api mi Bapana Ha I think on that issue about Ati muna mbe ambe to Good night Alafu baduk online Sometimes Conversation in a kwanga ime isha na mbe to margin So Like Mekwam kiyongiasin 7 p.m. Alafu ni 10 p.m. Conversation isha isha So we have to say good night And then someone else comes in Meku jetua po 10 Alafu ananta something interesting So nezakumisha mombia The previous one na mombia Good night And then you continue chatting At this one Let's put a scenario Today we're going to work To touch up on our scenario For example Boy child make to me a credit Sindi ya Okay Ume omba wu kape Kape wa credit I and all well Mengia online Chatting Chatting Chatting And then of course You chat to the one who's provided The resources Kido kdo go Anabo Ama umisha wongia kilakitu You've already discussed The whole day I like the way it's looking at me It's okay So after that Mombia checki Wacha mimi niren kala Kala le And maybe you are actually going to sleep And then you see something that reminds you of someone Amam to tuwa agitu metu kuwako Hai val Meku achen me kumis Acha mimi me kumis Aki meku ache story The whole night You just there talking to someone else Alafu mungine Ashke feelings juko online No I will not ask you What's how Would you Would you feel bad first of all If the roles were reversed Kamaan dem dame kumbia good night Kitambu yoyote Alafu bado tunumona online Would you be feeling some type away Well it depends It depends if you love the girl That is If you don't love the person Even if I say Me good night At seven You will continue Attack it to my credit It doesn't mean that When he sends the credit You have to talk to him You ask for the credit for another reason You did ask for the credit to talk to him You see So when Aki feel like Those such guys are that's mama's boys They want to be pampered To be treated like queens Yet they are men So you know you can't be in a In a position like treating a boy Like a woman He's the person you should be treating You're not Not you to be treating the person Say to Kila so kwaji baby So I Like another character Onumeku mauna chananganu Na taftam tunumona ume Oh what's how bad them You don't pretend to be like A woman all the time when you are a man Ya ni umama Ako na mama mingi So asi teta kia mboa good night Me bia na story mingi Non na fula na kwa niya itin Don't be afraid Use it At WhiteFive for Facebook At WhiteFive for channel Twitter Hashtag is white in the morning Mam niya mbe tukuli Ya na tafaniya boy chalivo Acha labdineza kwa The other person may be kujasineza Really another guy Kubi labdini bestia kwa Mkujia na mushene Na kwa bia nini nini Susha mam bia good night Unisha ma liza story Isha isha And then someone else Is coming up with a better conversation Or something more interesting Na the fact that you bought airtime Doesn't mean I owe you a conversation The whole night Apokuna ume I think na skia uchungu enu na mbali I feel like someone is feeling something from From somewhere somewhere This kind of hours Oh actually also abroad Tukochana 376 on DSTV How Let's start by this one I had a jamulzakit It's okay Ako gia It's okay not to have anything to say to your partner Because this is a relationship Not a radio station Just because we are in a relationship Does not mean we are always talking And you need to know that This issue of milikwana on main And you are not talking to me Is suggesting that When we are in a relationship You are the only person in my life And it's not practical One thing that I have seen Is manome pia takuja complain Una impenda sana relax Just relax But pia uspon pia attention pia punashida So wanata kangaji I'll come to that I wanted to give you two things And I'm happy you have connected Because it's related We have issue of trust That you suspect me That if I'm only I'm not talking to you That the people I'm talking to is about love And you are being too narrow minded This love relationship But I have our friends Remember you met me when I was an adult I have friends from primary school Friends from secondary school Friends from Sunday school Madras They show up somewhere in my life I can chat I don't always have to chat About love and romance Let me tell you something as a lady If you see a guy suspecting That when you're online You're talking to a person River psychology doctor on Monday People suspect you Of what they are guilty of themselves And one way they want to suspect you Is like The world is like that Mweziu fi kiri ya kila mtu nataka kwaiba Yes, that's why you're so funny The only general is on the flow Eh eh And you need to know that When people suspect you They're not telling you about your character They're telling you about their own It's them who are suspicious So as long as you are I'm married now But I don't track my wife What she was doing Every night Inna mona kaku on You know Facebook They put on there And you see the person is on And they're not chatting Whatever with me and all that I told my wife when you married That I don't want you to discard Isn't it right? I'm not able to replace them. I can't contain everything you've heard. We can't do that. You've become the nagging I didn't want. You should be doing the nagging. You'll remember you've not talked to me for two hours. And those two hours you chat with this buddy, I trust you to be faithful in our relationship. wapia na k吗 ? I marry, I don't possess you I don't put you in my pop O stimuli kiko wakadutotutu Let me have a life, you have a life We have things to share I know this guide, our relationship is a flumbier bグuwa西for kuwa Okuwa gaipany kuwa gaipany K Syncha nyesh�를 ebu bbright K actua nyesh doctoral Wei, mimi na skia ku, ehi, afuulu seben shika yo, ehi, at white to purple, Facebook white to purple, channel alterta, hashtag is white in the morning, okay na jwa mkuna sisi, so wa naume naomba tumugurume, usha skia, wei wu chungi sedia kuya gates, umingi na chungi sedia, dawa tuwa siyanze kuingi ingia, but this trust thing is serious, do you think that, do you fully trust your partner, let's just say that, leka datu kusama online unona na nanda ku comment vitu za, za, haa, all right, let's put it like this, social media za kuna mawazaap, kuna manini nini, and it just so happens that these apps can track when you're online or when you're not. Loki, I've disabled all of mine, you cannot tell and I cannot tell, to si sumwana ita on, because I've seen people catching feelings for no reason, na mimi niko tuwa po, niki post memes with a good heart, anyway. So you see, bae apu amenda Instagram, all these things that have pictures and all these things, alafonenda na comment, oh my god you look good, amma tuimoji tuimoji apu, ee ee, na wei wei, why are you commenting, why are you liking, nini nini apu na kusumbua, what's happening here, tell me, would you be upset if you saw a significant other? Na tu sumwana tu kweli, ju si ati ati a comment kwa vera sidika, ati a comment kwa pichi aneiba? Obviously, in takwasa species, what they have together, but kama nisi stake nisawa, kawari kasi ni aki a kama nisawa, but for example if I don't know the chick, I'll want to know who she is, that you are so committed to take to even comment on her pictures, so I'll want to know obviously, and I'll get insecure about that. And now, I'm glad you said the word insecure because it's okay to be insecure, all of us have our own insecurities, and so some iskia atataku ju ani nani, u de mi nani manze, bono ukora dea kusana. Sosa weo u jitu me because I've seen certain instances, u de mana jitu maku, u de munginana, slide kwa diem, why is my man commenting on your picture, leave my man alone. Sis, mtu minginana katu poa, boichi a dame kuja kangusha comment, atami bika pigwa like, alafu yu story li kwa ishe, wei asu sa umelita story singine. Why do you think girls do such a thing, or would you do it if it was you? Well, it's always say that if you have a man in the house, he's yours. Aki toka? Aki toka. Nya kila. Nya wei? You know, you can't control him on what he's commenting, men will continue to be men, men are just men. You can't say that when he start commenting on social media, he'll start following up on him. There are some comments, they've been talked in box, yet he will delete and you will not know. Kus if you trust yourself so much, you don't have to follow on what he does. That one will make you feel like you are out of place, you will feel like all men are just the same. But if you do what you as a person, as a lady, all you can do is to love him. If the person that is supposed to be loved or blah blah blah, love the guy and be with him and everything. Other things of social media, blah blah blah, leave it to him. It will create a lot of things between both of you. And it's not good that you're just boyfriend and girlfriend, not even married. It doesn't even know your parents. It's just boyfriend and girlfriend thing, yet you're fighting. The guy is bitching you up, the guy is doing blah blah blah things. It doesn't even pay the bride price to your parents, yet he wants to control you like a human being. You leave the start of social media to him, let him deal with it. You as a person deal with him as a person, not in social media stuff. This is a meme. Himimi na semaji, ah, this is a girl, I'm a type. Ah, sometimes I want to post bae, alafu na kumbuka tajadi pa mahari. So sta kiku post mitu akuna deni. Kidoko boy child reply. Sazini na tami sometimes skengakuku post, laki na kumbuka ah, spinagi kuringa na sample. Na skenya na noma na onge o kanja mami. Now so me pain mitu. Atia tia po chatumemi. Tueshimi ani. First ujieshimu na ujipe. Ujipe na ya 254 Facebook, 254 