 you cannot trust the narcissist family members you may wonder if the narcissist family members know how the narcissist acts and behaves if they know what the narcissist is planning to do and yes they do know they've seen the do this again and again and when you first meet their family members they're smirking they have this pleasure and self-satisfaction at your unhappiness and misfortune because they already know what's about to happen to you they know what to expect they know what you're likely to receive but they pretend like everything is okay when they already know what's about to happen to you they know that you're about to be involved in a surprising and difficult situation but they're not going to say anything they will play the role they will act like you are very special like you are surpassing what is common or usual to make you feel like you are desired and approved of like you're in a good position but you're not the narcissist family is just playing a role they're putting on an act and they're just waiting to see how the narcissist is going to destroy you they're not going to save you they're not going to persevere or deliver you from harm ruin or loss they're going to watch it all take place one of the biggest mistakes you could make is to confide in the family members of a narcissist that won't achieve anything because they're on the narcissist side so when you tell their family members about a secret or private matter while trusting them not to repeat it to other people all they do is tell the narcissist and then they're laughing at you and then the narcissist has the advantage they have the position of power and control they have their upper hand so that they can adapt to everything that you thought you were confiding in if you have figured out what you're dealing with and you have cut the narcissist off you need to be aware that they're all colluding and conspiring together secretly they're all working together and making plans together in secret they're all cooperating behind your back in order to deceive and gain an advantage over you so everything you confide in them is going to go back to the narcissist the narcissist is going to know everything about it you're just given the narcissist information and advice to help them defend or attack a viewpoint argument or claim and the family already knows what's going to happen they're familiar with the situation and they know how it will usually progress they work as a team so when you've cut the narcissist off and gone no contact do not stay in contact with their family members because they're all in on it they're all sharing in the knowledge of something secret and private they're all informed they're all participating in it they will play the role they will put on an act like they're so concerned like they have a responsibility for you and they have to involve themselves in the situation because they want to solve the problem they want you to come to an agreement but it's all a facade it's a deceptive outward appearance their family members don't care about you they're not concerned about you they don't have an interest in you they want the narcissist to screw it up they want the narcissist to destroy you that's exactly what they want thank you for watching I hope the video is made with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my PayPal link is in a video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coaching at mark survivor.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon