 Apologies, YouTube. My mic was not working. So yeah, um, yeah, for many things it's not the best spot. We're going, hi Austin. That's because it says, hey, it seems like autistic people often struggle with depression. It is the truth. I think a lot of that is particularly due to our experiences in life, particularly in childhood, I'd say. Teenagehood, going through the secondary school system. And just kind of our general experiences with people in life just seem to be quite negative. Or at least they have been for me. A little bit easier in adulthood when everyone's kind of a bit more mature, but definitely when I was younger it was tough. Thanks Austin. I need to try and sort my mic out, because I have just kind of rushed on and I have not really sorted out everything properly before doing this. That says he says, sorry to hear about your burnout. I'm going to switch my microphone over, Austin. Yeah, so I'm trying to. It's kind of a bit of a fine balance with me because for me, motivation and working, it's something that keeps me kind of on track. Or else my mind kind of wanders places that it shouldn't. So I try not to reduce everything that I'm doing. It's just, I think, I'm kind of getting a hint that it's starting to lift and then I go on and it just doesn't really work. And I have one day like today where it's been really tough and it kind of just derails everything, if that makes sense. But I'm trying to take care of myself and put adjustments in place and stuff. How long do autistic burnouts last? For me, it's really hard sometimes to distinguish if it's mental health or burnout. I don't think it matters really because I think some of the symptoms of it are quite similar. For me, it tends to be maybe a couple of times in a year. It was one last year which was actually really good for me. But the actual length of the burnouts that I experience, they can be very, very long. Like months sometimes. It tends to be that way up until the point where I can kind of get back on track with things and my head's in a good place. So it's what I'm trying to do. It's just being difficult to navigate at the moment. Man-scape don't personally use it but I know a lot of people do. I might have to give that a go. I'm autistic myself so I want to know how you deal with money management. I tend to struggle with it. I tend to binge buy it. I'm a compulsive buyer. I'd say the times where I've been particularly struggling with that, sometimes the interest that we have can not always be the most good for us. Even though interests are important to us and they kind of set a routine in motion and keep us happy and keep us focused, if they're negative to us, which sometimes they can be, then it's important to try and find other sort of alternative ways of approaching it. So for example, if you are playing a video game and you're really addicted to buying those loot crates or something like that, it might be good to try and find some hobbies that you can do in real life that don't involve that. Try different things out and try and work that into your routine over a few weeks. You'll start to feel that the draw to do that kind of subsides a little bit. I think they did a research study on compulsive buying and sort of buying behaviors. I think they found that it's really that initial kind of time where you go, like, oh, screw it and go and buy it, that you kind of set. It makes it easier for the next time that you do it sometimes. So just trying to break that cycle, I think, is quite important. Any sets of winding down and night. Sleeping past and got thrown off a bit lately. There are some supplements that you can try that I use. It's usually like a combination of lots of different things. Play Diablo 4. If it's at 4 or 5, I don't know what the Roman numerals are. I think if I'm being honest, my brain's not really racking anything at the moment to do a sleep. For me, supplements have been helpful. But also, usually, although it can be hard sometimes, waking up and not just having a day where you just don't have as much sleep, it's a lot more consistent for me, like, resetting my sleep pattern. So if you have a day on the weekend or something that you have free, just try and get up at a good time. Do all the things that are going to help you get up at that time. During the night, you'll probably feel a bit more tired and you'll probably be able to approach it a bit easier, I would say. Any set of stimulation or stimulation, not being able to leave the room. I went through a big period of time with agoraphobia when I was at university. I'd say that, you know, slow exposure is always the best because, you know, with us, if you have the tendency to have meltdowns and shut down some panic attacks and stuff, yeah, it's mega important to be aware of that and go easy on yourself because I think for most people, they just kind of say, just, you know, go for it and, like, you know, just get the wheels in motion. But you want to make a couple of attempts to, I guess, take it easier. So if you're struggling to get out of the house, maybe go and spend 10 minutes in your back garden or maybe downstairs in the living room if you are, you know, actually struggling just to exit your bedroom. And then maybe go out and stand in the front porch and then maybe go to the end of the road and walk back, maybe go to the shops if you feel up to it and then just kind of increase the exposure over time, you know. Best thing to do is not to go out on a big trip around town just straight out the door because that's a... Yeah, it can sometimes be a bit messy in my experience. One of the friends says, Greetings and salutations, congrats on under KG to crafting the body of your devising cheers mate. No worries. I am very proud of myself and I don't usually express like positive emotion towards myself in a lot of cases. So, yeah, I think for me it's, as I said, sort of in the real and in the post and stuff. You know, it's not necessarily the fact that I do have the body that I have at the moment. It's more of the fact that all the ups and downs of trying to get to this point, you know, it fills me with a lot of respect for myself that I've been able to stay consistent at something that's so difficult over a long period of time and really kind of see the fruits of my ladders or my hard work, you know. So, it's important to me, I think. Shout out to the ladders. I'm wondering if there's any research into artistic people struggling with romantic heartbreak. It's been five months and it's still majorly painful most days. I'll be a bit open with you on this because, you know, I think nowadays because I've had, you know, relationships and I've gone through the period of breakup and stuff with it. You know, the first time that it happened, I know it would have like three years it took me to like shift it but the issue was that I wasn't trying to divert what I was thinking about and a really good way of me kind of processing negative things that are going on in my life is to kind of set like a time aside in a day that I can think about it and I can play all the sad music that I want and I can listen to it and I can get upset and whatever and then after that kind of period of time's over it's back to stuff and it's striking that balance between processing it and moving forward with things because there's a lot of people that just say, you know, just forget about them and fill your life with lots of stuff but human mind is not so easily swayed especially when it's to do with emotions like that so it is really important to go easy on yourself, I think and remember that, you know, the brain can't really distinguish between different types of grief and if you have like a breakup with someone and it's just like a clean thing it can sometimes feel like that person is gone like, you know, that's how your brain interprets it sometimes so yeah, I mean first major kind of relationship took me ages over time, you know, I've become a bit more kind of confident in myself and I know what I'm worth so it's kind of like it gets a bit easier, I would say but if it's one of your first times with it I know it can be actually really tough so I'm sorry you're feeling that way can also lead to perfectionism how do you deal with it? yeah, I think to a certain degree like, for me like the obsessive part of stuff like if I just give like a recent example about me trying to use that cream stuff, like I was thinking it was not going to take me as long but it took me much longer than if I was to just like trim things down like I usually do and it was because like the first time that I went over it didn't get everything second time, it didn't get anything I kind of gave up on the second time because I knew that it would become this like whole thing that's going to absorb my day but yeah, I think to a certain degree and especially when you have like an air of anxiety or like time pressure around something then sometimes it can actually get more intense when you have that kind of background pressure I guess what about self-esteem? I think I would say the same as sort of negative experience that we would have in the past it's going to affect your self-esteem when you feel somewhat isolated from people and not really able to connect with people and you have a lot of negative social experiences at a young age it's definitely going to have some impacts on your self-esteem especially in adulthood and I guess you know, it's a it's a thing, you know and a lot of the ways that people will tell you online to like improve your self-esteem and your confidence is to like get out there go do things and fill your life with all these different things but, you know, that's that's general advice that people give to most people when you're autistic it's not as easy as that sometimes there's so many different other factors that are involved like, is your social battery like full enough for you to go out and be able to do these things so it's, there's a lot of factors involved in it I guess like, especially when you're trying to work on your confidence and self-esteem YouTube, just wondering, is my microphone does my microphone sound good? I feel like it's coming out of this one but I'm not sure Love Beauty and Life says I had what I now realised was a burnout really constantly for 6-7 years now in such a better place and diagnosed and the knowledge that has come with that has really helped hope yours lives soon that is a great day um you know, doing all that unmasking stuff and all that really, really does help makes you feel a bit more like your genuine, you know, doing doing well in life um, as I said communication not on point today so if I do sound like I'm mincing my words a lot, that is the that is the reason why um, so basically find an alternative and replace that buying hobby with an alternative hobby that doesn't require buying that's what's worked for me I realised that it may not be as simple as that and it might take a few weeks to kind of shift it but once you're in the routine of doing something else and you're not so focused on that kind of aspect of life it does become, you do start to develop a bit more of like a um a personal kind of shield to it I guess, the more times that you're able to go like, hey I'm not doing this kind of turn away, the more that you build those like neural links in your brain to give you that sort of control over it um, I'm not the most like, upon the whole addiction research and stuff but I would say that that's probably a part of it and once you're going to be doing a podcast today with all things private practice who works with um