turn on Twitter. Hashtag is why in the morning. He touched on something, he touched on Monday. But I'll let him unleash. Let's say the following. Just because I'm trusting does not mean I'm stupid. I'm trusting you to protect, to do what is right. But if you cross the boundary, now I have the right. These are the rules between me and my wife. I don't get into her phone, she doesn't get into her mind. When we were doing primary counselling, the shop told us something was coming away. Atia hi simu hui na mapepo. Ukingi ya kusini na mitu. Kusa kitu. Chaku suspect. Kuna atitu ma simu. Kuna atitu mi ya langwe di dia. Darling loosely. And there's nothing between the two. So if you check my phone looking for something, you will find it. If you decide that this room is clean, you leave it as though it is clean. You can be looking for that. You will find your evidence. So one is Twesimiyane. I don't get into her handbag, into her personal space. That is not what you want to know who it is. That's not my business. She's a human being and I do not take out that right to be human just because I married her. And I don't want that to interfere with my right to be human being. I'm a very public person. Onge jifanya leo police woman. To police everybody I'm talking to, you'll be banned out. You'll be working overtime without salary. I have too many people interacting with me. Right now before he came in, I posted a photo of this wonderful girl. I said, we are about to go online. This wonderful girl. I'm worried my heart is tired. Can you take us out here and we took it. And we said we are about to go on air. And I don't even go to our wall saying, oh darling, I'm announcing this is mine. I comment in a general sense. Unless you know us. Those who matter came to wedding. Those who matter were in our lives. The fans out there don't need to know who is my wife. There is a sense in which she teaches me some things. I teach her some things from my profession. We are still friends anyway apart from those other things. So let that be boundaries. Na jambolingi na wukiwa na mutu onakuliza every time. Remember what you said the other day, insecurity is a character flaw and you should not condone it. But we are saying being cautious and being mature and aware. It's okay. Mi lukwana me mambia. If you love somebody and you don't feel jealous about them, you really don't love them. If you truly love a person, you should protect what is yours. There you are being territorial, not insecure. Territorio is to healthy protecting of what is yours. Na ni mbonam na mongalia ka TV. Mbonam na maswali. Mini kwa na maswali kava. For example, what if this sad person thrives on that feeling? Like he just generally enjoys just seeing you worked up. In fact, anenda kuchakoza. Anenda kunglesha mungin. Enda utoio feeling kwa roses. We are closing an indirect question to you. Are you willing to live with this? Wow. Kumbuka tulise mahevi. Kabla uji sign na puishi na mutu. Mu examine ni visuri. Na ni kambia ladies. Kabla muende bedroom. Bedroom ni ta kuchanga niya kichuwa. Nyukwei. Ketami nukiyo kubodri. Fasani baridi oi. Bands above the room. Nyukwei. Mu examine ni. Mukien na nuku kwingine, you not be able to think. Because now you have something protect. Asha kujua. You know two months. Na na zema na okayenda. I know you. You should protect you. Prove your case. Can I trust you? Are you secure? Are you healthy? Na ni kasi mahevi. These boys who grill beer. Do not qualify to be men. Atia na na kungilesha. We need a kufilisha. We want to be like that. They are asking you, I am this stupid. Are you willing to live with this stupidity? That's the question. You know. One aspect we said. Kwa na kapasidi ya kukufilisha deliberately. Is that what you want? You want when he shows up you smile. I notice that when I come into the room. I notice a bit of just getting happy. And I notice I have to come with flowers. To continue that attitude. Making her happy. Even if you are disagreeing over something. And you come with a cake. She will think you thought to me. She will feel happy. Whatever was coming. Just bringing chaos and all that. I will be very stressful. If you call them your love surely. They should qualify for that name. And what I tell ladies is. Do not give a guy everything. Even after he marries you. Because men are hunters. And they need to continue pursuing you. If you do not engage his hunter instinct. Wano ma na guzo kuhu. If you do not continue his hunter instinct. It will be distracted to hunt other things. So maintain a herkia of rewards. According to how you do. Hey! A herkia of rewards. Yes. Yes. A kifanya hili kuna reward fly in pata. A kipandisha effort kuna pandisha reward. Diwa kuna effort yaku. Yaku usimpe everything for free. You will have killed his hunter desire. Ata choka. Yeah. Also put