 The man of your dreams is sitting across from you. What's stopping you from reaching out and grabbing his hand? Well, a lot of things could be. Most likely it's the fact that you've been friends for years and you don't know how to tell him about this sudden change. You're worried you'll ruin what you've had if you try to pursue something further. It's certainly a risk, but nothing worth doing is without risk. If your friendship has recently blossomed into a sexual tension fest, listen on and see how easy it is to get him interested. 1. Let him know you're interested in him sexually. Sometimes a direct approach is best. This doesn't have to be a proposition nor a proclamation. It can be as simple as a probing question or a flirtatious text message. Something fun and casual to hint that you're interested in something more with him. However, this can be too blunt for some people. If you want to try a softer approach. 2. Talk about sex and relationships together. No doubt you've exchanged jokes about sex or discussed the relationships you've had with other people. By suddenly bringing up these subjects in a serious way, you're able to explore them with more depth. This also has the added benefit of getting him thinking about sex while you're around. In fact, maybe you will realize that you have something in common. With any luck, he'll connect the two ideas and start thinking about you more than a friend. 3. Invite him to more intimate hangouts. Maybe you two aren't best friends. Maybe you've only ever hung out at parties or with other mutual friends. The first step to let him know you're interested in more is to initiate one-on-one time. Go for a walk or grab drinks together before you two head to a party. Anything to get you two alone together without 20 of your closest friends. 4. Get his friends to drop hints about how you feel. Getting our friends' opinions on our significant others is inevitable. We want to be assured that we've made a good choice and that our new lover is as great as we think they are. If you two have a lot of mutual friends, bring up your feelings with some of them. He will likely talk to them when you're not around and they'll be able to drop some hints about your budding desires. 5. Forget the subtle hinting. Just say it. You don't even need to tell him you're interested sexually. Making it clear your feelings have changed is enough of a jumping off point. He'll most likely appreciate your honesty and will be more willing to have an open and frank discussion with you. This is also low risk when it comes to mixed signals. Nothing can be confused when you're saying it plainly. 6. Invite him into private areas of your life. Do you have a talent he doesn't know about? Let him into that aspect of your life. Invite him to your next open mic session or show him the newest chapter of the book you're writing. He'll not only respect your bravery but will be touched to know you're letting him into your world. 7. Dress in a way that makes you feel the most confident. Nothing gets a guy going like confidence. Don't dress to please him. Dress for yourself and dress however you feel the most powerful. This will instantly make you more attractive and compelling. He won't be able to resist you when you're strutting your stuff and radiating confidence. 8. Talk about the future before anything happens. Boundaries, family and mutual friends are the most important topics to discuss. If you two had a close relationship or if you've worked together, you'll want to be very clear about what will happen in the future. This will save the both of you from any misunderstandings or heartbreak later on and gets both of you on the same page. Many individuals often realize at this point that because they have such different goals in life that it is sometimes better to just stay friends and that's completely okay. 9. Cook him his favorite meal. Everyone loves food. If you like to cook then this is also a fun way to show off one of your passions. 10. Initiate more physical contact if he's okay with it. Not everyone likes to be touched. If he's one of those people who does appreciate physical contact it can be a good way to hint at a change in your relationship. Use gentle arm touches, shoulder rubs and hand squeezes to send the message that you want more. We also have a video on the different love languages if you wanted to figure out which one he would be the most comfortable with. 11. If he's got interests you're not interested in try asking questions about them anyway. You might find weightlifting more interesting than you initially thought. You also show that you're excited to learn about him and care about what he holds dear in his heart. He'll also appreciate the passion you bring out in him by talking about his favorite activities. However, you must also remember to be genuine. If you don't like baseball, don't force yourself to get into watching it just to impress him. 12. Wear red or try out a red lipstick. Red is the color of passion. Wearing red means people will associate you with passion and sexuality. It's vibrant, vivacious and attention grabbing. Not only will you catch his eye, but he'll also subliminally associate you in red with passionate, sexual thoughts. 13. Ask him what makes him happy in a relationship. For most people, sex is near the top of the list. He might not say it out loud, but he'll certainly be thinking it. This also gives him the option of initiating things which some men find attractive. It also hints to him that you care about his opinions and want to work towards something fulfilling together. 14. Make it clear through body language. Communication doesn't have to come from the words we say. Body language adds an extra dimension to understanding as many studies have proven. Try using subtle changes like getting closer to him when you're together or straightening your posture. Both of these changes will show off your confidence and sexuality without having to rely on simply words. Do you have any tips? Let us know in the comments down below. And as always, thank you so much for watching and please be sure to join our community of Psych2Goers.