Dr. Megan Neff from Neurodivergent Insights to do a podcast and uh, we're going to be talking about addiction so it's very apt that you ask something like that hopefully that will be out on Monday if I manage to get myself this this whole sorry come come last week Joshua, you have we have the hydration manager in today reminding you to stay hydrated um, that is a good point I have this um like juicy water at the gym that's like uh it's like a hydration formula or something that you can just get from like the um, like a machine I have it from the overnight and it is really good thank you for the hydration manager cheers man it's the first proper relationship I had in grief does feel like that totally and if it's your first relationship like I know it's a bit of a cliche but it does get a bit easier um but also also don't feel bad about feeling bad about it it's normal to feel bad about it you know it's it's a massive change as well and you've got all those elements of you routine changing perhaps your frame group changing the things that you do on the daily and trying to replace things with your own kind of routine you know there's a lot of elements to like change and stuff and the more that you can kind of position yourself to get in the right direction the better that things tend to go um, you start to eventually those feelings will die down that oxytocin withdrawal if you could say that biotism way what were you like as a child anger problems etc I was very like what's the word unaware of things as a child I was very very positive happy I didn't really have like a sense of danger to a certain degree I was very different to how I am now or when when I got into teenage years where it kind of just went the opposite but I don't think I've ever really had issues with with anger there's been times like just as people do when they're younger where you've had like confidations with people and things like that but um, anger for me it's more of an internal experience it does more to affect me than other people because I don't really express it that much and that's um, part in part due to me having an outlet going to the gym um you know doing my martial arts that's the kind of the way that I release those negative emotions which I suppose is good but I think as well um, I'm trying to kind of learn to express negative feelings a little bit more in my life which it feels uncomfortable because you know I think a lot of us would probably be able to identify with the feeling of people pleasing you know do you have bad reactions to people you want to make sure that they go well and um expressing negative emotion is never comfortable for anybody so that's something that I'm working on but yeah you're very welcome books right Drew I hope that's helped do you have any special interests um I do at the moment Pokemon Go um that's the main thing at the moment I think but um I'm actually I'm quite a lot like strewling with my main special interest and it has been for a while is doing online content um doing my Instagram posts and my reels and my YouTube videos and my podcasts and stuff like that so I think that's really tough thing about having that as a special interest because you know it makes such a big part of my life and it gives me a lot of fills me with a lot of meaning and direction and focus with things and when you just don't like when you just don't have the energy to to do those things um they just kind of kind of you know just kind of slips a little bit I am considering like taking a bit of a break from doing posts and doing social media and stuff I'm thinking about it I think I'm gonna try over the next couple of weeks to try and get back on track and if it does seem that my burnouts just not budging and I'm not like getting myself into a good place I may have to take a break um but again it's not as simple as you know stop working you'll feel better because for me that's really what I love to do and what I like to do I'm thinking of doing Autism Tiktok series on my experience with Autism and CPTSC that sounds awesome that sounds really cool I'd love to see that Austin Steve Schraden says oh my god you developed a hot dot body thank you which appreciate it books write draws I'm curious to the parent's influence of strong role model in decisions for autistic children I'm not sure I know what you mean Harry Giorgio says how are you doing Harry? I have a new sensory light and it really helps awesome I stopped doing social media for a couple of months and it really helped yeah I understand it's like it's definitely like a top tip and it would probably be good I think for most people I think for me it's definitely like I need to have something that I'm focused on and that I can do with the situation again where I'm just like I'll have to replace it with something you know I'll probably be video games and then we'll have to transition from playing a lot of video games into not doing it and then adding in the routine again so it's fun time fun time what is CPTSC? it's complex PTSD so PTSD could be for as like there is a single event that's extremely stressful that causes the symptoms of it whereas complex PTSD is kind of the accumulation of stresses which may or may not be as intense over a long period of time which develops symptoms of PTSD it seems to be something that's a lot more common to autistic people I think that's because you know I have some theories around that but you know definitely like the aspect of a lexifimer is compelling you know if you struggle to notice and identify your emotions and perhaps in emergency situations you're a bit kind of more logical, cool-headed you know perhaps perhaps those kind of situations we don't really clock them as much as most people would and experiencing that over a long period of time with our kind