yourself in a way. That you are also competitive. You are competitive. Compared to what he is seeing out there. Si kuambi wukai wali ati wako kwa street kwenyangi. And all that. This is a part of you that is just unique. But make sure you are so shine. Some ladies telling me. I know like me a cup then and a cup to flat. Now you should not look flat. You should look flattering. Hey! You know. Wa mnyo nyes. Kuna me say ma ni meskia kwa ron. Wa mnyo nyes. Yes. So the point is. Why some men want to continue being engaged. Because muna ishina e continually. Stories and news that kazi kipungwa pungwa. So you will be excited about somebody today. That does not mean he has forgotten about you. Your space just protected. But you are also saying. Don't be obsessive. Don't be possessive. Just protect what is your own. But don't be too insecure. That is what you asked. Whether some men feel like you are loving him too much. See loving too much. You can never love too much. It takes so much effort to love. Before you do too much of it. To take a lot of time. What he is saying is. You are loving the wrong way. You are suffocating me. Men are fiercely independent. They love their space. Matches I am happy to see you come. If you read the story of Esther. Esther was married. But she could not just walk into the king's place like that. She had to seek permission to come in. Men are kings in their own small palaces. Whether they are too low imaginary. Don't just pop in because of my wife. Just like that. So the point is. Kukuena heshima kwa mbakuna personal space. But we have something special going on between us. And when we have to talk we do talk. Kukuena heshima kwa mbakuna personal space. We need to talk. When you say that. A man here is a fight waiting for you. Why don't you have a question? So according. There we go. Don't let him finish. He won't finish. So according to you. Is jealousy a side of love or insecurity? Hell the jealousy is needed. If you really love somebody. Because you have to protect what you love. But the one we are saying. Excessive jealousy. Too obsessive. That's what you say. You are suffocating me. You are too much into my space. But don't you think if you love someone and you trust them. Then you won't get jealous. Thank you. If you love them and you trust them. Thank you for using that one. To trust me is to give me the power to do what is right. Without you inspecting me. Okay. I have a question. There are some men who are just born to be cheating. Even if you say that you have to compose yourself. You compose yourself very well. You sit in the house, you be the person. Not like the street girls you said. But you compose yourself. You package yourself very well. The way you look now. Very good. There are just some people. Thank you. There are just some men. Even if it won't be enough for them. You as a person. You are a whole package of course. You don't give them all. But they will still cheat. What can you say? Chacha wait. There is a soundtrack by Vili the storyteller. These are the lyrics. Pombe sigara. Naeza chabi la kungangana. Lakini hawa wasichana. Vili nawa penda. Nikama laana. Discuss. Thank you for those two. You say they are just bound to cheat. And I want to ask you. Are you bound to be cheated on? You know when you say very well. You have to package yourself. Right? There are just some people. Even if you sit in the house. You be the housewife. You be the girlfriend that always be there for your man. The guy will still go ahead and cheat. So are you connected to me by a steal wire? You know you love the guy, right? Say you trust and you love. And you have to be jealous. Now the problem is you now. The problem is design. Not to me. Where are you taking the crotch? Actually so you say that I should not be jealous. I should love boundaries. Yes. So are you standing on? Yes. As a woman you respect yourself enough. No to condone to be cheated on. Okay. You tell him. I am staying with you for as long as you are staying as we stand. So how do you prevent cheating? You don't prevent cheating. We decide to cheat you get up. How? How do you get up? Kwa kutuku wa duwa moja na ngine kise unapelik amugwa kulia na uksha. Kifu kipi mani jile. I have been saying as a woman. You need to have minimum acceptable standards. Listen. When I'm meeting this girl. I'm dating the guy. I don't know his past. I don't know what happened between him and the girlfriend. And neither does he know yours. And that of course. So you know me I know myself that I'm having only you as my my love partner. Right. So this guy went out. You know I don't know anything concerning him. Yet they always say that if you be with a guy you don't have to fall on him so much. Kus if you fall on him he'll feel like. He will do what you suspecting him to do. So now what the person is thinking is like this is the thing I'm cheating right. Let me go cheat so that she will not cheating. But there are just some guys they date you. They'll marry you of course. Like in this our society in generation now. You find that young girls are dating the old men. This old men have been staying with their wife for like 50 years and above you see. So when you're saying that you should leave the marriage. Leave the marriage after 50 years how. And the guy is cheating on you. Oh 50 years okay. You have brought another concept. Makosa moja ya kuwa watua nao cheat ni. Lakwansa you did not study him well enough. You did not see the red signs. Machu kwa chana na marafiki zenu. Just because we don't know. Wait. Let me ask you. How would you tell the signs and we're going to try and focus. Static humanity. Did I announce to you that 80% of your problems or happiness in this world will come from people. Oh really? Yes. How? If I sit you now to ask you for everything happening in your life. Only 20% will be about money, lack of money or other things. They have 80% a friend to betray you. Another one is not talking to you. Another one has to broke you. Another one is misto. So 80% of your problems from my experience. I do. I have a clinic in Garanda. I see clients. I always know 8 out of 10 of the issues are handled today. Half is about people. So one of the things I want you to educate yourself is buy materials, buy books. Study things about how to analyze character, how to read people, how to record behavior. Wait. Before you ask a question, this decoding of behavior, I'd like to think that some people would imagine if I take your phone and I go through your messages, I will know the kind of person you are. If I go online to these social media platforms, I'll know who you interact with and blah, blah, blah, blah. Do maybe un neza pata somstana mengiwa DM zoteza, Twitterza, Instagramza, Facebookza, WhatsApp. Trying to understand this person. Trying to get to know how their mind works. Not necessarily maybe looking for some cheating situation, but anadzare wukum pema. Is that right? Is that something we should do? If you do it in the right way so that I don't feel like you're intruding into my space. When I was dating, I was taking girls profiles on Facebook. That's how I found my life. I wanted to find whether our world has any foreign language. Ati? You're serious? If people tag you with dirty things and you accept it, it means that's your circus. So I checked. So you're an employer? Yes. We do that. We do that because that's part of what I can see from you openly. So I wanted to answer her that after mefanya your analysis and you updated the right person and married them, if you have done your homework correct and you don't need five years to do that, I married my girl in less than a year after I saw her the first time. And I done my analysis because I had been studying human nature for five years. Just studying. You guys went to the university to listen to me. Apart from the degree they're giving you. Study yourself on degree of human nature. A level 2. Kwaise kujo amtwome kwaambia. If a man tells you by theory, men are supposed to tell him, he's already telling me in future you will cheat and cheat. But you think, oh this guy is just sleeping or just breathing. Open minded. After mefanya the right person, people change. So he could have started out being a good man. Then he changes down the line. You could also change. But you're saying now, you being on the receiving end as a lady. You need to have minimum acceptable status as a woman. Now it's in your comfort. A good woman is irreplaceable. Volume. Zoom. Zoom. You're short men actually. You see why kwaambiwa iti, atapata ona akengi na kuleinze. A woman of virtue. This is what I tell men. When you're blessed, when you happen to be among the few lucky in the one who do marry virtuous women. And you cheat on her. You will not have cheated on her. You will have cheated yourself out of true loyalty for eternal. Excuse. Volume kotawa. It's impossible. It's nearly impossible. It's nearly impossible to cheat on one good girl and find another one. All good girls can't come into another home where another good woman was mistaken. Mou nongia katdiche? Only those women who are selfish and themselves are nothing to lose out to game you are. You think umeshinda na end ya meshinda. You have been one. So they don't mind grabbing ass bands out there because themselves they have no value and they are not committed. They can't heavily help you. They can't take you where you're going. When I was dating some girls I could see I'm overqualified for them. I couldn't tell them that. I did what? Wait, sir. They were intimidated by my presence. Niki se ma ni mesoma loa na kwa intimidated. They say okay good for you me to have done this