of heightened sensitivity to and uh negative experience in life it makes sense that you know we might be more kind of vulnerable to develop that kind of thing 2DockingCute says I have complex PTSD I'm sorry to hear that it's tough I mean I had a podcast with Dr. Megan Neff about it which was really really really good really really good episode and we did talk about it and I asked kind of about you know my experiences with things because they're like a licensed psychologist and stuff so I was like I'm going to take advantages of this so it really it really does kind of make more sense Austin says I think neuropruning doesn't take place as much in autism negative experiences and all that needs to be encoded it's interesting I know about the the reduced neuropruning I wasn't sure if it was like a something that just occurred within the womb or not or if it's something that I suppose it does over time definitely but I mean there's a lot of things that we could talk on I guess around that area which could be difficult to talking to you says my life coach says it contributes to my metism ABS seizures takes but it is not licensed yeah I mean I went through sort of a difficult kind of period of time with this one individual over a long period of time which could be kind of categorized in that way is that kind of the experience I definitely did go through large stages of having a lot of really intense meltdowns and that kind of persisted for maybe like a year or so after those events so I could see why those negative experiences might really cause an issue yeah I mean I'm just thinking about what's going to be happening soon I actually I have some good news I'm actually going to be going to Las Vegas soon in America which is going to be really cool just to work on like a secret undisclosed projects that I'm working on which is very very exciting it's kind of around neurodiversity autism, ADHD and stuff so that's going to be really cool looking forward to to that getting flown over, getting accommodation getting paid for some work so I feel like it would be a good opportunity for me to kind of get out of UK enter a new headspace sort of things out I'm not sure yet but it sounds exciting Las Vegas gym tour well I mean I'm working with a celebrity so it is possible that I might be able to go into like the secret celebrity gyms which would be really cool but yeah there's a lot of exciting things on the horizon not going to lie but I think just at the moment it's tough it's hard to see the positives when you are going through a burnout or difficulties in life congratulations Vegas yeah Vegas baby it's the first time I've been to America so that's going to be interesting Las Vegas is definitely a change of scenery congrats thank you very much um Sandy would you be able to stop sending me requests for the live please it's I don't do sort of collaboration streams with this one I might do in the future on my youtube but you know just for the moment like to kind of have my own kind of space to chat to people on my own so I'd appreciate it thank you so I think I might have that might describe me I looked up yeah it's um it's an interesting one um I think it's probably very applicable to a lot of autistic people I've talked to just from their experiences no water out there p.m. faria how you doing how you doing Pedro Kate Hughes says shout out that's um my besties or my bestie actually how you doing Kate I will Troy says what's your inspiration in being whoever you are um that's a really interesting question cause I was talking to someone recently yeah oh it's okay Sandy it does happen sometimes I mean it still looks like you doing it so I don't know why it's doing that that's very strange um yeah inspiration for being who I am you know um I think uh for me I looked in it well when I was younger I really struggled to find any content online that I could resonate with and I really um felt like it was something that was applicable to me there wasn't really any autistic people who were open like in the media that I could say like hey I'm like this person I'm going to strive to be something similar to them so I never really had anyone like real life um inspirations in that way um I've had yeah I mean I don't really experience my family big inspirations for me but um terms of like celebrities real people not really um mostly I see like fictional characters I'm not going to lie like watching those things when I was younger it was pretty much the ignition to me like starting my taekwondo career uh watching like martial arts anime and stuff like that it's a lot of really inspirational characters that I identified with that I couldn't really find anywhere else um short answer no real inspirations in terms of people but um personal my personal kind of life meaning is that for a long time I didn't think I was really going to make it through life I didn't really think that I would make it past 20 if I'm to be completely honest um so I just I think I had some you know I kind of flip in my in my brain and kind of found a little bit more motivation to turn my negative experiences into something positive um and so I wanted to do that and eventually over time I was like you know might be good to share this stuff and um start the podcast I did instagram did all that stuff uh for a long time and you recently kind of paid a bit more attention to it and started doing it properly but yeah that's this kind of my story with getting to this point so far it's still got a long way to go but I'm pretty happy with the progress that I've made and um also is being a part of the community it's a wonderful thing uh Amber Honius says hey just helping on here I've seen your fitness post recently and I love that you're into that I'm autistic and and uh health and fitness are a huge special