and they are comfortable with the greatness. But if you are intimidated by who I am you will always be afraid that niki hangout na ma professor wu meni poteza. What's happening? Niji adjastaba. We have a couple of questions. Number one. How do you cope with a partner who is constantly suspicious of you online? Always, always, always. Faksimu ki ita a kutu. You've seen that me where one is going like this and so they're always like this. How would you deal with that? Okay, personally, I think it's a very annoying habit for someone to always be at your case and looking at where you are. First of all, I think the first thing you should know when you're dating someone you should also have your own life going on. So you're not always thinking anafanya ni ni a kawapi anafanya ni. So when you have like your life wisdom when you have a life going on you still do your thing you still go out with your friends and don't desert your friends because you find the founder partner. So then that way maybe your mind will be less improved about it. Number two. Is it the mindset or insecurities from our partners to be blamed? Is it the way they think amana insecurity is too many? And I know you touched on it but I just want you to answer. Well, actually I say it's a mindset of a person because you know being insecure you have to know if the thing that you insecure about are true. You can just be insecure on things you don't know. For example, if maybe you have a guy so you're dating this guy then getting from friends to hear this and that there are always things that you should not be even here even if the person knows the guy from then from where they were born brought up and everything you should not listen to them. That's why it's bringing the insecurity thing. So you have to just to be there you put your mind there. As they always say women are wonderful and they are wise. So we have that wise in us. You know when a woman sits and think a man will be always like what she thinking about? Is she thinking about anything? So like they should not be reading your mind all the time. Like this guy thinks I'm cheating. This guy thinks this and that. Like they should come in and ask are you okay? You're like yes I'm fine but your mind should be always open and your eyes open and you should not be asleep all the time. Na serikali neza badili kaini time so kai kai to radas yata utu li fanyu kakuivi 80 somebody do online dating does online but this is a concept that I know is maybe not so much foreign but just a little bit strange to the African continent this theory of online dating you post up a profile someone likes it or now then they communicate and then you interact for lack of a better term. So you have different apps you have people who've met I know people who've met through Facebook and are married right now I have heard of people who meet through Tinder and maybe other apps. Are we okay with it as a nation? I'm not even in the case. I saw my first time on Facebook. I believe that online dating exclusively is risky and it should not be encouraged but online meeting contact seeing people making contact is very healthy because today if you are not on Facebook you are limited to the only people you meet physically and most of the time you are at work and the other time you are at church or that triangle so I tell good girls because good girls are also very naive after I dated for 2 and half years okay it's true good girls are very naive they think the good guy will find me here so they wait for Mr. Wright in this corner who will come to the studio to see me? so so expand your circles by simply appearing online and lucky for you men are very visual a photo is enough to excite him post a good photo and he will look for you he will inbox you when you know in the box you will say mafisi zikwapo this is kuna mafisi kuna mbuzi kuna dwabu so don't do all of us say we are mafisi I inboxed that girl it's of Taisho just saying no more compliment I like your photo and other I inboxed her as well ignored me others you and other but this one got back and extended contacts back to talking we met first forward we are married online contact works interact online don't do unilateral disarmament they use it in military to say if you decide you are not going to use guns in this war and the other guys using guns you are putting yourself in a disadvantage so ok jeloa Facebook umeloa nearly 50% of the men would have potentially been candidates na kumukes na lady you have an expiry date you only have so long to date past that is something we'll ask you what happened we'll take back a kusimbu na kuka teki do I need an explanation so since you have time short you saw the means that you are disposo mukate na kwanga best before certain date so as a lady you also have a best before so use it by use for