interest of mine well thank you for um jumping on on the stream how long have you been into fitness for it's definitely important for me especially like with regulation and stuff Phil Damon says let me know if I can be any help while you're in the States Las Vegas for work a lot interesting what what do you mean in terms of help you're going to have to get me out like I'm going to go like a gambling spree in the the casinos going to have to have some help um getting myself out of out now it's not going to happen but it's funny to think about uh Visha says it's hot in Vegas currently staying there at pool bring sunscreen I hope you enjoy your vid thank you mm-hmm yeah I've heard it's it's quite quite hot at the moment have a nice day what wonderful you are a great mentor thank you very much just popping in mm-hmm so glad you're still with us you're incredibly helpful to our family and many of us why I really appreciate that it's um it's lovely to air things like that because it really is like you know as as much as I do stuff for other people online you know the the fact that I feel like I'm helping people does a lot for me as well um it really just kind of fill my life with meaning when things look very very dark for me so I appreciate that film I will choice as I love it Thomas you're amazing you are so inspirational to myself who has autism you make a big difference it means a lot thank you you see I I'm ugh yeah apologies it's been a it's been a hard day but um yeah just hitting me in the fields a little bit actually you can says hello hello Georgia Rose says love your work on here diagnosed April at 30 and I'm worrying about people seeing me differently now the world needs more Thomas is to share love and understanding um yeah definitely you know I tend to say you know I being autistic is kind of like a neutral to positive kind of thing for me it's mostly about other people I think you know and the mental health not gonna lie but yeah Steve says the DSM 5 doesn't recognize it they say um they consider it a subtitle call it called dissociative PTSD yeah I think I I think it's more like diffuse maybe it's diffuse PTSD I'm not sure it could be that um but we all know that the sometimes the statistical manuals of mental health cannot be um the most up to date things you know there's a lot of good work that's happening with the within the psychological communities that that don't really um come to light until after a few years of kind of research and things like that so you know and it says several years now I'm a yoga teacher wow but also do a lot of pilates and catapult workouts awesome awesome so you're one of those class people I'm definitely not a class person I like um plugging in my my earphones and listening to dark trap and lifting heavy things that's my style of working out but hold on mxs hey there I'm in the middle of laundry but trying still trying to catch up on your life well thank you very much I hope your laundry is going very well and I have much admiration for you for doing your laundry um my executive function is not on point so uh major props in comparison definitely actually you can says my oldest psychiatrist said that the assessments are too far behind but will change soon yeah and my hope is that that that speed at which things change has increased you know we still we're still not in a place where we have like mandatory autism awareness work within schools like why not it's crazy oh my god at the at the at the least one in 44 like people or autistic like why why are they not why they're not doing anything well I know why they're not because they choose to ignore all of these statistics and they kind of ugh they make some comparisons they say oh of course they're gonna have a bad life they're disabled it's like it's no see it's the the things around us that that causes the most disability well the life that the life paths that we can go down it's can be really really really tough I'm terrible with exercise um I think due to learning difficulties I need a personal trainer um I wouldn't I wouldn't I wouldn't you know rule that out you know um I think personal trainers can be good you could definitely go for it if you are able to and you have the funds for it um there is a lot of really good advice um out on YouTube I've never had a PT I've always worked on it by listening to other um creators on YouTube they've been massive for like improving my knowledge and awareness around certain things to do with exercise diet things like that so you can learn a lot um doesn't always have to be like this you know and a possible benefit to that is that you might get it to become your special interest and you could just be like totally enthralled with just just exercise like I am I will try says uh what do you think the biggest issue with the young people face today and what do you think we could do better um there's a lack of understanding uh there's no peer awareness support um your typical children are not taught to um understand, accept and protect their autistic students um around so that's a massive thing that's really massive and it even goes to a point where like parents can be a really like big barrier to autistic autistic people like socializing with other children massive um and the bullying of course that's going to be a really really big factor the formative years that's the kind of the time where our brain develops the way that we kind of understand life um understand the social landscape and if we have such a bad experience that it causes such stress on a daily and we just can't you know reach a point where we feel um like we have a frame group and we feel isolated like totally that's going to be insanely insanely difficult um it's going to have a couple moments in california one in twenty two one in twenty two my god have a very high um population density of autistic people that's mad um lmao i'm really not into person to person class either i teach online and make videos and other content that is awesome you should send me your um youtube channel on my email hi at tomasenley.co.uk send me it and i'll have a look that would be really cool it doesn't help the problems with the staffing at nhs and getting people a diagnosis yeah and um even if you do like especially you could even say about therapy you know even if you do find a therapist or even an autism specialized therapist they're not going to know as much as like you think they are and um you may you might find some golden unicorn who's going to like help you and fix everything but it's it's really not the reality in a lot of situations it's you know we're going so far as like hospitals you know we have such bad experience with hospitals it's such a sensory mess and it's awful and there's lots of people and smells and bright lights and people telling you that things aren't going to hurt when they do hurt and you know experiencing that as a young person it really puts you off going and getting support in terms of your health when you're older so there's there's i could i could talk forever about the things that need to be changed um it's very painful sometimes to think about just like how little society is taking the very real issues that autistic people face on a daily it's it's really disappointing but you know we've got to change that and i think the first way that we can change that is by um helping people understand that you know it's not necessarily that we are going to have a bad life because we are autistic but we're going to have a bad life if we're unsupported as autistic people which is in the in the most case that the actual reality things which is it's pretty sad but yeah it's um my stream of thoughts is going down into the negative again oh my god i need to i need to pull myself back come on tom uh daniel says hello thomas today i met a guy who lives two blocks from me in paris we started talking because we both follow you oh no way that's so cool i guess like i don't know i just feel i don't i don't really have an appreciation for like what it means like at what point is like the lots of people know me and what point do the people know i have no idea i don't know how to like transfer followers into people knowing you i don't know it's strange so whenever something happens like that to me in real life people come up to me and say like oh yeah i know you from instagram or youtube or whatever and say oh really oh my god that's so strange interesting uh actually ucan says parents need to encourage socializing with the young children yeah and i'd say that's more from the neurotypical parents actually the neurotypical parents need to really listen to the parents of what is it people in terms of integrating them into the social network you know we used to we used to have that more of a local sort of you know support network for people but nowadays because everything is so like atomized and like people are very individualistic in the way that they approach things that sense of community is not so much like that and it's very much the case that we don't want to have that kid around our kid because they're strange and they might give them bad ideas and it's really screwed up but you know i think it's inherently not necessarily the parents fault i'd say that it's partially therefore but i think it's more of an issue of the society that we have at the moment a lot needs to change georgia rose says my son is seven and struggling at the moment in mainstream so i could talk all day about this but EHCP turnover in acceptance is slow and low which is cause my son to lose a year at school i'm really sorry about that it's um it's tough i think as well like the question about my inspiration and stuff i think um i very much just don't want anyone to go through what i experienced with life especially during school that's a big um inspiration for me to kind of keep going with things because you know it's not fun and it's not much better in adult it's a little bit better when we get out of those situations but it's it's not perfect and um or at least it's not to a standard that i would be happy with saying like okay we've got there you know or we're getting there you know it's it's it's silly really you know studies come out about some horrible statistic with autism you don't hear about it on the mainstream on the news or people talking about it saying this is horrible this is like an injustice against a minority of people a minority group that's very much not doing doing well in life just from the statistics like not necessarily because of them but other people you know and and that's just not talked about because they're like oh yeah they're autistic they're gonna have inherently like worse lives it's not the case it's definitely not the case you can take that even as far as going into employment you know i know so many people so many amazing talents passion motivation drive any anything that you can think of really but they just their support around it and to get them into work and the environment in the workplace it's you know it's awful Mia says uh i know what you mean about things being very individualized now but i think it was worse in the older days and some days in some ways in the good old days there were only a thing for NT and non-LGBT people yeah no i get that i do i do get that i do i do wish that there was there was a bit more of a community around stuff though because i know from working um within the charity organization i work at um the communities that really do this it works really well and you can get people out of supported living situations to a point where you know they have