advantage this is the only time we are going to disagree do not kill yourself because the man that you're supposed to ok you get married quickly because you've been told you have an expiry lafum divosu kumbele that wants it in a square one that is what you want ok but I don't like it when people tell ladies that you know it's either you get married or you're going to wither and die munguata leta siya tere niwa church actually I agree with you we are not saying you must do with it no no no you must also be sensitive to the seasons of your life but we are being awake to your biological nature at 20 your beauty blossoms and you are visible as a flower even if you're not trying we will see you do not kill yourself after some point leave him let him be a man do not say this much sawa we will not kill yourself we will not kill yourself do not kill yourself because the man he is trying to tell you things please don't allow don't allow enda wumbe wumbe munguata man wumbe kama ni serious alright so we have Facebook comments I see at Facebook at Y254 channel on Twitter and as soon as my able team is ready with that people get to it saa ya mumishwan kuna ma nikuwa suwali mimi sijai ati mimis de postewax status and yet I provide everything I accepted my fate ati deno from matcha and which reminds me it brings me to this it was international girlfriend's day a few days ago na kuna atua li postewa na ni yao pekiwali kwa naona you are posted but it's only for you to see you fry bata wengine hawa oni ya so really what are we saying gentlemen na is it so important that we are posted like nila zima I think there's a difference ati wati yes there's a difference between keeping a relationship private and a secret so it's good to once in a well post someone to let people people know that you are together but not necessarily all the time but kidogo to like kwaneshawa you know together but you not posting me kind of mix me feel like maybe you're keeping this a secret I mean you could we are posted in bed juzy li kwa shoulder kidogdo ita kwa kidole na maybe a foot why do you think it's important well it's important kwa you know that if let me just speak about the international girlfriend's day it didn't mean that you are the only girlfriend well there's a friend of mine I know he's a dude he posted a lot of girls yet I know his girlfriend I did see his girlfriend there and I asked him the answer he gave me is it doesn't mean when I post my girlfriend I have to show everyone she's mine my girlfriend is mine alone not for social media not for putting up on any status and I'm like oh okay so it doesn't mean that when you're being posted or not posted but it's important when a lady sees her pic maybe WCW you know women crush when it's day baby MCM rainbow crush Monday hey it feels good I'm not sure if it's going to be rainbow crush Monday what happened to man crush Monday hey for men they will post their day on TBT that is all their day 10 year challenge okay fine let's do this let's read the comments and then I ask my special question and then we wrap this up I see that time is running away from us we have boanez Derulo boanez nikiwa home iyo imewaza on line at mykoma niki says good topic but seeing someone online na make sure good night aneza kuwa mea cha data on don't be suspicious thank you thank you kwanzaa pokwa wifi Donald Collins says people present about themselves through blaming others if a partner is always complaining about your moves he or she is the one with the problem kumepiani psychologist ya tumiambiwa to say ya alright so do remember at Y254 on Facebook at Y254 channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning thank you for the topic it was very very hot but I have a question like I have been saying na inani sumboa roho and I don't know if we should make it a topic but I do feel like we should touch on it and it is Queens Wednesday and it does touch on Queens so I am feeling this is a bit perfect there have been a couple of videos going on ah tso sa mnyi muna nipima okay to so many nini on Facebook mekoma niki says that guy nabonga fax ei apewe grass nitalipa ei hei Nancy Wanjao Nyeri is tuned some of these guys have nothing sweet to offer wow and expect utashinda ok reply text how do you do what are you up to labish mm mm tj backs again ok yami pute but don't forget at Y254 on Facebook at Y254 channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning so my question revolves around community that's lesbian algae gay bisexual transgender and I think the q is at the queer questioning so there have been a couple of videos enough to create a buzz of of lesbians in particular proposing so apparently there was one somewhere three or four somewhere in town and then another one that's been going viral I don't know where it came from please tell me your thoughts