neighbors they have people in their community which support them um with certain things and they support them with other things you know it's kind of the you know it's a really really beautiful wonderful thing um that we need more of i think work in a community center we're introducing relaxed and friendly sessions because so many parents worry about it good very very good love the beauty in life so as an nd parent of nd kids i found the socialization thing so hard because i don't have the spoons dealing with socializing that goes with socializing my kids totally yeah and that's that yeah that's that's nothing and you know i i'm hoping that with with time we'll have a bit more of a supportive systems around everything you know whether that's going through parenthood we might have a bit more clarity on different ways that we can approach parenthood differently and be a bit kinder to ourselves there's so many possibilities which i suppose can be seen as a positive thing you know daniel velezco says um if there's something i can do let me know how i can help um now that in paris you have newer brothers thank you well um i'm wanting to uh get in get into streaming more and i think once i can really iron out my daily routine and get back on track with things um i'm gonna try and stream a lot more um if anybody is interested in helping me one of the best ways that you could probably do that is by you know you very welcome to use my my stuff um and if you if you make any money from like doing youtube and stuff by um clipping my my live streams you're very welcome to have all of the the profits that come from that um it will be something that i'm gonna get into a lot because i know that there's not necessarily a lot of like particularly autism streamers it's quite a lot of youtubers quite a lot of instagram people but streaming about autism it's not really something that i've seen very much it might be out there but uh not not from my experience doesn't tend to be this case yeah um supporting that way would be amazing and uh you're very welcome to just clip and chop anything that i put out use it use it for your own as long as you don't edit it in a in a way that's like oh i don't know i don't know well message me if you're interested in that but yeah georgia rose says i've oh you're applying to someone thanks for reading my comment thomas have a great evening thank you very much um i'm probably gonna have to shoot off in a in a little bit um i need to kind of try and regulate after my difficult situation with the hair removal cream and uh the the burnout that's that's lingering about but um it's it's always nice and i really enjoy doing these streams and i hope that although my mental place at the moment is not good that it's been somewhat helpful thank you very much daniel daniel valesco valesco um for a badge much appreciate that really does help um if you if you want to support the stuff that i do um you can you know i i do have badges that you can get in the stream i also have um i probably point you to if you want to support me more regularly my youtube channel i do have badges uh membership over on there there is little as like 99 pence that says there's lower as i could make them so if you want to get a little infinity badge next to your name um definitely yeah damon says thank you so much you're very welcome uh blessed be medusa says was it hair was it was it nair or was it the smell um it wasn't the smell it was the uh the the process of putting on and scraping off the hair and not being able to get it totally synced up and sort it out thank you thank you phil for for buying the badge really really appreciate that okay we've got one more question and i will answer this one and then we'll probably try and write things up uh books right draw says uh one more question how do autistic people survive if they do part-time work are their resources um i read there is a low percentage of autistic people in full-time yeah um i'd say that if if possible try and get a formal diagnosis try and get some some level of benefits and disabilities support around it in the uk that would be things like pip which can be difficult to navigate by itself try and find someone who's done it before someone that you can support support you to go through that process um but yeah that that that's definitely going to be going to be really good there's not a specific person it's hard for me to read the room yeah i feel that too feel it too i'm sorry if i haven't got to your questions um comments things like that um i probably i probably gotta gotta head off now but um thank you thank you georgia um thank you bless being a juicer um i hope that's being um helpful to some some degree but it's right draw uh just remember you know these expectations that people put out um that are for everybody you know it's different when you're autistic and there's got to be different things that you strive to do different difficulties different strengths different things that you have to pay attention to um and just try to try to craft a path yourself through difficulties in a way that's you know at least paying some level of dividends to the fact that you're autistic and and you you'll find that over time it's going to be a lot way of of um you know uh do it if you go to the brain the brain's vaulting um guys it's been lovely um i'm probably going to sign off now but um as i said please go please go check out the youtube if you're interested and um consider consider becoming a member 99 period month all righty see you later guys on youtube okay and uh thank you guys you guys are on youtube for um tuning in i know it's been a a little bit later than usual and um my brain's not on form but um i hope that you have got something from this and i will see you next time see you later guys