on about gazing or about the way they are it's been going on it's not a foreign concept I think as Africans to na yasium but to na jatuh eko maali but this is quite a bold step people are coming and say this is my life part and this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life and now it's not being hidden it's not at is something that we do behind closed doors it's now maze yeah it's very how do you feel about this personally I think I cannot I'm not in the right place to judge someone on their decisions about their sexual preferences and what they do with their lives so I think the fact that it is already illegal in Kenya makes it hard for them so I think it's a really bold step but at the same time I think people should just let them be mind your business what do you think first my thoughts I've not judged them but on the other thing I'll say it depends on the way you are brought up do you know if you are brought up in a Christianity way do you understand the concept about Bible about lesbianism and gayism how God deal with them in Sodom and Gomorrah you see but pure phonication Mali we should also talk about phonication yeah so you know on them on being doing those stuff they know what they are doing but I just saw them they are just kids they don't know what they are doing you know most of the time you can be doing something because people are doing it because Americans are doing it you know when we see Americans doing this they get married they support the law have been passed but you know you are in Kenya and you know very well that that thing is illegal yet you want to do it like I saw those girls and I'm like these people are just stupid they don't know what they are doing they are pretending to be loving each other then another time you'll find them why do they even have kids the lesbians have kids how do they get kids they get them from the other man side because they can't give they can't pregnant themselves like women the only thing the adversals should tell them is they need to understand themselves first before they say the lesbians the gays they don't understand themselves and they need to know things about God and to understand its concept first then for them to accept it so that you can enter into their mind that okay I'm a lesbian okay I'm a gay that's it it's a very bold statement to make and I feel someone would also say that you might be heterosexual but you are not gay in fact you are not only not the main you are I don't know if there is a main if there is a side if there is a side where to go up and complain what we are giving but it's okay you are looking at me in a manner to suggest you have a speech for me but I want you to 30 seconds give me your I bought that topic what I can say everybody has their stronger in life I have my mind and it keeps me so busy that I don't have enough energy to pop my nose into yours so just because you went out to broadcast yours does not make it worse than mine when I meet those people who are in that category when they ask me for help my observation is many of them have pain in their past they hate the gender because certain person hurt them I usually help them deal with that pain if they are willing what he insists is your pain is what you get in life my only point is what she has said many of them are just young people who are looking for their identity they don't know what they want they are just trying out things and they are excited about things but we have also not shown them the negative sides like of gay life they don't know any problems that the rectum was not meant for sexual activity and even that spring tomato that closes it cannot endure sexual activity and soon it gives in and you have to use diapers we don't tell them that but we also don't tell sexual activity that a baby is expensive yes thank you so I think if it is an informed choice it is okay but many of us are coming from ignorance and as you have said it is not the only problem we have in society we have been having problems we have been having problems we have been having problems we have been having problems there are more important things to pick up unanted mingesho very heated can you please first of all number one is cold please stay warm thank you I am happy I am glad I am happy please stay hydrated and please mind your business like please just mind your own business and a job atu tapitapika over time you don't have to all the time all the time be talking about other people mind your business but you can also mind ours at 254 Facebook at 254 channel Twitter hashtag is why in the morning we are done but there is a repeat from 2pm and I told you kiasho nilesku ya DJ Mahansa hi DJ Mahansa please don't want to miss it out it's hip hop Thursday followed by Social Friday but sasa see what you are trying to make up